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(4,033 posts)
Sat May 12, 2012, 01:29 AM May 2012

Just want to vent about Mother's Day

My 82 year old mother lives with me & tomorrow we're taking a ride about an hour north, to a town she likes, where the ice cream is cheap and the market sells great soup bones. Now that I'm not venting about, I recommended the drive.

What I'm venting about, (and it started today) people wishing any female they meet a Happy Mother's Day. Now I have no children, but I'm a hell of aunt to my 8 nieces & nephews. But there is assumption by people that if you're female, then you must be a mother.

In the past I have been out & about on Mother's Day, and swear to God, I was tired of hearing the wishes of people, assuming I was a mother. I hate it. I used to find it hurtful, as I knew I would never have children (lots of reproductive issues).

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.

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Just want to vent about Mother's Day (Original Post) mrmpa May 2012 OP
I always sent my aunt a Happy Mother's Day to my Aunt card. ScreamingMeemie May 2012 #1
No offense RZM May 2012 #2
I know it's not the end of the world...........just get tired of it. eom mrmpa May 2012 #3
I knew someone once grasswire May 2012 #4


(68,918 posts)
1. I always sent my aunt a Happy Mother's Day to my Aunt card.
Sat May 12, 2012, 01:40 AM
May 2012

I have always wished women Happy Mother's Day, because women do exactly what you just said ("I'm a hell of an aunt to my 8 nieces and nephews&quot quite a bit of the time. That's why I do it.

Your nieces and nephews are so very lucky to have you in their life. My aunt, in many ways, was more of a role model for me than my own mother.



(8,556 posts)
2. No offense
Sat May 12, 2012, 01:43 AM
May 2012

But maybe you should just take in stride. Those people aren't trying to demean you, they are trying to say something nice to you. They may be wrong about you having children, but there's nothing wrong about their attempt to recognize you as a woman. If we celebrated International Women's Day (March 8) in the US, then they would say nice things to you then. But we don't. We have Mother's Day instead.

It's not the end of the world when people get you wrong while trying to be nice.


(50,130 posts)
4. I knew someone once
Sun May 13, 2012, 01:40 AM
May 2012

She and hubby had adopted a baby. After several weeks, the baby was taken back by its mother. They were devastated, and never tried for another adoption. Mothers Day hurt her to the core, every year. It was very sad.

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