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Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:07 PM

I saw something rather disturbing today.

Down the street, a door or so down from where I live, is an elderly gentleman in his 70's. As I went out to go get the mail, I noticed a small group of people going to his door, and knocking on it. The Elderly gentleman opened the door, and they said ..Hey Happy Thanksgiving.. and proceeded to give him what looked like food goods.

But then, the woman who was there, turned to the kids, and said, "Girls, this man is poor, and can't afford to eat..We wanted you to see what poor people are like and you can see him taking this food we brought to him"

She basically was humiliating him in public in front of the group of adults and kids who brought him the food. Its was almost like someone showing kids animals in the zoo, and you could clearly see the older man who received the goods was upset at the comments.

Had I been him, I would have said, "You know what? Keep your food, I have a jar of peanutbutter on the shelf, that will get me though, have a happy Thanksgiving," and slam the door in their face.

Why does one have to pay the price of being poor, by having some stranger assume you are worthless and show that you are in public?

That woman sucked, and I felt bad for him to be put through this.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:12 PM

1. That's awful...I've been seeing on FB someone offering a free turkey..please apply

Last edited Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:49 PM - Edit history (1)

it might have seemed like a sweet gesture at first, but the poster is actually asking people to beg for the turkey with their awful situation..and then she gets to decide who is most deserving..gah

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Response to likesmountains 52 (Reply #1)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:29 PM

4. I've seen those types of offerings too

truly mean-spirited

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Response to Horse with no Name (Reply #4)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:44 PM

5. This has to make you ask...

WTF is up with these people? Than you see who they voted for, for President... it makes you wanta pull your hair out.

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Response to likesmountains 52 (Reply #1)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:32 PM

24. Reminds me of a show no one in my family ever watched.

"Queen For A Day."

Woman goes in front of audience, tells sob story, gets a dishwasher.

As is, I've only read about it.

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Response to Archae (Reply #24)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:36 AM

71. I used to watch it

I was a kid, but my Grandma was in thrall when it came on.
Lot of older women were on the show, and given their age at the time, they had been thru the Depression, and WWI and 2.
When they told their stories, you could understand that they were not highly educated, and had spent their lives raising families for the most part.

I would cringe, even back then, seeing how the audience just loved to be part of Lady Bountiful to those pitiable contestants.

I also cringed because I came from a intergenerational family where the women DID complain to each other about their health problems
a lot.
Which is why years later, I loved the Monty Python 4 Yorkshire men skit.

" We used to live in one room, 26 of us, with no roof and half the floor was missing"

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:26 PM

2. Wow!

It's almost like giving a pet treats. This "act" of kindness is no such a thing. It's cruel, demeaning and humiliating. These people know no shame! 😠😳

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Response to GWC58 (Reply #2)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:51 PM

6. Its a good bet she was probably a Republican

I can't imagine a good Democrat doing this! What is surprising is that San Francisco has always been a liberal town, yet, it seems, we are slowly getting some people living here who are far from being liberal. This town has a lot of transplants. People from other states, who have come here to live. Yet, most have come here for a reason. Perhaps they were gay, and needed to be around many other gays..or they were Hispanic, or Asian.. or very liberal.. and wanted to live in a very BLUE state.

So it shocked me to find a very conservative attitude pop up in a very liberal city. How the hell does someone like that even get the job of passing out food to the poor? It boggles the mind.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #6)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:37 AM

72. Yep! Those R brand Kristian values demand that the poor be bashed so the R can

feel better about themselves, and teach their kids that being poor is a personal fault!

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:28 PM

3. My friend went through a nasty and bitter custody battle that left her without any money

Her ex drove her daughter through a dilapidated trailer park and told her that she wanted to show her poverty....and by the way, your Mother can't even afford to live here.....

People suck a lot of the time.

Especially nasty christianist people

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Response to Horse with no Name (Reply #3)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:56 PM

8. It pisses me off to see this

Especially in my town. We have so many homeless here... people trying to help, with places like Glide Memorial Church feeding the homeless. Are Assholes going to go there and volunteer only to humiliate the homeless?



Yeah that will get them off the streets... Shame them... (assholes)

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:55 PM

7. American values.

We rely on charity to meet needs that our rich society could easily afford to provide as basic public services. Our advanced economy is wedded to a barbaric culture.

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Response to hay rick (Reply #7)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 10:57 PM

9. Its only going to get worse

When the next President is sworn in. People will feel like they have a licence now to be assholes.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #9)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:28 PM

22. I agree 100% . Also regarding the OP , I have seen this same thing with republicans they volunteer

sometimes to make judgement also.

They can even fick up a good thing like feeding the less fortunate in the area.
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Response to lunasun (Reply #22)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:30 PM

23. She must feel so FULL Of herself tonight

for basically Humiliating a poor person. I really hope there is Karma, because I would love to see it happen to her.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #9)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:25 AM

62. Open-carry...

...assholery, as opposed to concealed.

