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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:49 AM

48 years. 9 months...and now I am a widow

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Tues at 2:40 AM my husband woke up with his arm "not feeling connected"..He was fully lucid, able to speak, walk and even move his left arm/hand.. I knew this was probably a stroke, so off we went to the ER.. Got there in less than 5 minutes..

Over the next few hours the symptoms lessened, the scans & tests were ok,,and by noon, we were discussing rehab with the therapist..My husband was pissed that he could not put on his own sock, but was determined to get it all back with therapy..

It was diagnosed a mild ischemic stroke.

We had dodged a bullet....or so we thought

He ordered a hospital lunch, dinner & breakfast, and we were expecting a mid-morning Wednesday release..

He told me to go home & get a rest...

3 hours later a neurologist called and said he had just had a massive bleed in the brain and was being transferred to a more specialized center..

Our two Calif sons were already enroute even though they were expecting something minor, and our Seattle son headed here to drive me to wherever they were transferring Dad.

We ended up at a great facility in Vancouver WA, but nothing anyone could do would reverse the damage..

He struggled valiantly, but died Friday..We were there and he did know it, even though he could not speak.. His right side was not affected and he squeezed our hands and used a thumbs-up..

Both of his parents died from strokes, so I know he would not have wanted to live like they did after their strokes.

It still hurts to not have him here..

Here's a pic of us when we were new & pretty..

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Reply 48 years. 9 months...and now I am a widow (Original post)
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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:52 AM

1. So sorry for your loss SCD ... my heart goes out ... and know that you are loved



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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:53 AM

2. Sorry for your loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:55 AM

3. I am sorry. What a shock. I bet it still hasn't really sunk in. You are in my thoughts.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:56 AM

4. Such a long time together.

Of course it still hurts - it just happened. I hope you have as many people as you need to lean on.

There is no timetable for mourning and adapting. Please take good care of yourself.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:57 AM

5. I weep for you my sister in humanity. 🕯

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:58 AM

6. You have my condolences.

I am certain that he was comforted to have you and your family there.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:03 AM

7. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:03 AM

8. I'm so sorry

My condolences to you and your family.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:04 AM

9. Electronic hugs and sympathetic vibes being sent to you (inadequate though they may be).

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:04 AM

10. To both you and family my condolences . This happened with my father - here one moment then gone.

So fast it can happen . Take care

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:06 AM

11. I am so sorry. You must be in shock.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:07 AM

12. I am so sorry for your loss

My mother in law lost her husband after 53 years, and that was two years ago. There is a life after this, it will come a day at a time.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:08 AM

13. I am so sorry.

It's so sudden. 48 years is a long time to love someone and you'll love each other forever. I'm sorry.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:09 AM

14. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:10 AM

15. Celebrate the privilege of coinciding in space and time with him for 48 years, 9 months

Life is a gift we share with others.

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Response to Xipe Totec (Reply #15)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:33 PM

234. Damn.

That is truly beautiful.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:10 AM

16. So very sorry for your loss, my dear SoCalDem...

It is a all-encompassing loss and remember, you are not alone.

How good that you and your sons were at his side at the end.

We have an excellent bereavement group here; feel free to read and post there: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:10 AM

17. I'm so sorry. After so many years together, this is tough.

You were so lucky to have him for over 48 years, though.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:11 AM

18. OMG. my heart goes out to your and your family.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:12 AM

19. I am so sorry for your loss...a lifetime together...

May the love you shared help comfort you and your family.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:13 AM

20. I am truly sorry

visualizing angels hugging you and your family during this loss

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:13 AM

21. :( So sorry to hear. You were both beautiful in that photo!

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Response to C Moon (Reply #21)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:17 PM

175. Deepest sympathy.

Lovely photo. He looked like Glenn Campbell! You were both fortunate to find the "right one" so early in life. Treasure all the great memories.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:14 AM

22. ((SoCal))

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:14 AM

23. Love that picture. Looks like you grew up together.

Iím so very sorry for your loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:16 AM

24. I'm sorry, SoCalDem

My heartfelt condolences.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:17 AM

25. I'm so sorry!

Please accept my Condolences. Love the photo

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:20 AM

26. I am so very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem!

And yes, you were beautiful in those days, and I'm sure you and your husband were beautiful at the end, too.

