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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 06:41 PM

1. So sorry.

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Response to Joinfortmill (Reply #1)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 04:37 AM

304. This reply

I work in the not for profit sector, and this post has a lot of red flags. My job is FUNDING organizations and campaigns, and I would stay far far away from this.

If the OP's situation is exactly how he describes, I am sorry that he is suffering anxiety about food insecurity. But there still is a reluctance to use resources (food pantries etc.) that exist to help in this situation. Red Flag #1.

Every question is met with an explanation or insistence of reaching goal. Red Flag #2

The poster has repeatedly asked for money in an emergency situation. Red Flag #3


DU should consider limiting Go Fund Me requests per poster. Make a rule about the number they are allowed to post every year/quarter whatever.

I would encourage people NOT to donate to this request unless they have a way to verify the identity of the poster.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 07:13 PM

2. nooooo

 

please research

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 07:19 PM

3. aw

 

This fundraiser is continuing due to food insecurity and having no money for the month. Your generosity would be hugely appreciated at this time






ut havenít seen any for Medicare yet. Still looking. Thinking about food pantries but want to avoid if possible. Social worker is in our plans, too.

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #3)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:34 PM

12. You

called it, it's just a day behind schedule is all.

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Response to ForgedCrank (Reply #12)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 11:07 PM

17. +1

DU seems to have become a regular income source.

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #3)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 09:48 PM

30. I knew it

 

I tried to warn but as "he" says-if people want to give the money why shouldn't he take it?





My next suggestion will be to go stand with a huge cardboard box or a big sack on a get on a busy intersection and hold your sign up



I hear on can raise a few thousands a day sometimes and I live in a little city.

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #30)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 10:18 AM

47. GFM is much easier

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 07:33 PM

4. Thank you so much to those who have donated and rec'd the thread

It really gives me and my mom some relief in what has seemed like hell. I really wanted to list what I have done because my donors deserve that.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 07:57 PM

5. Kick

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Response to GPV (Reply #5)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:04 PM

6. Thank you!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:09 PM

7. Just gave.....sure hope you can find some relief. ♥️

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #7)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:25 PM

9. Thank you very much!

It is very appreciated

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:11 PM

8. You need to contact local places of worship

And see if any members can volunteer to drive you to a food pantry. Lots of retirees love to help. Why not utilize food pantries?

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #8)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:25 PM

10. They do seem to be the best

Have talked to them, used them and will definitely continue to.

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Response to mvd (Reply #10)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:28 PM

11. Pantries also have paper products nt

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #11)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 08:52 PM

13. Good to know

I was looking them up today and there are a few nearby..

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Response to mvd (Reply #13)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:54 AM

46. What is your objection to using food pantries?

If you claim that you have no money for food, why do you want to avoid using food pantries?

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Response to LisaL (Reply #46)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 10:29 AM

48. GFM is easier

 

ďAnd if friends want to donate why turn it downĒ

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Response to LisaL (Reply #46)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 01:00 PM

65. No objection really

But having NO money is a big problem.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 10:08 PM

14. ...

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 10:44 PM

15. Have you tried Area Agency on Aging yet? Have you looked into Meals on Wheels for mom?

Have you checked the local food pantry?

I hope any of these can help. People here are on your side.

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Response to Hekate (Reply #15)

Thu Sep 8, 2022, 10:49 PM

16. All good ideas, Hekate

I want to explore these as well as all the ones I mentioned. Mom doesnít like cooking anymore and I can only cook basic stuff.

I will check back tomorrow. Getting closer to my goal..

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Response to mvd (Reply #16)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:39 PM

206. And? How did it go when you called?

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Response to Hekate (Reply #206)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:11 PM

211. hahaha

 

surely you jest

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #211)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:28 PM

214. Just checking

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Response to Hekate (Reply #206)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:51 PM

223. They helped with

applying for benefits we haven't gotten yet and recommendations for social work. The transportation has been harder to find. Have lots of ideas now.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 06:06 AM

18. Friday kick

It is so important that this does well because the stability keeps mom better. It is obvious that fear and having no money are at the root of her problems. Some lingering grief, too. But money is the biggest. Thanks so much.

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Response to mvd (Reply #18)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 11:53 AM

19. If I reach at least the goal, combined with my planning..

I should finally have my mom and me in better position. So grateful for any help I can get.

The goal could have been bigger but I like to start out on the lower side.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 02:18 PM

20. My resources list

I'm going to drop a link to the resources I listed in a prior thread. This includes transportation, food pantries, local organizations, etc. I realize it's hard to dig through old posts, so here is that list again:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=16974326

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Response to Tree-Hugger (Reply #20)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:53 PM

22. Thanks again!

I can definitely still use it.. one of the most helpful posts I have seen.

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Response to mvd (Reply #22)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:17 PM

216. Have you called anyone or any entity on that list? It was incredibly detailed, and...

Öif it were me, Iíd print it out and start a 3-ring binder to keep track of who I was calling and what they said, and then what I did to obtain the benefits I was asking for.

Thatís just the kind of thing I did as a secretary to keep track of stuff I was doing.

And earlier in life, when I was new in town, I filled a spiral notebook with cut-out want-ads from the newspaper, and notes where I called every single one asking not only about the duties of the job but about salary and benefits ó because I had two toddlers to feed and rent to pay and I didnít have time to muck about. I was terrified every day. And thatís the story of how I became a secretary at the University, which didnít pay wonderfully, but which had very good benefits.

I wish you all the best, but eventually you too will find that you donít have any more time to muck about. People here have been very generous with their time and their expertise and their money ó but some of us have begun to wonder if it is only the latter you are willing to utilize.

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Response to Hekate (Reply #216)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:41 PM

219. It is wonderful and yes I have

I have called about utilities, social services, subsidized housing, transportation, home health services - still sorting out what to use but no doubt it is helping. People do have the right to know after all this what I am doing to help mom and me.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 02:38 PM

21. Why won't you use a food pantry

If you have no food?

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #21)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:54 PM

23. I got some donations to shop for now

The problem is I need more money for the rest of the month. Food pantries are definitely still an option if I have to.

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Response to mvd (Reply #23)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 04:02 PM

24. If you don't have food or money for food

Then it's not an option. I checked, and there are tons of food pantries near you.

There are, literally, places that can give you free groceries. It's not Instacart, but it's food.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #24)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 04:11 PM

25. I am not disputing that

But of course I would only use when needed. It is great that they are around. I looked into them also. There is one in Collegeville, one at a local Parish and one in Spring City. Without them there would be more hunger for sure.

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Response to mvd (Reply #25)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 04:30 PM

27. I'm sorry you are in this position.

Iíve read that you have autism, so this all must be especially difficult for you. I think the idea of using the food pantry is that the money that you would have spent on food can be used for bills or other things.

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Response to WDLAL (Reply #27)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 04:37 PM

28. Thank you very much

Yes, it is especially difficult for us. My biggest problem is being out of money for so long. I agree that those kinds of decisions must be made. It is such an adjustment from the middle class life I had and adjustments are harder for autistic people.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #24)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 04:25 PM

26. Something tells me

there is a super critical dietary restriction in there somewhere that won't allow for it.
But it's a great idea that he'll think about, he just has to hit the goal first.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 08:48 PM

29. Once again I would appreciate the help so much

I donít want to overdraft, mom and I need things besides food like medication and some transportation, and mom canít handle that long without money. It is especially hard to do the effort of changing, but I have definitely made progress as stated. It got to the point this has to be the last call for help. So before I leave this thread for the night, keep this all in mind. I understand what everyone has said but couldnít avoid this situation.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 10:09 PM

31. New low income internet help

I just read about this https://www.fcc.gov/acp

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Response to photokath (Reply #31)

Fri Sep 9, 2022, 10:12 PM

32. Thank you

I had it on Tracfone but that terrible company just dropped it out of the blue. Customer service doesnít know what I am talking about. Maybe I can get a free $30 plan from Xfinity..

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Response to mvd (Reply #32)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:40 AM

36. This is not TracFone

The link you were given is for a credit from the government that goes to the company you use for phone/internet....in your case, that sounds like Xfinity. You can easily apply online.

Xfinity also has Internet Essentials, which offers low cost internet service and equipment.

Xfinity mobile has an option for "by the gig" phone plans. 1 GB per month is $15 dollars. However, they offer unlimited data for $45/mo for one phone line.

Lifeline is another option for folks who receive medicaid.

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Response to Tree-Hugger (Reply #36)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 10:59 AM

50. What I meant was I used Tracfone for my mobile phone

And had the government program there. I am not sure why it just ended. Yes, I prefer going to a different company now.

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Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:52 AM

38. Thank you

The OP is a never ending drama case...

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 07:42 AM

34. Just donated

Wishing you and your mom all the best.

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Response to Mad_Dem_X (Reply #34)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:09 AM

52. Thank you so much!

I am now even closer to my goal. Just a few small donations would bring me to it. Anything helps.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:52 AM

37. I'm not sure I understand

Iím going to donate, but there are some things that just donít add up here.

You say you are ďdeaf,Ē but then are able to have phone conversations with service providers. You say you canít get a job because you are always asking ďwhat?Ē How do you have phone conversations?

In your post you say that this GFM is because you have no food. But now you are refusing to use a food pantry? That makes no sense.

