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Sat Jul 18, 2015, 08:50 PM

Almost 3 weeks as foster parents.

First and foremost, I want to thank everyone in the DU community for your kind words of support when I wrote of our foster son Tommy arriving in our home back on June 30th.

Back when he arrived, he was 4 days old and had his DHHS social worker brought him here directly from being discharged from the hospital in Augusta.

I said at the time that we would love the little jelly bean if for no other reason that it is a baby's RIGHT to be loved by his or her caretakers. We got to love him regardless of that. It is amazing seeing how this little peanut changes from hour to hour. He is a hungry little baby and he makes our 15 year old son look like he's on a hunger strike!

Maria (my wife) and I were very complimented yesterday when we took Tommy to his first pediatrician's appointment and the doctors who examined him stated that it was obvious that he was a very well cared for and well nurtured & loved & contented a baby he is. Apparently our treatment plan of lots of cooing, cuddling, playing, songs and belly bouncing has been successful.

We had a bit of good news/bad news yesterday. Apparently a cousin of his birth mother has expressed a desire to foster Tommy and it appears that they meet all of the criteria for taking Tommy into their family. The GOOD news is that Tommy will be with a younger family that is a blood relation. The BAD news is that, even though hi is only 3 weeks old, we will miss him and his company. The likelihood is that he'll be going by the end of this week.

Maria and I get the definite impression that we've earned a very good reputation with DHHS, so we're confident that they'll place another baby with us very soon. We hope so, because we really ENJOY parenting. SO, Tommy is likely to be moving on very soon. we'll miss him but we'll be happy for him. We will love the next baby as much and we plan on following the same treatment plan with the next little jelly bean!

Thanks for reading.

PEACE!

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Reply Almost 3 weeks as foster parents. (Original post)
MarianJack Jul 2015 OP
Tripper11 Jul 2015 #1
MarianJack Jul 2015 #3
demmiblue Jul 2015 #2
MarianJack Jul 2015 #4
oldandhappy Jul 2015 #5
MarianJack Jul 2015 #8
lucca18 Jul 2015 #6
MarianJack Jul 2015 #9
SoapBox Jul 2015 #7
MarianJack Jul 2015 #10
lavenderdiva Jul 2015 #11
MarianJack Jul 2015 #14
riderinthestorm Jul 2015 #12
MarianJack Jul 2015 #15
passiveporcupine Jul 2015 #13
MarianJack Jul 2015 #16
Warpy Jul 2015 #17
MarianJack Jul 2015 #19
aspirant Jul 2015 #18
MarianJack Jul 2015 #20

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 09:02 PM

1. Wow amazing...good for you!!!

It's a big undertaking. Giving everything you can to a new human, then having to let them go can't be easy, but I for one would like to say thanks for doing it. Sad to know so many kids who need some type of family.
We foster cats and it's a tough enough to let them go to their forever home, to foster a little human, I just couldn't imagine. I'd want to keep them all.

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Response to Tripper11 (Reply #1)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 09:25 PM

3. If we had all of the kitties & doggies we wanted,...

...it'd be about 199, not the 2 cats & 1 doggie we do have.

We just LUV taking care of babies!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 09:02 PM

2. More jelly beans for the MarianJack family, please!

You sound like wonderful foster parents!

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Response to demmiblue (Reply #2)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 09:28 PM

4. Thank you, demmiblue!

May I qualify that to little baby jelly beans, not the real ones?

I'm too danged fat to have too many of the real jelly beans...Yikes!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 09:33 PM

5. I think you are wonderful.

Thank you for caring for jelly beans. Each one will fill your heart and each one will leave a hole.

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Response to oldandhappy (Reply #5)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:00 PM

8. Thank You, oldandhappy!

I can't think of a better way to describe our feelings about fostering!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 10:25 PM

6. So beautiful.....

I wish the best for this child! Thank you for caring..

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Response to lucca18 (Reply #6)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:03 PM

9. The caring is our pleasure!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 10:30 PM

7. Wow...what a great story.

I remember you initial post...you folks did good.

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Response to SoapBox (Reply #7)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:04 PM

10. Thank you, Soapbx!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:12 PM

11. Thank you so much for what you do

Opening your hearts and home to little ones in desperate need for care and love, and then being willing to let go, and do it all over again. You must be wonderful, giving, and loving people to open yourselves up to such great love and loss repeatedly. That you go in with your eyes open and arms wide is amazing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving safe refuge to these little ones and showing them love, and most of all stepping up, when there was no one else for this child at that time.

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Response to lavenderdiva (Reply #11)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:21 PM

14. Thank you so much!

We would be open to adoption, but I'm 60 and it 'd probably be better for a little ont to not have a geriatric father!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:14 PM

12. Just heartwarming and now I want jellybeans..

 



This is a great OP!

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #12)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:24 PM

15. We call him a little jelly bean...

...as my mom always called my son when he was little. The big danger is that we MAY just eat him up!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:21 PM

13. I know this won't be easy

but remember that you gave him some really great love at a very important time of his life. And noone can replace that. I hope you find a new baby soon. I so understand your need to be there for these kids who really need a lovinlg family and you are such a wonderful and rare blessing.

Thank you for what you do.

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Response to passiveporcupine (Reply #13)

Sat Jul 18, 2015, 11:27 PM

16. We DO love the babies!

We were very surprised to find out that not many foster families in Maine want babies for some reason.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Jul 19, 2015, 07:03 PM

17. It's not just being able to love and care for a baby in your care

it's also being able to let go gracefully when a family member steps up and wants to care for him or her. I've had trouble letting go of kittens. I don't know that I'd be very good at letting go of a child.

Thank you for doing this incredibly important work.

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Response to Warpy (Reply #17)

Sun Jul 19, 2015, 10:09 PM

19. We keep a few things in mind.

With his birth mom's cousin, he'll be with blood relatives and he'll be able to have a relationship with mm, even if the cousin's family adopts him

Also, our gamily (our 15 year old son included) has earned a very god reputation with Maine DHHS, so e'll get another little peanut to care for before long. My wife and I suspect, too, that our son now KNOWS where he can get free babysitting when he becomes a daddy...Yikes!!!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Jul 19, 2015, 08:05 PM

18. Just believe it,

this little one will remember forever what the 2 of you did.

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Response to aspirant (Reply #18)

Sun Jul 19, 2015, 10:13 PM

20. Not just the 2 of us!

Our son did a good job with this little guy, too, so it's really the 3 of us. We're very proud of our son and the man he's becoming!

PEACE!

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