Do you guys find that I seem childish?...

[Locut0s]

Serious question. I know from recent visits to my psychiatrist and from what others here and elsewhere have told me that one thing I have to work on is being emotionally underdeveloped for my age. I'm 31 and part of me is like a wise old man, the other part of me is more like a 10 year old. I think I come across here as kind of hyper, naive and maybe a bit childish but it's hard for me to tell. This quality, and a penchant for spilling the beans about myself too much, that and posting too often, has made me many an enemy on the net over the years. This is probably something I should be working on during my self improvement kick that I'm on right now. How would you say I come across?

[Callmecrazy]

1. Sorry Locut0s...

I'm the last moron to be giving any kind of opinion but I think you're just a guy looking for a little acceptance in this world.
Personally, I see your post and enjoy them. Love your photos. You're a part of my routine in the Lounge; I look for your stuff. You're very open about your interests and your issues yet can still be anonymous. I'm much the same way. I'm always sharing the things that I do. I never have to lie here. I take comfort in that. Yet, nobody has my phone number or even knows what I look like (unless they look for me on facebook). And if I'm judged unfairly here there's always the ignore feature (which I haven't used).

[Locut0s]

9. Thanks Callme!...

Sometimes I just need to be validated. Actually FAR too often it's one of those things I'm working on But thanks for the kind words it means a lot.

[LeftofObama]

2. Childish? No.

To me you come across as inquisitive, sensitive, curious, peaceful, and intelligent. Those traits are hardly childish.

[Aristus]

3. ^^^^^THIS!^^^^^

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. ^^^^^^^This for sure! (Do know how to make those up arrows!) ^^^^^^^^^

[Locut0s]

8. Shift + 6...

On your keyboard take a look at the number 6 above T and Y, you should see a ^ symbol. It's called a hat.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. Ah, now I see it! Thank you, my dear Locut0s!

I will edit my post...

[MiddleFingerMom]

16. I know it as a caret and it's used in proofreading to indicate...

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It has new Intertubes usages now -- one being to refer the reader to a post upthread. but
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[Locut0s]

26. Ahh right, that's the proper term actually.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caret

"hat" is mentioned there as another name for it but not where that name comes from. My guess is it has it's roots somewhere in computer geekdom, programming or the like.

[Locut0s]

10. Thank you Left...

It means a lot!

[many a good man]

4. No, you seem like a cool dude

Of course, HERE, childishness is a virtue!

Seriously, like a lot of people, your head is telling you lies. You're fine. No enemies here.

Self improvement is a life long thing. For everybody. The internets are a bad place to look for validation. Look at me. I lurk a lot and hardly ever post. I'm not worth being put on ignore, but I'm ignored a lot. Not sure why. I probably come across better IRL than on the internet. Maybe because it usually takes a few belts before I start posting. It doesn't bother me.

You're still young so getting off your butt and exercising will greatly improve your self-image. Jogging is a great way to lose weight and bring peace to your mind. Don't take too seriously what others say or think. Just be yourself at every moment and evolve, evolve. Keep posting here, regardless of the feedback. For me, you come across fine, even if I don't respond to your posts or responses.

[Locut0s]

12. Lol yes...

The interent is not the best place to seek validation, so true! And yet I've made it a habit for far too long. Yes exercise helps. I used to do 40min on the treadmill every dat at a 10% incline but that become too obsessive and I lost too much. Now I prefer to take long walks and hikes outside, I'm going to progress to running in time. Indeed it's very helpful. Thanks again.

[Wounded Bear]

5. It's the internet....

Everybody is juvenile and under developed.

[MiddleFingerMom]

15. Speak for yourself...

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[Paulie]

22. I'm telling!!!!

Neener neener.

[Locut0s]

7. Thanks for the support guys...

I need it some times. Thanks again it means a lot!

[BlueJazz]

13. You come across as an open, caring, sharing individual that loves and is full of Life.

It's an honor to share this planet with you.

[Locut0s]

14. LOL, I don't know, I think that's a bit much but thanks!

Really it's touching to hear, thank you!

[MiddleFingerMom]

17. You ask some pretty interesting questions that reveal that you ARE inexperienced...

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... but filled with wonder and curiosity about your world.
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Sadly, many of us have lost those senses... ar least to a degree of
anything CLOSE to your intensity.
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That's not childish... it's childlike. Enormous difference. I think many
of us wish we could be MORE like you again.
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I look forward to your posts and open every one I see... for your great
pictures and your interesting questions and narratives. If you lived in
my area, you're someone I think I'd like to call "my friend".
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So carry on.
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Ya big BABY!!!
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[Locut0s]

18. Aww why thank you MFM...

And quite honestly you strike me as a rarity as well. You have a sense of humour and courage in the face of adversity that few I know would have in your shoes. You brighten up this place with every post you make! Keep at it!

[pipi_k]

19. Hell no

In fact I wouldn't have pegged you for being that young

Anyway...

I think you're a fun person. I mean from what I know of you here at DU

[OriginalGeek]

20. Ya seem just fine to me

but I'm almost 50, have a pony tail and go to death metal concerts on a regular basis.

On the other hand, I also have a wife (27th anniversary in 10 days) and three kids, own my home, both cars are paid off and I bought an old pub mirror last week in an antique store in Indianapolis that I'm going to build a bar around. I've been at my current job for 13 years and I'm not rich but I make enough to have fun (Deicide show tomorrow night!). I could make more in the private sector (have many job offers to prove it) but I work for a not-for-profit that I feel does good in my community and that makes me happier than a couple more bucks would do.


So if any of that is worth anything to you then feel free to take my assessment to heart and know that, whatever else, you have fans here. Keep improving the things you feel you should but never forget you got good shit going on too.

[Locut0s]

23. Well some months ago...

Some months ago I would not have wanted to hear about your successes as I was, still do to some degree, ALWAYS comparing my situation to where I thought I needed to be and continually beating myself up about it. I would say the most horrible things about myself. But I'm getting over that and realizing that goes nowhere but down hill.

Actually it's good to hear that you have a comfortable life, I hope to one day have something similar. But I've come to realize in the past month or so that it really doesn't matter at all. All that matters is I end up being happy. What form that takes we will see in time.

Thanks for saying I have some good stuff going for me. I've only recently started to believe this myself.

[DFW]

21. This being an internet board and all, I try to respond to the message, not the messenger

Unless specifically addressed, that is.

Since the likelihood of meeting up with a fellow DUer, especially for one with my insane travel schedule, is slight at best, I try, not always successfully, to take posts at face value, and if they seem childish/ridiculous/offensive, I usually ignore them rather than try to get inside the head of the poster. My wife and I each turned 61 this year. I'd be one sorry individual if I worried about stuff like this at this point. You have three decades to figure it out. I'm not saying you ought to wait 30 years to decide who you wanna be, but you do have some time to figure it out. Take it easy and don't let it crowd you.

Like Billy Joel sang:

"And you know when the truth is told
"You can get what you want or you can just get old."

[HipChick]

24. You seem like you would be a cool date..

Most guys I come across are boring...but I always enjoying reading your posts..

[Locut0s]

25. Haha wow thanks...

Who knows, maybe I am.