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Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:14 PM

I want to apologize to everyone here at DU.

In my last post I lashed out. I was wrong. I was not angry with anyone here. Something horrible happened at my job. I was stressed out. I work with the disabled. I witnessed abuse and reported it. Nothing was done. I reported it a second time and this time I warned them if nothing was done I would walk. They did nothing so I walked. I am out of work. I am a man of strong principles and I will always do the right thing even if it hurts me. I am taking further action. I am very protective of the people I care for.

This is not an excuse. I should not have lashed out here. I was wrong and I apologize. It will not happen again. I hope you will welcome me back.

Unlike Trump I can admit my mistakes and apologize.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:16 PM

1. Thanks for sharing....best wishes going forward...

It can be a difficult thing to stand up for your principles.

I hope all works out well for you.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:19 PM

2. Thank you for standing up

Can you report them?

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:20 PM

3. You need to report those people to the state or whatever agency monitors that stuff

Put those principles to work and protect those people.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:20 PM

4. I forgive you.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:20 PM

5. Good luck

Sounds like the abuse at work is really weighing on you (I applaud you for caring and acting) . Since you mentioned working with the disabled, maybe there is some kind of oversight agency you could report it to.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:22 PM

6. Sorry about the position you were put in and thank you for standing up for those....

with a limited voice.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:23 PM

7. Good luck to you

Apology accepted, I'm sure it wasn't that horrible anyway.

I hope you find something in your line of work. So many are forced to leave their field now because of low/no opportunity. Don't get discouraged.

Maybe you can report the abuse problem of your former employer to the authorities?

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:25 PM

8. Good for you

For standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves and for admitting a mistake. I am sorry for your rough times. Sending positive energy your way.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:26 PM

9. welcome back!



everything in you o.p. is commendable.

the situation sucks, but continue to do the right thing.
in the end, that's more important and memorable than the temporary discomfort.


i once quit a job after the boss asked me not to hire homosexuals.
i honestly don't remember whatever sacrifices i had to make while abruptly unemployed until i found my next job, but i'll always remember the satisfaction of telling him off.

hang in there.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:26 PM

10. Let us know if further action helped or not . Keep us posted. Sorry to hear all this crap is

happening to you

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:32 PM

11. I can't say I blame you for being stressed out

We get it.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:32 PM

12. I saw your "goodbye" thread and didn't click on it...peeps can load up on such a thread and

bury you in snark, and it always bums me out, so I take a hard pass.

Your situation as described in this post is unbearable, untenable, unjust and crazy-making. Please do keep us posted as to any action you take on behalf of your abused client - hats off to you for not just walking away completely.

All best wishes to you as your job search begins; may your next gig provide MUCH better care for its clients!! - you sound like a "keeper", shockey - please hang in and keep the faith as you move forward -

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:33 PM

13. Right now I am in contact with the family of the guy who was abused.

I will let them handle things. Unfortunately the whole Home Healthcare system has major flaws. It's hard to find good workers and some companies don't give a dam. I never applied to the company I just left. I was part of a take over.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:39 PM

14. There is a significant# of "bosses" who are, simply, shitheels.

"Firing" them should be covered by your unemployment insurance.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:40 PM

15. Almost every state has mandatory report laws, so there should be some elder hotline and/or

state level legal help for this situation.

Internal reports go in the circular file. Take it outside the workplace and you'll likely trigger an inspection and inquiry.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:50 PM

16. Brave and wise.

I didn't see your stressed-out post, but thank you for modeling an excellent apology. We're all only human. We make errors. I hope if I'm ever in a similar situation, I'll remember your excellent example and apologize without any reservation or fear. Thank you.

And good luck with your work situation! I hope things start looking up for you!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:54 PM

17. Forgiven. Good luck.with finding a new job.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 12:59 PM

18. you are a man of your word(if female i apologize)

happen too damn seldom

test like this are worthwhile i guess
hate going thru it at the time but when you look back.....

i am an old guy
i value being able to sleep at night
i try to live accordingly

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:03 PM

19. Didn't see the original thread, but rec for an adult, generous apology. Welcome back.

I hope things work out for you and those you witnessed being abused.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:04 PM

20. Don't beat yourself up, shockey.

My late husband was disabled by a stroke, and I work with learning disabled kids. When I see unaddressed issues, it infuriates me, too. Keep doing the right thing, stick to your principles, and if you need to vent to us, do it! What are friends for, anyway? If you think it'll help, go to whatever authority oversees your work and report it. We'll be here!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:05 PM

21. No apology needed. We all go through rough patches, at one time or another. Nice to see you back!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:10 PM

22. I thank you all for the kind words.

I have to be honest. I have always fought for what is right. I am 58 years old and it has taken a toll. I told my wife who has to put up with me, when I die I am going to die with a smile on my face. My wife is the best. My wife is from Brazil. I'm glad I found her.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:12 PM

23. Weren't you supposed to have left ?

And does DU still prove the "American people have lost their way"? https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029213563 .

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Response to stonecutter357 (Reply #23)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:40 PM

27. looks like you're the only one holding a grudge. . . .n/t

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Response to annabanana (Reply #27)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:12 PM

32. how so ?

I have no grudge to hold... It's a simple question does DU still prove the "American people have lost their way ?

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:13 PM

24. Anyone who belongs here should understand.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:22 PM

25. I definitely get it...

We have all had our screw ups in life.

I've definitely had mine.