You say you are ďautistic,Ē but then admit youíve never actually been diagnosed. I donít get why neither of your parents or you ever thought to get diagnosed. It would boost your disability claim.

You say your dad worked for govt, but thereís no pension?

Iím not trying to be difficult or give you a hard time here. Iím legitimately trying to understand. These questions keep popping up in my head.

Anyways, anything you can do to shed light on this would be helpful.

Nonetheless it sounds like you do need help so Iím going to donate. Iíll also donate to the GFMs youíll have up in Oct and Nov.

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:52 AM

39. Don't do it...

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:56 AM

41. One thing that was odd on a previous GFM thread

Last edited Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:29 AM - Edit history (1)

And that roiled some, was him not using his Medicaid dentist. The food-pantry shit blows my mind, but I'm just a disabled former librarian who never had a middle-class lifestyle.



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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #41)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:52 AM

45. He is still using the same GFM where

he has to pay for his dental issues, where he is using a dentist that won't take his insurance. The description is in the GFM.
If you don't have enough money for food, I would suggest not to use a dentist that doesn't take your insurance.
I am just saying...

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Response to LisaL (Reply #45)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:12 AM

54. I was told it wouldn't be good to use a new one

As for the dentist, I had to put off my dental cleaning due to my current situation. I am looking into options for when I can pay for it.

I am happy to answer questions.

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Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:26 AM

44. I am severely hearing impaired, to the degree that I call myself "deaf," but I can

use the phone, though it's hard, sometimes impossible, to understand some people.

Even with both hearing aids, I struggle in face-to-face conversation with one person, and with more than one person it's hopeless.

Here's an article in which I explain the nuances of hearing impairment:

http://deafnotdumb.homestead.com/deafnuances.html

"Just the Other Day I Was Talking to My Deaf Mother on the Phone . . ."

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #44)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:11 AM

53. That was a good read

I am hearing impaired. I can't afford hearing aids and, as you know, insurance coverage for hearing services is low/non-existant. People do not understand that hearing is very nuanced. There are times I can't hear you if you're next to me, but I may be able to hear a whisper across the room. Frequencies matter. For me, I have a lot of eustacian dysfunction and that will vary my hearing abilities greatly throughout the day. I also have tinnitus 24/7, which is made worse by a variety of factors. People assume you are either deaf or you can hear well. They don't pick up on the gray areas.

Don't get me started on healthcare for hearing loss in adults.

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Response to Tree-Hugger (Reply #53)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:17 AM

57. Furthermore, they assume hearing aids are like glasses, providing 100% correction in most cases.

They're not. My hearing aids help me hear about as well as Grandma's walker helps her run races.

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #57)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:26 AM

60. Yeah I have them but they are old

It seems Medicaid doesnít cover new ones. I still often hear sounds but canít make out the voices.

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Response to mvd (Reply #60)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:41 AM

61. Contact the Lion's Club. They refurbish glasses, and some also refurbish hearing aids,

to give to low-income people.

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #61)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:48 AM

62. Thank you

That would be a help especially for the one. I think CostCo will be out of warranty for even routine maintenance soon.

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Response to Tree-Hugger (Reply #53)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:21 AM

58. Before I got hearing aids in 1992, thanks to a bit of money from my dad's life insurance,

I used a small sound amplifier from Radio Shack. It was the size of a portable radio, and I used one earbud rather than two, because my left ear hears pretty nearly nothing, so I wanted all the sound to go into my right ear.

It did help. Maybe you can use something inexpensive like that to get some help.

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 10:34 AM

49. I'm gonna put one up

 

Thanks in advance for the donation

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:05 AM

51. Thank you. I will answer the questions

I am not completely deaf but my hearing doctor said it was severe enough to be considered legal. I can hear but it is very impaired. Oh the phone the voice goes right into my ear.

It is not that I am refusing. If I ever had to, my friend would take me to the food pantry. But if I can avoid it, I would.

Not all autistic people get tested. My past doctor wrote that I was autistic in her notes. I may need a test for disability. I thought the doctor would be enough.

My dad used up all his pension and everything else after he lost his job. All that remained was his social security.

I really hope to have no more GFM.

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Response to mvd (Reply #51)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 12:47 PM

63. Wait a second here ---

You wroteÖ

ďIt is not that I am refusing. If I ever had to, my friend would take me to the food pantry. But if I can avoid it, I would.Ē

The ďif I ever had toÖ.Ē Makes no sense. Either you need food or you donít.

I know people (including myself) whoíve used food pantries. You can get name brand products there.

Iím starting to get the impression itís not that you donít have things, but you donít have things you want.

You need a dentist, but it canít be the Medicaid dentist. You need food but you are too good for a food bank.

Iím glad I asked questions before donating.



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Response to Firehawk (Reply #63)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 12:56 PM

64. I feel you have the wrong impression

I donít feel too good for anything. It has been a big adjustment for me, that is all. I have transportation problems and canít even always get to a food pantry. It is not that I have never made mistakes - we all have - but I donít think that way.

As far as the dentist, I have seen horror stories about the Medicaid ones in my area. I have seen the results of bad dentistry with my mom.

No bad motives here. Just adjustment and fear and lack of money at all.

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #63)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 01:02 PM

66. Name-brand stuff

TP, potatoes, rice, beans. He's in a mind-blowingly charity-and-resource-rich area. I was a defacto social worker at my last job, and my job and patrons' lives would have been so much easier to have those many resources. The state even cut Legal Aid.

There were 2 food pantries, one of which was far away from downtown and a truck handout with long lines. Very depressing and disheartening, many staff had burnout from the frustration of trying to help with limited resources. We even had a sanitary-napkin drive for homeless. Just donations. I was in charge of it.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #66)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 01:08 PM

67. The only thing about my area is it's sprawling and..

not always centralized. Philly suburbs are that way. It certainly beats living in a lot of areas, though. I think you bring up a lot of good options and I am thankful.

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Response to mvd (Reply #67)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:37 PM

187. WAWA is less than a mile from you

 

I walk that far every night in this big ole scary city when I walk my puppy

I would love to shop at a Wawa or a Sheetz

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #187)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:44 PM

190. There must be services for the homebound

Who need food and paper products from food pantries. Lots of poor people don't have cars.

Maybe there's delivery for the elderly and disabled. Won't hurt to call and find out.

Off topic, but WAWA is such a silly name.



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Response to Firehawk (Reply #63)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 04:03 PM

68. Also, welcome to DU

I appreciate your donation and hope I made you feel better. The problem is having no money for so long, not food banks. I should have been to them before. I feel I and my mom made some mistakes, but the key is to learn from them.

I have learned so much from these DU threads and will keep up my progress.

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:25 AM

59. Here's another article about how some deaf (i.e. severely hearing impaired) people can sometimes

function on a telephone, if certain conditions are met:

http://deafnotdumb.homestead.com/cellphones.html

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #37)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:17 PM

123. He is lying and this is a grift. I just reported him to Gofundme and to DU. I've asked for my

donation back.

On DU I am usually trusting and give money a lot more freely but this guy has obviously taken advantage of our good natures here

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Response to Maraya1969 (Reply #123)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:44 PM

207. I remember the previous thread, and it is beyond belief to me that this still goes on

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Response to Hekate (Reply #207)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:24 PM

213. and that people give

 

goodness gracious.

the goal posts move every post

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Response to Maraya1969 (Reply #123)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 11:38 AM

286. Didn't any fundraising have to be approved by the moderators in times past?

Iím an old timer DU and I seem to remember that was a requirement at one time. I think it needs to be reinstated.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:54 AM

40. Mental health resources

You note your own autism and your mom's mental health decline.

Your county's Mobile Crisis unit is available 24/7. They can help you access autism support and mental health support resources and they are pretty good at pinpointing needs. I've used them before.

https://www.accessservices.org/services/mobile-crisis/

The county also has programming for folks with autism.

https://www.montcopa.org/1332/How-to-Access-Services

Merakey is one of the biggest - if not the biggest - mental health provider in the county. They are for folks for Medicaid.

This is their adult behavioral office line: 215-362-7955
This is another: 215-716-9001

Their autism services: 215-716-9001

Pennsylvania Aging and Disability resource helpline:

1-800-753-8827


Use the food pantries. That is what they are there for.



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Response to Tree-Hugger (Reply #40)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:15 AM

55. Thank you so much



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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:19 AM

43. K&R for visibility. nt

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #43)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 11:15 AM

56. Thank you

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 07:22 PM

69. Kick for visibility

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 07:26 PM

70. An idea

Hi mvd. I have been reading DU for a long time and finally decided to officially join because of the midterms. Itís important that we get Fetterman into office. Your posts always intrigued me since it showcases the mess the GOP has made of PA. People like you and your mother, who both need help, are unable to get that help.

I sense a hesitation among the good people here to donate any further and it ďcouldĒ be that youíve never explained what you did with the money already donated. Just saying it went for overdraft doesnít really make sense. Anyhow, I have an idea. Hear me out.

Nobody wants to see you and your mother without food. In the past few days, your GFM has received $325. What if you asked for gift cards to whatever grocery store offering delivery. You can use some of the $325 for the delivery fee. I really think 10 people would offer you a $5 gift card each. Thatís $50 and with that you can feed your mother and yourself for a week! Most places deliver with a charge of $10-$20. You have that much and more. This way, people who really want to help will know their money went towards food and you and your mother would be able to eat.