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Response to 3catwoman3 (Reply #62)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:08 PM

104. I was at a police station the other day

for an accident report. A guy came in who was acting strangely, just hanging around. After a while, he walked up to the desk and asked an officer about open carry. The officer told him to call an attorney. I think even they were creeped out by him. I have seen guys hanging out in parking lots, holsters on the outside, looking all self-important and tough. I think they just want to be 'seen'.

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Response to hay rick (Reply #7)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:53 AM

73. "Our advanced economy is wedded to a barbaric culture." Truer words were never

spoken. This country disgusts me. So much wealth and so much hate.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:15 PM

10. that's just fucked up

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Response to JI7 (Reply #10)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:16 PM

11. it pissed me off so bad...

I just wanted to throw something at her...rotten tomatoes or something.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:17 PM

12. That is a mean spirited woman

and worst of all is her passing that along to kids. What an incredibly insensitive and stupid thing to say.

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Response to mountain grammy (Reply #12)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:23 PM

18. I am just

speechless with rage over this so called act of "kindness".

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Response to mountain grammy (Reply #12)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:46 AM

60. I'd almost be willing to bet this, truly,

nasty bitch has led an almost charmed life, only having her "cornflakes pissed on" a few times. A hardship for her is, maybe, not having enough for that fancy pedicure she wanted to get. Apologies to the women here that do, occasionally, get fancy pedicures. Just an example. 🤔

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:18 PM

13. Let me guess . . .

 

The people delivering the food were good Christians.

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Response to OldRedneck (Reply #13)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:20 PM

14. well, as a Buddhist....

I can't imagine Buddhist monks Humiliating a person in public for being poor.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:21 PM

15. Reminds me of this scene from "Time Bandits"

I never really understood it until my mom and sister worked for some of the charities in St. Louis including one run by Larry Rice.



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Response to rwsanders (Reply #15)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:27 PM

21. I don't know which is worse

a fist in the face, or public Humiliation.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:22 PM

16. My stomach turned reading that

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Response to alittlelark (Reply #16)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:27 PM

19. I don't know what charity

Hired her but she should be fired.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:22 PM

17. ...

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:27 PM

20. That is disgraceful. I've worked with the poor and homeless for years, and...

just today we served Thanksgiving dinner to the community where none of us would even think of asking whether people could afford their own food. It was a dinner for the community where people might have been poor, or maybe just wanted to sit down with people. We don't ask-- we are simply happy that they are happy to share our food..

I have no idea where her mind is. I can't imagine she is going out of her way simply to humiliate people. Does she really think she is doing a good thing offering charity while teaching the kids her version of what charity is?

(And, Hey! I'm 70! I'm "elderly" when I say I'm elderly. )









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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #20)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:38 PM

26. Thank you for your good work..and I am sure

You could have taught her a thing or two, not that she would have listened, as she probably had her judgmental mind made up. But, teaching this kind of hatred to her kids, pissed me off the most.

Truly disgusting.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #26)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:03 AM

40. And here's what you can do, seriously...

if you're not already doing it.

Hook up with any reputable local charity or group and get in the network. You can do as much or as little as you want to, but do something. Tough times may be coming and all hands may be needed. Even if things don't get worse, they are bad enough for some people.

Ignore the idiots, and just focus on the job at hand. I've seen these people, and they usually don't last long, but while they're around they can be distracting. The rotten tomatoes thing is tempting, but better is to try to get those kids alone and teach them how not to be so judgmental.

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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #40)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:07 AM

45. Thanks

I will have to find out who does this kind of thing, and I am sure they might welcome some help.

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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #20)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:27 AM

66. Hey, 70 is the new 50! And the closer I get to it, the more I'm trying to believe it! nt

 

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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #20)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:02 PM

96. even in this benighted (and oh-so-red) community, there are a number of groups and organizations

(including manitou springs) that put on community meals, to which everyone is invited, no questions asked. (of course, there is the tiny fact that we have no bus service on holidays, so many people who might enjoy such a mean cannot get to any of them, but that is another issue). the local baptist church puts on a soup and sandwich supper on t-day eve, again, everyone welcome, no questions, no preaching)

may that pathetic imitation of a human being find herself on the receiving end of that kind of "charity"

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:36 PM

25. So I'm curious?

Why didn't you speak up?
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Response to cwydro (Reply #25)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:39 PM

27. I was shocked...

I couldn't believe my ears ..and eyes. I think I froze just watching it all unfold.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #27)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:43 PM

28. He lives just a few doors down from you, but is poor?

I'm sorry. Something is weird in this story.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #28)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:47 PM

29. so because he lives in a house

that is rented, he can't be poor? WTF?

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #29)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:52 PM

33. And these folks picked him at random to give him food?

I'll leave this alone now.

