If You Were Raped

[erpowers]

I know I might get flamed for this, but I will ask the question anyway. If you were raped would you forget the date on which you were raped? I asked this question because I have finally looked up the Juanita Broaddrick rape story. As I was reading about the story I found out that she claims she does not remember the date of the rape. She remembers the year of the rape and the season in which the rape occurred, but not the actual date.

I do not see how most rape victims could forget the date of a violent rape. I can understand how the Central Park rape victim could forget the date and circumstances of her rape. However, that is because she was almost killed during her rape. Broaddrick was not almost killed during her alleged rape. She was supposedly well enough to tell numerous people that Bill Clinton raped and bit her.

[Hekate]

1. There are such psychological states as denial and suppression

Every woman is different, but there you have it.

[trueblue2007]

12. denial and suppression ... MY mother died when i was 13 in 1963. I can't remember the date

i can look it up on google and then days later, i can't remember.

she died 50 years ago. i can't remember.
i also can't remember my dads death. he was murdered.

i can't remember dates when horrible things happen to me.

[sinkingfeeling]

2. All I remember about her story was that it happened in 1978.

[MFM008]

3. Yes

It is possible. Something traumatic( not even as traumatic as that) happened to me,
I forgot the date.
And the year( 80 or 81).
All I remember is it was not cold enough to wear a jacket.
My memory on many things is very good. I remember playing in my crib 57 years ago, but a life changing event like I experianced . No.

[madamesilverspurs]

4. Speaking ONLY for myself --

My assault took place many years ago during the winter; he had to get through layers of coats and sweaters. Frustrated him so badly that he intensified the facial beating that broke several teeth. And I couldn't give you the exact date if my life depended on it.


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[lame54]

5. Sure she could...

Means nothing

[Brickbat]

6. Judging how others might or should react to trauma is a fool's game.

[Hekate]

11. +1000

[Tree-Hugger]

7. Absolutely

It's a common response to trauma.

[Nevernose]

8. She swore under oath it never happened

And kept telling people, over and over for almost twenty years, that she had not been raped. In the end, no one will know the truth except her and Bill.

What I find disturbing about her story is how she eventually made it about Hillary. She was still working as a campaign volunteer, and at a campaign function Hillary looked her in the eyes and said, "Thanks for all you do." And that, to Faux News viewers, is proof positive that Hillary knew, was covering it up, and was making a veiled threat.

All of this stuff she remembered shortly after right wing millionaires gave her a bunch of cash.

[gwheezie]

9. I remember how old I was

So I can figure out the year. I couldn't even tell you the month but it was during the school year.

[Ms. Toad]

10. I know the year,

and the month, and I could figure out the date. But only because I was returning home from an event that happens on the same weekend every year. But for the relationship between a fixed event and the rape, I wouldn't even be able to figure it out - let alone remember.

The date on which it happened is completely irrelevant to the experience of being raped.

[demgurl]

13. It is very possible.

I have a history of talking about my rape and I even did a post, here, about George Will. It got a fair bit of attention when it was noticed by a certain member here. I tell you this so you know I am being straight forward.

I cannot tell you the year, month, or date of my rape. For that matter, I cannot tell you what my rapist looked like. My brain thankfully blacked out most of what happened besides the fact that I told him no as he was trying to enter me and he slipped it in anyway and said, "Too late" and raped me anyway.

If I could go back, I would not mark the date on the calendar or even try to record it in any way shape or form. I am a pretty big advocate for rape survivors but who wants to remember such a horrid date? What he did will stay with me forever and I do not need the added weight of dreading the upcoming date every year.

I am not sure how many survivors remember the date but I have been told a lot of stories about assault and rape and not a single one mentioned a date to me. That does not mean they do not know it but they never mentioned it.

[LeftyMom]

14. I have no blessed idea what the date was when I was raped.

Sorry I didn't circle the day on the calendar.

What the fuck?

edit: If you want to know how sick I felt (I had been sick in bed for days with pneumonia) or every gross thing he said or what pajamas I was wearing and how they smelled like sick person sweat or how ashamed I felt I remember all of those things like it was yesterday. I'm sure I couldn't have told you the date the day it happened.