My deepest condolences.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:20 AM

27. I'm terribly sorry.

What a shock.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:23 AM

28. Very sorry for your loss

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:23 AM

29. I wish you did not have to go thru this shock and loss.


May you find comfort and peace with your family and dear friends.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:24 AM

30. such sad news

i'm so very sorry for your loss

i love that picture "when we were new and pretty" --a perfect description

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:25 AM

31. There is no way to prepare, and no words that are adequate

With our family histories, my wife and I both know that with us, it could be the same scenario at any time.

After 44 years together, we're not prepared, either.

Sending you the best wishes we can under the circumstances. If you manage to cope, tell me how. I'd be a useless wreck.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:25 AM

32. Sincere condolences...

 

Sincere condolences.

There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.
- Washington Irving

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:28 AM

33. I never know the right words.

The ones that could take away even a small amount of your pain. If I knew them I would give them to you generously.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:28 AM

34. so sorry

I am so very sorry for your loss. Love the picture. Two happy people. I wish you peace and comfort in the days to come.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:29 AM

35. Heartbreaking! I'm so sorry. You were a beautiful couple.


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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:31 AM

36. Condolences to you.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:33 AM

37. I am so sorry for your loss. (eom)

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:33 AM

38. I never know what to say, except I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart.

You were such a beautiful couple.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:35 AM

39. I am so very sorry.

Please lean on us here if it helps you.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:37 AM

40. I'm so sorry for your loss.

You can take comfort that he knew his family was there for him.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:37 AM

41. I'm so sorry for your loss

I love the picture. May your memories of the happy times bring you comfort. Peace.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:42 AM

42. So very sorry to read this sad news. Strokes are so very hard.

So glad you and your/his sons were with him when he passed.
May your memories of the 48+ years carry you through the hours and days when you miss him most.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:44 AM

43. i am so sorry

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:45 AM

44. So very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:48 AM

45. My heart goes to you.

How lucky you were to have the whole family around, for him to know that you were.

Cherish the memories. You both look so happy..


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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:53 AM

46. Condolences, dear friend SoCalDem....

and thank you for sharing the photo. Looks a lot like my wife and I in the 60s with the beautiful big hair and taper cut for him.

And oh, those happy days at the beach and in the mountains. Carry those memories with you the next few days and weeks....that's how I survived the loss of my parents and best friends through these many years.

Peace be with you and your family.......

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:58 AM

47. I'm so very sorry.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:09 AM

48. You are a member of our family, too. What a blessing it must be to love each other so long.

Hey- I love that picture!

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:13 AM

49. I'm so sorry. May his memory be a blessing.

And may you and your sons be comforted by each other and your friends and extended family.

❤️

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:17 AM

50. Truly sorry.

You're amazing just to have the composure to write this. Thanksgoodness you have your sons with you now.

You two were a very beautiful couple.

My hubby and I had our 52nd wedding anniversary in Sept. So far, we're doing well health-wise with the exception of trying to cope with lower energy levels.

You have reminded us of the need to plan for the inevitable, so thank you for posting.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Take care.

For you...
For your dear hubby...

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:24 AM

51. So so sorry for loss of your husband. God Bless you.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:24 AM

52. Care and comfort in your time of loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:25 AM

53. I'm so very very sorry, SoCalDem



Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:28 AM

54. A loss that mere words are not enough to say how truly sorry I am...

Strength lies with the ones closest to your heart now...

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:33 AM

55. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:36 AM

56. What a lovely photo of you two.

My sincere condolences. He looks like Glenn Campbell in that photo.
Hugs.

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Response to LittleGirl (Reply #56)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:43 AM

58. I always thought so too..

Not a singer though

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:37 AM

57. My sincere condolences, SoCalDem.

I will be sending warm, healing thoughts and wishes your way. I'm sure you know this, but be with your family during this difficult time. Take comfort in each others' presence, and hold each other close. Also, be good to yourselves.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:45 AM

59. Memory eternal

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:45 AM

60. I was saddened and touched by your story. It's is a haorrible loss, I cannot imagine. So very sad

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:48 AM

61. So sorry...

Just doesn't seem fair.
Wishing you strength in the coming weeks and months.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:48 AM

62. I am so sorry.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:59 AM

63. Hugs dear SoCalDem. Words don't begin.

Iíll be thinking if you, and him, with aloha. Sending you both a prayer for peace and healing heartache with time. Aloha no.

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Response to SoCalDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:02 AM

64. I am so sorry. I recently went through something very similar

with the loss of my husband.

