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Radio_Lady has passed (Original Post) Whoa_Nelly Mar 2015 OP
It was in July Whoa_Nelly Mar 2015 #1
... shenmue Mar 2015 #2
I remember her Adsos Letter Mar 2015 #3
She had Passion. I like Passion. BlueJazz Mar 2015 #4
... orleans Mar 2015 #5
I most definitely remember Radio Lady. denbot Mar 2015 #6
damn. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #7
+1. She was a real character of the old DU Hekate Mar 2015 #12
keep reading this thread ... Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #39
This message was self-deleted by its author Duppers Mar 2015 #8
And she's banned now? What did she do to deserve it? alp227 Mar 2015 #9
She'd get "passion" about something, as BlueJazz mentioned above... hunter Mar 2015 #11
In a word...Tamales CreekDog Mar 2015 #26
Larry King was an Asian woodcarver, you know? Dr. Strange Mar 2015 #77
she was banned a while ago for thinly veiled racism. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #57
I wonder, having just read that she committed suicide and had mental health challenges ND-Dem Mar 2015 #80
yes, and one sort of kindness is understanding that people of color La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #81
if the racism was singing cielito lindo at a garage sale held by spanish speakers, i fail to see it. ND-Dem Mar 2015 #87
just because you fail to see something, doesn't mean i have to fail as well. nt La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #104
If that were the only example, then it wouldn't be the issue. Orrex Apr 2015 #140
RIP sakabatou Mar 2015 #10
Rest in peace In_The_Wind Mar 2015 #13
RIP Radio_Lady. bluesbassman Mar 2015 #14
Omg. cwydro Mar 2015 #15
Just visited her blog TuxedoKat Mar 2015 #16
RIP, Radio_Lady. bigwillq Mar 2015 #17
Thanks, Nelly. femmocrat Mar 2015 #18
Didn't he go by Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #19
That sounds familiar! femmocrat Mar 2015 #23
RIP... Aristus Mar 2015 #20
I will eat tamales tonight in her honor. Frank Cannon Mar 2015 #21
She was responsible for so many DU memes. I wonder that should she have a memorial on Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #24
I think she should. Kali Mar 2015 #54
She was one of a kind, that's for sure. Arugula Latte Mar 2015 #22
I remember her posting directions for making a home made 'fleshlight.' Gidney N Cloyd Mar 2015 #25
was that a typo by her or, what? Offhand, I don't remember that one. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #28
No, she really meant fleshlight. Gidney N Cloyd Mar 2015 #29
found it ... omg ... lol ,,, NOT a TYPO ,,, mabye NSFW Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #30
Start with buying a Lays Stax potato chip can Kaleva Mar 2015 #32
Lolol ... you built one ?! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #35
I'm frugal and like to find uses for items many would just throw away! Kaleva Mar 2015 #36
sorry, I just read below that RL took her own life.... Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #38
She did? cwydro Mar 2015 #40
Found it. Never mind. cwydro Mar 2015 #41
I think she would have liked to know that she is a DU legend Kaleva Mar 2015 #45
You said it best Kaleva. cwydro Mar 2015 #53
agree, and my thanks to all who have provided links and info, too Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #96
RIP. She was quite the character, an interesting Lady Autumn Mar 2015 #27
According to her daughter, she took her own life. helderheid Mar 2015 #31
Thank you for the link. Good to know that her daughter has found accpetance. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #37
A lovely tribute AwakeAtLast Mar 2015 #52
Thanks for posting this. My sympathy to Radio Lady's family and friends. livetohike Mar 2015 #55
There but for the grace of god .... Lil Missy Nov 2017 #141
RIP. Please feel free to add your own: JackBeck Mar 2015 #33
She told me I had great hair. N/t helderheid Mar 2015 #43
Your hair is much more pretty than these two losers. JackBeck Mar 2015 #48
Whoa cwydro Mar 2015 #73
They did a great job of fooling a lot of folks. JackBeck Mar 2015 #127
omg. is that who I think it is? Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #128
Yes, it's the couple that fooled a lot of folks on this website into thinking JackBeck Mar 2015 #130
oh, I don't doubt that at all. I just never knew they were also grifting DUers. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #131
I know that one of them cwydro Mar 2015 #136
good grief. I knew they had split up. I guess that is why. Well, I hope things are going better Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #138
Oh, boy I'd forgotten about the leashed children threads. PeaceNikki Mar 2015 #46
I wish her family peace and love, as well. JackBeck Mar 2015 #49
i wish her peace too, but i have no patience for people who want to pretend that she was an odd La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #60
Totally agree. JackBeck Mar 2015 #67
I love you Pri cwydro Mar 2015 #74
She cyberstalked several DUers. Gormy Cuss Mar 2015 #84