Lol, I was definitely puzzled by your initial post because it seemed kinda early in your post count to be fed up.

Makes more sense now.

As you move on here in DU, take care to make sure you Teflon yourself against comments / replies that can get personal.

The written word (yours AND theirs) often does not translate as a conversation...and...sometimes folks say things online they wouldn't say if they were seated across a table from you. It's a peril of this medium.

My best to you going forward.

Brian

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:26 PM

26. No problem!

We all have moments.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:53 PM

28. All the best to you, Shockey. Hang in there.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 01:56 PM

29. You Have Principles, that's all that matters

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:00 PM

30. Life can become overwhelming sometimes with worries and stress--

I think all of us who oppose trump and his devastating policies have an underlying anger and stress that shows itself at odd times. I know that I do.

And compounded with your job issues and leaving your job--that's enough to make anyone lash out.

Thank you for apologizing.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:08 PM

31. Glad to see you're back - we need to stick together, through thick and thin.

I'm sorry about your job situation and hope it gets resolved very soon.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:26 PM

33. wow

glad you took a stand

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:30 PM

34. You are not alone, we have all been there.

Being under the influence of great stress can do quite a number on us. Hang in there.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:33 PM

35. Me 2

I've gotten angry here.
Didn't mean it.
We all vent.
If DU is a family. We must forgive and start
Another day.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:44 PM

36. No need to apologize

I sometimes feel like the American people have lost their way myself. As a disabled American, I cannot praise you enough for standing up for those of us with disabilities. You are all too right about how the home health care system can be taken advantage of by unscrupulous companies. There was a major scandal in regard to this just recently in my own small town. Best of luck in outing your former employer and seeing that justice is served!

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:47 PM

37. Thank you for standing up for principles. Be strong, you'll get a good job.

Thank you for pursing it further.

You are forgiven.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 02:57 PM

38. Shockey

I've been going through some crap myself this weekend.

Looking forward to your next contribution. We all have a bad day now and then.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 03:00 PM

39. Perfection ruins many careers. Don't quit your day job without a backup.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 03:08 PM

40. It seems to be happening to lots of people me too. My brother has been going

Crazy all week on me and my girlfriend. The neighbors called the Pollice twice because they thought we were being killed. The first time the police wouldn't make him leave so we went to a motel. I got papers and the police came back the next day and stood by while he got his stuff and left. The cops thought I was being a bitch so I was not allowed to say one word. He threw all my food away, twice, hundreds of dollars,and tried to kill my brand new cooler pumps I just bought with sabotage which could have burnt the house down. Trump makes us all sicker and since there is no global warming 110 degrees is no biggie. I worked with handicapped adults for years so I wish you the best.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 03:43 PM

41. I agree with you, "the whole Home Health care system has major flaws"

Personally had family members who needed home health care. Most of the Aides were wonderful & a couple outstanding but a few were horrible people.

If I were you I'd contact a good Lawyer about severance/unemployment benefits.

Plus then you can sue the shit out of your employer to force change for the better about the abuse issue.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 04:00 PM

42. Rec. Glad you reconsidered

I read that particular thread but didn't comment. It's easy to burn bridges but difficult to rebuild them. I'm glad the people you care for have you on their side.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 06:14 PM

43. Could life get any more stressful? Sorry about your troubles.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 06:56 PM

44. Didn't see the post but it's principles involved that

are important and help define your integrity.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 07:46 PM

45. I hope you find a great job soon.

A man who stands up for what is right, can admit when he is wrong and grow from his mistakes is the kind of man that I would like to work with. Good luck.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 08:40 PM

46. Oh my god

This made greatest threads?

People so eager for this guy to "kiss the ring"? No apologies are owed for being pissed off. We all get upset, even at our own party.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Mon Jun 19, 2017, 08:45 PM

47. Oh honey I'm so sorry. Thanks for the apology and explanation.

It's not making mistakes that tells character, it's what you do then.

I sympathize with the awful things you're going through. Seeing abuse and not being able to help is awful.

Hope you find good prospects soon.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Tue Jun 20, 2017, 02:23 AM

48. We gotta take our stands in life. One door closes and another opens. Goodness is coming ur way

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Tue Jun 20, 2017, 03:20 AM

49. Report these wrongdoers to the state and if necessary, to the media.

That could get things changed and protect the child who was abused.

If there is media coverage of your story, someone seeing it might even offer you a new job. i'll bet there are a lot of caring people who would want an honest person working for them.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Tue Jun 20, 2017, 04:42 AM

50. Thank you. For caring, reporting, reporting again and following through.

You've made a positive difference in the child's life forever because you cared enough and followed through. You're a hero.

We all make mistakes, not all apologize or offer followup. You did both.

Positive thoughts your way as you progress through it all.



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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Tue Jun 20, 2017, 06:34 AM

51. If I had a dime for everytime I lashed out at those closest to me . . .

I'd be a millionaire. I think it's just a human response to release your innermost hostilities on those around you. It takes a strong person to admit they were wrong and to apologize. Don't beat yourself up over this episode ~ just let it be your driving force to do what you think is right for those you are trying to help ~ they truly have no voice. My first child was born disabled and I lashed out at my family, friends, God and anyone I felt didn't understand my pain. It took me many years to realize it wasn't them I was hurting, but myself. Take care and if it does happen again, get up, dust yourself off and try to move forward ~ again.

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Response to shockey80 (Original post)

Tue Jun 20, 2017, 11:52 AM

52. Ok good

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