But I find your story odd. It makes no sense really. "Dogooders" find a random man in a random neighborhood and give him food in order to humiliate him.

And you were so angry at this random act of kindness, but did nothing.

Oh, whatever. never mind.

You go on with your bad self, and have a great day being angry and doing nothing except posting about it on a message board.

Smh.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #33)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:54 PM

34. You are a real piece of work

You can add me to your ignore list. That would make me very happy.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #34)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:57 PM

36. I don't have an ignore list.

But I really like your cool story.

Next time: DO SOMETHING.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #36)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:01 AM

39. What should I do?

Call the police? Call the Mayor? Call the news papers? Maybe I should have gone and beaten her ass and ended up in jail for assault? Maybe I should have told her about my first Amendment rights and put a gun in her face?

Maybe I should have gotten in her face and pushed her nose to the pavement? What the fuck did you want me to do?

OH but then YOU don't believe the story anyway... Why am I fucking wasting my time with you?
Have a great night in your perfect world.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #39)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:05 AM

42. Lmao.

If your neighbor is so poor and "elderly"...why not reach out to him?

Wow, seriously? You have to ask?
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Response to cwydro (Reply #42)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:11 AM

46. Unlike You I don't know my neighbors that well

maybe enough to say hello, but its THE CITY I LIVE in. If you have never lived in a city you might know that people in the city are not that friendly nor do they want to be bothered. But again, I don't even want to carry on this conversation further. You have basically called me a Liar.

And my anger right now is one that might probably get me blocked from my own posting, and I am sure you would just love that! Goodnight.

I am done with you and this conversation.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #46)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:28 PM

108. Why so angry?

I've been hiking all day. It's GORGEOUS weather here.

it's beautiful outside. Go out and BREATHE.

My sister lives in the same city you do, lol. Apparently, her experiences are quite different.

She knows her neighbors.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #108)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 06:15 PM

112. Get off my damn back

Go back outside and play!

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #112)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 06:59 PM

113. Yes ,ma'am.

I will do so.

You're actually one of my favorite posters here. I just found this story silly.

Sorry. You can hate on me all you want.

I'll still like you.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #113)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:14 PM

116. You called me a liar...

and expect me to like you? You clearly have some issues.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #116)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:26 PM

118. I did not call you a liar.

And I don't really care if you like me or not. I grew out of that need years ago.

I said I liked you. That won't change.

You'll still be one of my favorite DUers. I have several. Many of them may dislike me too,

No matter. I like people for who they are.

You're gonna stay a favorite lol.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #118)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:29 PM

120. YOU called me a LIAR..would you like me to post what you said?

post #47

"See, even writing that tells me how ridiculous this story is.

It didn't happen."


Now you are lying about lying.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #120)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:35 PM

122. Ok hon.

Go on with your hate.

I'm watching The Queen on netlix.

Hate me all you want. You've got quite a gang going here.

DU is great for pile-ons.

I still like you and if you want to go back you'll see that. But don't let that get in the way of a good hate.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #122)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:41 PM

124. oh poor you, now....

You can dish it out, but now you can't take it. How does it feel? Feels Good doesn't it? no?? You called me a Liar, and expect me to be happy and joyful, yeah you clearly have issues.

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Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:55 PM

128. And I would suggest you not call people you don't know on the internet "Hon"

its fucking condescending.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #128)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:14 PM

129. Um. that's a southern thing. It's a friendly thing

A thousand apologies.

You don't get it.

I have obviously pissed you off beyond redemption.

Good night and good bye.

I don't do ignore lists, but mayhaps you should put me on yours/

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Response to cwydro (Reply #129)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:52 PM

137. No, it's passive aggressive and condescending.

There's a reason that the only men who get called "boy" are in menial work or POC or usually both. It's degrading and it's meant to be degrading. Calling a grown woman you don't know "girl" is rude everywhere and you meant it to be rude.

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Response to LeftyMom (Reply #137)

Sat Nov 26, 2016, 04:04 AM

140. Oh you.

You don't post much anymore, I notice. but you're still so predictable.

Have a great day now.
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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #39)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:31 AM

87. I believe your story. You still can do something about it.

Most likely the person is part of some local charity group or church outreach or some such thing, and your neighbor is on their list of people in need. Go talk to your neighbor and ask him who that woman was and/or what group or church she's working with. If he tells you that, you can call the organization and tell them exactly what their representative said, and how hurtful it was to your neighbor.

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Response to Mariana (Reply #87)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:38 AM

88. Thank you.

I plan to.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #33)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:58 PM

37. Usually churches keep a list of their needier congregants

and those congregants generally have addresses. You did know this much, didn't you?

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Response to Warpy (Reply #37)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:01 AM

38. Uh huh.

This story is just too funny.

Then the congregants go out to humiliate those they serve.

Right.

