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Fri Nov 8, 2019, 11:31 PM

If someone never likes your Face Book posts, are they really "friends"?

Just wondering, cause I just unfriended a bunch!

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Reply If someone never likes your Face Book posts, are they really "friends"? (Original post)
JoeOtterbein Friday OP
PoindexterOglethorpe Friday #1
radical noodle Friday #2
JoeOtterbein Saturday #3
Fla Dem Saturday #4
JoeOtterbein Saturday #5
Fla Dem Saturday #6
JoeOtterbein Saturday #7
Fla Dem Saturday #8
JoeOtterbein Saturday #9
Fla Dem Saturday #10
JoeOtterbein Saturday #18
Harker Saturday #12
NurseJackie Saturday #11
JoeOtterbein Saturday #14
NurseJackie Saturday #16
JoeOtterbein Saturday #17
Kashkakat v.2.0 Saturday #13
JoeOtterbein Saturday #15
LeftInTX Saturday #19
JoeOtterbein Saturday #20
LeftInTX Saturday #21
JoeOtterbein Saturday #22
Skittles Saturday #23
Beringia Saturday #24
JoeOtterbein Saturday #26
Iggo Saturday #25
JoeOtterbein Saturday #27
Croney Saturday #28
LastDemocratInSC Saturday #29

Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Fri Nov 8, 2019, 11:45 PM

1. I never "like" anything on FB, even though I think of FB as a good thing.

So if we were FB friends, would you think less of me? It's not you, it's that I NEVER "like" anything or anyone of FB.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Fri Nov 8, 2019, 11:47 PM

2. It's possible

If they have a lot of friends, they won't see everything all their friends (or you) post. It's entirely up to you, though. If you want to predicate friendship on liking your posts, you may keep pretty busy unfriending folks. I often don't even see the posts my husband makes.

One thing about unfriending is that it narrows down posts for you to like, though.

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Response to radical noodle (Reply #2)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 12:12 AM

3. Good point, but just like here on DU I always let everyone see anything I've ever posted anywhere...

...on the Internets in my real name (yeah, I know what you are thinking, except typing "nude women" in a search engine is not really a "post"!). Cause it's not worth typing to me, if I don't own it 100%. Same on FB and Twittering. So I guess I will continue to delete!

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 09:48 AM

4. Putting any value on a "like" to determine whether someone is your friend is moronic.

I think the whole like thing is kind of silly.

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Response to Fla Dem (Reply #4)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 09:50 AM

5. But if they do not "like" you, how can they be friends?

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #5)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 09:54 AM

6. Are they saying they "don't like" or just not saying anything?

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Response to Fla Dem (Reply #6)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 09:55 AM

7. Both.

In that they never comment or like.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #7)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 09:58 AM

8. OK, I don't do FB or Instagram. So educate me.

If I was on FB and I post something,...say "I had a really good steak dinner at some restaurant", what, there are options for people you've allowed to see your FB page to choose either they liked or disliked that post?

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Response to Fla Dem (Reply #8)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:04 AM

9. They can only like, wow, heart, laugh, tears or angry. No dislike button.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #9)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:29 AM

10. So I should get my feeling hurt if one of my "Friends" doesn't "wow, heart, laugh, tears or angry" ?

To me that's a pretty superficial way of determining who your friends are. They aren't being negative, they're just not pushing an emoji button. I measure friendship at a much deeper level I guess.

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Response to Fla Dem (Reply #10)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 11:34 AM

18. I'm not saying I'm hurt. It takes a physical attempt to do that to me!

Ya know, sticks and stones.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #9)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:49 AM

12. Not much nuance available in the options.

If there was a "I enjoy some of your posts, and generally respect your ideas and opinions - but my true friends are the people I hang out with at and after work" button, maybe you'd feel better.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:34 AM

11. Wow. That's harsh.

Wow. That's harsh.

I have facebook friends who seldom/never "like" updates or photos that I post. But when I see them later (in person) they'll comment about having enjoyed seeing my photos, or they'll ask for more details, etc.

I just can't imagine being someone who could judge someone's worthiness (to be a FB friend) by whether or not they took the time (or had the time) to easily click "like" or comment for everything I post or share.

