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a kennedy

(29,643 posts)
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 08:56 PM Aug 2018

Just had a X boyfriend ask me to Woodstock the 50th anniversary.......

I’m married for 38 years have had some difficulty, and this EX has just asked me if I would be interested in going to the Woodstock 50th reunion. What the hell am I supposed to do.

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Just had a X boyfriend ask me to Woodstock the 50th anniversary....... (Original Post) a kennedy Aug 2018 OP
Think about it mercuryblues Aug 2018 #1
They cant go as friends? Eko Aug 2018 #5
Depends on how the spouse feels Loki Liesmith Aug 2018 #11
See post 8. Eko Aug 2018 #12
Only relevant if the spouse agrees with you on that Loki Liesmith Aug 2018 #19
Only if you can bring your hubs too Sedona Aug 2018 #2
Whatever you want to do. Eko Aug 2018 #3
Why would someone married 38 years go with their Ex to a Woodstock reunion??? bearsfootball516 Aug 2018 #4
Sounds like fun! Why not arrange to meet there- dawg day Aug 2018 #6
Good dawg! Eko Aug 2018 #10
Nope Recursion Aug 2018 #7
If my significant other wanted to do the same thing, Eko Aug 2018 #8
I tend to agree, for the most part. Rorey Aug 2018 #14
Ask your spouse's opinion Loki Liesmith Aug 2018 #9
As enjoyable as it might possibly be Rorey Aug 2018 #13
It's a nice thing to think about but be smart and forget it. brush Aug 2018 #15
Do you want to go to Woodstock the 50th anniversary? Would your spouse want to go? enough Aug 2018 #16
Is it for 3 days man ? And maybe it's the time of year Yes and maybe it's the time of man lunasun Aug 2018 #17
Don't even think about taking the brown acid! Marcuse Aug 2018 #18
Only if Jimi Hendrix comes back to play the Star Spangled Banner DFW Aug 2018 #20
Definitely say no Zing Zing Zingbah Aug 2018 #21

mercuryblues

(14,528 posts)
1. Think about it
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 08:58 PM
Aug 2018

this is something you can never come back from.

there is a reason he is an ex-boyfriend.
and a reason you have stayed married for so long.

Loki Liesmith

(4,602 posts)
19. Only relevant if the spouse agrees with you on that
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 10:40 PM
Aug 2018

Different relationships and people bring different expectations to the table. Safest solution: ask the partner.

dawg day

(7,947 posts)
6. Sounds like fun! Why not arrange to meet there-
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:04 PM
Aug 2018

That way you don't have to share a ride, and you can leave whenever you want.

I can't believe it's been 50 years!

Eko

(7,272 posts)
8. If my significant other wanted to do the same thing,
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:10 PM
Aug 2018

I would be fine with it. Ive learned a long time ago that 1. I don't need to be a part of everything that is in her life. 2. If I don't trust her to do the right thing on said trip, what am I doing with them?

Rorey

(8,445 posts)
13. As enjoyable as it might possibly be
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:16 PM
Aug 2018

I agree with mercuryblues. It sounds like you're very tempted, but give it a LOT of thought. Even if your relationship with your spouse is rocky, you may want to consider what kind of pain this might possibly inflict. What impact will it have? And is it worth it?

You know your situation. We don't.

brush

(53,763 posts)
15. It's a nice thing to think about but be smart and forget it.
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:23 PM
Aug 2018

Your marriage will be broken completely.

enough

(13,255 posts)
16. Do you want to go to Woodstock the 50th anniversary? Would your spouse want to go?
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:29 PM
Aug 2018

If you want to go and your spouse doesn’t, how would spouse feel about you going with EX?

Why are you wondering what the hell you are supposed to do? It doesn’t seem obvious that an off the wall invitation from your EX would be so hard to answer.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
17. Is it for 3 days man ? And maybe it's the time of year Yes and maybe it's the time of man
Thu Aug 23, 2018, 09:37 PM
Aug 2018
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This is currently my favorite Woodstock music . The concept came after he found his father's Woodstock ticket stub in the attic or somewhere
I particularly like the song Number One which uses Ritchie Havens - Freedom - motherless child song from the fest in the tune with Son Little
No I really like the whole album actually and got to see them live this summer at lolla

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