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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 08:57 AM

Does anyone have tips on how to NOT get my emotions involved re: Trump?

Serious question. I'm so full of anger towards trump, his enablers, and defenders. I find myself yelling at the TV, yelling at pundits, etc. I have to separate myself somehow. But I don't know how. Taking a break from the news doesn't help because friends or family pull me right back in to the 24-7 reality show, and then I have to catch up with at least a dozen events that I missed during the brief break.

Is it even possible to remove my emotions while witnessing this slow motion train wreck? When it's still not clear that the election was even legitimate? I'm at a loss but I don't like feeling this way. It's taking a toll, mentally and physically.

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Reply Does anyone have tips on how to NOT get my emotions involved re: Trump? (Original post)
ecstatic Oct 2017 OP
Madam45for2923 Oct 2017 #1
Siwsan Oct 2017 #2
sagesnow Oct 2017 #3
greymattermom Oct 2017 #4
LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #5
Lars39 Oct 2017 #6
eShirl Oct 2017 #7
ileus Oct 2017 #8
marylandblue Oct 2017 #9
Grammy23 Oct 2017 #10
TheBlackAdder Oct 2017 #11
Clarity2 Oct 2017 #12
Irish_Dem Oct 2017 #13
Yupster Oct 2017 #14
bluepen Oct 2017 #21
awesomerwb1 Oct 2017 #15
librechik Oct 2017 #16
Mariana Oct 2017 #17
earthshine Oct 2017 #18
maveric Oct 2017 #19
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CTyankee Oct 2017 #22
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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:02 AM

1. Go for a walk,,,, also becoming active helps.

 

Going for a walk helps to get in touch with everything you feel & think. Helps to clear mind and soul. Which helps to fight gaslighting & propaganda.

Becoming active helps to get agency back. Also get both community & hope back.

Community helps to know we are not alone.

Hope helps to fight another day & get back up time & time again.

All of the above helps defeat malicious agents who wish us ill.




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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:03 AM

2. He is trying to destroy us. My emotions are redlining, right about now

I am in a no holds barred state of mind, when it comes to his followers. The hardest thing is to NOT dissolve into an obscenity spewing volcano, when talking to them, but instead I confuse them with multi-syllabic words. Nothing I say to them will likely make any difference, anyway, so I might as well just hit them with some brutal truths, and then walk away.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:08 AM

3. Yoga and

meditation are my lifesavers. In my opinion, yoga is ancient physical therapy and meditation is ancient stress reduction.

There are thousands of stress reduction sites on the web:
https://www.rd.com/health/wellness/relieve-stress-meditations/
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/19/yoga-for-anxiety-10-poses_n_3281986.html


Sometimes a person just has to take time off to unplug from politics and the ugliness it presents to your soul.

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:08 AM

4. If you get involved

remember that he is successful because that's what he wants. He's an abusive partner. Ignore him.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:09 AM

5. Recommendations:

1) Immediately shut down any talk of politics if you are dealing with a Trump supporter. As someone else in another thread wisely stated, they are a cult, and you will not change their minds. Shut that stuff down immediately. If they continue to engage, tell them to fuck off and walk away.

2) Exercise. Keep your body moving. Push your body to exhaustion if your health is up to it.

3) Understand that we are in deep shit, but don't internalize it. The world has been worse before, and we will get through this. Remember that while Trump and his supporters are deadly dangerous, they are dumb shits. Their lack of thinking skills will be their downfall, but it will take awhile.

4) Roll with it. This is going to be a long run.

Best wishes to you.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:21 AM

6. I've resolved to rise above it.

Also trying to figure out how, without it becoming permanent. Hardening my heart to emotion seems the thing to do, at least short term, while taking action to stay involved.
Sounds corny, but it helps if I picture the Brits from old WWII movies.

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:23 AM

7. start that epic novel series you've always been meaning to read someday

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:25 AM

8. Go fishing.

Wash your car, take a long bike ride. Enjoy the day with the family or dog.

Be truthful with yourself...by that I mean sit back and reflect on what has really impacted you. I look back to when I started working and going to college (1988) and very little if anything, the president (any president) has done actually impacted my life in a tangible way.

Relax, go to work, watch the world series, enjoy life. In the end it's up to you to be happy...





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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:25 AM

9. Don'r discuss politics with friends and family

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:29 AM

10. Here are a few more ideas.


Many good ones have already been covered and I highly endorse them. Anything that takes you away from the madness will help. Getting out into nature is good for anyone of us whether we are suffering tRump overload or not.

Here are a few more ideas to try:

1. Do something creative. Paint, draw, craft. Even if you think you don’t have a creative bone in your body, you can do art. The craft stores are full of ideas, magazines, materials to get you started. Many offer classes. The very act of doing creative things unleashes a different part of the brain and you will be surprised how relaxing and fun it can be. Tell your inner critic to take the day off and have fun!

2. Read for fun or to inform yourself. If money is an issue, hit a thrift store for books. They are often very cheap and you can always recycle them by donating back to the thrift store when you are finished reading it. Or if it is an especially good book, keep it for your own library or pass it along to a friend or family member.