I'm curious as to how she could obtain cwydro Mar 2015 #103
For some, it's much easier than one would think. Gormy Cuss Mar 2015 #108
True, I have seen a lot of personal info cwydro Mar 2015 #109
i think there are people who bullied (and others) for the fun of it, but there were many La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #105
The originator of the long running Olive Garden post that's become DU legend riderinthestorm Mar 2015 #34
Yep, here's that thread: progressoid Mar 2015 #132
r.i.p. Blue_Tires Mar 2015 #42
RiP, Radio Lady. hifiguy Mar 2015 #44
There was a lot of cruelty toward her. cwydro Mar 2015 #47
She stalked and threatened several people, myself included. helderheid Mar 2015 #50
This makes it obvious to me cwydro Mar 2015 #51
I thought she was just "eccentric". Frank Cannon Mar 2015 #56
Certainly explains a lot. PassingFair Mar 2015 #61
I agree. Frank Cannon Mar 2015 #62
It makes me very sad cwydro Mar 2015 #70
this. nt La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #59
she was horribly mean to several people and racist to boot. just cos she's dead now, doesn't make La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2015 #58
Wasn't aware of that. How disappointing. closeupready Mar 2015 #64
This message was self-deleted by its author Phentex Mar 2015 #65
+1,000,000 Jamastiene Mar 2015 #66
I don't think she's being made into a "saint". bluesbassman Mar 2015 #68
+1 Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #69
ditto. cwydro Mar 2015 #72
good post Kali Mar 2015 #89
I think she had mental health challenges, was a stubborn individual inherently, and MADem Mar 2015 #121
Wish I could rec this, MADem. hippywife Mar 2015 #133
I love a good conversation, and I like a vibrant discussion. I tend to not take things personally, MADem Mar 2015 #139
Sad. I enjoyed her contributions here. closeupready Mar 2015 #63
Thanks for posting this. cbayer Mar 2015 #71
May she rest in peace. lovemydog Mar 2015 #75
... cwydro Mar 2015 #76
Go in peace Radio_Lady/Ellen uppityperson Mar 2015 #78
Just shows there's always a human and a story behind every post. a kennedy Mar 2015 #79
+1 In_The_Wind Mar 2015 #82
So many memories, threads, and condolences Whoa_Nelly Mar 2015 #83
I don't know but, someone should, I think. You want to? or, Kali maybe. I mentioned it above Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #86
I'm on board with this Tuesday. cwydro Mar 2015 #92
for better ore worse she was one of us ... and I think that is all she ever really wanted Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #95
Any of us who have been in the DU scrum lol cwydro Mar 2015 #97
IKR. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #98
I don't really get how she could "cyberstalk' people. cwydro Mar 2015 #101
I really can't speak to that because she was never anything but nice to me. If I am Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #102
True, TA. hippywife Mar 2015 #134
thanks, hippywife - Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #137
done Kali Mar 2015 #93
thanks, Kali ... for good or bad DU would not be the same DU w/out her contributions to this place Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #94
done Kali Mar 2015 #90
I've been away for several years... hippywife Mar 2015 #135
I had some interetesting conversations with RadioLady Blue_In_AK Mar 2015 #85
I remember & I can only hope that she found some sort of peace... countryjake Mar 2015 #88
Unlikely, if she took her own life. What a sad end. nt MADem Mar 2015 #91
Oh no! Did you know her personally? countryjake Mar 2015 #99
I never minded her the way some here did--I guess I missed all the divisive threads. MADem Mar 2015 #100
That was my take on her, too MADem. and also my outlook on life is the same. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #106
Yeah, and again I have to wonder cwydro Mar 2015 #107
maybe one of them will see fit to send you a PM and satisfy your curiosity. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #110
Someone answered upthread (downthread?) cwydro Mar 2015 #111
It always amazes me what privacy some people are willing to share on the internet. Although, Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #112
True story. cwydro Mar 2015 #113
please go and have a toast and a breadstick in her honor! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #114
We will. cwydro Mar 2015 #115
dedicate it to the Asian Woodcarver and REPRESENT !!! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #116
... cwydro Mar 2015 #117
That gif is just ... PERFECT!!!! MADem Mar 2015 #118
According to RL's daughter, she committed suicide. Whoa_Nelly Mar 2015 #119
Yes, she had mental health issues and a tough life. MADem Mar 2015 #120
... cwydro Mar 2015 #124
Sorry to hear that....knr joeybee12 Mar 2015 #122
Wow Patsy Stone Mar 2015 #123
My mom and I are headed to Olive Garden now. cwydro Mar 2015 #125
Was it Radio Lady who used to post movie reviews? bikebloke Mar 2015 #126
yes, it was her. Her name was always in the title line-RadioLady Reviews: blah blah blah. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #129