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Response to AJT (Reply #64)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:18 AM

113. Condolences to you.

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Response to AJT (Reply #64)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:38 PM

235. So sorry for your loss. I hope you're finding inner peace as you move forward. nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:07 AM

65. It sounds as though you built a beautiful life together.

I hope you are able to find comfort with your family and the many memories you share.
One day at a time; one foot in front of the other...you'll find your peace and your way.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:14 AM

66. I'm so sorry for your loss.

You must have a treasure trove of beautiful memories after so many years together.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:14 AM

67. Sad and beautiful.

Rare and awful and awesome.

Grief comes with the Real.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:16 AM

68. I am so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:23 AM

69. How awful!

I am so so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:23 AM

70. I am so very sorry, my friend.

But you know that you've come to the right place for sympathy and support. That's a lovely photo, thank you for sharing it with us. It sounds like you raised a wonderful family. Hugs to you all...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:26 AM

71. I am so sorry

Neither a quick or drawn out passing is good. I speak from experience.
I am so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:27 AM

72. Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Itís clear from your post you both did everything right at the first sign of trouble. And you did everything possible (under the most difficult circumstances) while offering comfort, connection and love. Iím so sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:28 AM

73. I'm so terribly sorry, SCD. Peace and strength to you and your in the difficult days ahead...

What an awful blow.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:39 AM

74. So sorry for your loss. Remember the good times.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:42 AM

75. Paz!

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:44 AM

76. My sincerest condolences

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:46 AM

77. I am so sad for you.

My heart aches.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:48 AM

78. A long and happy life together, a mercifully quick and peaceful end.

 

Can't ask for more on this mortal plane. Rejoice in your many years of happy memories, you earned every one of them together.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:55 AM

79. I'm so sorry for your loss



I can't imagine the pain. If there's anything we can do please let us know.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:59 AM

80. I am so sorry. Celebrate every second you shared with his wonderful energy; his smile says it all.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:03 AM

81. Dear SoCalDem...

Iím so sorry to hear this. Sounds like you had one of the great marriages - sustaining for all those years. Thank you so much for including us in this time of such profound grief. I always feel so moved when someone here feels trusting enough to share such a major personal life moment. Many pairs of shoulders here for you to lean against. Itís an honor to be allowed to keep a vigil with you.

You do not mourn alone. As DUís own Skittles once put it - ďsomeoneís always here.Ē

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:10 AM

82. I am so sorry

Your mind is probably still reeling. Love the picture of you both. Peace to you SoCalDem.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:32 AM

83. Heartbreaking, a very sad loss.


I am so sorry and send sympathy to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:50 AM

84. My heart goes out to you and all who love him...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:00 AM

85. Sorry to hear this, SoCalDem

Hopefully you have a network to help you through this difficult time. If not, I encourage you to develop one when you feel the time is right. There are many others out there who have lost their partners who are now supports for each other.

Take care.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:01 AM

86. I'm so sorry for your loss SoCalDem. Thank you for posting

such a beautiful photo of the two of you. May every single good memory of your husband and your life together give you comfort. My sympathy to you, your family and all who knew and loved your husband.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:01 AM

87. Our condolences SoCalDem

Peace to you and yours.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:22 AM

88. Mu heart aches for you...

Peace........

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:22 AM

89. So sorry for your loss...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:51 AM

90. Oh dear! My sincere condolences, SCD...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:54 AM

91. I am so very sorry.

What a happy and beautiful couple you were together.

I hope your sons are all able to spend some time with you as you adjust to the hole that has just been made in your life.

There is a Bereavement group here at DU in Home and Family. There are quite a few widows who actively post in the group. When you are ready, check it out.

Hugs to all of you.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:09 AM

92. Oh, SCD,

my heartfelt condolences to you. My heart hurts for your loss; I am glad your 'babies' were there.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:13 AM

93. so sorry for your loss

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:17 AM

94. my deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:33 AM

95. sorry for your loss, accept my condolences.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:39 AM

96. My condolences

I hope your memories are strong and you are stronger.

Hugs.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:40 AM

97. Sincere condolences

♡♡♡♡♡♡

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:46 AM

98. I'm so sorry for your loss, SoCalDem.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:47 AM

99. I know that there isn't much that words can do.

My husband died last year. But if I was there, I'd give you a big hug and let you know that if you ever wanted to talk, I'd be there to listen.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:24 AM

100. I am so sorry for your loss.

Wishing you and your family peace and strength. Good to know you have your boys to rely on.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:27 AM

101. That's a heartbreaking story

I hope you and your children find love and peace together.