You would just need an email address and you can make a free one so it doesnít further identify you. The e gift cards would be sent to that email. You can then order the food online, using the e gift cards, and pay for the delivery out of the $325 you recently collected. I know I would be more than willing to participate in something like this.

I hope you think itís a good idea. I really think you would be surprised at the generosity of people if theyíre absolutely sure they know where their money is going.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #70)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 07:40 PM

71. Hi!

Welcome to DU! You are so right about Fetterman. The midterms in PA are so important that they scare me even though Fetterman and Shapiro are ahead. The legislature has indeed blocked a lot of good stuff. For example, Wolf wants to send a $2,000 check out to people but the Republicans wonít let it pass. Looking forward to your posts.

People here have been great with giving but maybe you are right. I try to explain and I will attempt more. I bought food and necessities with the donations. I got a lot in one GoFundMe that I put towards the electric bill. It is after that I got a lot of medical expenses and repairs that I could not handle. Lots of bills. I have made changes in the budget but it is still hard to work with what we had. I admit to having overdraft problems but that isnít all my fault. Part of this GoFundMe is to keep from doing it again. It is a terrible cycle.

If anyone has ideas other than donations I would like to hear them and be open. But the donations are the most direct way.

I want to get past this and back to regular posting. I unfortunately donít have many places to reach out to.

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Response to mvd (Reply #71)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:18 PM

72. Another thing was the emergency room visits when..

we had no way to get there other than spend. If it wasnít for mom, I wouldnít be going through all of this fundraising. I love her so much. She has been driven even older than her 73 years. A job would be easier to look for if she had others in her life.

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Response to mvd (Reply #72)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:37 PM

73. I thought you were moving forward on ssdi?

You have to not be able to work.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #73)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:49 PM

74. Yes

I will be appealing using the hearing and autism again. May have to get tested for autism. My eyesight also isnít good (and have old glasses) but havenít gotten it tested. Also have osteoarthritis and back problems.

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Response to mvd (Reply #74)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:26 AM

93. oh new disabilities

 

wow

haven't heard these new ones.

Do tell?



Did you know my hubby is legally blind? No really-he is.

but went to college and has worked years with ADAPTATIONS

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #93)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:46 PM

208. My gods, this guy is making a good living, isn't he?

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Response to Hekate (Reply #208)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:23 PM

212. I hope he has filled out his 1099-K IRS form

 

they don't take too kindly not paying taxes

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #212)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 10:02 PM

229. How many DUers are still out there that are willing to give money, never bothering

to read comments that shed the light on this scam?

Started last September

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215909861

In October he reached his goal

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215946390

Not yet, new year now in January

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216254697

And in April

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181653807

And in May

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216659843

And so it goes.

No, I did not donate. By the time I found one of the earlier one I read all the comments about suggestions that go no where and, yes, a list of the never ending GFM.

Oh, on edit, he reached his goal in July

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181683562

and so it goes


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Response to question everything (Reply #229)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 06:53 AM

233. +1

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Response to question everything (Reply #229)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 09:55 AM

264. I agree

 

Why I try to enlighten

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Response to question everything (Reply #229)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 01:46 PM

291. +1

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Response to mvd (Reply #72)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:05 PM

79. Why ER cost?

Your mother is on Medicare. Why are you getting bills for the ER? Surely youíve helped her get a no cost supplement by now.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #79)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:08 PM

81. It's the Uber to get there and back

I still havenít found reliable transportation. Yes, the actual visits continue to be covered as far as I know. But there have been a lot of them. I donít like that sheís on Medicare Advantage.

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Response to mvd (Reply #72)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:36 PM

88. You can work from home

There are a ton of jobs, especially since COVID that are strictly work from home. Lots and lots of customer service jobs that involve only typing, no actual calling. You can get one of those jobs and still be home to care for your mother.

On the Uber to and from the ER, just how far are you from the closest ER? Even if itís a $30 Uber fare each way, you had many thousands donated.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #88)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:39 PM

89. Donated at different times

This is the particular situation now. It seems now you are just trying to find anything I do wrong. I am already so stressed and donít want to do that all night. Need some positivity.

As for jobs, taking care of mom is one though not paid. But yes I am open to anything that would work for me.

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Response to mvd (Reply #89)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:51 PM

90. Sorry

I didnít meant to stress you. I want to help you and your mother with food. I really thought I offered a great suggestion with the grocery store gift card.

Donít stress.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #90)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:58 PM

91. That's fine

And thank you. I like the idea also if they want to do it instead of donating.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #90)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:39 PM

188. being stressed is the defense when questions can't be answered

 

or the truth is pointed out

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Response to mvd (Reply #71)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:53 PM

75. Hi

Shapiro and Fetterman will both win by double digits.

Do you like my gift card idea? This thread started with you saying you had no food for you and your mother. Itís a way to get you food, immediately, and everyone who donated will know exactly where their money went.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #75)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:56 PM

76. I agree they will - just nervous

Yes I do. I just donít quite understand how it works exactly. If others want to do it I would agree. I still think donations are more direct.

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Response to mvd (Reply #76)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:58 PM

77. My main e-mail is [email protected]

Gift cards could be sent there if that is what people want. They can definitely be useful.

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Response to mvd (Reply #77)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:19 PM

84. Internet provider

Surely youíre not paying the outrageously high internet pricing for Verizon, are you?

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #84)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:22 PM

85. No, stuck with Xfinity for now

Just didnít change my e-mail. I am calling them to see if I can further lower things. I dropped channels but it is still too much.

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Response to mvd (Reply #85)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:27 PM

86. ?

You can change your internet service to the absolute basics. You canít afford anything else. Xfinity Comcast has very basic plans that donít cost much at all. In your precarious financial situation, you canít afford streaming channels or anything other than basic basic basic cable.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #86)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:30 PM

87. Yep, already lowered

Still though I wonder if I can do better with YouTube TV.

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Response to mvd (Reply #87)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:35 PM

136. when we had NO MONEY 0$$$ we did not have cable or phone or internet

 

those are not necessities

the local libraries have internet for job applications and paperwork


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Response to mvd (Reply #76)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:02 PM

78. Trips to a food pantry

Would be less nerve-inducing. But giftcards would, at least, help donors know that you and your mother are buying food.

Good idea!

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #78)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:06 PM

80. It is

Any way people want to help - donations, gift cards, etc. - would be great.

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Response to mvd (Reply #80)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:11 PM

82. Grocery store?

What grocery store in your area delivers? I really think you would get a quicker response asking for grocery store gift cards rather than cash that canít be accounted for.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #82)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:15 PM

83. Giant delivers but delivery services like Instacart are very useful

Any way people want to help. I think I explained the donations but yes I put my e-mail for gift cards if people want to do that.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 10, 2022, 10:04 PM

92. Good night all

Again I am so close to my goal. Would be a big help to meet it. But I like PennRalphieís idea of gift cards if you want to do that instead. E-mail again is [email protected]

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:45 AM

94. HEY all If I send you an email addy will you send wallyworld cards so I can buy things

 

for my classroom and TP and paper towels

so I don't have to buy stuff

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:23 AM

95. Kicking for visibility!

And I donated the other day, too! Best of luck to you and Mom! hi:

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Response to Rhiannon12866 (Reply #95)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 07:21 AM

96. Thank you so much!

We appreciate it a ton.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 07:28 AM

97. Added a list of what funds will be used for

Just for more clarity..

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Response to mvd (Reply #97)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:12 AM

100. Confusing

Mvd, when I first read all of your threads, I really felt Sorry for you. Youíve presented yourself as someone unable to work because of disabilities. You present your mother as someone unable to eat because there is no money. Your many GFMs have resulted in thousands and thousands of dollars of donations.

But here you are, claiming there has been zero progress changing your financial situation. I took the time to read through the many GREAT suggestions on social service agencies for you to contact. The good people here went to a lot of trouble to find those names and give them to you. Your response to suggestions is to thank them and then ask for more money.

I thought my grocery gift card idea would be welcomed by you with open arms. While youíll accept gift cards, you would rather have cash.

Now, youíve said you need $2,000. Donít we all!! I was thinking $50 in grocery store gift cards would keep you and your mother from hunger.

I love to help people. Most people love helping others. People who make an honest effort to improve their situation will always gain the most from others.

Iím understanding the skepticism others have for your pleas. Iím sorry to feel this way, but reading all of your threads, contradicting each other, leads me to this conclusion. Good luck.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #100)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:17 AM

107. I don't quite understand what is contradicting

I did welcome the gift card idea. I put my e-mail down. I have listed steps I have taken. I have stated how it is particularly hard for us. I wish I could get a break from you.

Again, I do not know what I am expected to do to satisfy you. Unfortunately I can not just wave a wand and change everything in an instant.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:48 AM

98. Your mom goes to the hospital due to stress

Of not having money. How is she going to go through this every month? You admit this GFM is just to get through this month. Then what?

This is hard... I was close to my mother...but would she have better quality of life in a home?

Is it fair on her, this cyclic stress, every month...going in and out of the hospital because of money troubles? Some facilities take government funds. Can you talk to a social worker about this? She could be in a stable environment, at least. You said she almost fell down the stairs in your home because of the broken toilet going upstairs.

