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Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:11 PM

My Mom is dying.

Last edited Thu Dec 7, 2017, 12:14 AM - Edit history (1)

Back in 2010, my Dad died of pancreatic cancer.

My Mom has been doing ok, but recently, she is showing signs of dementia.
She keeps getting dates mixed up and now she can't drive anymore.

She's 83.

Her Mother had it too, and she died of a brain aneurism.

I just turned 58, on the 2nd.

Why do we have to get old?

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:12 PM

1. so sorry to hear of this....

My wife and I lost all four of our parents, starting in 2007. Each one so difficult - at 61, I have the same question you do.

But...we persevere, helped along by each other.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:13 PM

2. I am so sorry.

I lost an uncle last July to alchoholism. Iím still young enough to have the rest of my family still kicking it. Hoping everything works out for the best for you.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:18 PM

3. Vibes to you. They have great meds that can take the edge off

different kinds of dementia. Hugs to you.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:19 PM

4. So sorry to hear this archae...

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Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:23 PM

5. I am so sorry

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:40 PM

6. Sending you

Love and concern.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:40 AM

7. Thanks everyone.

It just hurts to see my Mom getting mentally bad off.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:38 AM

8. Sorry to hear this

about your Mom. Enjoy the time you have left with her. Find an outlet where you can vent, outside of your family circle.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:45 AM

9. Sympathies, Archae!

Hope everything stays calm and in control. I lost my dad when he was 69 and mom when she was 75. I'm 61. I'm not anticipating a long life.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:49 AM

10. Lost my mom

earlier this year & I am still processing

my mother-in-law is 96 and we thought we were going to lose her too.
10 days in the hospital with a UTI
Some dementia developed too
that was 1 month ago - today, she is doing SO much better
in assisted living, close by


Yes, getting old is a bitch - watching loved ones do it first is scary but what a learning experience


peace to you and yours,
kp

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:51 AM

11. Enjoy every day you can with your mom

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:54 AM

12. Yah, getting old sucks........

seeing our once healthy and vibrant parents not doing well is so sad. Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

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Response to Archae (Original post)

Thu Dec 7, 2017, 09:14 AM

13. Well, You Are Certainly

not alone if that helps even one iota. I'm about to turn 60. My father died in Feb. at 83 and my mother is 87. She is healthyish, but she is 87. She does weird old lady things. They had good lives with some bumps, and my mother continues to have a good life, but I look back and get sad about how I wish things had gone differently, things I had no control over, they just make me sad. Relatives are dying. I live in a family where everybody lives long, which is good, but then they die all together when they all are in their 80's at the same time. Meanwhile, nobody ever died the whole time I was growing up and now it's like being hit by a ton of bricks.

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