denbot

(9,894 posts)
6. I most definitely remember Radio Lady.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 01:32 AM
Mar 2015

She was old fashioned, but well meaning. I wish her a safe journey over.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
7. damn.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 01:48 AM
Mar 2015

Olive Garden will never be the same.

I love me some Radio_Lady. She could set this place on its ear like no other.

Wonder if Larry King knows ...

But, seriously. damn

Thanks for the OP, Whoa_Nelly ... I would not have known otherwise.



Response to Whoa_Nelly (Original post)

hunter

(38,264 posts)
11. She'd get "passion" about something, as BlueJazz mentioned above...
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 03:29 AM
Mar 2015

... and then she'd send nastygrams to people when she got locked out of a thread.

I had a couple of interesting PM exchanges with her, mostly about radio history (my mom was in radio too), but no nastygrams.

That wasn't the only problem she had with DU, but she was certainly a uniquely disruptive and memorable personality here.

 

ND-Dem

(4,571 posts)
80. I wonder, having just read that she committed suicide and had mental health challenges
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 01:39 PM
Mar 2015

her entire life.

I don't consider singing a song in Spanish at a garage sale to be "thinly veiled racism".

I think we'd all do well to be kinder to people.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
81. yes, and one sort of kindness is understanding that people of color
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 03:05 PM
Mar 2015

should not have to take racism lying down.

bluesbassman

(19,309 posts)
14. RIP Radio_Lady.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 04:12 AM
Mar 2015

Intentional or not, her threads were some of the most entertaining threads back on DU2.

Safe passage and may the Big Woodcarver in the sky welcome you with open arms!

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
16. Just visited her blog
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 09:17 AM
Mar 2015

I didn't know her here -- I joined DU sometime during DU2. What an interesting life she led. I'm sorry I didn't know her while she was here. Safe passage Radio Lady.

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
18. Thanks, Nelly.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 11:00 AM
Mar 2015

I remember her well and enjoyed reading about her life. We had a Pittsburgh "connection" of sorts. Her husband was a member here, too, but I can't remember his name. She was such a unique character! I was very sorry to hear of her passing.

RIP, Ellen.

Aristus

(66,082 posts)
20. RIP...
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 12:02 PM
Mar 2015

I know she got on the bad side of some people, but she was always sweet to me. We spoke on the phone a couple of times.

Frank Cannon

(7,570 posts)
21. I will eat tamales tonight in her honor.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 12:03 PM
Mar 2015

While my wife sings "Cielito Lindo".

Seriously, sorry to hear she's gone. She was...interesting.

Kali

(54,990 posts)
54. I think she should.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 12:20 AM
Mar 2015

She was a large presence and like you said, she was responsible for a number of eternal memes here. I know she went overboard with a few people, but I never had any problem with her.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
22. She was one of a kind, that's for sure.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 12:26 PM
Mar 2015

Last edited Wed Mar 4, 2015, 02:53 PM - Edit history (1)

My best to her family.

I remember how she'd name threads like: "Radio Lady Reviews XYZ Movie ..." referring to herself in the third person.

A character.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
28. was that a typo by her or, what? Offhand, I don't remember that one.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 02:07 PM
Mar 2015

Wonder if we could find the link to it. I am sure it is hysterically funny. The Olive Garden one should forever live on in Infamy.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
30. found it ... omg ... lol ,,, NOT a TYPO ,,, mabye NSFW
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 02:17 PM
Mar 2015
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x6443254

Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-22-07 02:09 AM
Original message
Before today, I didn't know what a Fleshlight was.... but somehow...

