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Thu Jul 23, 2015, 08:35 PM

No longer a foster parent, temporarily we hope!

Hi everybody, Again, thank you all for the support that so many of you expressed while we had our foster son, Tommy. As I'd mentioned in a post late last week, a cousin of Tommy's birth mother expressed a desire to take hi in, they passed all of Maine DHHS's criteria for a kinship placement, and Maria (my wife) and I took him to the Augusta office yesterday where his new foster family took him home. When we said goodbye to him I wished him a long, happy, healthy and successful life. I know that he doesn't understand that yet, but I certainly felt good about saying it to my little man.

We had the opportunity to meet his new foster mother and we can say that she is a lovely lady and we're very confident that he will be in a very loving and nurturing environment with a blood relative. We are very happy for him and for his new family.

That being said, we will MISS this little jelly bean. 15 years ago, when we adopted our son, he was almost 4 months old. When we accepted Tommy's placement, he was 4 days old. While we are experienced (and I believe successful) parents, we had no experience with a baby THAT young. We were pleasantly surprised to see that even at his young age, he was developing a very fun and fascinating personality. He loves being held, belly bounced, cuddled and being sung to, especially "The Wheels On the Bus" and "Sing a Song" from Sesame Street. That's nice because we, including our son, enjoyed doing all of those things with him. If he has the spirit & spunk as an adult that he has as a newborn, than NOBODY will trifle with him or give him a lot of unnecessary BS!

While I don't think it would be positive to make any serious predictions about his future, here are some fun speculations!

He may grow up to be an architect, because he is certainly skilled at building mountains in his diapers. He may become a movie director, because as he was learning to use his hands, he would reach into my shirt and pull on my chest hairs and I'd see STARS...Yikes! He may become a professional wrestler because as he learned how to move his little noggin, he'd frequently head butt us.

He may become a thief, because he certainly stole our HEARTS!

So, farewell, Tommy! Much happiness is wished for you in a LONG life! We hope that DHHS will place another baby with us ASAP and we will love THAT little peanut as much as we do Tommy. It is a baby's RIGHT to be loved by the people caring for him or her, and we consider then ALL to be little princes and princesses!

So, yesterday we said goodbye to our little man. We love him and really miss him...even the middle of the night feedings

Again, thank you all for reading and for your kind words of support and encouragement!

PEACE!

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Reply No longer a foster parent, temporarily we hope! (Original post)
MarianJack Jul 2015 OP
irisblue Jul 2015 #1
MarianJack Jul 2015 #3
3catwoman3 Jul 2015 #2
MarianJack Jul 2015 #4
fadedrose Jul 2015 #5
MarianJack Jul 2015 #7
niyad Jul 2015 #6
MarianJack Jul 2015 #8
wellstone dem Jul 2015 #9
MarianJack Jul 2015 #14
riderinthestorm Jul 2015 #10
MarianJack Jul 2015 #15
Kali Jul 2015 #11
MarianJack Jul 2015 #16
pnwmom Jul 2015 #12
MarianJack Jul 2015 #17
pnwmom Jul 2015 #19
MarianJack Jul 2015 #21
aspirant Jul 2015 #13
MarianJack Jul 2015 #18
Le Taz Hot Jul 2015 #20
MarianJack Jul 2015 #22

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 08:41 PM

1. MarianJack

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Response to irisblue (Reply #1)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:13 PM

3. Thank you, irisblue!



PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:06 PM

2. It sounds as if you all...

...benefited from your brief time together. I am a pediatric nurse practitioner, and loving daddies melt my heart.

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Response to 3catwoman3 (Reply #2)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:16 PM

4. I've always found it easy to be a loving daddy, because...

...I LOVE being a daddy!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:24 PM

5. Tommy is lucky to have found you three

You wouldn't believe how many children born of their natural parents crave that kind of love and only dream of living in loving home.

You gave him a good foundation, and no matter what problems he will have, he'll have stability and hope to overcome them.

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Response to fadedrose (Reply #5)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:41 PM

7. Thank you, fadedrose!

I was very touched yesterday when my son was saying goodbye and told Tommy how he was going to grow up to be big and strong. I am very proud of the man he is becoming!

I know that Tommy can't define love yet, but I'm sure he felt it coming from us.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:38 PM

6. many blessings to all of you

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Response to niyad (Reply #6)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:42 PM

8. Thank you, niyad!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:44 PM

9. As the mom of a daughter

adopted from foster care, who benefited from loving foster parents--who still visit, I thank you. The world is better for what you have done.

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Response to wellstone dem (Reply #9)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:18 PM

14. Thank you, wellstone dem!

Please accept my best wishes for your little princess!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:48 PM

10. You are a guardian angel made manifest. Peace back atcha!

 



I can't wait for your next foster story!!! I have a feeling it won't be long til you have another.

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #10)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:20 PM

15. on't be long before another.

May that go from your lips to God's ear!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Thu Jul 23, 2015, 09:59 PM

11. this is the epitome of why

I feel so angry at people who put DU down. What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing the wonderful gift you gave that child.

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Response to Kali (Reply #11)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:22 PM

16. Thank you, Kali!

That little man gave us at least as much as we gave him!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 12:52 AM

12. Thank you all for opening your home and hearts to that little one.

It must have been awfully hard to see him go.

What a good lesson your son is getting, too. Best of luck to you all!

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Response to pnwmom (Reply #12)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:25 PM

17. Thank you!

We suspect that the biggest lesson that our son is learning is that he knows where to get free babysitting when HE becomes a daddy!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #17)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:56 PM

19. As long as he doesn't move somewhere too far away.

Strong, independent children do that sometimes.

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Response to pnwmom (Reply #19)

Sat Jul 25, 2015, 04:53 PM

21. In the immortal words of Mister Bill,...

..." OH NOOO!"

Possibly he won't, because he LUVS Maine!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 05:05 AM

13. Keep the baby things

because with all that love the 3 of you are emitting, it will draw those in need of love to you.

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Response to aspirant (Reply #13)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 04:35 PM

18. Thanks...

...the things that the state paid for had to go with Tommy but there are a lot of things we got on our own that we still have. Of course, we remember the song, stories and how to cuddle & hug & spoil rotten!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Fri Jul 24, 2015, 05:03 PM

20. Ah, man!

You guys are amassing HUGE "Good Human" points. Oh, if we had millions more like you.

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Response to Le Taz Hot (Reply #20)

Sat Jul 25, 2015, 04:56 PM

22. Good Human points...

...I think our cats give us those when we do what they want us to do!

Thank you, and we hope for another little jelly bean real soon!

PEACE!

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