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Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:36 PM

One of our very own DU members made it into the Boston globe!

And I should add for a very good reason! To DonViejo

How same-sex couples got the right to adopt in Massachusetts

PEDRO HERPIN AND RAMON HERNANDEZ estimate they have had close to 20 foster children in their home over the years. They adopted one of those foster children and have two more children, Herpin’s from a relationship when he was a teenager, and have also adopted a grandson. Theirs is a family constellation that is not possible in every state because of laws restricting adoptions by same-sex couples, and one that could not have existed in Massachusetts 30 years ago.

The family moved to Puerto Rico in 2007 to live near Herpin’s parents but came back five years later. The schools weren’t great, their marriage wasn’t recognized, and their status as a gay couple meant being foster parents was out of the question. “It’s a no-no in their eyes over there,” Herpin says. So they returned and settled in Avon. They most recently fostered a transgender teenager, whom they found through the Home for Little Wanderers in Boston, a child welfare agency that provides residential, community-based, and adoption services. “We heard about him and thought it was a good match for us,” Herpin says.

The match was good — for a while, though the teen recently left for a group home placement. So Herpin and Hernandez are back on the list of families ready for the next kids they may be able to help.

Public adoption — finding legally permanent homes for children in state custody — uses different processes than private or international adoption. In Massachusetts, same-sex couples are a significant part of the pool of parents the state draws upon to provide love, guidance, and homes for thousands of children whose families cannot care for them. The state does not track the sexual orientation of foster or adoptive parents, but people who work in the adoption world say that same-sex couples are absolutely part of the mainstream. “I would say there is a pretty universal acceptance of gay and lesbian couples in the adoption community as viable resources to parent our children,” says Lisa Funaro, executive director of Massachusetts Adoption Resource Exchange (MARE), a Boston nonprofit that works to find adoptive families for kids in foster care.


Posted with DonViejo permission.

WTG Don!

http://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2015/06/17/how-same-sex-couples-got-right-adopt-massachusetts/ulOm76fNVLApennqpzrVsI/story.html

ETA: so there is no confusion this picture was taken in 1985. But in my mind he's still a hottie! (that's what a heart of gold will do to you).

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Reply One of our very own DU members made it into the Boston globe! (Original post)
William769 Jun 2015 OP
Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #1
PeaceNikki Jun 2015 #2
William769 Jun 2015 #8
CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2015 #3
madfloridian Jun 2015 #4
Wilms Jun 2015 #5
panader0 Jun 2015 #6
William769 Jun 2015 #9
yallerdawg Jun 2015 #7
Spazito Jun 2015 #10
Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #11
shenmue Jun 2015 #12
William769 Jun 2015 #13
greatauntoftriplets Jun 2015 #14
William769 Jun 2015 #16
greatauntoftriplets Jun 2015 #17
FailureToCommunicate Jun 2015 #15
lovemydog Jun 2015 #18
MoonRiver Jun 2015 #23
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jen63 Jun 2015 #20
City Lights Jun 2015 #21
cal04 Jun 2015 #22
William769 Jun 2015 #28
treestar Jun 2015 #24
William769 Jun 2015 #25
mcar Jun 2015 #26
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femmocrat Jun 2015 #29
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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:38 PM

1. Pedro and Ramon! ^^^

 

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:40 PM

2. That's amazing. Beautiful people.

Thanks for sharing their story.

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Response to PeaceNikki (Reply #2)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:45 PM

8. Was my pleasure.

Don is such a sweetheart and this is just the icing on the cake.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:41 PM

3. Thank you for this beautiful story, my dear William769!

And thank you to our own DonViejo for permission to post that gorgeous picture!

Seeing these little children getting the loving and nurturing that they must have to become loving, nurturing adults we so desperately need makes my heart very happy...

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:42 PM

4. What a great story!

Thanks for sharing.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:43 PM

5. THAT is humbling!

 

Awesome Father's Day to you guys!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:43 PM

6. How very cool. Which guy is DonViejo?

20 foster kids! That is dedication. Good for you DV.
Recommended.

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Response to panader0 (Reply #6)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:46 PM

9. On the left.

No pun intended.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:44 PM

7. Expanding our basic human rights for the good!

This is change we can believe in.

Thank you, DonViego!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:46 PM

10. Beautiful!

Pedro and Ramon are truly role models to be admired and applauded.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:49 PM

11. Wow!

Love this!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:51 PM

12. I think I've got something in my eye



Is someone chopping onions?

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Response to shenmue (Reply #12)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:53 PM

13. Me too!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:54 PM

14. Happy Father's Day to Don and Dave!

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Response to greatauntoftriplets (Reply #14)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:56 PM

16. This was the perfect day to post this.

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Response to William769 (Reply #16)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:58 PM

17. Absolutely!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 04:55 PM

15. Perfect for Father's Day.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:01 PM

18. Happy father's day to you and your loved ones.

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Response to lovemydog (Reply #18)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:06 PM

23. Always fun to put a face to the name.

Congrats dads and happy father's day!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:03 PM

19. Without a doubt THE best

Father's Day story!! Don, you rock!