Edited on Sun Apr-22-07 02:16 AM by Radio_Lady
No, I am NOT misspelling it. You go find the website yourself if you want to.

I wonder whether the testimonials are true. Sounds like an -- ummmm -- interesting device. Maybe as a present?
Please research it very delicately and report back.

I am interested in male opinions more than female. If you have one, a quick testimonial would be great. They say they've sold 500,000 of them.

That is all.

Warm regards,

Radio Lady in Oregon

Kaleva

(36,146 posts)
45. I think she would have liked to know that she is a DU legend
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 05:17 PM
Mar 2015

And thanks to the other posters in this thread who have shed light on life of the very real human behind the name.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
37. Thank you for the link. Good to know that her daughter has found accpetance.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 03:33 PM
Mar 2015

My condolences to the family. May she rest in peace.

JackBeck

(12,359 posts)
127. They did a great job of fooling a lot of folks.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:45 AM
Mar 2015

Thankfully, I never gave them the money that they eventually grifted out of some of the regulars of the lounge.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
128. omg. is that who I think it is?
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:50 AM
Mar 2015

if it is, I thought they had plenty of money. Maybe, I am thinking of another couple. Is that H and LiV ... ?

JackBeck

(12,359 posts)
130. Yes, it's the couple that fooled a lot of folks on this website into thinking
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:55 AM
Mar 2015

they were at the forefront of LGBT rights in NJ. Far from it.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
131. oh, I don't doubt that at all. I just never knew they were also grifting DUers.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:58 AM
Mar 2015

That really sucks. I thought H came from money and that LiV had a good job.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
136. I know that one of them
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 09:04 AM
Mar 2015

was charged with felony domestic battery against the other - but I didn't know about them getting money from DUers.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
138. good grief. I knew they had split up. I guess that is why. Well, I hope things are going better
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:11 AM
Mar 2015

for them and maybe they have grown to be better human beings as a result.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
46. Oh, boy I'd forgotten about the leashed children threads.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 08:16 PM
Mar 2015

She was a real piece of work. After MANY heated encounters with her that turned to threatening pm's and then reading her daughter's blog post, it's clear that she was incredibly unstable.

I wish her family peace.

JackBeck

(12,359 posts)
49. I wish her family peace and love, as well.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 08:29 PM
Mar 2015

She provided many great comedy moments during her online life.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
60. i wish her peace too, but i have no patience for people who want to pretend that she was an odd
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 03:49 PM
Mar 2015

little old lady that some of us were randomly mean to. it was not random and it was not bullying.

JackBeck

(12,359 posts)
67. Totally agree.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 07:35 PM
Mar 2015

I feel as though there many of the posters in this thread who were not at the receiving end of her harassment and stalking. Her mental health issues were widely speculated about, but only confirmed in her obit.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
74. I love you Pri
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 10:53 PM
Mar 2015

but I'm gonna disagree here.

I think she got swarmed on too many times.

She wasn't too DU savvy...but I don't think she deserved all the crap that came her way.

Not talking about you in particular...thinking about others who took delight treating her so poorly.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
84. She cyberstalked several DUers.
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 03:31 PM
Mar 2015

As in revealing their real names and other identifying info here, and writing threatening PMs. I also heard from one former DUer that she harassed her via late night phone calls. It's up to those DUers to tell their tales here should they choose. She was very internet savvy and IMO earned any "swarming" that she received. Her TS was earned.

For the longest time I thought that she was just an out-of-step older person who was benign until I had a PM conversation with her. End of story. I'm sorry that her demons won and I feel bad for her family, but the truth is that this community enabled her for far too long.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
108. For some, it's much easier than one would think.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:09 PM
Mar 2015

Some DUers directly link to info about themselves with real life names attached. Some even have usernames that are their names IRL (think Will Pitt for one.)
For others, it's a bit more difficult but still possible to gather the data crumbs and eventually figure out the person's identity by process of elimination.

I don't know how she did it. I do know that when I was having a cordial PM exchange with her about living in Boston the exchange took a weird turn where she kept asking me for more details about where exactly I had lived, where I worked, etc. It was creepy and stalkerish and I just avoided her questions until she went off on me with a paranoid rant. That was the last PM.




