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Thu Oct 22, 2015, 03:44 PM

 

Why I’m Absolutely an Angry Black Woman

https://medium.com/%40DominiqueMatti/why-i-m-absolutely-an-angry-black-woman-2cf74c95828

Because when I was five, my kindergarten classmate told me I couldn’t be the princess in the game we were playing because black girls couldn’t be princesses. Because I was in third grade the first time a teacher seemed shocked at how “well-spoken” I was. Because in fourth grade I was told my crush didn’t like black girls. Because in sixth grade a different crush told me I was pretty — for a black girl. Because in 7th grade my predominately black suburban neighborhood was nicknamed “Spring Ghettos” instead of calling it its name (Spring Meadows). Because I was in 8th grade the first time I was called an Oreo and told that I “wasn’t really black” like it was a compliment.

Because in 9th grade when I switched schools a boy told me he knew I had to be mixed with something to be so pretty. Because in 10th grade my group of friends and I were called into an office and asked if we were a gang, or if we had father figures. Because in 11th grade my AP English teacher told me that I didn’t write like a college-bound student (though I later scored perfectly on the exam). Because when I volunteered in Costa Rica that summer, I was whistled at and called Negrita. Because when I asked my host father if that was like being called n****r, he said, no, it was a compliment because black women are perceived to be very good in bed. Because I was a kid. Because I watched from the bleachers while the school resource officer didn’t let my brother into a football game after mistaking him for another black boy who was banned. Because the school resource officer maced him for insisting he was wrong. Because I was suspended for telling the school resource officer he didn’t deserve respect. Because my senior year boyfriend said nigger.

Because I was one of two black girls in the freshman class at my college. Because at meetings to talk about how to attract more black students, someone suggested that the school attracted a certain demographic (sustainable living, farming, general hippiness) and that maybe black people “just weren’t interested in things like that.” Because my college boyfriend called me a “fiery negress” as a joke when he ordered for me at a restaurant. Because the boyfriend after that cut me off for saying he was privileged. Because I can’t return to my hometown without getting pulled over.

Because when I got married people assumed I was pregnant. Because people who know I’m married call my husband my “baby daddy.” Because my pregnancy with my son was plagued with videos of black lives being taken in cold blood. Because their murderers still walk the streets. Because the nation sent me a message that my son’s life didn’t matter. Because when Tamir Rice was murdered I curled up on the bed and sobbed, cupping my belly. Because my son heard me sobbing from the inside. Because they don’t care about us. Because when I was 7 months pregnant my neighbor asked me to help him move a dresser up a flight of stairs. Because I am not seen as a woman. Because I am not allowed to be fragile. Because the nurse that checked me in at the hospital to deliver wouldn’t look my husband in the eye. Because the vast majority of people won’t look my husband in the eye. Because when the doctors put my son in my arms and I saw that he was as dark as his father, I knew life would be even harder for him. Because he will be regarded the same way I was. Because he will be forced to grow up before he is grown. Because strangers at the store think it’s okay to reach into my son’s stroller and touch him without a word to me. Because we aren’t entitled to boundaries. Because they think we are here for their enjoyment. Because people don’t think we are people.