Thank you for sharing your sad story, SoCalDem. The picture of you and your husband has so much love, joy and hope! I love your hairdo.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:32 AM

102. I am so very sorry

It is good that you have family to be with you.
What a beautiful couple - and such a lovely photo.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:32 AM

103. Death sucks

So sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:33 AM

104. Hugs, my friend

It's not easy saying goodbye to someone who has walked with you so long (we'll be married 43 years in March) and strokes are so sudden and unpredictable. It's good you have your boys close enough to be with you at this time.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:39 AM

105. I echo the sentiments of everyone on this forum. I am sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:40 AM

106. I'm so sorry!

Thatís a long time to be together. May your memories be joyful.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:40 AM

107. I am sorry for your loss

Doesn't seem like enough, yet such sincere words, as common as tbey are, are all we have.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:42 AM

108. Condolences,SoCalDem on the loss of your beloved husband.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:45 AM

109. I'm so sorry

for your heartbreaking loss.

Life is so fragile.

That's a beautiful photo. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:50 AM

110. My deepest condolences to you and your family

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:03 AM

111. My condolences to you and yours.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:18 AM

112. i cant even imagine.....

...I am SO sorry.

Hubby went thru a health scare just recently. A routine health examine revealed a massive tumor on his kidney. He had surgery 2 weeks ago....they removed a baseball size cancerous tumor on his kidney and two other benign tumors (one football size!) on his appendix. The drs said it was a very serious complicated surgery and wouldnt even tell us for days if it was curative (it was!) Talk about tears, fear..sleepless nights...daily commutes to the facility... 90 min away. My only child over 2 hrs away with a family of her own to care for.


One thing we got from this was we are moving to the same town as my dtr (near Seattle) as soon as hubby retires in march ( I made that decision for him). Just the logistics of singlehood was overwhelming.


Im so glad you have 3 grown children to help you. Stay strong. Take care of yourself. Check in frequently. We love you. (((hugs)))

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:25 AM

114. That's a sweet picture.You can tell there was love there.

It's sad you lost your husband. I'm sorry to hear it. Keep your chin up. Hospice has grief counseling that is extraordinary and usually completely free. Respects.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:43 AM

115. I'm so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:46 AM

116. I am so sorry for your loss

I hope you and your children will be able to help each other and comfort each other.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:48 AM

117. What a beautiful photograph.

Sending healing vibes. I have included you in my chanting circle today. Love never dies.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:00 AM

118. Sincerest condolences to you and your family

It is such a beautiful photo.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:06 AM

119. my condolences

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:18 AM

120. I'm so sorry

Iím very glad you could all be with him until the end. What a comfort that must have been to him.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:36 AM

121. I so sorry, SoCalDem.

I can't imagine the pain you must be in.


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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:38 AM

122. I cant fathom the depths of your loss.

 

My deepest condolences.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:51 AM

123. My heart breaks for you and your family

How terribly hard this must be, and will be. My wishes for your peace, and may you find extra love and guidance to help you through.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:54 AM

124. So very sorry.

Hold onto the memories of those wonderful 48 years.

~peace~

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:58 AM

125. Please accept my condolences.



-- Mal

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:59 AM

126. So very sorry SoCalDem...



I have followed your posts for years and your transition from So Cal to the NorthWest.

So very sorry for this loss.

Please know, we are here at DU to listen, share memories and give support.

Tikki

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:00 AM

127. I am so sorry for you loss.

nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:01 AM

128. It happened to me, too.

Also 48 years, three beautiful daughters, four grandchildren. My husband was sitting on the sofa watching TV when I came home from work. The only reason I knew something was wrong was he didn't answer when I said Hi. I'll never know what happened since an autopsy isn't performed if you die at home and there is no sign of violence or foul play. His doctor said it must have been either a stroke or heart attack, but the doctor was shocked since my husband had a complete physical the previous month and all his tests came back showing he was in good health.

You're right about your husband not wanting to live in a diminished state; neither would my husband. He went exactly as he would have wanted to go: sitting in his home, watching the golf channel, waiting for me to come home and have dinner with him.

I know you are grieving, but I hope it will soon be gentled by wonderful memories of your time together.

Peace and stay well for your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:05 AM

129. I am so sorry.

Words are completely inadequate.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:08 AM

130. So so sorry. My heart breaks for you. nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:10 AM

131. Lump in my throat. So sorry for you and your sons.

Some solace in the fact your husband did not suffer long and had his family with him at the end. Peace to you and your sons.


