Love what you've done with the place. But I don't care for rustic furniture

[HEyHEY]

And the TV was better by the window.

[applegrove]

1. Hey! You're back!!!

[HEyHEY]

3. Sort of, I suppose

Moved back from the great firewall and such. Nice to see you're around still. How's trix?

[applegrove]

5. Good. Democrats have become a lean, exacting, fighting machine

in the last few years.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. Welcome back, my dear HEYHEY!

How are things? Are you still in China?

It's great to see you!

[HEyHEY]

4. Nope, moved home in April

Ups and downs, but generally nervous and unsatisfied. I speak Mandarin now though. So I can now complain in three languages.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. It's great you speak Mandarin! The more languages the better...

I hope your marriage is good, too.

[HEyHEY]

7. Well, ups and downs there too

Moved back to Canada to have a baby, then the baby was lost at 4 months. She's doing okay. Just went back to China last week for a short-term contract. Was the best thing for her though. Being here in winter after going through that would be very hard for her, so she'll at least be in a tropical place and working while her immigration is processed. She was her on a tourist visa not working, which was driving her nuts.

On the upside her racist father gave her a shitload of money on the presumption I was "going to divorce her" cause I'm a white devil. We used part of it to buy new laptops.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. I'm sorry to hear that sad news...

I hope that all will be better once she gets her immigration status set up.

And good for you, using some of the money for laptops!

[HEyHEY]

10. And a ten speed.

She also bought a ten speed

But yeah, regarding the baby, you gotta be philisophical about these things. So, we've doine our best.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. A ten speed!

Have fun riding!

A lot of women miscarry, and it's tough. I had that happen to me too, a long time ago, and I still remember how devastated I was. I did go on to have two healthy babies....All my best to her!

[HEyHEY]

13. Well, that's what I kept telling her

It was after it all happened I found out that happens to like 20 per cent of pregnancies. SHe's a bit jaded now and is understandibly afraid of trying again. I just hang back, I'm sure she'll come around.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. It's very normal to be afraid; I was too...

But we were so eager to have a child, that we went right ahead as soon as the Doc said it was OK.

She may need psychological support. And you're doing right by hanging back. The last thing she needs is being pushed by anyone.

[HEyHEY]

15. I pushed therapy at first

Because it was cheap up here, even for non Canadians or permanent residents. Many places offered it for $50 a session and I thought it would do her well. But in the end she was not willing to go, so I left it.

She had a very bad experience because I had left for Canada to look for a job and establish our new lives, so I wasn't there when it all happened and she spent two weeks in an absolutely grim ward where the Chinese hospital kept all the women who had lost babies, had babies die on delivery or were carrying babies who would not survive birth. Chinese wards like that keep everyone in one big room and as I was just starting my new job that week and her plane ticket to Canada was a few weeks later she forbid me to come. So, all I could do was have the a local store send her pickles and milk and some of my Beijing friends visisted her to try and cheer her up.

She tough as shit though. Girl grew up in old fashioned communist China with awful things happening all the time, so in her eyes, this wasn't that big of a deal. But every now and then I catch her upset. She won't talk about it though and I don't try because I'm the same way and get the feelings. We'll see what the next year brings.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

16. She must have been tough to endure all that!

I think you two will be OK.......in due time.

Hang in there!

[HEyHEY]

17. My wife and her twin are about 5 feet tall

Everyone else in her family is about 5'8, tall for Chinese. She blames it on the fact when she was growing up the local communist government did not have proper regualtions in place for parents who had twins, consequently her and her sister counted as one person in the ration book, so she literally grew up half starving, which is why she thinks she's so short.

Ya can't faze her.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. I'm glad she can't be fazed!

Insane regulations.

[MrsBrady]

19. so sorry to hear about your trouble....

losing a child is hard...

just make sure to tell her you love her and that you are willing and ready whenever she is --
that will help.

I'm not implying you don't know that...but I didn't have that...and you sound like a good guy.

happiness to you and yours.

[HEyHEY]

20. Well, thank you, Mrs. Brady

What's a marriage if you can't go through these things together, right? As my wife once said "we shall become an unstoppable force." So, that's the plan I guess. And by the unstoppable force measure, I hope my Scotch-Irish upbringing and her hardcore life we'll be able to pass it along to our kids and make some kind of interracial superkid.

[Grey]

9. So nice to hear from you,

It's been a while. When you get back for a while, will you stay in the lower mainland or move up country? About the Baby, please give your lady our love and blessings.

[HEyHEY]

11. Hey, Grey!

I'm in the lower mainland. Not sure we'll stay. I may end up going back to China in a year for another job in the works. Vancouver's kind of dissapointed me since my return

thanks for the wishes.