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KamaAina Oct 2015 OP
Angry Dragon Oct 2015 #1
Name removed Oct 2015 #55
AuntPatsy Oct 2015 #2
OKNancy Oct 2015 #3
NikolaC Oct 2015 #4
madinmaryland Oct 2015 #5
KamaAina Oct 2015 #11
SheilaT Oct 2015 #28
KamaAina Oct 2015 #33
SheilaT Oct 2015 #35
KamaAina Oct 2015 #36
SheilaT Oct 2015 #38
Skittles Oct 2015 #41
KamaAina Oct 2015 #42
Skittles Oct 2015 #44
Generic Other Oct 2015 #70
Enthusiast Oct 2015 #6
sadoldgirl Oct 2015 #7
xynthee Oct 2015 #8
SleeplessinSoCal Oct 2015 #9
Todays_Illusion Oct 2015 #10
noiretextatique Oct 2015 #14
awoke_in_2003 Oct 2015 #46
dembotoz Oct 2015 #12
artislife Oct 2015 #37
Omaha Steve Oct 2015 #13
Half-Century Man Oct 2015 #15
secondwind Oct 2015 #16
asjr Oct 2015 #17
KamaAina Oct 2015 #19
Dr Rise Oct 2015 #58
geardaddy Oct 2015 #18
cyberswede Oct 2015 #20
KamaAina Oct 2015 #21
SheilaT Oct 2015 #32
Leith Oct 2015 #22
smirkymonkey Oct 2015 #63
irisblue Oct 2015 #23
Prism Oct 2015 #24
kwassa Oct 2015 #26
Prism Oct 2015 #31
kwassa Oct 2015 #49
Admiral Loinpresser Oct 2015 #25
jwirr Oct 2015 #27
redwitch Oct 2015 #29
tavernier Oct 2015 #30
d_legendary1 Oct 2015 #34
Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2015 #39
byronius Oct 2015 #40
matt819 Oct 2015 #43
monicaangela Oct 2015 #83
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GoneFishin Oct 2015 #68
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1StrongBlackMan Oct 2015 #73
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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 03:54 PM

1. kick

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:05 PM

2. I regret having only one recommend to share,

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:20 PM

3. powerful

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:22 PM

4. K&R n/t

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:28 PM

5. I thought you were a guy. Who knew??

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Response to madinmaryland (Reply #5)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:46 PM

11. I am. And I'm white.

 

This happens every time I post an article written in the first person. Every. Single. Time.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #11)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:47 PM

28. Oh. I thought you were a woman in the first place.

 

And this post did make me think you were Black.

Goes to show we can't tell to much from the screen names. Or even what people post.

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Response to SheilaT (Reply #28)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:56 PM

33. Everyone does!

 

As a confirmed feminist, I consider that a warm and valued compliment.

Must be the 'a' at the end of the name, which is Hawaiian (kama'aina = local person, as opposed to malihini (foreigner, visitor); lit. "child of the land", not African.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #33)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:57 PM

35. Yeah. Any name that ends in an a MUST be a woman, right?

 

(I'd better never say that to my son Jonah!)

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Response to SheilaT (Reply #35)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:04 PM

36. Let's see. There are men named Dana...

 

there goes that theory.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #36)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:09 PM

38. But, but . . .

 

I am very guilty of thinking a name, especially a screen name that has the letter a at the end, must belong to a woman. You're not the only man here with such a name. I get fooled every time, and you'd think I'd have learned by now. Nope.

On the other hand, I feel fairly certain that 1StrongBlackMan is exactly as advertised.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #11)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:46 PM

41. you want I should kick his assuming ass, KamaAina?

LET.ME.AT.HIM.!!!

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Response to Skittles (Reply #41)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:50 PM

42. Go for it!

 

You'll likely find him in Jerrah's box at Cowpies Stadium.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #42)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:59 PM

44. I'll check my records but I think madinmaryland may be a paying customer

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Response to Skittles (Reply #44)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 09:08 AM

70. And I thought someone with Mary in her name...

Silly me...

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:31 PM

6. Kicked and recommended!

That would be enough to piss you off.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:39 PM

7. K&R

Anger is not sufficient, I would be furious as
well as screaming.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:41 PM

8. I can't imagine not being angry!

I'm sure I would have handled all these insults with a lot less dignity than the author.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:43 PM

9. Did the election of Barack Obama make matters worse for black Americans?

Is the black population the whipping posts of Obama haters? Was much of the racist behavior dormant until he took office? Or is the frustration of a bad economy for the working class making everyone, including blacks, more hateful? OR... Are too many racists just plain stupid and hateful.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:44 PM

10. I am angry with you and I want to see DU become a place that increases political

power and simple respect for all individuals in those current red states. I am angry with you because bashing bigots and racists, DU's prime activity, is not satisfactory with no plan to change anything. I am angry with you because when we deny respect and civil and legal equality to any person in this nation we are all harming each other.

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Response to Todays_Illusion (Reply #10)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:51 PM

14. wtf are you going on about?

