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Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:30 PM

We are getting a Foster child in the next few days

My wife and I are going to be issued a license from the state of Maine to be foster parents, probably on Monday or Tuesday of this week. Ordinarily this wouldn't be such a big deal as for me to write about it, but this has been SUCH a long process, mostly due to the incompetence of a member of middle management in the licensing department, that it was made into a big deal, by them, over nonsensical issues. I won't bore you with all of the details because that isn't my goal in writing this, but I truly believe that they finally got off of the stick to issue this license due to the fact that they finally realized that I was willing to go (figuratively) to war to insure that our license was issued and not denied for ridiculous, petty and largely nonexistent issues.

I am going to be 60 in June. My wife is younger than I but will be 53 in July and our son will be 15 this coming Tuesday. We have asked for our foster child be a baby or toddler. We know that there are 3 possible scenarios that may play out. One is that the child will eventually be reunited with his or her own family, which is a VERY desirable outcome. Another is that he child is eventually adopted by a family, which is good if it's a stable, nurturing and loving family. The other scenario is that this child will be with us for good.

A GIVEN is that our family will love this child, regardless of whichever of the above scenarios plays out. I include our son in that as he is really looking forward to having a baby or little one in our house. He's always been terrific with little ones, even when he was little himself. My wife and son are OK with either gender. So am I, but I'm not so secretly hoping that we get a girl.

In the event that this child will be with us permanently, I have to confess that both my wife and I are excited about the prospect, even though it's pretty rare for people our age to have a baby in the house. That being said, we are a YOUNG 60 & 52. We think and look like younger people and, where I may not have the energy, and DO have way too much arthritis to play in the father/child softball or touch football game, my wife and I DO have a great deal of stability, maturity and love to offer this child.

Almost 15 years ago, my wife and I were given notice of about 18 hours that we were going to take custody of our son the next day and she spent the day cleaning and preparing our place while I was running all over the Philadelphia suburbs getting groceries and baby supplies. This week we anticipate running all over the Central Maine area to get things we'll need to have for a baby in the house...like a crib and a car seat and diapers and formula and wipes and toys and...YIKES!!! Fortunately, last Saturday we made friends with a lady who has a consignment baby and child store just around the corner from our house. She has our number in case some of the things we need come her way and we liked her Facebook page so we can see what's new in her shop.

We know that this is big challenge that we're taking on, but we also know that we are more than up for the task and that we have, as our entire family has a great desire to do, the opportunity to make a positive difference in the life of a child. Thank you for reading and for your hoped for good thoughts for us.

That's my 2 cents, and quite probably overpriced at that!

PEACE!

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Reply We are getting a Foster child in the next few days (Original post)
MarianJack Mar 2015 OP
Duckhunter935 Mar 2015 #1
MarianJack Mar 2015 #2
PoliticAverse Mar 2015 #3
MarianJack Mar 2015 #11
marym625 Mar 2015 #4
MarianJack Mar 2015 #12
marym625 Mar 2015 #13
MarianJack Mar 2015 #22
Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #5
MarianJack Mar 2015 #14
RiverLover Mar 2015 #6
MarianJack Mar 2015 #15
Laurian Mar 2015 #7
MarianJack Mar 2015 #17
LeftyMom Mar 2015 #8
MarianJack Mar 2015 #18
cal04 Mar 2015 #9
MarianJack Mar 2015 #19
brer cat Mar 2015 #10
MarianJack Mar 2015 #20
ripcord Mar 2015 #16
MarianJack Mar 2015 #21
irisblue Mar 2015 #23
MrMickeysMom Mar 2015 #24
mnhtnbb Mar 2015 #25
nomorenomore08 Mar 2015 #26
Dems to Win Mar 2015 #27
OregonBlue Mar 2015 #28
kwassa Mar 2015 #29
onecaliberal Mar 2015 #30
sheshe2 Mar 2015 #31
3catwoman3 Mar 2015 #32
Liberal_in_LA Mar 2015 #36
IrishEyes Mar 2015 #33
JDPriestly Mar 2015 #34
Liberal_in_LA Mar 2015 #35
Thekaspervote Mar 2015 #37
pnwmom Mar 2015 #38
oldandhappy Mar 2015 #39
Euphoria Mar 2015 #40
niyad Mar 2015 #41

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:32 PM

1. Great news and good luck

 

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Response to Duckhunter935 (Reply #1)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:33 PM

2. Thanx!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:35 PM

3. Best wishes to you all! n/t

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Response to PoliticAverse (Reply #3)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:48 PM

11. Thank you, Politicverse!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:35 PM

4. congratulations

And how wonderful of you

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Response to marym625 (Reply #4)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:49 PM

12. Thank you, marym625!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #12)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:52 PM

13. No, thank you

There is nothing more honorable than what you are doing

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Response to marym625 (Reply #13)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:02 PM

22. Honor!

Something my mom always harped on when I was a kid...Thank God!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:35 PM

5. how wonderful - so excited for you two. Congratulations!