By the way, you were one good looking young couple.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:12 AM

132. I am so very sorry.

Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Love to you.



Laura

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:20 AM

133. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:20 AM

134. Very sad for your loss. A long life together but never enough.

Three years ago Friday was my wife's last day fighting cancer.

Peace to all.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:24 AM

135. Words always seem so insufficient. Online so very much more so

You and your family have my deepest sympathy

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:25 AM

136. I am so sorry for your loss.

My husband of 43 years 6 months passed October 8th from lung cancer due to agent orange exposure. I share your pain.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:43 AM

167. So sorry for YOUR loss

The ONE consolation I have is that he only suffered for 3 days, and the last of it was pain-free due to comfort care..

The only really sad part was how he tried to talk to us, but we were not able to understand what he was saying, and that frustrated him terribly.. Luckily we were/are a family rooted in reality, and we talked a lot about "end-days".,,I had a stroke in Jan of 2014 and again in August of 2014.. We learned then how fast things unravel.. So we left nothing unsaid..

After my ordeal, our sons were dragged into realizing that Mom & Dad were not staying forever. Many families just mosey along and when something happens fast, they come unglued.

We often discussed death and what to do and when ..

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:47 PM

237. Hugs to you. Your loss is so recent, I hope you are doing ok.

43 years with one person. What a wonderful lifetime. Bless you and I hope for peace in your heart.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:26 AM

137. Never enough years to love the people we love!

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:28 AM

138. Condolences for your loss.

I am so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:29 AM

139. So sorry

for the loss of your handsome, beloved husband so unexpectedly. Such a devastating loss. Hugs to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:29 AM

140. I'm so sorry

may you find peace in the coming days.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:29 AM

141. Oh no, I am so sorry.

Take good care of yourself while you deal with all of this. I am so sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:36 AM

142. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

All the best to you and your family.

My father died of a stroke and I understand what you mean that your husband would not wanted to live the way his parents did with the after effects of a stroke. I felt the same way about my dad. It was a lesson in letting go.

Peace.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:37 AM

143. .



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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:37 AM

144. So sorry

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:38 AM

145. He had a wonderful smile!

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:41 AM

146. Forever in your heart........nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:42 AM

147. I am so sorry for your loss.

I wish you strength and peace in this troubling time.



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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:42 AM

148. All my love Socaldem

This story mirrors almost exactly what happened to my Dad when he died. My Mom, now 90, had been married close to 60 years when he died. Itís been a tough adjustment for all of us even 6 years later.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:48 AM

149. SoCalDem ...

Very sad to read abt. your loss.



Try your best to stay busy if you can!

Take care.



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150. ...



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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:53 AM

151. So very sorry for your grief and sadness.....wish I could provide true comfort for your loss. ...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:57 AM

152. So sorry SCD......

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:06 AM

153. I'm sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:12 AM

154. My deepest condolences....

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:15 AM

155. I'm so very sorry to hear your tragic news.

Everyone from my father's side of the family no longer with us had strokes, and I know what living with the aftermath of a stroke can be. My father lived for several years with parts of him being chipped away.

I'm sure you're right - your husband would not have wanted to need help with even the seemingly simplest of things, and the way that strips away one's dignity. It's awful to watch - I can't imagine what it's like to experience.

I just hope you can find some measure of comfort with that.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:22 AM

156. I'm so sorry, the same thing happened to my father 7 years ago.

Mom still has not really recovered - probably never will, though she's building her life back.
I worry about her. They were married 52 years, 11 months; as she puts it, high school sweethearts and partners forever.

Again, so sorry for your loss.

Haele

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:22 AM

157. I am so so sorry.




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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:22 AM

158. Deepest condolences, SoCalDem.

Peace to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:24 AM

159. My empathies... No words. nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:25 AM

160. So sorry for your loss

My husband died 21 months ago. I hope you have many happy memories to help you through this sad time. Try to stay in touch with friends and family. It helps.
There is a grief support forum on DU. Everyone was very kind.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:29 AM

161. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:31 AM

162. My condolences to you and your family

You all must be hurting, but thank goodness you have each other to lean on.
Hugs from a member of your DU community.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:31 AM

163. I'm very sorry for your loss

My friend SoCalDem, thanks for sharing the story of you and your husband. This is a shocking traumatic experience for you, and it's important that you take all the time you need to grieve. There's no time limit on grieving for your lost loved one, and everyone's grieving time is different. Make each day count and remember the good times.

Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way!


