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Bicoastal

(12,645 posts)
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:00 PM Feb 2013

Quickquickquick! Should I set this first date for Saturday or Sunday? (UPDATE!)

Last edited Sun Feb 24, 2013, 12:24 PM - Edit history (1)

Really can't make up my mind on this one, hastily arranged via OKCupid. She wrote late last night and said she'd love to go out for drinks this weekend, but can't do Friday at all and has plans tomorrow at 8.

The ball's in my court. Saturday would have to be a afternoon/early evening affair, and we'd be limited by her prior engagement. But Sunday is a tough day for dating--the impending end of the weekend always puts a damper on things. I'm not sure I've ever had a first date on Sunday that turned out well...

What should I tell her? And remember, the clock is ticking...

UPDATE: So I eventually did decide on Saturday afternoon. It was a GREAT first date--best one I've had in months by far. We talked at the cafe for more than four hours and couldn't seem to tear ourselves away; I made her late for her evening plans. Long story short, we're definitely seeing each other again in the next week.

Anyway, thanks for the advice, guys!

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Quickquickquick! Should I set this first date for Saturday or Sunday? (UPDATE!) (Original Post) Bicoastal Feb 2013 OP
Sunday gets my vote. Helen Reddy Feb 2013 #1
Sunday would be a good day for a brunch buffet. n/t RebelOne Feb 2013 #10
Is she ok with a short meet on Saturday? If so, sounds like she might rather meet you, and that... onehandle Feb 2013 #2
Saturday! And if it goes well it can always turn into Sunday brunch as well! Grantuspeace Feb 2013 #3
Exactly. Duer 157099 Feb 2013 #13
If you both like sports charlie and algernon Feb 2013 #4
It depends on your itinerary Xyzse Feb 2013 #5
Start with Saturday! Afternoons are perfect for first meetings. In_The_Wind Feb 2013 #6
Saturday! Then if you like each other you can ask her out for Sunday brunch to get to know her more riderinthestorm Feb 2013 #7
See if she can do breakfast at a 3rd-shift bar and get bloody marys with breakfast. Gorp Feb 2013 #8
As far as my opinion goes, as one who hasn't "dated" in 39 years........ DFW Feb 2013 #9
I vote for Saturday SwissTony Feb 2013 #11
shminky-pinky.... BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #14
Unfortunately, I can't claim credit for the term. SwissTony Feb 2013 #15
must be even funnier in a British accent! BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #16
It actually comes from The Fast Show's piss take of European television, particularly Italian SwissTony Feb 2013 #17
always do a friday if possible. if it goes great then you get a whole weekend together loli phabay Feb 2013 #12
Cool! Is she cute? Taverner Feb 2013 #18
I'm agreeing with the Callalily Feb 2013 #19
 

Helen Reddy

(998 posts)
1. Sunday gets my vote.
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:04 PM
Feb 2013

If the sparks aren't there between you two, both of you have an excuse to end your date earlyish. If sparks fly! who cars if it's Sunday.

Have fun!

onehandle

(51,122 posts)
2. Is she ok with a short meet on Saturday? If so, sounds like she might rather meet you, and that...
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:05 PM
Feb 2013

...she's not looking forward to the 8 oclock thing.

Strike while the iron is hot.

Grantuspeace

(873 posts)
3. Saturday! And if it goes well it can always turn into Sunday brunch as well!
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:05 PM
Feb 2013

Also, chances are she might have other options if you put it off too long. "Strike while the iron is hot!" And good luck!

Duer 157099

(17,742 posts)
13. Exactly.
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 03:34 PM
Feb 2013

Saturday afternoon, short-term in case the chemistry isn't there, and yet Sunday may still be an option if they are.

Best of both worlds.

charlie and algernon

(13,447 posts)
4. If you both like sports
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:07 PM
Feb 2013

You can go to a sports bar saturday afternoon to catch a college basketball game.

If not, Sunday evening is perfectly fine for getting together for a drink.

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
5. It depends on your itinerary
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 01:12 PM
Feb 2013

What do you plan to do?

Either way, I think I'd go for Sunday.
Do my preparations for the week on the Saturday and plan what to do on Sunday.

Given that Sunday has limits on the time places are open. Meaning...
You can clean up your house on Saturday!

What would my date be? Well, I actually found a place here where I could do Painting while drinking wine!

I'd probably start off with coffee in mid-afternoon. Find a cafe! Not Starbucks, where you can start off a relaxed get together before doing some sort of activity.

I am a member of a Rock Climbing gym so, that's something I can bring someone to. No matter how bad I am at it. Either way, figure out an activity that might be fun to do. That is what your Saturday is for, for planning! Something that can transition from the cafe to dinner.

Dinner is three options, one is cooking at your place, or ordering take out or eating out. I basically took off Saturday for you so that you can make the place presentable.

---I am not a member of any dating sites. So, to tell the truth, I have no idea what to do.

DFW

(54,057 posts)
9. As far as my opinion goes, as one who hasn't "dated" in 39 years........
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 03:11 PM
Feb 2013

I'm with the rest of the group--Saturday for sure!!

If she's one who you don't want to let get away, the earlier you can start to make a good impression, the better. And if she's not quite as compatible as you thought/hoped the better you know that, the better, too.

That'll have to do. The result of my last "date" has told me Ein Fall Für Zwei is about to start!

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
11. I vote for Saturday
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 03:20 PM
Feb 2013

In a way, her having plans for the evening makes things easier - no question about staying the night. That may even go down well with her - you had the date knowing there would be no chance of schminky-pinky. If all goes well, you can make a date for Sunday.

Best of luck. I hope it goes well for both of you.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
14. shminky-pinky....
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 05:10 PM
Feb 2013
!!!!!!!





Saturday. You've both got a perfect excuse to keep it short.
And plenty of time to make a second date.

I'd say, meet for coffee late in the afternoon so the date is intentionally limited to a couple of hours.

That's how I'd want to do it myself, anyway.

Goooooood luck!

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
15. Unfortunately, I can't claim credit for the term.
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 05:25 PM
Feb 2013

It's from the hilarious BBC series "Fast Show".

But I love that expression.

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
17. It actually comes from The Fast Show's piss take of European television, particularly Italian
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 05:40 PM
Feb 2013

So it's never said in English.

Here's one youtube link



 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
12. always do a friday if possible. if it goes great then you get a whole weekend together
Fri Feb 22, 2013, 03:31 PM
Feb 2013

If it bombs then the plenty more pigs on the farm rule comes into play and your backup plan for saturday comes into play.

Callalily

(14,885 posts)
19. I'm agreeing with the
Sat Feb 23, 2013, 10:06 AM
Feb 2013

consensus of the group . . . make plans for Saturday. This is your first meeting so keep it relatively short.

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