Best wishes as you embark on this new journey as a family.

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Response to Tuesday Afternoon (Reply #5)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:52 PM

14. Thank you, Tuesday Afternoon.

Yes, we ARE doing this as a family because our son has been involved in this decision the whole way. He's smart kid with a big heart and my wife and I are very proud of him.

That being said, we frequently want to put him up to his knees in floor, 15 you know!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:39 PM

6. That is so wonderful!

Congratulations!

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Response to RiverLover (Reply #6)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:53 PM

15. Thank you, RiverLover!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:39 PM

7. Fantastic! All the best to you and your family.

I think there is a very lucky child in your future.

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Response to Laurian (Reply #7)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:54 PM

17. Thanks, Laurian!

We'll do all we can do to make that child lucky!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:43 PM

8. Thank you and good luck!

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Response to LeftyMom (Reply #8)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:55 PM

18. Thank YOU, LeftyMom!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:44 PM

9. That's terrific news!

Congratulations and good luck!

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Response to cal04 (Reply #9)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:56 PM

19. Thanks, cal04.

We'll NEED the good luck!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:44 PM

10. Great news, MarianJack!

Best of luck to you with a new family member. I am sure you will both be terrific parents. Please keep us posted!

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Response to brer cat (Reply #10)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:58 PM

20. Thank you, brer cat.

We do our best to be good parents.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:54 PM

16. Congratulations

You are good people.

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Response to ripcord (Reply #16)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 09:59 PM

21. Thanks, ripcord.

We try!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:25 PM

23. bless that kid...and the parents WOOHOO!!!!

we together, today, are blessed by so much WE GOT A CHILD!!!
everybody sing, all of us dance... for to us is is given a child.....

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:25 PM

24. I say… hooray for the both of you...

And, a lot of respect. I wish everyone had the forethought you all have where children are concerned.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:29 PM

25. I just turned 64 this month and can't imagine having a baby in the house.

Good on you--and your wife--and best of luck with your new foster child!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:33 PM

26. You two (or three) are so big-hearted and unselfish. Honestly, you shame most of us.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:40 PM

27. Congratulations! You've fought a difficult bureaucracy and won --

 

an achievement to be proud of. An attaboy for you!

Lots of good luck and best wishes sent to your whole family from me.

Enjoy the little one.

Peace and Joy

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:41 PM

28. I wish you joy. My husband and I fostered 2 boys, one of whom was our grandson for a couple of

years and finally got permanent guardianship of them. They are now 10 and 12 and the most amazing joy in our lives. We're both in our upper 60's so it's harder to get it all done and the trips are mostly camping now instead of backpacking but it keeps us young and involved. I am so happy for you. It's the most wonderful thing in the world. Congratulations. I suspect now the hard part will be not falling so much in love that you can't let your little one go!!

We can't even imagine our lives without them now or remember what it was like before they came.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:44 PM

29. I became an adoptive parent at age 55.

I am now 62 with a fabulous 8 year old, who had her birthday on Friday.

We are also a very active and young-ish couple.

No regrets whatsoever.

Best of luck to you and your wife, and your foster child.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 10:48 PM

30. Fantastic news!

Sending tons of well wishes to your incredible family.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 11:21 PM

31. Bless you heart, Marian Jack.

To your new family

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 11:25 PM

32. This is a brave and big-hearted thing the 3 of you are doing, and I can...

...tell, just from the eloquence of your writing, that whichever child enters your lives will be a very lucky little person. My respect and admiration to you.

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Response to 3catwoman3 (Reply #32)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:02 AM

36. what she said

 

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 11:33 PM

33. Congratulations!

It sounds like you will make great foster parents and your son will be a good big brother.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Sun Mar 29, 2015, 11:59 PM

34. Good luck! It is so important that foster children find good homes.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:01 AM

35. congrats!

 

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:07 AM

37. Sooo wonderful that you are giving an under served child a home!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:11 AM

38. The best of luck to you and your wife, MarianJack!

Thank you on behalf of whatever little child you end up taking in.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:34 AM

39. SUPERB!!!!!

Thank you for telling us. Tis worth well more than 2-cents, smile. Congratulations re your persistence with the government stuff and lots and lots of best wishes re all the loving and diapers you will now have in your lives. Thank you for your generous hearts. The three of you are a life-changing family for the child loaned to you.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 06:43 AM

40. Thank you for sharing this wonderful

Beginning in all of your lives-including your son and the baby! The love, joy and excited anticipation just jumped off the page and entered my heart.
Thank you for the reminder and please keep us posted, in between diapering, washing, early morning feelings and all that loving care.

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Mar 30, 2015, 12:29 PM

41. excellent news. what a loving, wonderful home that child will enter.

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