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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:33 AM

164. I'm so very sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:37 AM

165. Sorry for your loss...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:38 AM

166. Holding you in my heart for comfort, SCD... so very sorry.

For that the One Who is great
great beyond all greatness,
Exalted beyond all exaltation,
The One Who brought into being
All that is and all that will be,

May that One Who lives,
Beyond all that life knows,
The One Who loves,
Beyond all power of binding,
Beyond the compass of knowledge,

May that One Who is mercy,
Where all mercy has been emptied,
Peace far past the reach of conflict,
The One Who opens the bottomless
Well of comfort for all time,

May that One be one with you,
One with all who hold you,
Beyond the grasp of memory,
To be One in the blessing
That will surely come to our understanding.

lovingly,
Bright

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:44 AM

168. ...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:46 AM

169. Wishing you comfort during this intense heartbreak.

So sorry for your pain.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:48 AM

170. My heart to you

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:53 AM

171. My condolences on your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:59 AM

172. Sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:05 PM

173. Lovely photo, your smiles speak through your grief

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:07 PM

174. So very, very sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:19 PM

176. i'm so sorry for your loss.

hugs. I'm glad your children are with you and that you had a wonderful life together.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:20 PM

177. Damned onions made my eyes water.

Damned onions made my eyes water.

Sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:26 PM

178. Sorry for your loss

So sad...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:28 PM

179. My deepest sympathies

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:29 PM

180. so sorry for your loss (nt)

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:32 PM

181. SO sorry for your loss, wish I could console you. You had a long blessed marriage.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:38 PM

182. so sorry to hear this sad news

 

...our hearts go out to you, SoCalDem.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:43 PM

183. I'm so sorry for your loss

Strokes are an awful way to die. My best friend was college has had 3 strokes in the last 12 years and had the last a month ago. I just got back from visiting her and she fights back each time. You did everything you could do to help your husband. Heís still with you in spirit.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:52 PM

184. What a gorgeous couple!

It is easy to see how much happiness and love are there. He was so lucky to have you, and he blessed your life, as well.

I am glad you had those wonderful 48+ years and beautiful children. I am so sorry for your pain and loss.

May God grant you comfort and healing, and to your children, as well.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:53 PM

185. I am so sorry

and feel devastated for you ... you are so sweet and wonderful and I probably havenít told you how much I have admired you over all these years

My heart weeps with yours

uia

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 12:59 PM

186. So sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:05 PM

187. I'm so sorry for your loss.

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:08 PM

188. So very sorry to hear this...48+ years! Great for the both of you!

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:10 PM

189. My heart breaks for you

Very difficult times for you and your family. You can get through this awful time. God Bless You!

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:10 PM

190. ...My dad went that way also. In time may you find peace.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:27 PM

191. I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. I know there are no words, nothing that

helps, but just know that your DU family is here for you.

requiescat in pace, dear soul.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:28 PM

192. Condolences

How horrifying to lose someone in the blink of an eye. I hope you and your sons find solace in your memories of your time together.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:38 PM

193. I'm so sorry

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 01:39 PM

194. Terrible news. Hope that your sons and you are brought closer together

As you comfort each other.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:05 PM

195. I am so sorry for your great loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:08 PM

196. So sorry to hear of this, SCD. That you were able to be there with/for him at the end may be

a comfort for you, and your family, in the difficult days ahead.

It was for me when first my father, then younger brother, then my mother passed.


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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 02:33 PM

197. So So Sorry for your loss

My parents made it to 53 years before we lost mom. Dad is still around at 91 but not in good shape.

Condolences to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:09 PM

198. So very sorry for you loss

 

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:15 PM

199. So sorry for your loss

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:23 PM

200. Oh lord. I am so sorry.

😢☹️

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:24 PM

201. This is so sad...

Please take care and be gentle with yourself, especially over the next several months. Don't push yourself to do more than you can or feel differently than you do.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:26 PM

202. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I wish you and your children peace in this time of sorrow.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:33 PM

203. Sending sympathetic thoughts to you and your family....

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:33 PM

204. My deep condolences to you and your sons

May your beloved husband Rest in eternal Peace!

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:36 PM

205. I am saddened by your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:37 PM

206. My deepest sympathies...

You'll always have an on line home here.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:37 PM

207. I am terribly saddened to hear of your loss.

My deepest sympathies in your time of grief. May your family and friends provide you the support to get through this time and may the memories of your lost love return swiftly to help lessen the hole in your heart as soon as possible.

