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EndlessWire

(6,995 posts)
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 10:47 PM Feb 2022

Okay, I admit it

I'm attracted to men's shoes.

I am very tall and have large feet. I cannot find pretty female shoes, at all. Shoes in my size are universally ugly or old fashioned and terribly depressing. Plus, they are uncomfortable.

Yet, I am constantly seeing ads on the internet for fresh, exquisitely detailed leather shoes that are downright effeminate. They are beautiful. But, they're for guys. I could get several different ones, they would fit, and who would know? Who's gonna say, Aha, you're wearing men's shoes? No one would be that impolite.

Lately, I've begun to picture myself wearing these different shoes. I am so tempted. Is this how it starts? And, why do guys get to wear the comfy shoes, while pretty and comfy shoes for women are only meant for girls who are 5'2", size 6, maybe 9 at the most.

I think I am going to buy a pair of men's shoes to wear. I've held out long enough. It might be liberating. Plus, if I buy those shoes, maybe I'll get the nerve to buy one of those Hawaiian shirts they sell to guys. They are gorgeous! Just need to find a belt to cinch it up--you know what I mean--and walk with confidence. Confidence is everything.

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Okay, I admit it (Original Post) EndlessWire Feb 2022 OP
I wear Alegrias. Very comfy & supportive SheltieLover Feb 2022 #1
Buy the men's shoes (we won't tell anyone). n/t PoliticAverse Feb 2022 #2
Life is way too short to allow fashion to be more important than comfort... Enter stage left Feb 2022 #3
most of the shoes I wear very well could be men's Skittles Feb 2022 #4
Haha! I agree that most shoes are ugly, uncomfortable, and spooky3 Feb 2022 #12
I think the republicans passed a law against that. The Jungle 1 Feb 2022 #5
Worked many years on my feet 10-16 hours a day. BoomaofBandM Feb 2022 #6
You're not alone. I have a friend who buys men's tennis shoes. I spooky3 Feb 2022 #7
I buy mens tennis shoes. blueinredohio Feb 2022 #10
Interesting. I've known several women that have the same complaint. Nt spooky3 Feb 2022 #13
Comfort is essential, especially where shoes are concerned. Ocelot II Feb 2022 #8
guy here. I barely pay any attention to the shoes stopdiggin Feb 2022 #9
Slip on shoes are pretty genderless in Skechers etc LakeArenal Feb 2022 #11
I've been known to wear men's shoes because they are more comfortable and fit my wide feet. Shrike47 Feb 2022 #14
Go for it! 👍 sprinkleeninow Feb 2022 #15
I used to buy men's running shoes back in my running days Bayard Feb 2022 #16
You go, girl. Start a trend. Joinfortmill Feb 2022 #17
"if the shoe fits..."...put it on! bringthePaine Feb 2022 #18
I have worn mens sandals, deck shoes, and boots for most of my life Kali Feb 2022 #19
No reason to not try if they are comfy and affordable- no one will notice and might even compliment wishstar Feb 2022 #20
and what's stopping you onethatcares Feb 2022 #21
If you wear them, they're not men's shoes. Harker Feb 2022 #22
I meant to round back and say TY all! n/t EndlessWire Feb 2022 #23

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
1. I wear Alegrias. Very comfy & supportive
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 10:54 PM
Feb 2022

And they offer up through size 12.

I absolutely will not buy or wear uncomfy shoes or pants without pockets.

Enter stage left

(3,494 posts)
3. Life is way too short to allow fashion to be more important than comfort...
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 10:55 PM
Feb 2022

buy & wear whatever is best for you. You're far more important than fashion critics.

Skittles

(155,018 posts)
4. most of the shoes I wear very well could be men's
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 10:55 PM
Feb 2022

I have to say, whenever I have wandered through the women's shoe department I often think, if I literally tried to design the ugliest shoes I could , it wouldn't come close to the ones I actually see. Women that are "into shoes", I just find them utterly vapid.

spooky3

(35,031 posts)
12. Haha! I agree that most shoes are ugly, uncomfortable, and
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 12:00 AM
Feb 2022

Poorly made. I keep waiting for the fads to pass.

I buy Toms in the summer, and I think the last few pairs of winter shoes/booties I have bought have been Blondo—comfortable and I think they look nice).

BoomaofBandM

(1,834 posts)
6. Worked many years on my feet 10-16 hours a day.
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 10:59 PM
Feb 2022

Many of us bought mens shoes. Built sturdier, wider, and cheaper. Lasted longer. Also comfortable. No shame.

spooky3

(35,031 posts)
7. You're not alone. I have a friend who buys men's tennis shoes. I
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 11:14 PM
Feb 2022

Buy and wear men’s sweats for exercise, because the quality is good and I hate the skin tight stuff sold for women. No one says a word.

Ocelot II

(117,778 posts)
8. Comfort is essential, especially where shoes are concerned.
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 11:16 PM
Feb 2022

Buy whatever feels good, nobody will notice.

stopdiggin

(11,883 posts)
9. guy here. I barely pay any attention to the shoes
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 11:44 PM
Feb 2022
I'm wearing. I'm even less interested in what another person is sporting. Go for the comfort already!

or just do Chuck Taylors - and hit em' with nerdy/cool/DGAF

LakeArenal

(29,305 posts)
11. Slip on shoes are pretty genderless in Skechers etc
Sat Feb 19, 2022, 11:47 PM
Feb 2022

I have purchased mens deck shoes. That’s what we called them. Of course most walking shoes s as te about the same.

Shrike47

(6,913 posts)
14. I've been known to wear men's shoes because they are more comfortable and fit my wide feet.
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 12:08 AM
Feb 2022

High heels ruined my feet decades ago, and they weren’t very high at that. Go for wearable shoes you can actually walk in.

Bayard

(22,968 posts)
16. I used to buy men's running shoes back in my running days
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 12:47 AM
Feb 2022

They were more supportive and cushioned than women's. I wear men's clothes around the farm a lot.

Buy shoes you can use, and rock the look!

Kali

(55,259 posts)
19. I have worn mens sandals, deck shoes, and boots for most of my life
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 02:04 AM
Feb 2022

like men's clothes in general - better made, less expensive, and way more comfortable

wishstar

(5,323 posts)
20. No reason to not try if they are comfy and affordable- no one will notice and might even compliment
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 05:17 AM
Feb 2022

I have worn men's shoes for many years. Started buying because when I looked for women's leather boat shoes they were either nonexistent or too expensive and too lightweight construction. So I ventured to men's boat shoes and then branched out into loafers. I am short and wear a man's small size shoe (7 1/2 or 8) but they are more sturdy and comfortable than women's shoes.

When my Dad died he had a brand new pair of Merrill fleece lined suede boots size 10 but with inserts and thick socks I wear them in cold weather and have had many compliments. I also enjoy wearing his thick fleece lined denim jacket that has much too big shoulders but I don't care who notices it's a man's jacket.

onethatcares

(16,414 posts)
21. and what's stopping you
Sun Feb 20, 2022, 02:05 PM
Feb 2022

from wearing one of those Hawaiian shirts? Go for it, you'll probly be complimented all the time on the look.

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