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Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:13 AM

When they say "no presents please", for a 60th birthday party....what do they REALLY mean??

a card with money?? no money?? no gifts?? Hate when that is printed on the invitation. What do you do?? Thanks.

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Reply When they say "no presents please", for a 60th birthday party....what do they REALLY mean?? (Original post)
a kennedy Dec 2014 OP
bigwillq Dec 2014 #1
a kennedy Dec 2014 #8
eShirl Dec 2014 #2
a kennedy Dec 2014 #9
Paper Roses Jan 2015 #33
Major Nikon Dec 2014 #3
a kennedy Dec 2014 #10
Major Nikon Dec 2014 #15
Scuba Dec 2014 #4
a kennedy Dec 2014 #11
Laffy Kat Dec 2014 #20
femmocrat Dec 2014 #5
a kennedy Dec 2014 #12
femmocrat Dec 2014 #17
MrScorpio Dec 2014 #6
a kennedy Dec 2014 #13
hollysmom Dec 2014 #7
a kennedy Dec 2014 #14
hollysmom Dec 2014 #19
riderinthestorm Dec 2014 #16
sarge43 Dec 2014 #18
a kennedy Dec 2014 #22
sarge43 Dec 2014 #25
Kali Dec 2014 #21
a kennedy Dec 2014 #23
DawgHouse Jan 2015 #31
NV Whino Dec 2014 #24
a kennedy Dec 2014 #27
UTUSN Dec 2014 #26
a kennedy Dec 2014 #28
MissB Jan 2015 #29
Skittles Jan 2015 #30
a kennedy Jan 2015 #36
WinkyDink Jan 2015 #32
Paula Sims Jan 2015 #34
lunatica Jan 2015 #35
nirvana555 Jan 2015 #37
lunatica Jan 2015 #38
oldandhappy Jan 2015 #39
LynneSin Jan 2015 #40
dilby Jan 2015 #41

Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:26 AM

1. I take it to mean "no presents"

 

so I don't give them anything. I just show up and party!

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Response to bigwillq (Reply #1)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:20 AM

8. sounds good to me.....

I might just give a her a card......hate to show up, and NOT give something.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:27 AM

2. a very nice card with a short handwritten note

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Response to eShirl (Reply #2)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:21 AM

9. Yah, this is what I'm kinda thinking about doing.....

thanks.

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Response to eShirl (Reply #2)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 04:55 PM

33. A card with a nice note.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:28 AM

3. Whiskey

Seriously though as long as the hosts imbibe, it's not bad form to bring a bottle of wine or spirits to any sort of party or dinner. So that's what I would do. There's a good chance many, if not most of the guests will ignore the no gift request.

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Response to Major Nikon (Reply #3)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:22 AM

10. ha ha, they're Irish too.....so a good ol' Irish Whiskey would do the trick....

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #10)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:37 AM

15. You never know, they might prefer bourbon

But I've never known anyone who was Irish that didn't have a bottle of Jameson in the house.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 09:47 AM

4. Donation in their name to a food pantry or animal shelter.

 

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Response to Scuba (Reply #4)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:23 AM

11. That's a great idea, thanks Scuba

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Response to Scuba (Reply #4)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 05:11 PM

20. This is what I do. nt

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 09:49 AM

5. They want your presence. Not presents.

Go and have fun!

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Response to femmocrat (Reply #5)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:25 AM

12. Thanks, but kinda hate to go empty handed......

might just bring a card with a personal note, like eShirl suggested.

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #12)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 11:24 AM

17. Good idea!

Lots of good suggestions in this thread.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 09:52 AM

6. BYOB!

If anything, bring ice.

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Response to MrScorpio (Reply #6)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:26 AM

13. Hey, that's a great idea......thanks MrScorpio.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:13 AM

7. it means they have too much stuff. You can donate to charity in their name if you feel

you need to give something, find out their favorite charity.

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Response to hollysmom (Reply #7)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 10:27 AM

14. *nodding* yah probably do have enough stuff......

love this idea of giving to their charity. Thanks.

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #14)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 12:48 PM

19. You are welcome - being over 60 myself.

people hate having to shop for a gift for me, I have enough stuff and am giving half my stuff away. I have suggested people give to a charity instead and gave them a list - never happens though, people still buy me pierced earrings - I don't have pierced ears or scented candles - I am sensitives to artificial scents and perfumes. See a pattern here?

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 11:08 AM

16. I usually bring a card and something tasty - wine, homemade jam, local honey

 

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 11:42 AM

18. Bring something everyone could enjoy, like ice cream. n/t

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Response to sarge43 (Reply #18)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:09 PM

22. OMGOSH......everyone loves ice cream......

Bring a couple of different varieties, that is a wonderful idea. Thank you for the suggestion.

