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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsQuickquickquick! Should I set this first date for Saturday or Sunday? (UPDATE!)
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Really can't make up my mind on this one, hastily arranged via OKCupid. She wrote late last night and said she'd love to go out for drinks this weekend, but can't do Friday at all and has plans tomorrow at 8.
The ball's in my court. Saturday would have to be a afternoon/early evening affair, and we'd be limited by her prior engagement. But Sunday is a tough day for dating--the impending end of the weekend always puts a damper on things. I'm not sure I've ever had a first date on Sunday that turned out well...
What should I tell her? And remember, the clock is ticking...
UPDATE: So I eventually did decide on Saturday afternoon. It was a GREAT first date--best one I've had in months by far. We talked at the cafe for more than four hours and couldn't seem to tear ourselves away; I made her late for her evening plans. Long story short, we're definitely seeing each other again in the next week.
Anyway, thanks for the advice, guys!
Helen Reddy
(998 posts)If the sparks aren't there between you two, both of you have an excuse to end your date earlyish. If sparks fly! who cars if it's Sunday.
Have fun!
RebelOne
(30,947 posts)onehandle
(51,122 posts)...she's not looking forward to the 8 oclock thing.
Strike while the iron is hot.
Grantuspeace
(873 posts)Also, chances are she might have other options if you put it off too long. "Strike while the iron is hot!" And good luck!
Duer 157099
(17,742 posts)Saturday afternoon, short-term in case the chemistry isn't there, and yet Sunday may still be an option if they are.
Best of both worlds.
charlie and algernon
(13,447 posts)You can go to a sports bar saturday afternoon to catch a college basketball game.
If not, Sunday evening is perfectly fine for getting together for a drink.
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)What do you plan to do?
Either way, I think I'd go for Sunday.
Do my preparations for the week on the Saturday and plan what to do on Sunday.
Given that Sunday has limits on the time places are open. Meaning...
You can clean up your house on Saturday!
What would my date be? Well, I actually found a place here where I could do Painting while drinking wine!
I'd probably start off with coffee in mid-afternoon. Find a cafe! Not Starbucks, where you can start off a relaxed get together before doing some sort of activity.
I am a member of a Rock Climbing gym so, that's something I can bring someone to. No matter how bad I am at it. Either way, figure out an activity that might be fun to do. That is what your Saturday is for, for planning! Something that can transition from the cafe to dinner.
Dinner is three options, one is cooking at your place, or ordering take out or eating out. I basically took off Saturday for you so that you can make the place presentable.
---I am not a member of any dating sites. So, to tell the truth, I have no idea what to do.
In_The_Wind
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riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Gorp
(716 posts)DFW
(54,057 posts)I'm with the rest of the group--Saturday for sure!!
If she's one who you don't want to let get away, the earlier you can start to make a good impression, the better. And if she's not quite as compatible as you thought/hoped the better you know that, the better, too.
That'll have to do. The result of my last "date" has told me Ein Fall Für Zwei is about to start!
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)In a way, her having plans for the evening makes things easier - no question about staying the night. That may even go down well with her - you had the date knowing there would be no chance of schminky-pinky. If all goes well, you can make a date for Sunday.
Best of luck. I hope it goes well for both of you.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Saturday. You've both got a perfect excuse to keep it short.
And plenty of time to make a second date.
I'd say, meet for coffee late in the afternoon so the date is intentionally limited to a couple of hours.
That's how I'd want to do it myself, anyway.
Goooooood luck!
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)It's from the hilarious BBC series "Fast Show".
But I love that expression.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)SwissTony
(2,560 posts)So it's never said in English.
Here's one youtube link
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)If it bombs then the plenty more pigs on the farm rule comes into play and your backup plan for saturday comes into play.
Taverner
(55,476 posts)Callalily
(14,885 posts)consensus of the group . . . make plans for Saturday. This is your first meeting so keep it relatively short.