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RandySF

(57,661 posts)
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 01:46 PM Sep 2014

Time to bite the bullet and see if my son has a reading disability.

When it comes to school, my 8-year old son is like two different kids in one. His math skills are above grade level and he can already beat some adults in chess. He can remember small details from events that took place years ago and knows all 50 days by sight and location. But when it's time to read, he sounds like he's way behind and struggles to describe what he just went over. It's frustrating and worrying. The teachers from kidergarten on up say he's just fine, but I've always had this nagging doubt. Fear of learning the truth has kept me from having checked out, but we can't put it off any longer. Wish us luck.

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Time to bite the bullet and see if my son has a reading disability. (Original Post) RandySF Sep 2014 OP
Good for you. MineralMan Sep 2014 #1
Best of luck! cyberswede Sep 2014 #2
convergence insufficiency? wyldwolf Sep 2014 #3
Good luck. It's better to know the truth and work on it, that have him end up winter is coming Sep 2014 #4
I'm betting he's just fine malaise Sep 2014 #5
awesome idea. Low vocab, high interest. That is the way to go with a kid who roguevalley Sep 2014 #12
We recently got hooked on Korean dramas (and we don't speak Korean). IdaBriggs Sep 2014 #19
I taught remedial English to several young folks malaise Sep 2014 #20
As a Dyslexic ... 1StrongBlackMan Sep 2014 #6
you are my hero. This old teacher applauds you. roguevalley Sep 2014 #11
Yes ... 1StrongBlackMan Sep 2014 #16
I had a mild learning disability and was diagnosed in the 4th grade davidpdx Sep 2014 #17
If possible, and you think it appropriate, have more than one evaluation done. randome Sep 2014 #7
I agree. (Teacher old school here) find the commonalities. There is truth here but roguevalley Sep 2014 #10
That is a good idea davidpdx Sep 2014 #18
You're doing the right thing. lindysalsagal Sep 2014 #8
taught reading forever. kids sometimes with great math abilities have trouble reading. roguevalley Sep 2014 #9
Good luck kcr Sep 2014 #13
My son has/had severe dyslexia. Control-Z Sep 2014 #14
Good luck to you both Tree-Hugger Sep 2014 #15
my son is the same. Quayblue Sep 2014 #21

MineralMan

(146,192 posts)
1. Good for you.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 01:48 PM
Sep 2014

After testing, you'll know, and if there's a reading problem, you can begin working on it. Good parenting. There can be many reasons for difficulty with reading. Most can be solved.

cyberswede

(26,117 posts)
2. Best of luck!
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 01:51 PM
Sep 2014

It sounds like your son is bright, and you're a supportive & involved parent - both those factors will be beneficial, if he does have a disability.

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
4. Good luck. It's better to know the truth and work on it, that have him end up
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 01:55 PM
Sep 2014

frustrated and unhappy in school.

 

IdaBriggs

(10,559 posts)
19. We recently got hooked on Korean dramas (and we don't speak Korean).
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 09:26 PM
Sep 2014

My daughter's reading has improved substantially over the summer thanks to the "closed caption/subtitles".

I highly recommend "Empress Ki." We also loved "Gu Family Book" but "Empress Ki" was our first and blew us away.

Good luck to the original poster!

malaise

(267,827 posts)
20. I taught remedial English to several young folks
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 09:36 PM
Sep 2014

for several years and was amazed at how well caption/subtitles helped the slower ones. One of my friends allowed her kids to watch an hour of TV before bed but only if they wrote down and looked up three new words from the closed caption every night.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
6. As a Dyslexic ...
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 02:06 PM
Sep 2014

That struggled through school in my early years, until I was diagnosed, I strongly encourage you to follow through with the testing.

I, now, possess 2 undergraduate degrees, a Master, s Degree, a Professional Degree and a successful career; none of which would have come had I not been tested in the 3rd grade.

Good luck.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
11. you are my hero. This old teacher applauds you.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 04:31 PM
Sep 2014

I was dyslexic too. Got my masters anyway. In my day, you were slow, not dyslexic. Slow to bloom.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
16. Yes ...
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 08:44 PM
Sep 2014

I was called slow too. But could do math in my head and could recall just about anything told to me.

Thank the Universe Moms knew better and cared.

davidpdx

(22,000 posts)
17. I had a mild learning disability and was diagnosed in the 4th grade
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 09:17 PM
Sep 2014

I was able to get help and by the 9th grade was in all regular classes, by the 10th grade I was pushing myself hard. Made honor roll the last semester of high school.