As someone experiencing my own health related challenges, your story especially touches me and conveys the absolute necessity of never taking our loved ones for granted for any length of time.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 03:51 PM

208. My heart aches for you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

And thanks for sharing the photo... what a lovely couple!

xo

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:00 PM

209. Love and peace to you.

So very sorry for your loss. Love the picture of you two...I am sure you are blessed with many lovely memories.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:04 PM

210. Sending you and your children 💕✨☀️

Thank you for posting the beautiful photo of Mr and Mars SoCalDem. What a smile you both have. That must be what pure love looks like.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:13 PM

211. I'm so sorry for your loss.

What a beautiful picture of the two of you. May you find peace in the memories you hold dear.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:16 PM

212. My heart goes out to you and your family. nt

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:19 PM

213. So sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:23 PM

214. Truly, truly sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:28 PM

215. Deepest condolences on your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:29 PM

216. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:32 PM

217. That looks likearound 1970. You guys are such a beautiful couple.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:15 PM

220. It was 1971, when we were visiting my aunt in Miami

Last edited Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:19 PM - Edit history (1)

We married March 1 1970..

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:34 PM

218. So sorry for your loss

My mother passed away last year after a short fight with Dementia and as we got her house ready for sale we found a treasure trove of pictures of my parents that were taken in the 60s snd 70s. Your picture reminded me of those pictures. You all were a beautiful couple.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 04:53 PM

219. I am very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem.

Striking and beautiful couple you were and still are to me in my heart. I pray that your intense years of love and happiness will inevitably bring you intense joy of the wonder and knowing of him. Bless you.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:18 PM

221. Sorry for your loss.

May he rest in peace.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:26 PM

222. My dearest SoCalDem, my heart goes out to your huband, you and your family.

I can offer no more than the words to a humble Irish song, which I believe the last two stanzas particularly apply.

Jug O Punch

Oh of all the money that e're I spent
I spent it in good company
and of all the harm that e're Ive done
alas it was to none but me
for all I've done for want of wit
to mem'ry now I can't recall
so fill to me the parting glass
good night and joy be with you all

Oh if I had money enough to spend
and leisure time to sit awhile
there is a fair maid in this town
and she surely has my heart beguiled
her rosy cheeks, her ruby lips
I own she has my heart enthralled
so fill to me the parting glass
good night and joy be with you all

Oh of all the comrades that e'er I've had
they are sorry for my going away
and of all the sweethearts that e're I've had
they would wish me one more day to stay
but since it falls unto my lot
that I should rise and you should not
I'll gently rise and softly call
good night and joy be with you all

God bless you, your husband and your family, Ron

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 05:41 PM

223. OMG! I'm so sorry for you and your kids.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:03 PM

224. So, so sorry for your loss and pain,SCD.

Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture with us all.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:19 PM

225. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, SCD

It's suddenness can make it only all the more painful. Please accept my deepest condolences and wishes for a healing hand to guide you and your family's future paths.

-Jerry

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:22 PM

226. My heart aches for you, SoCalDem...

truly.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:31 PM

227. Deepest sympathy from an internet stranger...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:44 PM

228. I am so sorry.

All the other crap that's going on and now this.
Words ail.

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Response to trof (Reply #228)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:46 PM

229. Ready for the kicker?

We come back home after his death and the FURNACE IS OUT!!!!!

It's been 60 degrees inside my house since we came home Friday evening

The people who fixed it a few months back will "try" to get someone out tomorrow morning

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Response to SoCalDem (Reply #229)

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:53 PM

231. damn

hang in
We have a spare room if you want to come to the Alabama gulf coast.
Waterfront.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:46 PM

230. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 06:58 PM

232. In your photo he appears to be a very kind man

and you a radiant beauty.

I am glad you two had so many years together and I wish you strength on your journey.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:31 PM

233. So very sorry.

It's tempting to go into an "I experienced this, too..." but every situation is a different one, and this one is yours. What I can tell you is that it's OK to feel what you're feeling, and no matter what it is, go with it. Don't think you need to hold anything in because it might make others "uncomfortable". Please, please take care of yourself. And it will get better again.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 07:40 PM

236. Very sorry for your loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:01 PM

238. I'm so sorry, SoCalDem.

Sending love and light to you and your family.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 08:03 PM

239. I'm so sorry

My uncle went the same way, a sudden stroke, and then gone later. It's hard for everyone when it's so sudden. Hugs.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:00 PM

240. Prayers to you and your husband

Sounds as though you had many great years together. My folks were together around the same number of years

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:12 PM

241. So sorry for your loss.

Hang on to the good memories. Deep condolences.