I love your condescension by the way.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #38)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:07 PM

98. HER condescension?

Your responses to this post have been completely and unnecessarily presumptuous and pretentious.

So let me get this straight. You think that yuiyoshida posted a false story about someone behaving shamefully, but then neglected to make him/herself act in the story the way you thought they should have acted in order to make him/herself look like the hero.

You presume that someone who lives in a house can't be poor.

You presume that the elderly man was chosen at random.

You presume that, when confronted with someone behaving shamefully, anyone and everyone would march right over and confront that person about his/her actions.

And you presume that a story CAN'T be true if it does not conform to YOUR expectations.

Wow. You sure you're on the right forum? Because I think you misspelled the url you were looking for. It's spelled d-r-u-d-g-e-r-e-p-o-r-t-.-c-o-m .

Have a nice day.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #38)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:24 PM

100. You're a real piece of work. nt

 

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Response to awoke_in_2003 (Reply #100)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:22 PM

105. Aww.

Bless your heart.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #33)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:06 PM

97. calling out another du'er is a no-no, remember?

it must be wonderful to be so in control, so on top of things, that you are never stunned into inaction when something truly bizarre or awful or shocking happens.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #28)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:21 AM

85. It must be nice to live on your street

where no one is poor.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #27)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:19 AM

53. you want I should kick your frozen ass, yuiyoshida?

HEY KIDS, WHEN YOU GROW UP, BE HAPPY WHEN YOU CAN HELP PEOPLE; DON'T GROW UP TO BE CONSERVATIVE FREAKS; no INDEED.

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Response to Skittles (Reply #53)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:24 AM

56. I love you skittles...

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Response to cwydro (Reply #25)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:06 AM

44. Perhaps you can share a story of when you spoke up...

You witnessed a public humiliation of a stranger by another set of strangers and you intervened...
Just curious.

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Response to hay rick (Reply #44)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:13 AM

47. Ah, because we should not intervene?

I have and I will.

I'm a petite woman, but if I see something wrong...yes, I speak up.

You know, here's a funny thing. If one is not combative about it; if one simply speaks in a normal tone...people usually listen.

I found it funny that the OP thought the only avenues were violent. Why not approach the charity givers, say "hey that was so great you gave the "elderly" man some food, but I was curious as to why you had to point out that he was poor?" That would be a non-confrontational way to point out their wrong-doing.

See, even writing that tells me how ridiculous this story is.

It didn't happen.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #47)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:22 AM

54. Ugh.

You've gone from criticizing the OP's inaction to calling her a liar. Suggest you step away from the keyboard.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #47)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:25 AM

86. Okay, I'll intervene.

You should stop, cwydro.

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Response to hunter (Reply #86)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:13 PM

99. Thank you!!!!!

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Response to hunter (Reply #86)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:27 PM

130. 1

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Response to cwydro (Reply #25)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:55 AM

61. Well, I'll speak up.

You're being a serious jerk. This story is completely plausible and seriously sad. It says far more about you than the OP that you feel the need to harass her for her reaction and accuse her of lying.

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Response to TDale313 (Reply #61)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:27 AM

75. So will I.

I agree with TDale313. I am sure the OP is telling the truth. It's often difficult to say something, especially the first time something happens. After one has processed what has happened, if something similar happens again, one might respond more assertively. But it's unreasonable to expect perfection from a human being and excoriate them for not having responded in the perfect way that is so easy to come up with when one is sitting at one's keyboard, taking as much time as one needs to think about the best way to respond to the situation.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:49 PM

30. A vile human being.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:50 PM

31. Your self-proclaimed deplorables at work.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:50 PM

32. charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up

1 Corinthians 13:4 Translations
King James Version (KJV)

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Thu Nov 24, 2016, 11:55 PM

35. I got euchred into going out to deliver food boxes when I was a kid

We were told to hand over the box and wish them happy holidays and leave.

That little twit was way out of line. It might be interesting to ask the old guy if he knew where they were from and make a complaint about her completely unacceptable behavior to someone who had undoubtedly worked hard his whole life to build the country she felt such a superior entitlement to enjoy.

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Response to Warpy (Reply #35)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:03 AM

41. But see, the OP did nothing.

The OP only posted about his/her horror of this act here on DU.

The OP did not help the "poor" old guy. The OP did not confront the mean and hateful charity givers. The OP just wants us to know that the OP watched this awful thing happen and was appalled by it. Truly, this is one of the craziest things I've seen on DU, and I've seen a lot.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #41)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:13 AM

48. Is it now? I've seen enough of her postings to have formed...

a vague image what she might be like, and why she did not confront the woman. But, I could be completely wrong so won't pass on my thoughts on that. What I will pass on is the observation that being a judgmental blowhard is one of the defining characteristics of all too many online posters, and DU is no exception.

Rather than call her out for her inaction, why not encourage her how to do more?