Thanks for posting, William.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:03 PM

20. What a beautiful photo!

Happy Father's Day!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:05 PM

21. Wonderful!

Happy Father's Day!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:05 PM

22. Thank you SO much for sharing William769

What a beautiful and terrific story DonViejo

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Response to cal04 (Reply #22)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:20 PM

28. Was happy to.

Don is such a great guy.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:06 PM

24. So cool !

Looks like they have done a lot of good for a lot of kids !

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Response to treestar (Reply #24)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:13 PM

25. Yes they have.

And hopefully this week there will be more to celebrate to add to this joyous occasion.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:13 PM

26. Happy Father's Day

To two amazing dads!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:16 PM

27. Wowsa, Wowsa!

Thank you for letting us know about this...it's just great.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:34 PM

29. Beautiful story!

Happy Father's Day, you two!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:39 PM

30. Huge K&R...

One of DU's finest.



Sid

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:42 PM

31. K&R

Happy Father's Day!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:52 PM

32. The caption for that picture should be in the OP....

 

Don Babets (left) and David Jean are surrounded by neighborhood kids in 1985. After the Globe published a story about the couple becoming foster parents, the state took the children away.


That shows how far we've come since Saint Ronnie of the Sacred Bonzo.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:53 PM

33. Don, the Spainish preface denoting nobility.

Seems noble to me.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:54 PM

34. Happy Father's Day. ..

To a wonderful couple with huge hearts

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 05:57 PM

35. Happy Father's day to both of you!

And bless you for having such giant hearts!!!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:06 PM

36. WUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNderful!!!!

Makes me proud!!!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:07 PM

37. This is awesome! Thanks for posting.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:18 PM

38. What a lovely family!

K & R

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:26 PM

39. Very cool.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:31 PM

40. Thank you for sharing that!

 

We have some damn fine people on DU.

Happy Father's day to Don .

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:38 PM

41. Sad I can only give this one rec..

Happy Father's Day to everyone. Best Father's Day story ever!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:39 PM

42. Great story.

 

Don is one of DU's best and always has been.

Happy Father's Day!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:47 PM

43. Excellent! N/t

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 06:49 PM

44. For DonViejo..that is beautiful.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:07 PM

45. Happy Fathers Day

To Don and Dave. Both have so much love in their hearts that it spilled over to all the children.

Here is to the other same sex couples that open their hearts and homes to the children. Such a beautiful story it makes me want to cry with joy.

Thank you for posting, William.

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Response to sheshe2 (Reply #45)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:10 PM

46. It restores a bit of faith in humanity.

 

Don and Dave represent our better angels, and do so splendidly.

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Response to hifiguy (Reply #46)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:12 PM

47. ^^^THIS^^^

Beautifully stated, hifiguy.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:13 PM

48. Mahalo William for posting this.. a wonderful history of our

friend and his family.. and the history of the how adoption for Gay Families came to be in Massachusetts!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:40 PM

49. Most Excellent Post !!!

 



& Rec !!!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 07:51 PM

50. OMG THEY ARE ADORABLE

the kids are pretty cute too

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 09:13 PM

51. Love this!

 

Love this. Happy Fathers Day DonViejo!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 09:24 PM

52. Moved to tears

Awesome!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 09:30 PM

53. How anyone could deny a stable, loving family

to children who desperately need one simply because of evil, unjustifiable bigotry I'll never understand. Hundreds of thousands of children languish in unloved, unwanted circumstances and there just aren't enough families willing/able/prepared to take in these children. What a nice story. Thank you for posting.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 09:31 PM

54. K&R Happy Fathers Day! nt

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Sun Jun 21, 2015, 10:24 PM

55. A wonderful read!

 

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 04:52 AM

56. DonViejo...

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 05:53 AM

57. K&R! How wonderful!

We really need a feel good story like this right now and kudos to our own DonViejo!!!

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 08:58 AM

58. Love this!

Every person should enjoy equal rights.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 12:22 PM

59. ((DonViejoFamily))

Happiest of Father's Days to you all.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 03:56 PM

60. Just lovely. Yes, there's something in my eye too.........

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 03:59 PM

61. Way to go.

I have a friend that has had over 50 foster children. He is now collecting luggage donations, then distributing them to Foster Children. He's a good lefty too.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 04:11 PM

62. wonderful!

so glad this got kicked right as I logged on, messed it yesterday.

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Response to William769 (Original post)

Mon Jun 22, 2015, 05:37 PM

63. Kicking.

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