My mom passed away. Goddamn Covid.
I’m not fishing for sympathy comments, I thank you all in advance for your condolences. I just wanted to add my story to those who’ve had to say goodbye to a loved one on a FaceTime call, raging at the infuriating needlessness of it all, the unfairness.
Alone and confused, suffering from dementia in an Alzheimer’s ward. Her facility is in the midst of a massive Covid outbreak, she contracted it and died alone. How do I get past that guilt?
Fuck dementia.
Fuck Covid.
Triple-fuck trump, May he burn in hell for eternity.
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And for the needlessness of the whole damn thing. 
Sending you extra hugs today 
but please don't feel guilty. Peace to you pnwest.
that could have been avoidable if there wasn't a selfish narcissist occupying that White House,
I am sorry for your loss, and for the way it happened.
The guilt does not belong to you. Let that shit go.
And yeah. Fuck dementia, Covid, and triple-fuck trump. Let's hope he gets his own private viewing of hell with today's rout.
this is the nightmare of Covid. #TrumpGenocide
the guilt is not yours, I'm sure you know that.
When my daughter died miles away from me and i was in counseling, my counselor cautioned me that at some point i would feel guilty. I said, I don't see how, I wasn't there, i didn't even know it was happening. Then came the plea bargain. i sat in that room and they told us the woman who killed Bekah would get a 4 year sentence. It was as if Bekah was being killed all over again, but this time i was sitting in the room. I couldn't do a goddam thing to change it.
I'll never forget the bleakness. just sitting there with my head down and tears pooling on the floor. I let this woman get away with murdering my daughter.
I share this so you know that i appreciate that even though with your mind you know there is nothing else you could have done for your mother, and you know that your mother knew you loved her, you still have this guilt. You didn't earn it, but there it is. Time is your friend. take all you need to grieve and work through this.
PS. justice should not have to wait for trump to die. Trials, tribunals, here in the US or internationally...I'm all for justice starting Jan2021
Angry at the heartbreaking reason. Especially the politics of it.
We at DU are family. Your pain is my pain.
Do not even think it doesn't hurt me when you hurt. Sympathy and love.
especially the COVID-based restrictions that prevented you from being there.
It's not your fault.
...
So very sorry.
but I'm slowly getting to where I can think of her and smile without tears.
My sympathies.
It's a horror for her to have died alone. You know you did your best short of dying with her, which she, as your mother, would not want for you. I don't know her, of course, but I'd wager that she would want you to go forward, keeping her in your heart and spirit.
As we carry guilt, we can remember that we are all alone together.
As best we can, we want to be here for you, pnwest.
Damn. I’m sorry for your loss and very sorry for your heartache.
You did the best you could. Unfortunately, something like the pandemic can overpower any and all efforts to get the better of it. At least while trump still has anything to say or do about it.
THAT part, hopefully, we can fix. And we’ll do it in her honor, and in honor of all those who didn’t have to die but for the Big Orange Failure.
Virtual
this, the worst imaginable.no words...
Especially that she had to die alone due to the reality of this horrible situation. It is not at all your fault. The blame lies entirely with Trump and the republicans. They are the reason that this has gotten so out of control and widespread.
Please accept my sincere condolences. May your beloved mother rest in peace.
the others losing a loved one today because of COVID-19.
I'm so sorry your final farewell had to be virtual.
I share your feelings on dementia, COVID, and 666 (Trump).
We cant avoid death & disease or loss, but the way our demented fellow Americans have allowed Trump to make everything worse is inexcusable.
I share your grief, frustration, & anger. My dad did last Sunday, not of COVID, but everything was complicated by the Trump Virus raging, like Trump & his minions, out of control.
I am so disgusted that the sociopath isn't losing every state in a landslide.
My sincere condolences to you and your family!
i'm sorry he has impacted your life so intensely
Sending virtual hugs to you.
