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Sun Aug 23, 2020, 01:04 AM

i am a toucher , hugger , etc. this emergency has relly upset my world .

https://www.webmd.com/lung/news/20200615/how-to-cope-when-covid-steals-loving-touch-hugs

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Reply i am a toucher , hugger , etc. this emergency has relly upset my world . (Original post)
AllaN01Bear Aug 23 OP
fleur-de-lisa Aug 23 #1
safeinOhio Aug 23 #2
MissMillie Aug 23 #3
The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 23 #4
AllaN01Bear Aug 26 #5

Response to AllaN01Bear (Original post)

Sun Aug 23, 2020, 01:26 AM

1. Aww, that made me cry.

I'm a toucher too and I live alone. I live in New Orleans, about 90 minutes from my mom, and I haven't seen her since early March.

She's a very social person but hasn't been able to hang out with her posse. In the Before Times, her little gang of about 6 or 7 old folks would meet for coffee several times a week, lunch or dinner a few more times, and she and my oldest sister would go to dinner at least once a week. All that stopped dead in mid-March and I worry about her.

I call her several times a week and we talk for hours. We mostly laugh at the dumb shit Dumpus said or did that day.

And I make my daughter and my older brother call her frequently, but it's taking a toll on my mother. My sister moved in with my mom a couple years ago, so she's not totally alone, but they keep totally different schedules.

I am so fucking mad at Dump for stealing the joy from my mother's remaining years. She's 92 and in relatively good health, but she really misses her friends. Fucking Dumbass Dump!

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Sun Aug 23, 2020, 03:51 AM

2. I have a new respect for mom and dad.

They were born in 1911 and 1913 and I never saw them hug or kiss anyone. Now, I'm thinking they were just ahead of their times.

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Response to AllaN01Bear (Original post)

Sun Aug 23, 2020, 10:20 AM

3. As a person who recently lost a loved one...

I can completely sympathize.

For the longest while, we weren't even able to get into the nursing home to see my mother, let alone hold her hand or hug her.

It may not have done much for her--though I'm sure there's an argument to be made that she would have felt it even though she was not conscious--but it would have done me a world of good.

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Response to AllaN01Bear (Original post)

Sun Aug 23, 2020, 01:01 PM

4. I'm not a hugger. I don't usually care to be touched or hugged, but

this is even starting to bother me. I haven't had direct physical contact with a live human since March, and even for an introvert like me it's a getting to be a drag. I don't have much in the way of family anymore and what's left of them aren't huggers either, but still. I hope we haven't all gone completely mad by the time this damn thing is finally under control (no thanks at all to His Lardship).

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Response to AllaN01Bear (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 11:35 AM

5. update : i found instructions to make one of these things .


staring , produced , and presented by the author of this vid.

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