 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
105. i think there are people who bullied (and others) for the fun of it, but there were many
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:35 PM
Mar 2015

people, including me, with legit gripes against her. her racism was very annoying for one. her harassing of other du'ers was pretty well known too.

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
34. The originator of the long running Olive Garden post that's become DU legend
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 03:12 PM
Mar 2015

I'm sorry to hear this.

RIP Ellen

 

hifiguy

(33,688 posts)
44. RiP, Radio Lady.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 05:13 PM
Mar 2015

I always got along famously with her, and she was the first DUer whoever sent me a PM here. I missed her.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
47. There was a lot of cruelty toward her.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 08:24 PM
Mar 2015

There is cruelty and bullying frequently here.

Perhaps this will make the bullies think twice.

helderheid

(38,039 posts)
50. She stalked and threatened several people, myself included.
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 08:58 PM
Mar 2015

i didn't bully her, but did hope she wouldn't find out my address once my family moved to the same town. She was highly unstable and suffered severe mental illness. I hope for peace for her family, and hope she's at peace as well.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
51. This makes it obvious to me
Tue Mar 3, 2015, 10:04 PM
Mar 2015

that we should all think twice before attacking people online.

I've seen many such attacks. Against her and others.

I could not live in peace with something like this on my conscience.

Best thing to remember for us all: Be kind.

RIP Radio Lady.

Frank Cannon

(7,570 posts)
56. I thought she was just "eccentric".
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 03:31 PM
Mar 2015

I had no idea she struggled with serious issues that eventually ended her life. This makes me very sad.

PassingFair

(22,434 posts)
61. Certainly explains a lot.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 04:02 PM
Mar 2015

Lots of people here toyed with her, but .... well let's just say I feel badly for her daughter.

The internet makes for strange exchanges.

Frank Cannon

(7,570 posts)
62. I agree.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 04:30 PM
Mar 2015

People interact much differently with someone else on the Internet from how they would in person. The benefit of the Internet is that you can get to know someone from all of the information that they give you. The problem with the Internet is that you get to know someone from the information that they give you.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
70. It makes me very sad
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 10:35 PM
Mar 2015

that she was treated poorly here at times.

But, hey, this is not a place for the faint of heart.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
58. she was horribly mean to several people and racist to boot. just cos she's dead now, doesn't make
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 03:44 PM
Mar 2015

what she did then just simply disappear. i feel no guilt for being mean to her on the internet. she was repeatedly racist and repeatedly a bully.



 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
64. Wasn't aware of that. How disappointing.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 06:43 PM
Mar 2015

Just goes to show you, you think you know people, but often, we really don't.

Response to La Lioness Priyanka (Reply #58)

bluesbassman

(19,309 posts)
68. I don't think she's being made into a "saint".
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 07:53 PM
Mar 2015

She more than likely never intended any of her postings to become comedy gold and legend here at DU, and she most certainly engaged in inappropriate exchanges with some members. However, both her inadvertent comedic offerings and her mean streak come into focus clearer now that it's become understood that she had psychological and emotional issues.

Personally I abhor cyber bullying, but knowing now that she had conditions that were quite possibly beyond her control does allow me to cut her a little slack.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
121. I think she had mental health challenges, was a stubborn individual inherently, and
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 06:04 PM
Mar 2015

could sometimes find herself in situations where she felt piled-upon and did not want to back down. I also think she was misinterpreted and made the object of sport on occasion.

No one is canonizing her, but when someone passes on, it's not uncommon for some people to prefer to remember the good in people. After all, wouldn't we all like to be remembered as our better, rather than our worse, selves?

I have a great deal of empathy for anyone who endures mental health issues. I can't imagine how much courage it takes to face each day while profoundly depressed, in a manic state, or having the balance of one's mind so disturbed that it is difficult to trust one's perceptions. It's got to be a frightening thing, and anyone who has the guts to get up and face each day with that kind of challenge has my respect because that takes a special kind of bravery and fortitude.

hippywife

(22,767 posts)
133. Wish I could rec this, MADem.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:44 AM
Mar 2015

I read some of her threads, but didn't know her or ever interact with her when I was here previously, I'm sorry for the people to whom she may have caused real grief or personal injury of any kind. However, it reminds me that no matter how odd or harsh someone may appear, we don't always know the reasons why. But! All of us are savvy enough to know there have to be reasons. The inability to extend kindness or at the very least tolerance toward someone speaks more loudly, and is more illustrative, of ourselves.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
139. I love a good conversation, and I like a vibrant discussion. I tend to not take things personally,
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 04:46 PM
Mar 2015

even if I hold my position and vehemently disagree with someone. It's just not worth the expending of psychic energy to be "mad" at someone on the internet. Life is too doggone short!