What about her quality of life? You said something about your dad's pension. At 73, your mom sure as heck earned some peace of mind, other than this living-on-the-edge-of-disaster life constantly, having no food, huge water bills, on and on.

It's untenable

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #98)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:00 AM

99. You ask good questions. I want it to change for us so badly

A big GoFundMe would be great, but I donít know if DU is the place for that. I am getting what I can.

I also have been trying to change things. She is resistant to change at her age and that happens. But I have made some progress. We want to avoid assisted living but I donít think this house is the answer either.

It is posts like yours that are why I am so worried. There are no easy answers but weíve got to try. I have a social worker coming. It is all heartbreaking.

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Response to mvd (Reply #99)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:13 AM

101. A social worker should have been engaged months ago

You've got a 73-year-old, living in a house no longer affordable or maintainable, with dangerous stairs, AND NO FOOD.

And this is causing her multiple hospitalizations. I'm surprised no one at the hospital engaged a social worker with her during one of her visits. Mr X gets screened for any elder abuse whenever he sees a doctor. I get screened for domestic abuse at my gynecologist.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #101)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:19 AM

102. Great point

Also, since Mom is on Medicare, after an ER Visit you must follow up with your primary care doctor. Medicareís rules.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #102)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:31 AM

103. All my bills are badly timed

Wtaf?!

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #103)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:34 AM

104. Sorry meant to reply to OP.

I meant that mvd mother would be required to see a dr after er visit.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #104)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:41 AM

105. Absolutely

She needs followup. Someone asking what is going on at home causing these hospital visits. And questioned alone.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #105)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:30 PM

185. as a madated reporter

 

I did my job!

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #185)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:32 PM

186. Wow, I didn't even think about mandated reporting

We were not in our roles.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #186)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:56 PM

191. I feel a mandated reporter is for both young and elderly

 

don't you think so?


If you are a reporter-you should too

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #101)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:12 AM

106. They just send her home every time

Yes she follows up with the doctor. Often she has food but we had a problem this month. Caring people are the best for us. I havenít said this much but mom has been hard to get to be receptive to change. But I think I am getting through.

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Response to mvd (Reply #106)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:22 AM

110. Then maybe you should be honest with them

But your mother needs to tell a social worker, doctor, and psychiatrists that you all are sitting around with rumbling tummies because someone is dropping the ball. I know, I know,, donations.

Caring people?

You've gotten almost 11k ! But still there are serious problems persisting. You are avoiding food pantries. Great.

I'm embarrassed I, who is on a limited income, donated to you, like, five GFMs ago. I feel complicit in some sketchy shit.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #110)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:33 AM

111. I'm very sorry you feel that way

It doesnít need to be this way. I have tried to explain. I feel for your situation and hope we both improve. I know it took a while but I didnít even know where to start. I feel the advice has been extremely important. DU has been wonderful.

Food is usually not a problem but it was this month.

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Response to mvd (Reply #106)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:59 AM

116. Let's have an honest discussion.

When you visit an ER, they always ask the patient about their safety in their home. As you know, because of COVID protocols, visitors are often not permitted in the ER treatment rooms. If they are, the patient is always seen alone before inviting family members into the room. You said your Mother visits the ER because of stress from having no money. The ER would never release her without a social worker visiting her room, and signing her up for needed services. Please donít try to claim the ER you visit doesnít do this. They wouldnít just give you a website to visit, they would have a plan in place. The fact that your Mother often visits ERís would alert them to a potential serious situation at home. Then, the doctor she sees after each ER visit would also be aware of her stress from no money and sometimes no food.

The minute the ER heard she has no food, they would have a social worker set up a meals on wheels or similar program. Please donít say that the ER your mother goes to is the only one in the US ignoring the needs of a hungry senior citizen.

So whatís really going on?

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #116)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:11 PM

118. It took one call to the Senior resource center

To set up a MoW for Mr X. And now they deliver on weekends, thank God. I'm looking to maybe start myself so I have more than my daily peanut-butter-and-jelly sandwich to eat. Cereal for dinner! It took, like 15 mins of questions for a daily meal.

Why, after all this time, is this not a thing? Why?!

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #116)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:12 PM

119. That's actually not what happens with ours

We use Phoenixville Hospital. I have been allowed to visit and come in the room. The only thing is mask requirement. They check her out and mostly give advice on when to see the doctor and checking with her anxiety medication. They are not detailed in their notes. I could post a copy but that would be private info. They one time suggested a psychiatrist, who mom has tried.

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Response to mvd (Reply #119)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:16 PM

122. ?

She sees the triage nurse first. What does she say is the reason for the ER visit? Stress because of no money? Mvd, the ER staff is required to determine if your mother is safe at home. Theyíre not asking you. They have to ask her. You wouldnít be in the room when they ask that.

Something isnít adding up.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #122)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 07:39 PM

183. My elderly mother passed recently.

She had several ER visits before going on hospice. I always went into the rooms with her. The only times I wasnít with her were the times that she was taken from her room for a test. I was present when they asked her if she felt safe at home. They asked me if her needs were being met, not her. They asked if we wanted to speak with a social worker. They never just came to the room.

People with Autism can be very high functioning. I donít know any more about Mattís situation than what Iíve read here, but fixation on a certain course of action is common.

I tend to think that Matt is being truthful. Obviously, he and his mother badly need the services of a social worker. If his parents have taken care of him his whole life, this seems a likely outcome of him now being in the role of caretaker.

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Response to WDLAL (Reply #183)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:25 PM

192. then there is this

 

Here are the previous GFMs you've posted.

There are discrepancies that have caught my and others' eye.

You offered to give hearts away to folks right after saying the electricity was going to be cut off, and now the water is going to be cut off.

Maybe put money like that toward your utilities?

Here are the previous GFMs for anyone interested:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215909861

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215946390

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216254697

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216659843

And then there is this month's GFM. As another poster pointed out, you still have a couple of the previous ones open.

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Response to Mosby (Reply #255)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 08:24 PM

256. hope the IRS gets their cut

 

but I doubt it


what an income

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #122)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:22 PM

217. You are asking intelligent questions

It never adds up

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Response to mvd (Reply #119)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:23 PM

127. My psychiatrist and I went through many sessions

To discern why I needed a daily tranquilizer for my anxiety. Lots of back and forth, my holistic situation to discern why I needed them. Along with mood stabilizers. He wasn't like Oh here's some alprazolam! Good luck! It's controlled and I had damn good reasons for it.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #116)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:14 PM

120. it is just easy to get donors to give

 

and "if they want to give why not"

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #120)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:22 PM

125. It almost worked with me

I wanted to give him a food. gift card. I thought his elderly mother had no food! I thought, well five bucks
Wonít kill me.

Glad I took the time to read everything.

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Response to mvd (Reply #99)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:39 AM

113. There is an answer,

and it is something you should have done many years ago.
I'm trying to be as nice as I can when I say these things while still relaying the unpleasant realities.
The disabilities you claim are not an excuse, you should have a bicycle or moped and a job by now as there are plenty of companies who hire persons with disabilities, even severe disabilities. One blind lady I help out makes 14 dollars an hour counting and bundling clothes hangers for packaging. She does the job and is able to get to work on time every single day on her own. In fact, she absolutely insists on doing it herself, not unlike all the the others I assist. The jobs are out there if one is willing to work and support themselves. That along with your mothers SS would cover your living expenses without issue.
Theres no other way to put this. You've done little to better your situation since you first posted GFM drives here a very long time ago. You have to understand, it's very difficult for anyone to believe you have communication issues so severe that you cannot work when you seem capable of communicating with anyone and everyone, except of course when it relates to getting a job.
I'm guessing if you were willing to work, there are probably DU members here who would personally get involved and help you navigate the process, but you ignore any and all such suggestions.
It isn't a matter of not caring as you have suggested on several occasions. Even in the face of all of the red flags here, DU members are still donating free cash to you in hopes that you turn a corner and fix this. Sadly, the cash is not helping you, it is only enabling you to continue this destructive path.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:19 AM

108. Dude, your mom seems to be a troublemaker. It is time for tough love. Give her an ultimatum


"Do what I say, or I'll kick you out of the house and I'll find myself a job!"


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Response to dalton99a (Reply #108)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:22 AM

109. I actually like that

I love her so much and she has been a great mom but yeah it can be hard to get her to understand.

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Response to mvd (Reply #109)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 09:47 PM

257. I don't know about you..

but if my Mom was hungry and I had NO money I would CRAWL to a food bank.

It also seems strange to me that you have not utilized all the info you have received here for utilities and other bills. Why haven't you done that?

DU is a great place, but it's not the place to pay your bills. I'm sorry. I hope you get some help, but this is not the place.

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Response to Texasgal (Reply #257)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:25 PM

258. this

 

+10000000000000000%

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Response to Texasgal (Reply #257)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:33 PM

259. Well DU can decide to donate or not

I wouldnít be doing this if it wasnít a cause that I felt needed help.

I have utilized the info. but sometimes it takes a while to get answers.

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Response to mvd (Reply #259)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 11:13 PM

260. I did a GFM on DU once.

In the pet forum. I rescue and foster dogs. I had a beautiful old lab that desperately needed surgery in her hip. I raised 600.00 dollars of the 1200.00 that I had already found from private donations and city programs.

I was incredibly grateful. However, I would never continue to try and raise money for my rescues. It was a one-time situation for me. in the end this precious old girl lab was able to live to 17 years without pain.