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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #48)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:14 AM

50. I did so in my last post.

Thank you for your insult treasonous bastard.

Have a wonderful night.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #50)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:31 AM

76. When you encourage someone to do something different next time,

you don't start out by calling them a liar.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #41)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:14 AM

49. You must be awfully high

on that high horse of yours. Wearing all that armor, its must be very heavy. I am sure you have charged in and saved the day many of times.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #49)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:15 AM

51. I hope your elderly neighbor is doing ok tonight.

Have you checked on the poor man?
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Response to cwydro (Reply #51)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:23 AM

55. You clearly have never

lived in a city, have you?

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Response to cwydro (Reply #51)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:35 AM

77. Yeah, humiliate him further

by letting him know that people were watching and listening when the incident happened, and that they're concerned about how poor and hungry he is.

I am putting you on ignore. And I wish the OP would, too. This kind of harrassment and nastiness has no place on DU.

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Response to Warpy (Reply #35)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:05 AM

43. I don't know him that well but i could ask.

It might be worth it to let them know they had such a volunteer on their staff.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #43)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:16 AM

52. There ya go.

Now THAT is something worth doing!
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Response to cwydro (Reply #52)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:25 AM

57. I WASN'T TALKING TO YOU

was I?

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #57)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:27 AM

67. ...

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #57)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:03 AM

69. Small people needing to puff themselves up on message boards....

 

Ignore the idiots, they aren't worth it.

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Response to Thor_MN (Reply #69)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:23 PM

106. Aww, Thor.

Now I'm deeply hurt.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #43)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 02:36 AM

65. He might be a bit embarrassed but it's worth a try.

They really should know they've got an entitled little (insert word prissy people want banned on DU) working for them.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:34 AM

58. I don't understand

Why would you do that to another human being? I help people to help people. Not because I want accolades for it. But to treat him like some sort of experiment is disgusting. He deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. That sets a horrible example for her children.

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Response to Lotusflower70 (Reply #58)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:40 AM

59. If you don't understand it's probably because you are a good Democrat. nt

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:34 AM

63. That woman could use a little schooling in the 8 levels of giving.

1. The lowest: Giving begrudgingly and making the recipient feel disgraced or embarrassed.

2. Giving cheerfully but giving too little.

3. Giving cheerfully and adequately but only after being asked.

4. Giving before being asked.

5. Giving when you do not know who is the individual benefiting, but the recipient knows your identity.

6. Giving when you know who is the individual benefiting, but the recipient does not know your identity.

7. Giving when neither the donor nor the recipient is aware of the other's identity.

8. The Highest: Giving money, a loan, your time or whatever else it takes to enable an individual to be self-reliant.

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Response to 3catwoman3 (Reply #63)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:42 AM

79. I don't like that eighth point.

It goes against all the other points. It's too influenced by the Republican notion that it's a shame to accept gifts and that one must be self-reliant. Well, some people simply cannot be self-reliant. Some people have disabilities, illnesses, or addictions. Some people are too old to be self-reliant. Some people are depressed and need years of therapy before they can be functional. Some people are so depressed that they are simply too weak to work with a therapist to become functional. Those people are human, too, and they deserve to live in dignity as much as those of us who are lucky enough not to be in their position.

We have what we call a "society" for a reason. And the point of our social contract is for the strong to help the weak, with no expectation that the weak use the help to become strong.

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Response to athena (Reply #79)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:01 AM

83. I used to have a copy of this when I was in high school, eons ago.and I...

...remember there being 7, not 8, and when I Googled "7 levels of Charity," this is what showed up. I think your critique of #8 is a very good point.

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Response to athena (Reply #79)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:15 AM

84. There's nothing "Republican"about the eighth notion

I think it's optimal to help someone to help themselves if that's an option (barring the obvious exceptions of the elderly or severely disabled.) What in the world is wrong with trying to help someone who is capable to take care of themselves? I imagine that the gift of self-sufficiency and pride is more valuable to someone who is struggling than a can of food or a few bucks here and there on an irregular, unpredictable basis.

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Response to calendargirl (Reply #84)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:46 AM

90. I think it reeks of control.

How do you even give something to someone that makes them self-sufficient? How arrogant to think that one could be so powerful!

If we're talking here about giving to a fund that helps poor young people afford a college education, then I'm all for that. But giving to a soup kitchen or a charity that helps those who are addicted to drugs is in no way inferior to that.

Indeed, I would say that the highest form of giving is taxes. Taxes are supposed to be the basis of the social contract that ensures that everyone is helped. Taxes are supposed to ensure that everyone has a good education, a roof over their head, enough to eat, a police force that protects them, and safe roads and bridges that enable them to do what they want to do more easily. Instead, Americans love to complain about having to pay taxes, or brag about how they avoid paying them, while choosing to give to their favorite charity a much smaller amount to do something good for only those people they choose to help.