I just can't understand why people would get so PISSED at the poor old dear. I mean, sure, she could get a little quirky at times, but I put that down to her age and stage of life, and her life experiences. I never had a conversation with her where she got disagreeable with me, but I didn't get into a lot of heavy hoop-la with her, either. In any event, even when one disagrees, it's just not worth it to get so invested that one bursts a blood vessel over a difference of opinion! State your case, agree to disagree, and move on. I think there was a bit of piling on at times; she might not have helped matters by "misinterpreting" intent--but really, why beat up on someone who is old enough to collect social security? It's not worth the loss of "karma" points, IMO. The internet can be like that on occasion--a bit cliquish, a bit Junior High School, and maybe a bit of "Lord of the Flies" at worst.

People come here for a little conversation, fun and exchange of ideas, the drama and agita should be side dishes (at worst!).

I hope they put her name on that memorial page here--particularly after learning that she had mental health challenges as they likely played a role in her departure from this venue.

Life is short--we should enjoy, eh?

lovemydog

(11,833 posts)
75. May she rest in peace.
Wed Mar 4, 2015, 10:56 PM
Mar 2015

May her family be comforted.

May those who were harassed online by her also find peace.

a kennedy

(29,462 posts)
79. Just shows there's always a human and a story behind every post.
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 09:44 AM
Mar 2015

and that we should TRY to be kind to all we write to and with. RIP Radio_Lady.

Whoa_Nelly

(21,236 posts)
83. So many memories, threads, and condolences
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 03:15 PM
Mar 2015

Sad that R_L died by her own hand.
She definitely was a part of DU lore and legend, even after she was TS'd.

Has anyone asked EarlG if she can be placed on the In Memorium group?

On edit: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=inmemoriam

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
86. I don't know but, someone should, I think. You want to? or, Kali maybe. I mentioned it above
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 06:11 PM
Mar 2015

so I am good with it, too. and Kali replied back, yes.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
92. I'm on board with this Tuesday.
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 11:58 PM
Mar 2015

She is a legend here.

No doubt she'd be thrilled with this thread lol.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
95. for better ore worse she was one of us ... and I think that is all she ever really wanted
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:18 AM
Mar 2015

-acceptance-

she was from another era and really she did help blaze the way for women in broadcasting.

so what, she wasn't perfect.

who is?

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
97. Any of us who have been in the DU scrum lol
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:21 AM
Mar 2015

should be remembered.

Hell, she must be laughing her ass off that once again (even banned), she is a topic on DU,

No greater epitaph.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
98. IKR.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:27 AM
Mar 2015

I am understanding that her illness got the better of her so that times she struck out in inappropriate ways.

She was always kind to me and I am sorry that other people on here have not been able to find it in their hearts to forgive a
mentally ill person. One thing ... she can bother them no longer so maybe they can find peace in that.

Lay people often antagonize the mentally ill and can actually escalate a situation without meaning to.

It is not always easy to DE-esculate a situation and redirect the mentally ill.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
101. I don't really get how she could "cyberstalk' people.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 10:44 AM
Mar 2015

Wouldn't you just put her on ignore and block pms?

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
102. I really can't speak to that because she was never anything but nice to me. If I am
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 11:12 AM
Mar 2015

understanding correctly she somehow obtained their Real Names and Addresses and that would give me cause for concern, too if that happened to me. So, I am not denying their experience but, I do wonder why she took such an interest in certain people and how much they fed into her behavior ...

poke at crazy and get crazy is pretty much a duh, for me.

hippywife

(22,767 posts)
134. True, TA.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:48 AM
Mar 2015

And excellent sentiments. So many times these kinds of interactions and how we handle them speak more to who we are than the other person. A good reminder to always be kind as we don't know what someone's journey is or has been like.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
137. thanks, hippywife -
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 11:09 AM
Mar 2015


I think there is good advice in the old adage: If you can't say something nice don't say anything.