I couldn't thank DU/Pets forum members enough for their generosity.

In your case I feel like you have no sense of DU's generosity, as you keep on with your fundraising. While a GFM can help someone who's on the edge, this is not a place to raise money consistently for your bills.

I implore you to look into other options that have been presented to you.

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Response to dalton99a (Reply #108)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:13 PM

133. I am pretty sure it mom's house.

NT

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Response to dalton99a (Reply #108)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:39 PM

137. maybe we should call mother and ask if she knows and condones of this stuff?

 

and maybe call elder care to make sure she is not being exploited?

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:35 AM

112. Would you tell us the total of DUs donations to your GFMs in the past 18 months?

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Response to Scrivener7 (Reply #112)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:40 AM

114. It's over $10,000

Of course I know. I wish I did one big one. That is a regret I have.

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Response to mvd (Reply #114)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 11:42 AM

115. Can you tell us the actual amount?

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:10 PM

117. I have reported you to Gofundme and asked for my money back.

I've found out from others here, from PM's and on this thread that you do this a lot and that you do not have autism.

It's called fraud and you had better stop.

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Response to Maraya1969 (Reply #117)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:16 PM

121. Huh, I don't know who you were asking

They have no idea if I have autism or not. There is nothing fraud about this and I would be willing to prove it.

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Response to Post removed (Reply #124)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:24 PM

128. I'm sorry but you are wrong

I have already responded to GoFundMe and will get this sorted out.

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Response to mvd (Reply #128)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:30 PM

129. huh?

 



questions.........

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Response to Post removed (Reply #124)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:31 PM

130. pretty quick on the uptake that one.....

 

people with autism really wouldn't be that quick right?

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Response to mvd (Reply #121)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:23 PM

126. oh honey

 

these posts are all the details we need

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 12:55 PM

131. Torch the Witch

This whole thread reminds me of the Torch the Witch debacle from years past. Iíve been a long time reader and this finally made me post.
If anyone remembers the Torch the Witch saga it will tell you how long I been reading, just not big on commenting

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Response to Para722 (Reply #131)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:02 PM

132. Ah yes, TTW

someone gave her a house to rent, IIRC. no good deed...

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #132)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 10:07 PM

231. We've been down this road before, haven't we?

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Response to Hekate (Reply #231)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 07:03 AM

234. +1

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Response to Para722 (Reply #131)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:30 PM

134. oh I remember that

 

GFM should not be a scam

they need to make it so not everyone can just do them over and over and over

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #134)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:33 PM

135. I'd buy you some gift cards if I could

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #135)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:40 PM

138. oh you don't need to do that!

 

but thank you for the thought~

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Response to Para722 (Reply #131)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 05:58 AM

194. Oh, forgot about The Tale of Torch the Witch.

That was sadly entertaining fiction.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:43 PM

139. maybe it is time for this

 

https://www.aging.pa.gov/aging-services/Pages/Report-Elder-Abuse.aspx



Report Elder Abuse
24 Hour Hotline - 1-800-490-8505Opens In A New Window
Abuse reports can be made on behalf of an older adult whether the person lives in their home or in a care facility such as a nursing facility, personal care home, hospital, etc. The reporters may remain anonymous and have legal protection from retaliation, discrimination and civil or criminal prosecution.

Common signs and symptoms of abuse may include:

Isolation
Weight loss
Bruises or broken bones
Increased confusion
Unusual withdrawals from any account
Signing over oneís home to another

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #139)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 02:13 PM

142. it is very easy

 

and anonymous

the people are very friendly and really interested in protecting the elderly.


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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 01:55 PM

140. From Matthew's mother

I should have posted before this, as I feel my son has been harassed by people on here. You know nothing about him nor me and have caused him much stress with your misinformed judgments. Matthew is the sweetest most innocent person and I am livid that he has to go through this. Since my husband died, I take care of him because he is on the spectrum. I think I know more than some anonymous posters on here. I hate to have to dignify this but I felt this needed a response. Now someone has contacted GoFundMe, a completely uninformed person who knows nothing about us and we now have to clear this up. My son does not deserve this extra stress. My son has been a member for over 20 years and is a good standing member of DU. My son has responded to GoFundMe and so have I, and I would ask for an apology from the person who complained. Again I am sorry that my son has had to dignify this. I told him to ignore it but he felt the need to explain. I am sure GoFundMe will clear this up.

Donna DuBois

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Response to mvd (Reply #140)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 02:02 PM

141. Matt matt matt

 

we know this isn't your mom .


it's okay to get scared when the game is up



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Response to mvd (Reply #140)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 02:52 PM

143. Are you effing kidding us

Your mom writes a lot like you. Same syntax and everything.

And, in the remote chance this is your mom, then you have absolutely no shame.

Looks like the grift is up.

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Response to Firehawk (Reply #143)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:26 PM

150. She doesn't type well on the iPad

These are her thoughts that I put helped down. There is no grift, I repeat.

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Response to mvd (Reply #150)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:37 PM

153. Hopefully social services will reach out directly to her

And get this straightened out and provide her with the help she needs. I wonít be surprised if it results in her needing to go to a care home for her own protection and support. Since several folks have already called social services, Iíd expect the social worker to start looking into things this week. Usually a case is assigned pretty quickly if there are immediate needs like she seems to have.

At this point, I donít think your go fund me is going to be successful here. You need a lot more help in your lives than some cash from a go fund me can provide.

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Response to mvd (Reply #150)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:42 PM

155. :)

 

wow

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Response to mvd (Reply #140)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:33 PM

151. This was written by my mom and I rewrote it for her

Because she canít type. Simple.

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Response to mvd (Reply #140)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 06:59 PM

204. hey matt's mommy do you know he is getting rid of your stuff? when things start missing it's

 


not good -usually for nefarious reasons



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mvd (64,316 posts)

20. No kidding

It has taken forever.

I donít feel bad about the Uber friend. I have given him more than I can afford for next month. Plus a free vacuum, freezer, smart watch and my old iPad.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 02:54 PM

144. Someone could call adult protective services for his mother

It doesnít have to be him. It could be anyone in this thread that has figured out enough info to call adult protective services and notes that this woman is not in a good position and needs extra help.

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Response to MissB (Reply #144)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 02:58 PM

145. done

 

it is very easy

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #145)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:01 PM

146. Well done

I hope she gets the help she needs. Clearly intervention by social services may be needed here.

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #145)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:21 PM

149. This really is

all a shame.
I really wanted to help him, but I'm pretty sure since I suggested working, he has me on ignore.
I don't think he's scamming, I think he's just afraid to step out on his own and get started. He did say he was on his 40's and has never worked, it's probably a bit scary and he needs help getting over that hump. It is, however, his only viable path.
I'd really like to be able to assist the guy, but he appears to be allergic to help.

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Response to ForgedCrank (Reply #149)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:35 PM

152. It's a shame he wasn't officially diagnosed

Years ago. That would help enormously with a disability claim, so there's some income coming in for him alone.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #152)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:58 PM

163. If he has autism, it's clearly

not severe, since he is obviously verbal and can write well. I am not sure how it would qualify someone for a disability.
Supposedly even Einstein was on the spectrum.

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Response to LisaL (Reply #163)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:02 PM

166. Definitely time for a free consultation

With an ssdi expert to sort this all out. They won't take cases they deem unwinnable. Maybe meet with a couple of them for a broader set of opinions.

If that's not viable, then job training. He seems super smart.

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Response to ForgedCrank (Reply #149)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:51 PM

158. Living off gofundme donations doesn't appear to be a viable plan.

What happens when mother dies? Right now they seemed to be living on mother's Social Security.
Which doesn't appear to be enough for the two of them, but it doesn't appear they are able to manage the money well, so how much is going to be enough?

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Response to LisaL (Reply #158)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:07 PM

167. I thought he said the dad had a pension.

Either way, it would all stop with the mom. Mr X has one, I'm the beneficiary, but once I kick it, I cannot pass it on like a legacy.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #167)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:39 PM

169. Yep. If dad had a pension, it's not going to be transferred to son if mother dies.

As far as I can tell.

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Response to LisaL (Reply #169)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:42 PM

170. Yeah

When I start my eternal dirt nap, it's over.

Its a defined-benefit, too, thank God

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Response to MissB (Reply #144)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:01 PM

147. Not having food

Is a big deal. Wth kind of health staff are not probing into multiple ER visits in a short time.?

Boggling. I've worked in several hospitals, with many social workers, and this was their job with the frail and elderly

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #147)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:48 PM

181. Exactly.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #147)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:03 AM

195. As someone who once worked in social services

And who also offered advice that was ignored. I have an inkling and a guess on how a case worker visit will go. Just a sense that I've been getting:

The mother has no idea any of this is going on, and someone arriving at the door with all of this would be a total shock to her. Which is why all the potential solutions are getting batted down.

I'd lay an even $5 on it, having read the saga (it's weirdly addictive).

However, if there is veracity in these claims - three hospital visits in a month, no food, declining health - I'm with you. 1. I'm surprised a hospital social worker isn't poking around and 2. a home visit by a case worker would be warranted.