3. Join a group actively working to get rid of tRump. I know that sounds counter intuitive to what you are trying to do, but hear me out. I, like you, feel such rage at tRump and yelling at the TV is just a temporary release valve. The real rage comes from feeling helpless and hopelessness. If you Channel the anger into something positive and useful, it may change the rage to a force for good.

Hope you find something helpful in the posts I and others have written. We are in deep trouble and many of us are suffering with the anger and worry imposed upon us. We have to stick together, help each other find solutions and above all never give up the fight—even if we have to take a sanity break now and then!

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:38 AM

11. While tough to see traitor Drumpf's actions, ask yourself, "What can I do to change the situation?"

If there is nothing you can do, it is out of your control.

Generally, we get upset when seeing badness, but also harbor a feeling of ineffectiveness. If something is completely out of our immediate control, we are helpless and need to resign ourselves to that. It helps to discharge some of the tensions and stress, which drag us down, reduce our health and prevent us from fighting when the time is right.

Regroup, protect our health, and wait for the time when we can effectively act.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 09:46 AM

12. I am in the same place

I honestly wish there were dem support/activity groups in my area because I need to physically connect with other like minded people. I'm talking about for instance, a Dem hiking or meditation group...not an actual political discussion group.
I'm surrounded by trumpster family and friends, and the biggest mind flip is coming to grips of how they could be on board
with him. It feels like a betrayal. I see them becoming more and more detached from empathy & emotion in order to support their leader. They are happily going along as if its the best time of their life. I assume they only watch FOX and think everything is going swimmingly well! It's seriously playing with my head.

I have to sometimes take long time outs from news/social media and let those strong enough to deal to pick up the slack. I was never one able to watch the news a lot pre-trump because I always found it stressful. I had to meter my dose of "news". We all need breaks though, because this is how authoritarians break you down...and we can't let that happen. In the long run, it's smart to take breaks.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 10:00 AM

13. I had to stop watching TV news or I would be like Elvis, shooting at the screen.

That helped a lot. If I want news I can get online and read the news in friendly venues like this one. I also tell my family members who are conservatives to not talk politics around me.

For some of us, the toxicity of current politics will make us ill.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 10:16 AM

14. Take a break from politics

Spend time with friends and family. Watch anything on tv except politics.

This shouldn't be that important. Don't let it become so important.

For thousands of years people have lived under the worst regimes in history and had happy lives. You can too.

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Response to Yupster (Reply #14)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 12:01 PM

21. +1 on all of that! Excellent.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 10:44 AM

15. How far has the cryogenics industry come?

I would freeze myself for a few years if it were possible.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 11:06 AM

16. "Observe, don't Absorb"--I find Ross Rossberg's videos quite helpful in my own life

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 11:31 AM

17. Refuse to discuss such subjects with friends or family.

Politely ask them not to bring it up, that you'd prefer not to talk about news or current events or politics, and then leave if they keep on with it. Depending on whether they were taught any manners when they were growing up, it might help to tell them just how fucking rude and disrespectful they are, when they insist on disregarding your wishes that way. They honestly may not realize they're being obnoxious. If they watch a lot of Fox News or listen to RW radio, they might have come to believe that it's socially acceptable to treat people that way in real life. It is not, and you shouldn't tolerate it.

Start there.

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 11:36 AM

18. From an athiest ... the Christian Serentity Prayer

 

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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Response to ecstatic (Original post)

Sat Oct 21, 2017, 11:54 AM

19. Smoke weed.

It does distract and helps me put things in a calmer perspective.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 11:57 AM

20. FFS, live your life. Read books. Spend time with friends. Get a hobby

like painting or something, anything, and whatever you do TURN OFF THE CABLE TV BOBBLE-HEADS. They survive by getting you all riled up. Live your life.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 12:18 PM

22. Go to great art. The Masters.

Read up on art history. The great artists dealt with similar feelings and emotions and did their painting and sculpture while they were working out their pain and sorrow. Consider Goya's war scenes and what he went through.

I am personally thrilled with the saving of art in WW2. These are marvelous stories of people who risked all to save great art from almost certain filching or outright destruction of art the Nazis didn't like. Those were dire times, too.

Good luck, ecstatic...

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 12:32 PM

23. Other than not watching the news or reading the newspaper, no. . .

I have the SAME problem. I get so angry before I even leave my apartment each day that it takes me hours to get calmed down. I HATE all of them.

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Sat Oct 21, 2017, 12:53 PM

24. Advice from MLB pitcher Bill Lee

Aka “Spaceman” from when baseball players had great nicknames...the story goes that he was asked how he handled being a relief pitcher who had to come into games when the starter had gotten into serious trouble: bases loaded, in a tie game, no outs, with somebody batting .450 with runners in scoring position at the plate. The kind of scenario where so many bad things could happen that the only sane course of action was to not pitch the ball.

He said he would think of the Frozen Snowball theory. Imagine that millions of years from now, the sun burns out, and in the process it loses the gravity that holds Earth in orbit. So Earth would end up as a frozen snowball hurtling through space. At that point, nobody would care about what might happen to him when he threw that pitch.

In my imagination, in a million years, whatever form our descendants or successors take, I picture a smallish frozen snowball with a bad toupee and odd orange tint hurtling through space, and no one cares about it or what it once was. And in some small way, the universe is a better place for that.

And I can keep on pitching.

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