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Response to noiretextatique (Reply #14)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 07:05 PM

46. I think they meant

 

"I am angry along with you"

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:47 PM

12. one of those posts the you rec but hate....cause it is true

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Response to dembotoz (Reply #12)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:04 PM

37. Yup

 

There is a genocide going on.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 04:50 PM

13. Thanks for posting


K&R!

OS

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:02 PM

15. Well, that overpowers that whole "can't write well" meme from her past.

The smallest of things can have tremendous impact.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:03 PM

16. OMG, every line is so true... nt K&R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:04 PM

17. I really feel for you. When I was 6 or 7 years old in

Philadelphia the schools were integrated. I used to be able to name each school's name but unfortunately I am way way to old to remember, but in 2nd grade a little black girl and I became the best of friends. Her name was Minnie. We were inseparable at recess and walking home. One day I asked her to come home with me and we would play with my toys. My father was from a family that had "colored" help. I never heard anything about them before so naturally I just was making my friends no matter what color. She came home with me one afternoon. When we arrived at our apartment my parents said we were going out. I told Minnie I was sorry--we would get together again soon.

As soon as the door was closed my father took off his belt and almost blistered my legs. It took a while for it to sink in why he was being mean to me. That is when I first had ever seen blatant discrimination. So that was my introduction to meanness. After that the color of one's skin could have been green, blue, pink, any color of the rainbow and it made no difference. So, to let you know how it affected me as to Minnie's color, I am 83 years old and still hold her in my heart.
I live in an Assisted Living Home now and my new roommate is a "colored" lady.

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Response to asjr (Reply #17)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:06 PM

19. Again, you really feel for Dominique Matti

 

She wrote the piece. I merely posted it. Would that I had such talent!

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Response to asjr (Reply #17)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:56 PM

58. Wow. Hate is truly taught but, as you prove,

doesn't have to be learned.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:04 PM

18. K and R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:06 PM

20. Damn.

Great essay. Thank you for posting it.

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Response to cyberswede (Reply #20)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:11 PM

21. Thank my old boss while you're at it

 

I ripped it down from her FB page. You should have been here when we hosted a day-long conference on race and disability a few years ago. The entire office save the two of us boycotted it and chose to work in their little cubes the whole day, because they were so butthurt that Sarah even mentioned race. They, like all too many Americans, seemed to assume that bringing up the topic equaled accusing them of being racists.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #21)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:56 PM

32. Good Lord!

 

I often think that a certain part of the race problem, issue, however you want to call it, in this country is that we almost never speak openly, let alone honestly about it.

I have had the phenomenal good fortune at two or three times in my life to have had Black friends who were very patient with my many questions connected to race. They could not have been kinder to me about this.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:15 PM

22. Thanks for Posting This

Her life is like death by a thousand cuts.

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Response to Leith (Reply #22)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 03:37 AM

63. Exactly what I was thinking. What a powerful statement.

Very simply stated, but it really has an impact.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:16 PM

23. what fool asks a pregnant woman to help move a dresser? nt

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:16 PM

24. Anger goes nowhere

 

It clouds thought, leads to bitterness, and creates a defensive posture that occludes relating with other humans on an even plane.

I'm not impressed with people who are "angry". I don't find it a righteous pose or a status worthy of elevation. I've known the righteously angry. Angry black people, angry latinos, angry gay men, angry lesbians, angry women.

If that anger is isolated and focused towards improvement, then it is truly righteous.

Otherwise, it is just anger. Anger distorts, warps, and deforms. Anger leads to bigotry and hatred. Anger leads to settling scores rather than advancing forward.

I'm an angry gay man. But I am not angry at anyone.

Anger is a blade. As long as it is swung in the right direction, it works. If not, not.

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Response to Prism (Reply #24)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:29 PM

26. You are saying two different things. Anger goes nowhere, anger can go somewhere.

Which is it?

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Response to kwassa (Reply #26)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:53 PM

31. You really want to have this discussion with me?

 

Kwassa?