Even if everything is 100% true, a call to adult and aging services would be warranted just to have an outside party there to sort everything out and provide paths to resources. We can give all the advice and links to resources in the world, but that advice and guidance is being filtered through a family member who is adversarial to following through on them. I have some doubt that the mother is aware of even a tenth of the resources others have suggested. If the son has no intention of utilizing them, why would he tell the mother about them?

If this is all true - big if - we may be seeing a situation where the son is prohibiting the mother from receiving proper care, resources, and guidance for her situation.

And that would warrant a call to social services.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:03 PM

148. 🦆🦆🦆🟰🦆

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:39 PM

154. Rough crowd.

My personal philosophy on stuff like this is as follows:

If I want to donate, then I donate. If I don't want to donate, then I don't donate.

I sometimes don't succeed at his, but I try not to get wrapped up in someone else's shit if I think they may be a scammer. Because...I may be wrong, no matter how right I *think* I am.

The way I handle that is to not donate, and simply move onto the next thing.

Not saying anyone else has to have this philosophy, just stating my own opinion here.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #154)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:45 PM

156. It unfortunately appears to have crossed a line

Last edited Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:27 PM - Edit history (1)

I agree that folks can donate or not, for sure.

So many GFMs started from the same poster, with zero attempt to accept help that may actually result in an improved situation.

Now there is concern that the OPís mother may not be getting the help that she needs.

The admins should really shut this one down.

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Response to MissB (Reply #156)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:42 PM

180. aw sorry-this isn't directed at MissB

 

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not directed at MissB



24. Here are the previous GFMs you've posted.

There are discrepancies that have caught my and others' eye.

You offered to give hearts away to folks right after saying the electricity was going to be cut off, and now the water is going to be cut off.

Maybe put money like that toward your utilities?

Here are the previous GFMs for anyone interested:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215909861

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215946390

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216254697

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216659843

And then there is this month's GFM. As another poster pointed out, you still have a couple of the previous ones open.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #154)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:48 PM

157. I feel like the administration of the site should do vetting before allowing

people to start multiple gofundsme.
Posters here usually can't vet, and if they donate, I presume it's because they believe the situation to be as described by the posters.

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Response to LisaL (Reply #157)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:57 PM

161. I understand and appreciate your opinion, but my opinion is that

it seems that the admins have made a decision to allow GFMs on this site, and it is up to site members to decide whether the GFM is legit.

I think it would be unreasonable to ask the administration of this site to vet and perform due diligence on every single GFM. That's up to the person who may or may not want to donate.

I think some assumptions are being made about this particular GFM that may be true, or may not be true.

If you start calling regulatory agencies on an assumption you have made, and on the off chance you are wrong, you could put a serious hurt on someone unnecessarily.

I prefer to default to staying away from accusations, and just move on if something doesn't feel right to me.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #161)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:01 PM

164. It's not really an assumption since OP claims that his mother,

a sickly old woman, has no money for food-if you believe the OP.
Seems like that should be enough for a call to regulatory agencies, no?

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #161)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:23 AM

196. Involving a case worker is not a bad idea

Taking the totality of the situation, it has grown to start pinging my own sense of NQR (not quite right). I'm not there, I don't know these people, I am loathe to say anything with certainty about strangers from afar.

However.

The poster is offering information that has reached a point where a wellness check by an adult and aging case worker seems warranted. Multiple hospital visits in a month, no food, poor health. Remove the son from the scenario. If my mother was going through this and I wasn't involved for whatever reason, I'd want someone to come ensure she was at least eating.

A case worker wouldn't arrive, take someone away, put the mother in a home, etc. It's not like child services where they'd disrupt their lives. They'd do an evaluation and then lay out the different assistance programs she would qualify for and help her through the process of applying for and accessing them. There are organizations that will either deliver food or provide transportation for food. Further, that worker would speak to the mother away from the son in order to get the story from her without his interference and input. Right now, we have this middle man who is filtering her situation through his own. There is concern in my mind from what is written (assuming true) that the son is actively preventing assistance from occurring.

I don't think this would be an idle, frivolous intervention out of malice. If this story is true - if - then I think an older citizen is being neglected. It's practically being advertised at this point, and it's sitting less and less well with me that its being laid out there so cavalierly.

I promise if a story like this had crossed my path when I was still working in social services, I would have made calls by now and set up a visit to provide resources. A 73 year old with no food and ill health deserves assistance. It is what social services are designed to provide.

The refusing to work fortysomething is a different matter I leave up to the judgement of others.

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Response to Sympthsical (Reply #196)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 11:22 AM

199. Fair point. However...

If internet posters are really and truly that concerned about this situation, or if they are wondering if this is a scam, perhaps a private message to the OP would be in order, asking for his phone number, and maybe even asking to personally to speak to his mother in order to better assess this situation.

At that point, the person who has decided to get involved here could make a better assessment, offer suggestions, and follow up vocally with the OP and his mom every day or so, before taking the step of getting them involved in the social or legal system.

All of this should be done in a more thoughtful and quiet manner, UNTIL the people impotently chewing on this online are willing to get their own skin involved and either:

a) Call social services without stating that they have done so on a public message board, or

b) Be willing to file a police report and perhaps help authorities with providing evidence to a potential scam.

Instead, what we have here, is people riding this guy's ass six ways to Sunday, on a public message board. While that criticism may be warranted, it also may not be warranted.

If people want to play internet super hero, there's ways of doing that quietly, somberly, and with the respect that this matter deserves.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #199)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 11:47 AM

201. That's why I personally would do nothing

I don't know these people, I'm not personally involved. I have enough going on without someone's internet mess. However, I get the idea others are more knowledgeable about everything. I just wanted to make it clear that in my (formerly) professional opinion, a case worker could be contacted in good conscience to ensure the mother's health and well-being. If someone does have means to speak with the mother to ensure her safety and support, I recommend it.

The only reason I'm piping up is because I noticed these threads through the sheer size of them and it piqued my interest as a former social services person who has experience in these issues. Outside of that, nope. Not my circus, not my monkeys. I already gave advice once about available services and was rebuffed/obfuscated. These latest descriptions of the situation are concerning. After months of advice, resource seeking, and cash infusions, if the mother is still going to the hospital and going to bed hungry, I feel like an outside party is better positioned to ensure her welfare.

It's the NQR thing. Something's off about the repeated refusal for help via social and other services. People don't willingly go to bed hungry when there are people and resources within reach. If I were in the local office and in the position, I'd remove the son from the equation and deal directly with the mother's welfare. I highly suspect she would have food that day.

The fact that that's (allegedly) not been happening for months is why I decided to say something. But, this is probably the end of my bit about it.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #154)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:51 PM

159. Exactly

There is a genuine need and I canít force people to donate. I know DU has been hurt before but I am not lying about my situation. If they donít like it, thatís one thing, but these accusations are terrible.

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Response to mvd (Reply #159)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:52 PM

160. Last time you said the water was going to be shut off?

Did that happen?

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Response to LisaL (Reply #160)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:57 PM

162. No, I paid it with the GoFundMe funds

They went to the purposes I said.

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #154)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:01 PM

165. Amen, LuckyCharms.

There are a few who are downright gleeful in their attacks (and using right-wing tropes), including one who has solicited for donations on DU previously. Imagine posting to this thread all day and into the wee hours of the night because they simply can't.let.it.go.

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Response to demmiblue (Reply #165)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:37 PM

168. My mom was just feeling better when this happened

It is really a shame.

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Response to mvd (Reply #168)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 02:22 PM

294. Guilt is deployed

Whoosh

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Response to Hekate (Reply #294)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 04:56 PM

295. Those feelings were real

Even if people donít want to donate due to how much I have asked, they can at least sympathize. It is NOT easy to change our situation. So far the steps have helped more with managing the situation more than changing it. But I am thinking positively. I am going in the right direction. I canít put into words how wonderful DU has been. The storm here doesnít change that fact.

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Response to mvd (Reply #295)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 04:58 PM

296. I know a guilt trip when I see it

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Response to LuckyCharms (Reply #154)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:59 PM

172. I came across a post from O.P. last month

I opted not to donate, or comment.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 04:45 PM

171. I still remember Andy Stephenson and what happened to him.

Just saying. This thread makes my stomach hurt.

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Response to Pathwalker (Reply #171)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:10 PM

173. What happened to Andy Stephenson and how is it connected to this thread?

NT

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Response to LisaL (Reply #173)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:13 PM

174. no connection at all

 

andy Stephenson had a real need

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:18 PM

175. Stephenson

Back before Gofundme he was doxxed for fraud, the only problem and big difference with this case was he had multiple people who were involved with him personally to verify that his cancer was real. If my memory serves me he had surgery at John Hopkins and his cancer took him shortly after. I may be wrong trying to shake out cobwebs

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Response to Para722 (Reply #175)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:27 PM

177. I googled.

He got surgery but died some time later from complications from it. Pancreatic cancer is hard to beat.

"It was a remarkable achievement and a real testament to the power of Stephensonís activism. Johns Hopkins professor of surgery Dr. Charles Yeo says he performed a Whipple procedureósometimes called the ďOlympicsĒ of surgery because of its duration and difficultyófor treatment of Stephensonís pancreatic cancer at Johns Hopkins Hospital on Thursday, May 26. The surgeon removed a ďgolf-ball-sized tumorĒ from Stephensonís pancreas, according to Johnson. Stephenson came back to Seattle to recover and prepare for his oncology treatment. Says Johnson, ďHe needs chemo and radiation probably.Ē"

https://www.seattleweekly.com/news/cancerous-campaign/

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Response to Para722 (Reply #175)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 06:41 PM

182. His surgery was delayed for months because of those accusations.

Taking time he did not have. Bev Harris was his accuser and a lot of DUers believed her at the time.