On a personal, conversational level I think that is probably for the best.

When speaking in public about national decisions, of course, speak out loudly and clearly and DEBATE. That is different.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
94. thanks, Kali ... for good or bad DU would not be the same DU w/out her contributions to this place
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:15 AM
Mar 2015

stuff of legends, really

hippywife

(22,767 posts)
135. I've been away for several years...
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 08:55 AM
Mar 2015

having just returned within the last week. Seeing so many familiar names on that list makes me very sad.

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
88. I remember & I can only hope that she found some sort of peace...
Thu Mar 5, 2015, 09:52 PM
Mar 2015

within, before her death. My sympathies go out to her family.

She planted some memorable threads here on DU and took some things way to the extreme which made her an unforgettable part of this community.

Radio Lady always reminded me of my sister (whom I've never gotten along well with), an indefatigable woman of that pre-Boomer generation who had to fight like hell to best find her way in this world.

Here is my favorite thread that she ever posted, as it was a total autobiography and gave me a much better understanding of her nature:

http://sync.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x7783583

R.I.P. Radio Lady.

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
99. Oh no! Did you know her personally?
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:23 AM
Mar 2015

How did you learn of how she died?

I really am so sorry to hear that.

(on edit)
Never mind, I've found her daughter's blog, but thanks for the heads-up.

That is so very sad.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
100. I never minded her the way some here did--I guess I missed all the divisive threads.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 03:30 AM
Mar 2015

I had a few chats with her here, like a lot of us did--I happen to be a fan of old radio, and world radio, and she was, after all "Radio Lady." I pictured her as a quirky older lady doing the best she could on the internet. I got the impression she didn't understand the boundaries at times, but I never thought she meant ill.

It's a shame that anyone would want to go like that. Hell, I frigging LOVE life, I love my family, my friends, and even most of my quirky neighbors. I'm not always in the best mood (this winter weather has worn me out), and I have aches, pains, gripes, and whines, just like anyone, but the good bits are always more frequent than the bad ones. I'm not even close to done yet. I can't imagine wanting to leave, and it's just heartbreaking to know that someone saw that as a good option.

RIP Radio Lady, I hope her family is coping and can be sustained by their memories. I hope Skinner puts her on the Memorial Page.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
106. That was my take on her, too MADem. and also my outlook on life is the same.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 12:48 PM
Mar 2015

Seems some on here are intent on making this one last divisive thread in her honor.

I hope she can smile about it and see the humor in their human foibles ...

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
107. Yeah, and again I have to wonder
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:03 PM
Mar 2015

how RL was able to get personal info about DUers. Did those DUers make their identity or personal information known online?

I find it curious.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
110. maybe one of them will see fit to send you a PM and satisfy your curiosity.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:19 PM
Mar 2015


If I knew how she did it then we would both know
 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
111. Someone answered upthread (downthread?)
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:21 PM
Mar 2015

Apparently posters give out info about themselves online...so I guess that would make it easy.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
112. It always amazes me what privacy some people are willing to share on the internet. Although,
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:28 PM
Mar 2015

I am sure it can be shared unwittingly and with a little computer savvy, know how, time and, the want to ... I guess nothing is impossible.

The woman took her life. I am willing to forgive her. Easy for me. She did nothing to me.

The others in this thread will have to find peace the best way they can.

One thing for sure, unless Radio_Lady can haunt them as a ghost, she no longer holds any power over them. Maybe they can take comfort in that.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
113. True story.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 01:33 PM
Mar 2015

Today my mom told me she wants to go to Olive Garden.

When I cracked up laughing, she asked why.

So now she knows the RL story too, though she is a bit confused by it loll.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
120. Yes, she had mental health issues and a tough life.
Fri Mar 6, 2015, 05:48 PM
Mar 2015

I am guessing that if she could have been happier, she would have been.

I don't think anyone chooses misery, at the end of the day.

I remember this pic of her from her younger days; thought she had a nice face.


Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
129. yes, it was her. Her name was always in the title line-RadioLady Reviews: blah blah blah.
Mon Mar 30, 2015, 01:52 AM
Mar 2015

That bugged a bunch of people on here.

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