I have an undergraduate, MBA, and am a doctoral candidate.

I totally agree, if I would not have been tested I'm not sure all of that would have been possible.

I encourage the OP to share these stories with his child if it is determined that he has a disability and reassure him that there are plenty of people who have done well in life and overcome it.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
7. If possible, and you think it appropriate, have more than one evaluation done.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 02:27 PM
Sep 2014

Sometimes experts leap to a fortuitous conclusion (for their practice), or are too stressed for time to do a proper diagnosis.

And different evaluations, even if reaching the same conclusion, may bring important details to light that might otherwise be missed.
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roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
10. I agree. (Teacher old school here) find the commonalities. There is truth here but
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 04:30 PM
Sep 2014

nowadays, there is also bullshit.

davidpdx

(22,000 posts)
18. That is a good idea
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 09:20 PM
Sep 2014

Making sure he has a correct diagnosis is important if he does have a learning disability. The diagnosis will determine what kind of help he might need.

lindysalsagal

(20,444 posts)
8. You're doing the right thing.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 03:55 PM
Sep 2014

Teacher here. Since almost everything in your child's life depends on reading, we've learned that the younger we can help, the better. Schools are about 1000x better at diagnosing and helping than schools were when I was in school. Don't let your own childhood impressions fog your judgement, because things are totally different, now.

With your help, your child will be fine.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
9. taught reading forever. kids sometimes with great math abilities have trouble reading.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 04:29 PM
Sep 2014

try looking at his eyes and how he sees. my partner used to get plastic sheets of different colors, clear plastic sheets, then put them over the page. Usually yellow helped clear up the 'eye noise' that made reading difficult. Even if it doesn't cure it I think you need to try. Could be his learning style for symbols hasn't been found yet. I used to do flashcards with my classes, all the abc's in order. I would say all the different sounds for the letters (about 46 sounds if I remember ... its been a while) correctly, then they would repeat them back to me, usually in a happy chanting rhythm. We did it five times a day for two weeks, rested a week, then did it again. I never, repeat never had a kid who couldn't read independently by Christmas and here's the reason why. I was old school and didn't know it was normal to have non-readers by mid year. My kids loved the cards, we often raised the roof and had fun.

Make sure to ask questions, cut through the BS that is typical in education now and hang in there. Get this going now. As they get older, they are harder to motivate. Kids WANT to learn. They give up when they fail without help for too long. You are doing good here. Don't wait. You wouldn't wait on a broken leg, don't wait for this. Good luck, honey.

Reading is magic. It was the greatest thrill I had as a teacher to finally see my five and six year old kids read on their own. Give them the skills, rote it out until they get it, then watch them go. No one gives kids enough repetitions on anything anymore because they (the teachers now) find it 'boring' (for them). This is work but it is only work for a while. -RVdss

kcr

(15,300 posts)
13. Good luck
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 04:34 PM
Sep 2014

If you haven't already, rule out eye problems like amblyopia (lazy eye) My older son had this issue.

Control-Z

(15,681 posts)
14. My son has/had severe dyslexia.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 06:54 PM
Sep 2014

He was about 6 when we figured it out. He ended up going to a special school for a few years where the treatment was one on one and advanced. He grew in leaps and bounds with their techniques.

He had to start with just one word at a time showing on any page he was reading - along with other exercises.

It's odd how we put off doing something about it. In our case his father insisted there was nothing wrong when I started noticing something was wrong several years earlier.

Good luck to you and your son. You are doing the right thing.

Tree-Hugger

(3,364 posts)
15. Good luck to you both
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 08:20 PM
Sep 2014

My son is 8. He is the exceptionally bright, has a way above average IQ. He is very scientific. He also has a master grasp on vocabulary. He struggles with reading and writing. I've been working with his school. He's been through a few evaluations. He now has an IEP in place and receives in classroom support. He's made progress.

It's been very frustrating for him because he's so smart and has great ideas, but he can't express them through writing yet and he struggles with reading. It's hard on the kids.

Keep on top of the school. Many are very good at working through these challenges. Be a very strong advocate for him.

Good luck to you both.

Quayblue

(1,045 posts)
21. my son is the same.
Sat Sep 6, 2014, 10:22 PM
Sep 2014

He's really good in math (second grade this year), but I'm gonna bust ass with him and see what results we get. He associates words with memories, so I will work with him this way.

Good luck to you all.

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