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Response to Pathwalker (Reply #182)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 07:45 PM

184. It couldn't have been delayed for months.

He had surgery less than a month after fundraiser started.
https://www.seattleweekly.com/news/cancerous-campaign/

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:20 PM

176. Which reminds me

Have you learned what your SSDI payment amount will be yet? I'd definitely talk to someone soon. You'll need to plan.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #176)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:28 PM

178. He didn't get SSDI.

NT

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Response to LisaL (Reply #178)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 05:36 PM

179. no, mvd and I've discussed this before

After he consults, for free, with a (some) SSDI attorneys, they may take his case. But he needs to know what amount he'll receive monthly, if he wins, so he has enough for, hopefully, low-rent housing, utilities, etc. I don't know the payment for someone without a work history. We're without a robust social-safety net, so it might be low.

I got statements from SS with my amount, so I and Mr X could plan a budget.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 09:43 PM

189. Per mom's advice, not responding as much

But I am upset that mom felt better than she has in a while before this lie happened. I still love DU. Most care and understand. Will post again tomorrow.

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Response to mvd (Reply #189)

Sun Sep 11, 2022, 10:36 PM

193. what lie happened?

 

please clarify?

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Response to mvd (Reply #189)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 11:38 AM

200. It's illustrative why your mom's

Mental-and-physical health should not be contingent on something as capricious as Go Fund Mes.

Now she's upset. What if this leads to another ER visit?

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:29 AM

197. GoFundMe is so slow

I put in my request but they donít work on the weekends and hopefully today I get this straightened out. It is ridiculous and caused us much unneeded stress.

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Response to mvd (Reply #197)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:59 AM

198. But you said you talked to them yesterday

 

Questions?

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Response to mvd (Reply #197)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:09 PM

210. have you filled out your 1099-K form? The IRS will want to know this

 

Gofundme taxable
The crowdfunding website or its payment processor may be required to report distributions of money raised if the amount distributed meets certain reporting thresholds by filing Form 1099-K, Payment Card and Third Party Network Transactions, with the IRS

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 04:59 PM

202. Can you tell us if you've gotten a case worker for your mom? They can make sure her needs are met.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 06:43 PM

203. good evening. How is everyone tonight?

 

just checking in

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #203)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 08:59 PM

215. ...



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Response to mvd (Original post)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:12 PM

205. Everything was cleared up with GoFundMe and..

the one donor got her refund, so everything is good. I am closer to my goal, but someone sent a wonderful gift card for food, and I canít stress how great an idea that was. It helps equally.

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Response to mvd (Reply #205)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 07:50 PM

209. ....

 

how much was the gift card?



We've received your claim
One of our team members will review your claim within the next two business days and reply to the email address you included. Thanks so much for your patience.

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Response to mvd (Reply #205)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:42 PM

220. have you filled out your 1099-k form

 

The IRS doesn't take kindly to getting stiffed on their money

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:40 PM

218. How's your mother?

I think many are worried about her. Did she have a good nutritious dinner today?

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #218)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:45 PM

221. Yes and thank you!

She is doing better again and thanks to your gift card idea we won't be worried about food. I can focus more on bills and medicine and other things now.


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Response to mvd (Reply #221)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:50 PM

222. I didn't send you anything

At first I thought about sending you a gift card. But after reading the previous posts of yours, I decided I would be wrong to send you anything

Your mother obviously needs help. You keep taking her to the ER because you donít have money or food.

Or so you say.

Iím doubting everything you say

I know for a fact you have just lied. I did not send you anything.

I really hope the social worker you claimed was coming to visit your mother makes it to her.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #222)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:53 PM

224. I meant someone did send one

And that is thanks to your idea. You misunderstood. You in fact did not send anything. The social worker is scheduled as said.

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Response to mvd (Reply #224)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:57 PM

226. My musinderstanding

You did say my idea not my gift card.

So. With the new gift card, what did your mother have for dinner?

The people here are WORRIED about her. Sheís elderly and not getting enough food, causing you to Uber her to the ER.



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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #226)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 10:00 PM

228. We got the card tonight and have a nice order for tomorrow coming

At least this is not a worry now.

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Response to mvd (Reply #228)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:05 AM

242. Instacart

 

Again?

What did you order

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #242)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:11 AM

243. Instacart is expensive as hell

We finally had to break down and use it when we had COVID. too much money.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #243)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:29 AM

244. I have to

say, as someone living on a relatively tight budget, I have to go through extra efforts to stretch every single penny as far as it will reach. Using something like a food shopping service would reduce the buying power of each dollar dramatically. This wanton waste and inefficiency is almost making my eye twitch. All I can think of is the extra food that could have been bought with that wasted service fee. It's downright astounding watching this all unfold in real-time with little or no self-awareness or effort to correct for it.

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Response to ForgedCrank (Reply #244)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:56 AM

245. My stomach hurt when I saw the surcharges

Back to el cheapo Food Lion products double masked.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #245)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 11:18 AM

247. It isn't just the delivery cost. Each item's cost is higher than the store cost. I

read that it's typically 15-20% higher per item. Instacart says the stores set that price, but whoever sets it, that's more money lost using Instacart.

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Response to highplainsdem (Reply #247)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 11:23 AM

248. Oh shit

Well, a better-off relative was paying for our grocery deliveries, thank God. They said not to worry.. I hated Instacart. Busy interface, windows popping up, 'sponsored' products listed first...there was one online coupon. Big woo.

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Response to mvd (Reply #221)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:53 PM

225. What did your mother have for dinner?

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #225)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 09:58 PM

227. Eggs and toast tonight

Me, too. Eggs are always nutritious and handy.

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Mon Sep 12, 2022, 10:03 PM

230. What about her food stamps?

In one of your earlier threads, you told everyone that your mother receives food stamps. Did you use all of that funding before you started this thread? You needed money urgently because of food insecurity.

Thanks to demtenjeep, who posted those previous threads, I took the time to read through them.

Youíve said a lot of things that maybe you forgot youíve said.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #230)

Mon Sep 12, 2022, 10:16 PM

232. The EBT was late this month

And we can use those also but food prices still make us struggle. Which makes the gift card a good idea.

That is all for tonight. Night all

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Response to mvd (Reply #232)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 08:54 AM

236. EBT is never late

 

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Ever

All these stories do not make sense

When lies canít be kept straight itís an issue

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #236)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 09:09 AM

238. It's never late is right

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #236)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 09:58 AM

240. EBT

Itís clockwork, every month on time. Some states are still doing Covid bumps to peoples amounts.
It canít be late itís a card. Only way that happens if whole state has an oops and that news level issues.

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Response to mvd (Reply #232)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 10:02 AM

241. Food prices are a struggle

 

For everyone

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 09:05 AM

237. Are you telling your mom about all these resources?

She really needs social workers.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 09:56 AM

239. There is no news story about PA EBT late this month.

How late was it? You should contact the local news stations. They would investigate why EBT was late this month.

When is the social worker scheduled? They will assist your mother with her immediate needs, such as food and medicine.

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Response to PennRalphie (Reply #239)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 11:17 AM

246. The 13th

It came today. That will also help. Social worker coming later this week and sheíll be happy about the food. Perhaps another thread would be better for my daily life though.

There is a second $95 EBT payment later this month..

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Response to mvd (Reply #246)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 11:54 AM

249. I just don't believe all this

 

You said last time you asked for $$$ a social worker was coming

Please just tell us the truth

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 12:22 PM

250. I would just close this now but reality want to meet the goal

So leaving open for a little bit. Next month will hopefully be different but even if still problems, there will be no GoFundMe. I reused this one now because thought a new one would make things worse. I wouldnít have done it if I didnít have other plans going. Be back tonight as I want to do my other posting here at DU as I always did before these times of need.

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Response to mvd (Reply #250)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 02:57 PM

251. DO you have other plans going?

I don't understand 😕

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Response to mvd (Reply #250)

Tue Sep 13, 2022, 05:17 PM

252. Done dried up

 

.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 01:15 AM

261. Night all

The food insecurity is gone now and we have needs like paper and some pharmaceuticals. For those wondering, food insecurity is rare for us but it happened this time. It is still a long time until momís social security and we have doctors visits and I have a broken CPAP mask (I have severe sleep apnea) that could be useless at any moment - and I keep putting off even more dental work that would cost something even with a Medicaid dentist. I assure you after I reach the goal I will close the fundraiser and will continue more with all the ideas presented.

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Response to mvd (Reply #261)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 09:36 AM

262. Your mom does not look well in the pictures you've

Put up. Are you really getting a social worker?

Get your paper products from a pantry. You're minting money here.

I have dental work I'm putting off. I don't have Medicaid.

When I reach the goal, the goal, the goal...

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Response to mvd (Reply #261)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 09:37 AM

263. I highly recommend that you forget about the "fundraiser"

And concentrate on the ideas presented instead.

Find other options to Uber and Instacart and youíll be able to use *your* cash for things like a CPAP mask and whatever dentist you choose. *Your* money, not your momís social security. You are an adult and her social security should be used for her needs.