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Response to athena (Reply #90)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:30 PM

92. Arrogance...

Using your example, of course there is nothing wrong with giving to a charity that helps feed the drug addicted. But that is a temporary solution. Is it arrogant to give your time or money to an organization that is trying to help them kick the drugs so that they could take care of themselves? One that is helping to find them employment after they are clean? That is my interpretation of the highest form of giving. Most drug addicts are able to be helped. It may take more money, more time, more resources to get them on the right path, which is why it is the highest form of giving. Giving anyone a few cans of food or a few dollars to a food bank is helpful and noble in its own right, but if you are able to help more people who are perfectly capable of becoming become self reliant, then it frees up time and money to help the sick, our veterans, the elderly, etc.

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Response to calendargirl (Reply #92)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:32 PM

121. When you give, you shouldn't expect something in return.

That is what I have a problem with. When you give someone a gift, with the expectation that they use what you've given them in order to become self-sufficient, you are trying to control them. What if they don't want to become self-sufficient? Are they less worthy as a human being than someone who does want to become self-sufficient? Are you going to let them starve to death because they are not mentally well enough to want a job?

This is why I have a problem with everyone who complains that they gave a beggar on the street some money, which the beggar then used to buy drugs or alcohol. When you give something freely, you do not tell the recipient what they are supposed to do with your gift.

I stand by my statement that the highest form of giving is taxes. In a healthy society that believes in helping those in need, taxes ensure that people don't need charity to go to college or to get treatment for drug addiction or depression. It is a sign of a very sick society that we are having this discussion at all. In a healthy society, the OP would not have existed because no one would have been hungry on Thanksgiving day.

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Response to athena (Reply #121)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:59 PM

131. Painting with a broad brush.

I don't expect someone to become self-sufficient off of a few cans of food. When I give money to the person holding up a sign on the highway, I don't expect them to use the money for anything in particular. BUT are you really saying that people should be totally cool with giving money, time, food, etc. to people who just say hell, I don't want to be self-sufficient? Wow. Let's fund college tuition for young adults who just don't *feel like working when they graduate, and then let's give them food and pay for their shelter and their medical expenses for the next 50 years too. If you are speaking of people who are too sick, disabled, too old and infirm to do anything else but rely on others for help, I am with you. Let us help them. But if those people are physically and mentally able - and there seems to be a huge discrepancy on what you and I consider mentally able - then yes, it is better to try to help them to help themselves then to help them rely on people to provide for their basic needs for the rest of their lives. Who WANTS that?

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Response to calendargirl (Reply #131)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:59 PM

139. I'm the one painting with a broad brush?

It looks like you've completely bought Reagan's arguments about "self-sufficiency." I will not even go into what those arguments, in the end, boil down to, since it's too ugly for words.

I sincerely hope, for your sake, that you don't ever fall into depression. Of course, that will mean that you will never understand how a person suffering from even moderate depression feels -- how they would rather die than live another day but their annoying self-preservation instinct prevents them from going through with one of their many suicide fantasies; how they wake up every day, try for hours to get out of bed, finally manage to make it to the door of of their dwelling, but cannot face the daylight and walk back inside to crawl under the covers in a futile attempt to hide from the world and their obligations. If you met such a person, perhaps at the grocery store, you wouldn't have the slightest clue that they were depressed; the smile on their face while they spoke with you would give you the superficial impression that they were perfectly all right. You would probably look down on them for not earning a living and making something of themselves. After all, most people are simply incapable of feeling (or refuse to feel) empathy, which means they only understand a situation if they themselves live through it. No wonder this country is so messed up. No wonder people elected a hateful fearmonger over someone who was advocating love, kindness, understanding, and empathy.

True love and kindness are to be found in a person who gives freely, understanding that s/he cannot possibly know enough about the situation someone else is in to be able to pass judgment.

In the end, your belief that a human being would choose to live off the government or others' charitable acts, and refuse to work out of sheer laziness, reveals a deeply negative view of the human spirit. I happen to know that productivity comes from health and well-being. If there is no productivity, what is to blame is not laziness but a lack of health and well-being. There is therefore no difference between an organization that feeds the hungry and an organization that trains the unemployed for the workforce. The only difference is the relative health and well-being of the people being helped.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:51 AM

64. Any chance she's from Prunedale?

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 08:28 AM

68. You get mail delivered on Thanksgiving?

Wow!
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Response to cwydro (Reply #68)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:44 AM

80. Maybe she didn't have time to check her mailbox the day before.

But thanks for once again trying to derail the thread by making unfounded insinuations that the OP is lying.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #68)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:42 AM

89. No actually...

I don't always check my mailbox every day. I went to go check it because it was piling up.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #89)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 03:25 PM

107. I'll await your next story.

And of course the follow up to this one - where you complain to the charity that helped the old man.