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Response to Prism (Reply #31)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 08:20 PM

49. Sure. I am trying to understand your statement.

I seek clarification.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:22 PM

25. KnR! n/t

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:37 PM

27. The expression and feelings in the article are so clear and

no one can blame her for being angry.

One thought came to me as I read it. This is how ones self-concept is built and it is not a good way. If this woman finally overcame all this and developed a good self concept she is one strong lady.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:49 PM

29. Devastating to read.

I don't know what else to say. Heartbroken, helpless, devastated. I am glad she is angry. That shows such strength! I hope she and her husband can raise a son who will help to change this with friends and family who will help him do that. I hope that everyone that reads this is determined not to be a part of problem but a part of the solution.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:52 PM

30. I apologize for not seeing this sooner,

but today my full attention has been on the hearings. Someday soon I hope we can focus more on our citizens as opposed to who hates who in Washington. 😥

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 05:57 PM

34. A good friend (and former co-worker) of mine had the same issues you did

My old company had a tail gate at a Dolphins game many moons ago and invited our customers to a Dolphin's game. A good number of them turned out and they got to meet the team. The west coast customers (those from the Naples-Bradenton Territory) and the center customers (Sebring Territory) weren't surprised that she was black and spoke perfect English but that she was Jamaican and spoke perfect English. It was like they were talking to a unicorn or something. I was really embarrassed for these people.

After that day one of the customers referred to her as the colored girl. I was beyond embarrassed after that. I keep hearing that we're past that, but I don't think so...

It didn't get any easier for her when she left to Tennessee and Ohio.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:19 PM

39. It was NOT that way when I went the school....

 

But then, black people were about a third to a half of the students.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:26 PM

40. Great post.

I just finished 'The Warmth Of Other Suns' by Wilkerson, about the Great Migration. So many 'soft-racists' ("I'm not racist but --" refuse to acknowledge the incredible pressures and small indignities that have shaped black lives everywhere. I've heard people I love suggest that the playing field is level now, so why don't black people do better --

I'm more than a little bit hostile to such attitudes, almost more than to outright racists, most of whom are just mentally ill. Soft Racists are the worst -- purposefully blind, papering over their tribalism with platitudes from the fifties.

Again, awesome post.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 06:56 PM

43. Wow!

This should be an op-ed in the New York Times.

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Response to matt819 (Reply #43)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 02:12 PM

83. It should....

but don't hold your breath until you see it happen.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 07:02 PM

45. K&R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 07:05 PM

47. K&R

K&R to the max!

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 07:14 PM

48. rec & kick

*sigh
It never goes away. There's always some jackass... even within your own family who says shit like this. You end up building a really thick shell and then get asked over and over why you're so apathetic to your 'family'.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 08:23 PM

50. K&R to the Utmost!!

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Thu Oct 22, 2015, 08:39 PM

51. K&R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:08 PM

52. K & R X 1,000!!!

This is one of the most powerful things I've ever read.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:18 PM

53. K & R !!!!

impossible to recommend this message strongly enough...Thank you...

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:19 PM

54. Powerful. K&R. nt

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:44 PM

56. I used to be a regular poster on Raw Story during the Bush years and

people where excited about Obama leading up to the general election. When Obama won and people were whopping and hollering the good news everywhere, I wrote something to the effect of 'things are going to change now' on Raw Story. Someone replied to my post and said that because Obama won, that it means that racism in the US is dead now.

Huh? Bullshit! Just because Obama won doesn't put an end to racism, as a matter of fact, it will probably amplify it. And sure enough...

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 10:52 PM

57. I went and read her complete article and I'm blown away!

My wife and I have tried to raise/influence our children and now grandchildren free of prejudice. However, nothing I could ever say can compare with Ms. Matti's statement! I have emailed this on too my grown children and cannot thank you enough KamaAina for sharing this OP.
Again Thank You!

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 11:26 PM

59. No one

should ever have to feel this way.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Thu Oct 22, 2015, 11:58 PM

60. For a very long time...

I have thought about just how this country can break free from racism. The conclusions I have drawn are as follows.

It begins with parenting.