Whether you ďreach the goalĒ or not, additional fundraisers on this site are likely to end up with hundreds of posts pointing out the $10k plus cash already provided to you in previous Go Fund Me attempts. It doesnít matter if you use an old GFM or a new GFM; youíve very likely burned down the GFM bridge here.

But youíve been given a great deal of advice and links to local resources. Itís now on you to make things happen for you by using those local resources. Iím sure the social worker will make sure that your mother does not experience food insecurity.

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Response to MissB (Reply #263)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 10:12 AM

266. Previous threads were full of specific advices

Links, phone numbers, scans of assistance- all located in his state. Yet he ignored all and continues to come here and, apparently has been successful.


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Response to roxybear (Reply #269)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 11:35 AM

270. I did the same thing, and most of the results weren't for Matthew -

they listed everyone with the same surname. The one with the rocket doesn't even look like the same guy. I agree that this whole business seems sketchy but I really doubt he's behind 63 Gofundme appeals.

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Response to Ocelot II (Reply #270)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 11:42 AM

271. Yeah, that's like Bond-villian

Conspiracy stuff.

I've come to believe this one is sketchy.

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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #271)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 01:42 PM

275. what am I missing?

 

I don't see it

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #275)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 01:54 PM

276. Self-deleted by author nt

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Response to roxybear (Reply #267)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 11:43 AM

272. There is a separate Matthew Dubois living in

Leavenworth, Kansas or in that general area. Not the same person at all.




:https://fox4kc.com/news/leavenworth-men-reunite-storm-chaser-with-rocket-launched-into-tornado/|

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Response to roxybear (Reply #267)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 11:53 AM

274. It would be helpful if you deleted this.

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Response to Ptah (Reply #274)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 02:11 PM

277. The obsession is really off the charts.

Especially by the tag team.

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Response to demmiblue (Reply #277)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 02:20 PM

278. Best train wreck / soap opera / mosh pit in years.

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Response to Ptah (Reply #278)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 08:12 PM

280. We are now entering "Olive Garden", "corn flake fried chicken", "shopping cart coral" territory!

Like kudzu, weíre going places!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #280)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 08:15 PM

281. Door buzzard!

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Response to Ptah (Reply #281)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 08:16 PM

282. 😁

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Response to Ptah (Reply #278)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 07:25 AM

285. Except there's an unwell woman not getting food in this one, and nothing has

changed that situation in 18 months of GFM threads.

I'm glad to read the report that the social worker has finally entered the picture.

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Response to Scrivener7 (Reply #285)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 12:05 PM

288. But do we have confirmation of anything? At some point some concerned DUer is going to...

Ö.attempt a meeting to deliver aid and comfort in person. They will do this in all sincerity. They should probably take a friend along.

I cannot predict the outcome ó but there is a sad history at DU of certain persons taking advantage of the good-heartedness of the community, right up until it all falls apart. One involved attempted delivery of a laptop so the person could communicate with the world more effectively. One involved an attempt to shelter someoneís dear darling doggie for awhile so the owner could get on their feet ó an animal that turned out to be huge and vicious. I mean, these were long, long sagas. And the sympathy and donations continued right up until someone attempted to intervene in real life.

Yes, I am concerned. Am I a ďconcern trollĒ? No, I am a 20-year member of DU.

All the best to everyone. I mean it.



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Response to Hekate (Reply #288)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 12:31 PM

289. No. We don't. But that makes it even less humorous.

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Response to Scrivener7 (Reply #289)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 02:06 PM

293. Life can show us many amusing things

This ain't one of them

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Wed Sep 14, 2022, 06:04 PM

279. I got the social worker over today

She was happy about the food. Concerned about our ability to take care of each other. Like me, worried about momís stress level. She is going to do more check ins and see what else is available for us. Even getting to my goal would make a big difference this month.

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Response to mvd (Reply #279)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 03:36 AM

284. You need to set different goals. Do you understand that? GFM is not sustainable; it's not forever.nt

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Response to Hekate (Reply #284)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 11:38 AM

287. I understand that

I am just trying to reach this goal which I feel is important. The whole idea of having people like the social worker is trying to end this cycle. Even if I did have more trouble, after all of this there is no way another GFM would be doable. Plus, I wouldnít put one anyway.

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Response to mvd (Reply #287)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 12:36 PM

290. You are 95% to your goal

And thatís likely as good as it gets.

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Response to MissB (Reply #290)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 01:58 PM

292. Again and again and again, the goal is reached. See history...

From this thread

229. How many DUers are still out there that are willing to give money, never bothering

to read comments that shed the light on this scam?

Started last September

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215909861

In October he reached his goal

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215946390

Not yet, new year now in January

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216254697

And in April

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181653807

And in May

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216659843

And so it goes.

No, I did not donate. By the time I found one of the earlier one I read all the comments about suggestions that go no where and, yes, a list of the never ending GFM.

Oh, on edit, he reached his goal in July

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181683562

and so it goes

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Response to Hekate (Reply #292)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 08:23 PM

300. 🍭🍭🍭🍭❗️

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 01:16 AM

283. Kick for the night

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 05:39 PM

297. Why the goal is important

- temporary transportation to an important doctorís appointment for my mom Monday and transportation until the 28th

- havenít made much progress on rides yet. But trying

- Uber and Lyft gift cards are also useful at this time

I want to close this but feel these matters are important.

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Response to mvd (Reply #297)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 06:06 PM

298. Reach out to the social worker that came by and see about transportation

The $105 that youíre short isnít going to get you there, frankly.

Use the previous resources on your previous thread for local transportation options. I think youíve gotten as much as you will get from your various Go Fund Me appeals, because no matter what the need seems to be, folks are realizing it isnít enough. It just never is.

And itíll never be. You simply have to shift over to other resources and stop asking for cash. Folks are generous, but they seem to be done giving.

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Response to mvd (Reply #297)

Thu Sep 15, 2022, 06:17 PM

299. Did you reach out to local places of worship

For volunteer rides? Our local Episcopalian Church has retirees who will drive people to doctors' appointments.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 04:00 AM

301. I'm leaving this open just a few more days, unless I reach my goal

If goal met, would just close the thread. We still really could use that little extra to help get through.

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Response to mvd (Reply #301)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 04:52 PM

305. I hope you have enough food for the weekend?

I'm not sure you do.

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Response to Omaha Steve (Reply #305)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 05:55 PM

306. Hi OS

Yes, no worries about food at least. One of my big donors from the past sent a wonderful gift card to help.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 04:25 AM

302. IMHO, your mother needs a responsible adult to care for her

Reading all the threads you've started on this matter leads me to believe you may not be up to the task, despite your best efforts.

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Response to Kaleva (Reply #302)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 06:03 PM

308. The social worker was worried and so am I

Our friends canít make up for it. You are right that we need more people.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 04:34 AM

303. I work in the Non-Profit sector

this post has a lot of red flags.

If your situation is exactly how you describe, I am sorry that you are suffering anxiety about food insecurity. But there still is a reluctance to use resources (food pantries etc.) that exist to help in this situation. Red Flag #1.

Every question is met with an explanation or insistence of reaching goal. Red Flag #2

The poster has repeatedly asked for money in an emergency situation. Red Flag #3


DU should consider limiting Go Fund Me requests per poster. Make a rule about the number they are allowed to post every year/quarter whatever.



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Response to Dorian Gray (Reply #303)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 06:00 PM

307. I have answered questions

I am staying out of the drama because it just isnít helpful to me right now.

All of them are emergencies - no dishonesty. If people donít like the number of times that is one thing, but there has been sincere need.

I have been losing the reluctance but I donít think the food insecurity I had will be happening again. If it does, I will go. I had food and a multitude of other problems this month.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 08:43 PM

309. Before I get off

I am not exaggerating when I say how important it is that mom has transportation right now - to get to the doctor, to get her necessary anxiety medication, etc. It is the only reason I am keeping this thread up. The goal isnít just some thing I am using - and a few small donations could get me there.

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Response to mvd (Reply #309)

Fri Sep 16, 2022, 09:25 PM

310. You've been

pointed to resources already (multiple times) for free rides in your area for medical visits. I believe almost a week ago in this latest thread. Based on your newest post, I'm guessing you made zero calls to set that up, am I right?
You can also get setup and have medications mailed to your mother, no 30 dollar uber ride required for that either.
Doing these things is how you help your mother.

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Response to mvd (Reply #309)

Sat Sep 17, 2022, 07:45 AM

311. Logisticare

If your mom has Medicaid she qualifies for Logisticare
Itís a free transport service covered by Medicaid that handles transport to and from doctors offices and even brings people home from ER visits.
Iím sure the social worker can tell you how to enroll itís easy. It does involve patience in waiting to be picked up and also may involve leaving early to make apppointmemt times

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Sep 17, 2022, 06:09 PM

312. Weekend kick

Trying to remain positive about our hard situation.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 18, 2022, 10:28 AM

313. Keeping this open at least one more day

I thank everyone tremendously for all the help and we still are in need. Momís still having a very rough time but I donít want people to think I am playing on their emotions. It is just true unfortunately.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sun Sep 18, 2022, 12:14 PM

314. I'm closing the thread now

Someone so very nicely sent an Uber gift card which solved our main problem. So very grateful for everything.

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