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #22)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:26 PM

25. It was my husband's idea

He said the same thing. Everyone likes ice cream and it's perfect for a birthday party.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 07:27 PM

21. flowers

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Response to Kali (Reply #21)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:11 PM

23. Shoot I don't have any flowers as beautiful as those......will have to buy some.

But that's a good idea also.......thank you.

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Response to Kali (Reply #21)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 12:42 PM

31. Oh I love zinnias! nt

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 08:25 PM

24. It means...

No fucking presents. I already have all the junk I want or need, and you don't know my tastes anyway.

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Response to NV Whino (Reply #24)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 11:13 PM

27. Oh my, I guess that is one way of looking at it.....

And thanks for your input.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 09:45 PM

26. It means (translating here) : I HATE being OLD and HATE you for being younger.

Also: I don't need any more material crap, just YOUTH.

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Response to UTUSN (Reply #26)

Wed Dec 31, 2014, 11:16 PM

28. I hope she doesn't actually think that.....she's such a sweetie....

And really, who doesn't want youth for a present, although personally? I don't

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 12:14 PM

29. Depends.

No, really.

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Response to MissB (Reply #29)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 12:21 PM

30. SCHEDULING MISSB FOR ASS KICKING

EGREGIOUS; yes INDEED

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Response to MissB (Reply #29)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 09:11 PM

36. Oh, now that is funny......Depends...ha ha ha

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 04:48 PM

32. "Don't Be Cheap, Though, If You Insist." Oh, wait; that's me.

 

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 05:46 PM

34. It means there is no obligations -- just show up. However. . .

Flowers for a lady and booze for a man are always appreciated (I too, hate to go empty handed). Also gift cards to their favorite place. The denomination? $60+$1 of course!!

When I threw a 60th luncheon for my husband, that's what I said -- no gifts please. Most people brought wine, gift certificates to Home Depot (he's an avid woodworker) and one person got an old-fashioned tool from somewhere. Of course everyone brought treats for our kittens!

Nope, you don't HAVE to do anything, however, it's always nice. Good to see your Mother (or partner) raised you right.

Paula

Edit: A card is a no-brainer-of-course-you-must inclusion.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 05:53 PM

35. When I say no presents that's exactly what I mean

I haven't celebrated a birthday, a Thanksgiving or Christmas in over 25 years. It's not for everybody but for those of us who do it it's incredibly liberating. It means that if you get together with people it's because that's what you want to do.

The problem for you may be that you are still thinking that you 'must' do something. That for some reason you feel your hosts are tricking you into guessing what you should take. Just take yourself. Some people find that to be all they want. Your company. It's a guilt trip that your hosts want you to be free of, because they are free of it. It's pretty nice to do something you don't have any 'obligation' to bring anything but yourself to.

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Response to lunatica (Reply #35)

Thu Jan 1, 2015, 09:41 PM

37. I like the idea of donating something (maybe a cause they are especially interested in) N/T

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Response to nirvana555 (Reply #37)

Fri Jan 2, 2015, 01:09 PM

38. Why?

Don't you think they donate on their own? Why do you have to do it for them? I have my favorite causes that I donate to. No one needs to donate in my name. I prefer my friends donate in their own name and just accept my invitation and end up having a good time. I consider my friends as very special people who add richly to my life. Being in a relaxed get together will bring me even more riches as we enjoy each other, especially in conversations regarding our interests, be they political, or personal. I especially like having conversations with my progressive friends regarding the state of the world.

Give yourself some credit for being invited because your hosts want you there.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Fri Jan 2, 2015, 01:56 PM

39. A nice card with a personal note

is always correct. Maybe a single flower. The invitation is reminding all of us that we have all we need and are trying to pass things along to family or Good Will. I always believe 'em! No gifts means they do not need anything and do not want to deal with the whole presents things. But personal good wishes and personal stories are appreciated. If there is an open mike where people are invited to say something, be prepared to say something. If you really want to do something, write a story about your friendship with the person and include it in the card. Personal rather than things is the key.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Fri Jan 2, 2015, 01:58 PM

40. I take a gift card to a nice restaurant

Always a nice thing.

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Response to a kennedy (Original post)

Fri Jan 2, 2015, 02:26 PM

41. It means, they have been on this earth for 60 years and there is nothing you can bring

that would make them happier than yourself. Now if it were me and I said no presents and you brought something that everyone can indulge in, I would chide you by saying I told you not to bring anything but then I would open it and begin sharing it with all the guests and give you the credit. Not sure what your friend likes but for me it's good Irish Whiskey.

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