A friend got her 6th child support check since 1996.

[Swede]

This one was for $500. It was garnisheed from her ex's paycheck,so they tracked him down again. They also changed the law here,deadbeat dads lose their driver licence. My friend said "If they find me dead in a ditch,you'll know why."

[wilt the stilt]

1. they found Joe walsh n/t

[Swede]

2. Good.

Nothing lower than a deadbeat dad.

[FirstLight]

3. even the driver's license thing doesn't help very much

I live in CA...that has been in effect for a long time here... I haven't seen much in 19 years (first husband/kid) and the second one is an ex felon these days, so we have never seen a dime for his two kids (9 & 10)...

collectively, they owe me upwards of $80K...If I could get that paid - I could buy a house! but it will never happen.

[dana_b]

4. same boat

my daughter's father owes about $90,000. All we ever got was one check for $1.59 (I'm not kidding). The last time she talked to him he bragged to her that he somehow got the state to back off of him and so he won't be paying anything. He's in Ohio now living off the state by claiming disability and spending the money on meth. I sure know how to pick 'em!

I'm sorry for you and the kids. It's too bad these guys can't get a clue and see the pain they are causing.

[FirstLight]

7. well at leats we got the better end of the deal

we got the kids, and they are the best

[liberalhistorian]

9. That seems strange that it wouldn't be taken

out of his disability check. My son's father was way behind due to being disabled and unable to work, and when he was finally approved for disability the first thing social security did was take the several thousand he was behind out of the back disability he received in a lump sum. Had my son not been of age at that point, they would have continued to take it out of his disability each month. I actually felt bad for him, 'cause, unlike so many other deadbeats I know of, he wasn't deliberately trying to avoid paying, he was genuinely physically unable to work and he suffered horribly financially before he was finally approved.

It's my understanding that they automatically check for things like back child support and taxes before approving and disbursing disability, so not sure why that wouldn't have worked in your case.

[dana_b]

11. I don't know either except he

told my daughter that he was one of the few people in California that didn't have to pay even though it was ordered. I don't know who he talked to or why that would be. To be honest it has been so many years that I actually gave up about 10 years ago (when she was 12).

[RebelOne]

5. Yup, I never received a penny from my ex.

Unfortunately, he is now deceased, 'cause I would like to sue him for back child support.

[dana_b]

6. That's no joke

I hope that he doesn't know where she is. I was threatened by my ex when we were going through the court proceedings and I came to find out later (from my daughter) that he did come to my home once with a gun but I happened not to be there. It can be a very dangerous situation and I hope she takes care.

[Broderick]

8. I think jail time can hurt in some ways

But in this case good grief. Lock em up

[stevedeshazer]

10. I paid every dime for eighteen years.

I was late a couple of times when I was unemployed, but I always paid. I have little tolerance for those who don't.

My daughter is now 32 and we remain very close. And I get along just fine with her mom/my ex.

[BlueIris]

14. The "no pity" smilie was meant for people who *don't pay.*

Not you.

My apologies. I didn't think it would be so easily misinterpreted. I am smilie challenged.