"Forty two words" is an observation. "Too long" is a judgment."
So is "not nice." Name calling, is an observation as "perve" is certainly a name, but "not nice" is definitely a judgment.
For my part, I did not direct the word "perve" at any individual, nor did I expect it to apply to any DUer. I used the term as an offhand response to another post and on my way to making an entirely different point. You, on the other hand, directed "not nice" at my post and making negative judgments about my post was the only point of your entire reply. So, I judge that your characterizing my statement as "not nice" was more "not nice" than my using the word "perve" about no one specific.
it is not the same kind of judging as the kind you would use to determine if you can cross the street and not get hit. you are conflating 2 unlike things.
I never said it was exactly the same kind of judgment as using the word "perve," nor did I ever equate the two.
I said only that we judged all the time and had to, in order to survive, avoid being conned, etc. I gave the red light only one example of our need to judge to stay alive. I never equated stopping for a red light with characterizing a behavior as pervy, or even so much as hinted that using the term "pervy" was necessary for my survival, so both your comment about conflating and your snark were misplaced.
"Red light" is an observation. "Dangerous" is a judgment that we make about ignoring a red light, a judgment based on experience, knowledge, bias and host of other things. So is "con artist," my other stated example.
"Heartbreaker" is another judgement. So are "handsome, "generous" "nice," etc. So is "ugly," "stingy" and, yes, "not nice."
My point was never that all those things are alike. My point was stated, namely that we all judge often and, in my opinion, we learned to judge a lot do that because we have had to make so many judgments to keep ourselves physically, emotionally and financially safe. (By we, I meant us as individuals, but it may be hard-wired at this point, because our remote ancestors certainly had to do it for survival of the species.
Analogies are not exact or they would not be analogies, but, again, I did not ever put stopping for a red light and using the term perve in the same category, other than the broad category of judgments.
As I have said, I don't think anything is wrong with making judgments. However, being able to distinguish between making an observation of something that is actually observable--like a sunset or a bushel of potatoes--and when we are making a judgment would be a very good thing.
By the way, a couple of posters upthread, males apparently, called finding breastfeeding sexy "absurd" and "a very specific fetish," implying that people who thought that way were "sickos." Their comments were much more targeted and direct, than my saying "Even if some perves find breastfeeding sexy," then continuing on with a post that had nothing further to say on that subject. I find it interesting that you read right past their comments and chose to focus on mine, which was a lot more about women's self determination that anything else.
It is my judgment that both this post of mine and the entire discussion between us have gone on way too long So, I am out.
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