Sitting on the edge of my chair here.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #107)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 06:13 PM

111. You must enjoy harassing people on the internet

You got nothing better to do than hang out here on this thread? Why don't you go post your own freaking post? バカヤロ!

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #111)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:07 PM

115. Oooh. I like that last!

Yes, I can read it. Of course you don't have the courage to put in English because we both know you'd get a hide.

Listen hon. You are one of my favorite posters here.

I just found this to be a silly story. Maybe I was wrong.

I love being cursed in another language. Made my day!

I've saved it and put it out on facebook where my friends can enjoy it.

Really darling. don't let ANYONE get you that angry. It will eat at YOU, not them,
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Response to cwydro (Reply #115)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:24 PM

117. Don't give me that crap about being your favorite posters here...

if it is, its cause you like having someone to harass and bully. The fact that you are still on here throwing daggers at me proves that much. But guess what Missy? I am not leaving DU and you are not going to drive me off. Again, I am done with my conversations with you.

and I will say this in English so I am clear, this is a fucking stupid conversation and I no longer want a part of it.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #117)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:27 PM

119. Oh wow.

Our posts just crossed.

OK, you hate me. I got it hon.

I don't hate you back.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #119)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:12 PM

136. That's odd, because your incessant posts in this thread seem to be extremely hate filled, suge.

You come off as exceptionally humorless too, cwydro, despite the constant effort you've been making here to pretend you're happily laughing away about this interminable exchange you're doggedly pursuing.

What earthly reason could you possibly offer as the motive you imagine is causing yuiv to make this story up? What possible benefit would she accrue by inventing this story out of the whole cloth?

I have to admit, though, that your silly little quibble about the impossibility of someone going to collect their mail a day late had me in stitches. You could never imagine that someone might be rushed and have a full schedule right around the holiday weekend. It could never be true that everyone doesn't run right out to the mailbox as soon as the mail arrives. Everyone must always be expecting supremely important deliveries from the USPS.

I check my mailbox 4 x a day, myself. That reminds me...

I'm back. Darn it. It's still empty.

You strike me as a big "publisher's clearing house" fan, always waiting, with your nose pressed against the window, for that winning notice from big Ed. Er, I mean, you're not ALWAYS waiting at the window, that would be unfair to say, because I see you also keep yourelf occupied a lot of the time by posting 400x to this one thread.

It seems hard to believe you're a female, though. Your posting style seems to strongly gainsay that statement of "fact" from you. I have come across a lot of guys who post with a style similar to yours in the past, but you'd be the first woman I've seen behaving like that. Still, live and learn, I suppose.

Overall, your performance here is enchanting. Loving, humorous, energetic, the complete package.

Don't ever change.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Reply #89)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:38 PM

123. I also checked my mail on Thursday while I was waiting for my cranberries to cook.

I only check mine once or twice a week (I try to remember to do it after all the sales flyers are delivered).

DU has it's own set of deplorables... just ignore those arseholes.

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Response to demmiblue (Reply #123)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:43 PM

125. Oh yeah so now if we don't check our mail every day

We can't be normal human beings. I hate bullies on the internet and I won't back down and SHUT THE FUCK UP.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:32 AM

70. Rec. Thanks, yui.

She tried to take a lot more than she offered to give. And used the excuse that she was "giving" to do it.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:03 AM

74. If there is a God, this woman will burn in Hell. Disturbing is not the word...

...When I was a wee lad, my maternal grandparents owned a small trailer court The tenants included singles, college students and several seniors. One older man in particular lived in his camper. Nice guy, and apparently did not have any family in the area. My Nan knew he was alone for Thanksgiving, as she had asked him previously about joining them. He declined, out of pride, I suspect. Before we ate, we made a large plate with all the trimmings and delivered it to him. No fanfare, no band of onlookers. Just a little boy knocking at this door, handing him a plate and saying "Happy Thanksgiving."

He was in the process of opening a can of beans, and took the plate with tears in his eyes. We left and went back to our dinner, and I can still see the look on his face, and I remember feeling then --much as I do now-- that I should not feel satisfied or self-important that we were able to assist someone less fortunate. No, we should feel ashamed that we have less fortunate in this country of plenty.

And when all of Christ's apostles were asking how they could demonstrate their love and devotion, Christ responded: That what you do for the least of my brothers and sisters, you do for me.

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Response to Raster (Reply #74)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:46 AM

81. She is probably a very unhappy person.

I don't believe in God, but I do believe that someone who has to put others down in order to feel good about themselves is incapable of feeling true happiness, until they manage to work on their issues and become a better person.

I should not feel satisfied or self-important that we were able to assist someone less fortunate. No, we should feel ashamed that we have less fortunate in this country of plenty.


Exactly!