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Response to NurseJackie (Reply #11)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:58 AM

14. No, I literally mean they have never, ever, in years never liked or commented, anything.

If they don't "like" you are they really a friend?

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #14)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 11:09 AM

16. I judge my friends on less superficial things.

I judge my friends on less superficial things. I can see myself "un-friending" someone for something offensive that they said or posted or shared. But I really see no good purpose in "un-friending" someone over something that they DIDN'T do. They are under no obligation to "like" my posts, or to compliment my achievements, or to wish me happy birthday, or to publicly laugh at my funny stories. If I felt that way, it would indicate that I have an attitude of feeling as though I was entitled to something from them... and the truth is, I'm NOT entitled.

I don't know... this all seems rather shallow to me. All I'm trying to say is that I'm able to see Facebook for what it is... I'm realistic. To me, Facebook is not the be-all/end-all of my life... it doesn't define me... I don't use the reactions of others (or lack thereof) to determine MY or THEIR value as friends or human beings.

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Response to NurseJackie (Reply #16)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 11:32 AM

17. I think that many people take things like FB posts much too seriously.

They are just thoughts, images etc. that folks have at the time. Kinda like when I comment, "Go Bernie"! Just a feeling of sorts.

That's why I love the internets; nothing is written in stone.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 10:52 AM

13. Moreover, are facebook "friends" really friends? And if so, why the need to keep a running tally

of how many "friends" you have? Always seemed rather middle school juvenile to this non-user. My mama taught me it was quality not quantity that mattered.

Long way of saying- cut em loose if you don't consider them real friends. However you define friends.

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Response to Kashkakat v.2.0 (Reply #13)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 11:00 AM

15. Bingo!

I'm down to like 50 real friends. Fine with me. I think the rest were just lurkers I happened to know in real life.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 01:46 PM

19. They may not have been active on FB

Or they may have too many "friends" themselves.

No big deal cutting them lose.

Yes some people like to lurk.

I get friend requests from weird people. When I do I also block them.
Someone who sends a friend request can also follow you.

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Response to LeftInTX (Reply #19)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 02:35 PM

20. For a while I would get friends requests from attractive Russian ladies. I never went anywhere...

...close to them. Now not so much. I'm hoping it may be a good sign for us in 2020. Maybe they are not as interested in getting Trumpy elected this time.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Reply #20)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 03:01 PM

21. I get Indian and Middle Eastern Men

They will have a name like, "John Smith" and have a white guy profile pic. It always says, "Widowed" on their status.
Then when you look at the name in the address bar it is obviously not John Smith. (Sometimes they have friends who also indicate their nationality. I think they are scammers.

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Response to LeftInTX (Reply #21)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 03:28 PM

22. Funny! Once when I had a Russian lady request I noted later that week that a local GOP pol was...

...already her friend! Then he lost the election he was after.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 05:12 PM

23. this reminds me of Tigerbeat

seriously

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 06:44 PM

24. I used to consistently get the most likes


from a sister-in-law who I have nothing in common with and who I have never been able to have a conversation with, so go figure. She left facebook for some reason, and I lost my most committed "like" person. I give likes freely, as long as I benefited from it in any way at all to every different person on my facebook friends.

I get the most natural give and take in a coyote group. It is not a group that you just follow, but individuals that love coyotes. They always appreciate good posts on coyotes.

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Response to Beringia (Reply #24)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 06:47 PM

26. Me too. I give likes and recs out like candy. If someone takes the time to post something...

...that appeals to me in anyway. Good or bad.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 06:46 PM

25. Are they even if they do?

It's Facebook likes, everybody.

It's not love.

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Response to Iggo (Reply #25)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 06:49 PM

27. Seems more likely. No pun intended!

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 07:19 PM

28. They might not like your posts because they don't follow you, so they don't even see your posts

unless they click on your name and look at your page. I don't follow all 45 of my friends and I know they don't all follow me. I don't care.

What makes me SMH are people who like their own posts. That's like using your cell phone to call yourself on your landline so you can say hi.

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Response to JoeOtterbein (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2019, 08:13 PM

29. I've never seen a login window for Facebook. It's a deeply toxic site. Run away.

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