♡lmsp

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:41 PM

242. My deepest condolences.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 09:52 PM

243. Oh my Dear SoCal

I'm so sorry you've had this terrible loss.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:00 PM

244. ...

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:04 PM

245. Peace friend

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 10:39 PM

246. My deepest sympathy to you!

Words are not sufficient, I am so sorry.



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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:02 PM

247. So sorry for this terrible loss

So sudden. So devastating, after a full lifetime. I am sorry.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:17 PM

248. My condolences

Hugs from everyone hear at the Hoosier house

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:31 PM

249. We are never ready. Peace to you.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:46 PM

250. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. You made a fine looking couple.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:51 PM

251. I am so very sorry, I wish I had more and better words for you.

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Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:53 PM

252. I am so sorry for your loss

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 12:04 AM

253. Oh no!

Just tragic. Devastating. I'm so so sorry! Glad you have your sons. ❤

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 12:48 AM

254. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband, SoCalDem. (((hugs)))

May you and your sons draw strength from your memories of a wonderful life together.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 12:53 AM

255. Greatest condolences

You are a beautiful couple. I was touched by your story.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 01:08 AM

256. Sharing is healing

You both look so happy

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 01:22 AM

257. So sad to read this...you were a beautiful couple!

Hope you have a great family behind you to deal with this sad event.

Very best SoCalDem, Old and in the Way.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 01:36 AM

258. *hugs*

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 03:12 AM

259. My heart goes out to you, SoCalDem

I am so sorry.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 04:29 AM

260. So very sorry

I donít know how you had the courage to compose this. No words will comfort you the way you need be. You have a lot friends here hopefully you can lean on us. 😭

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 10:10 AM

261. I'm so sorry.

You will be in my thoughts.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 03:46 PM

262. What a wonderful life you must have led.

I am very sorry for your loss.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 04:38 PM

263. My heart goes out to you...

I'm so sorry. I am glad he was aware that you were with him in the end though.

I love the picture and that he wore a tan suit!

Take care.

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Tue Oct 30, 2018, 06:25 PM

264. Very Very sorry!

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Wed Oct 31, 2018, 09:39 PM

265. My sincerest sympathies to you and your family

I love the photo, it reveals a very happy couple.

Sending you hugs, courage and strength in your difficult time.

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Wed Oct 31, 2018, 10:51 PM

266. Oh honey. I am so very sorry.

I doubt any words are adequate right now but I mourn with you. 💔

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Thu Nov 8, 2018, 04:01 AM

267. Thats awful. Im so sorry

Please take good care of yourself,
and dont let anyone tell you how to feel.

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Thu Nov 8, 2018, 09:34 AM

268. Wow! Deepest Condolences SCD!

Been reading your posts for a really long time. You and i go WAY back here at DU.

So sorry to hear this and hope your support system helps you get through this ok.

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Thu Nov 8, 2018, 02:45 PM

269. SoCalDem, I send you my profound condolences.

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Thu Nov 8, 2018, 08:26 PM

270. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Thu Nov 8, 2018, 10:25 PM

271. I'm so sorry...

What a nice looking couple you were. Time sure flies...

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 08:09 AM

272. I only just now saw this, linked from another post. I am so very sorry.

You obviously had a beautiful, happy marriage. Please accept my sincere condolences on your profound loss. I am glad that you have loving sons and more than 48 years of wonderful memories to comfort you.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 08:41 AM

273. Sending love and sympathy

What a sweet picture. I'm so sorry.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 09:42 AM

274. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 09:47 AM

275. You have my most heartfelt condolences

May he rest in power.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 09:50 AM

276. My heart aches for you.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:05 AM

277. I can't begin to know what you're going through...

... but my heart aches for you.

Please surround yourself w/ those that love you and others that loved him... and make sure you all get to talk.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:07 AM

278. I'm very sorry to hear this

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:09 AM

279. I am sorry for your loss.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:21 AM

280. Very sorry. Take care

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:29 AM

281. I hope you and your family are at peace.

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:51 AM

282. I am so, so sorry, SoCalDem. nt

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Wed Nov 21, 2018, 10:56 AM

283. Sorry. You and your family

Have a blessed holiday. Use this time to make a video with stories, photos, favorite music, while you are all gathered. Not only will it be cleansing to reminisce immediately, it will keep everyone busy as well and you xill have a great remembrance too.

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