It continues by refusing to accept public institutions that fail to treat each and every person based upon people's character, not color.

It continues by calling out conversation that is unacceptable.

It continues with personal reflection and understanding and eliminating any bias that may have been passed down or communicated by other family members. It also contuinues with calling them out, even on social media.

It continues by embracing each communities heritages, culture, food, and people and allowing yourself to be open to the discovery of the wonderful enrichment you gain in your own life when you do this.

It simply continues until the last person on earth realizes that outdated notions passed down have no place in ones current life.

To the original poster, I am so sorry for the pain you have experienced throughout your lifetime from the poor judgement and blatant ignorance of others and I hope that the vast majority of your life has been blessed with family and close friends.

#BlackLivesMatter

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 01:30 AM

61. Kick and R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 02:15 AM

62. Every Word True

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 04:32 AM

64. kick

 

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 04:50 AM

65. Wow

Strong and sad. As a white woman I will never experience anything like this but I can feel her pain. wow.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 05:19 AM

66. Well

K&R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 06:11 AM

67. Kicking for the truth nt

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 06:53 AM

68. I knew these things happened, but the intensity and frequency is shocking and eye opening.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 08:56 AM

69. Damn

That is intense.
This needs to go viral.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 09:28 AM

71. K & R X 1000s (n/t)

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 10:59 AM

72. A tragically powerful post. Thanks.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 11:00 AM

73. K&R

 

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 11:29 AM

74. K&R!

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 11:39 AM

75. K&R

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 12:29 PM

76. Big bump from Thom Hartmann today

He read the entire post. K&R.

Love listening to him

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Response to SmittynMo (Reply #76)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 12:30 PM

77. Sweet!

 

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 01:46 PM

78. As a white dude...

I'm terribly sick of white people and white culture. You think what you're hearing is bad? You should hear the way white people talk about other races when in a White Out (all white group).

I tell every white person that will listen that we as a community have a huge problem, and we're the only ones that can deal with it.

I've lost friends and nearly gotten into physical altercations with strangers after calling out white people on their casual use of racial slurs. And gay slurs, and slurs against women, and Muslims.

There are a lot of white people that are much closer to being members of a white supremacist movement than they will admit or are even aware of.

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Response to SharpProgress (Reply #78)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 01:49 PM

79. Nice second post!

 

Welcome to DU!

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 01:57 PM

80. Beautifully expressed. My heart goes out to you, your family, and the millions of

African Americans and other people of color who suffer these horrific injustices.


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Response to AikidoSoul (Reply #80)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 01:59 PM

81. One more time. I am not the author.

 

I am not even a woman, let alone black. I merely ripped the article down from a friend's FB page.

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Response to KamaAina (Reply #81)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 02:14 PM

84. Thank you for being honest about this....

Does your friend post on any other site on the web besides FB?

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Response to monicaangela (Reply #84)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 02:18 PM

85. She is not the author either.

 

Dominique Matti has her own website.

https://dominiquematti.wordpress.com/

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Response to monicaangela (Reply #84)

Sat Oct 24, 2015, 08:25 AM

86. Thank you

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Fri Oct 23, 2015, 02:01 PM

82. WOW!!!!

Can anybody say Amen for this one. This is absolutely spot on. Your comment is a perfect analysis of what is going on in the minds of some of us Black Women who have to deal with life in a society that has been and still is tilted toward one race being the dominant force; and still unabashedly keeping a thumb on every minority, and every poor white person and now more than ever even middle class Caucasians who have the audacity to be able to see through the game. Thank you KamaAina, please spread this throughout the web, it makes so much sense, and should be viewed by everyone in this nation...the world for that matter.

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Response to KamaAina (Original post)

Mon Oct 26, 2015, 03:29 PM

87. Thom, thank you

for reading the statement from Dominique Matti on air. It is a very moving piece, that every white person (including me) needs to hear. It was very powerful. I hope it breached some fear-blocked hearts and minds. (and thank you KamaAina for posting it on DU)

Keep on fighting the good fight for justice and progressive growth in this country. You are one of our best ambassadors!

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