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Response to Raster (Reply #74)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:05 PM

132. I suspect Christ might want us to give the woman the benefit of the doubt

What if that woman who told her children that this is what a poor person is was simply trying to show them that there ARE people who need food, who don't have enough, who benefit from the gifts of others and was only ignorant in her approach? What if her kids are so privileged that they have never seen someone in poverty, and she had good intentions by giving to someone in need? Should she burn in HELL?

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Response to calendargirl (Reply #132)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:31 PM

134. I suspect Christ would want us to give the woman the benefit of the doubt...

...HOWEVER, her "lesson" to her children could have easily been accomplished in a more private, thoughtful way. Seriously, a good Christian woman poverty shaming the recipient of her "gift"?

Since there is no hell, it's a moot point, and more of a rhetorical declaration. And as a non-Christian, I find the woman's conduct rude and vulgar.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:41 AM

78. Sounds incredibly ignorant and insensitive...

but I'm not sure she actually intended malice...There's a lot of clueless idiots out there.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #78)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:06 PM

133. Agreed 100% nt

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 10:59 AM

82. Sounds like a Trump voter...

You should have grabbed her by the pussy. I hear they are OK with that behavior too...

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:15 PM

91. Raising Deplorables

they have to learn somewhere

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Response to bucolic_frolic (Reply #91)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 01:42 PM

101. Then they go home to hear even more at the dinner table in private

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:48 PM

93. Rich people do a little once a year and think they are charitable. Self-innoculation.

They think they can say "We know poor people".

It's part of maintaining their bubble by innoculating themselves very sporadically in this way just enough to maintain their world view and boost their self-esteem.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:49 PM

94. On a related note - its rough out there for seniors - really rough.

 

My SIL is in her 90's, lives in a residential hotel, $1900.00 a month, room and meals,etc which eats up most of her 90% monthly income. Others in the same boat, they all pilfer stuff from the dining room and lobby bathrooms, etc.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 12:52 PM

95. A lot of right wingers claim they help people

and this is the reason they do it.

They are like Mrs. Pardiggle in Dickens' Bleak House. Really scolding the poor and being superior over them, with not really good motives, and the poor hated seeing her come and hated her because of how she treated him.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 02:14 PM

102. But its part of the America's going IGNORANT

Education has hit the bottom in USA. But it will now get worst under GOP control. Also parents don't seem to be interested in their children being educated. It all about the electronics world now. TV, I Pads, Cell Phones and being on social media.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 02:52 PM

103. Many years ago we got our Thanksgiving dinner from a Church Food Pantry

I can totally understand this. When my husband finally got a job, we did think about asking the church if they knew a poor family who would want to eat with us to "give back".

We ourselves would not have wanted the humiliation of eating with another family at Thanksgiving. Instead, we donated to that church food pantry every item on a Thanksgiving menu, so those poor families could still retain their dignity, eating alone as a family.

Horrible, for that poor old man.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 04:52 PM

109. Kids these days can be hard to reach.

Mom may have been frazzled, trying to get through to them that there are other humans out there less well off.

Perhaps so focused on making an object lesson out of it, that she didn't realize she was reducing the man, literally, to an Object. It's an easy mistake to make if you are 'helping someone' not for their sake, but for your own (to teach one's own children).


I wasn't there, didn't see the body language, etc, but I would point out there are more than one way to interpret that situation.

Perhaps she wants her children to grow up to be more empathetic... than she is.

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Response to AtheistCrusader (Reply #109)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:48 PM

126. Well said.

Sometimes the intent is there, but the ability to teach is not.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 06:10 PM

110. ummm

 

Well nothing personal but if you saw this happen, and heard her say that, why didnt you say something or walk down to assist. Perhaps, and I will say (since I do not know you or your neighbor i will admit if there is a different aspect to the story, I will be the first to admit my mistake,) but perhaps he was too hungry or in need to say "You know what? Keep your food, I have a jar of peanut butter on the shelf"...

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Response to rtracey (Reply #110)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 07:02 PM

114. Be careful here.

I said essentially the same, and was attacked.

But I love a good DU pile-on. The same bullies show up every time. Not the OP. She's not a bully, but several on this thread are well known for bullying.

They know who they are.
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Response to cwydro (Reply #114)

Sat Nov 26, 2016, 12:14 PM

141. well

 

Fuck bullies.... I asked a simple question.

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Response to yuiyoshida (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 09:38 PM

135. Speaking up may further the man's embarrassment

Speaking to the woman after the fact might be good, but inserting oneself into the situation would not help anything. It might make the man feel as if now everyone knows he's poor. So much for dignity
I don't blame you for not doing anything, I probably wouldn't. But I would introduce myself later and check in once in a while.

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Response to jcboon (Reply #135)

Fri Nov 25, 2016, 11:46 PM

138. I am going to go by an ask

What organization delivered his dinner, and see if I can talk to someone in authority. I think they need to know what I saw, and hope they will track down the woman, and remove her from the program.

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