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Mon Apr 2, 2012, 12:37 AM

Every time I think of Treyvon Martin I see my son's face.

My wife and I adopted our son when he was 3 1/2 months old. Yesterday we celebrated his 12th birthday. Each day he becomes less and less a baby or a little kid and more and more a young man. As with all parents, I'm sure, when he learns something new or shows a more advanced level of maturity or shows that his interests are becoming more adult, my wife and I are proud of the advance and at the same time sorry for what's being left behind.

My son has recently made a new best friend. They do as all boys that age do, go into his room and play video games for hours on end, eat everything in sight and talk about school, teachers, girls and, I'm sure, what pains in the ass their parents are. The only difference I see from when I was their age is that you could replace video games with comic books.

The biggest difference between my son and his friends and his parents and about 97% of the population up here in Maine however, is that my son has a black skin.

Yesterday we had as good a birthday celebration as we could have given that I haven't had a job in 10 months. My sister-in-law bought him a bike that we picked up at the store. We put a few dollars in a card and took him to the video game store here in town for a couple of games. I baked him a birthday cake and made one of his favorite dinners at home and we let him pick the Netflix movie we'd watch during dinner. My wife and I also split his chores between us for the day. He very maturely accepted that his big celebration with Mom and dad will have to wait until after I get a job, when we'll take him for a huge Chinese Buffet feast and give him his gifts from us. All in all it was a very nice day.

That is, until I looked in the rear view mirror and saw my beautiful son wearing the hood on his jacket.

I realized even more so than before that if there were an armed racist out hunting "f***in c***s" as george zimmerman was, my son's gentle and loving nature would mean NOTHING. The fact that this young man who has, since he was 5, always wanted to buy food for any homeless person he sees at a McDonald's or any other fast food restaurant would mean NOTHING. The fact that the worst thing this bright, articulate and handsome young man has ever done was to be a frequent pain in the ass to his parents and teachers in the same way that most kids the same age are would mean NOTHING. The fact that he is loved unconditionally and passionately by parents who would sacrifice their lives to save his in less than a heartbeat and consider it the best bargain we'd ever made would mean NOTHING. The devastating loss for us and our friends and family would mean NOTHING. These things would mean nothing to a george zimmerman type because they would only care about "bagging their prey".

I remember when one of Ted Kennedy's sons lost a leg to cancer at about the same age that my son is now, he said that having children is like giving hostages to the world. I realize now just how true and powerful a statement that is.

When I was a child, my mother used to let me walk to and from kindergarten alone once I knew the way. Do you know why? Because EVERYBODY's mother let them do the same (at least where I grew up). Once my father took a powder when I was in first grade and my older sister got married not long after, I was a latchkey child. Neither my mother nor I ever had any concern for my safety in going to and from school.

That was in the 1960s. This is now.

Dangerous racist "hunters" like george zimmerman are out there. They will be supported by the teabagger republicans and fox news who will slime and smear the victims who have the temerity to have been born in a black skin to make them look like the criminals and attempt to turn the murderers into the victims.

We have to do everything we possibly can to stop this. One way is to give the racist republican/teabagger/fox news congregation the political repudiation that they so richly deserve this November. Another way is to demand, long and loud, that george zimmerman go to jail for a very long time.

We stopped the vietnam war by letting the powers that be know that the whole world was watching. This needs to be done again.

PEACE!

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Reply Every time I think of Treyvon Martin I see my son's face. (Original post)
MarianJack Apr 2012 OP
Suich Apr 2012 #1
MarianJack Apr 2012 #2
BeHereNow Apr 2012 #3
MarianJack Apr 2012 #12
freshwest Apr 2012 #4
MarianJack Apr 2012 #13
Swagman Apr 2012 #5
MarianJack Apr 2012 #14
wendylaroux Apr 2012 #30
MarianJack Apr 2012 #31
Ecumenist Apr 2012 #6
MarianJack Apr 2012 #15
malaise Apr 2012 #7
MarianJack Apr 2012 #16
notadmblnd Apr 2012 #8
MarianJack Apr 2012 #18
knitter4democracy Apr 2012 #9
MarianJack Apr 2012 #19
NOLALady Apr 2012 #10
BeHereNow Apr 2012 #17
MarianJack Apr 2012 #22
NOLALady Apr 2012 #29
BeHereNow Apr 2012 #32
MarianJack Apr 2012 #20
Bluerthanblue Apr 2012 #11
MarianJack Apr 2012 #21
Chorophyll Apr 2012 #23
MarianJack Apr 2012 #24
pinboy3niner Apr 2012 #25
MarianJack Apr 2012 #28
Post removed Apr 2012 #26
MarianJack Apr 2012 #27
NEOhiodemocrat Apr 2012 #33
MarianJack Apr 2012 #34
MarianJack Apr 2012 #35
mainer Apr 2012 #36
MarianJack Apr 2012 #37

Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:11 AM

1. This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.

K&R!

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Response to Suich (Reply #1)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:21 AM

2. Thank you Suich.

I can't imagine what Trayvon's parents are going through.

Selfishly, I never want to know.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:37 AM

3. Powerful...

I also see my child's face- and my child is an adult female child.

Every parent needs to contemplate the possibility that their child might
have been the victim of a vigilante stalker.
Justice for all, or justice for none.
That is what this comes down to.

BHN

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Response to BeHereNow (Reply #3)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:27 AM

12. Justice for all, or Justice for none.

That's the way it should be. Unfortunatly, it IS ...and Justice for some.

Of course, the rightists want it to be justice for none.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:50 AM

4. Powerful, thanks so much.

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Response to freshwest (Reply #4)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:28 AM

13. Thank you, freshwest.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 03:29 AM

5. so good to read a personal view that puts it into perspective

so depressing the way in which the victim has been victimised all over again because of his race.

I can imagine so many parents must think likewise and what a terrible thing that is to think that their child may die on the way home from the local shop.

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Response to Swagman (Reply #5)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:32 AM

14. When I saw him in his hood,...

...I felt terror for him.

He is my precious son and if someone hurt him, especially due to his race, I seriously think I'd have a very difficult time NOT responding to violence with violence. The thing that would stop me would be the fact of my son's gentle and non-violent nature.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Reply #14)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 03:27 PM

30. Marion

Your piece was excellent!

The horror these parents,and so many others have gone through would be too much to endure. I couldn't do it. I would loose my mind,and never get it back.

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Response to wendylaroux (Reply #30)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 03:34 PM

31. Thank you, wendylaroux.

Perhaps very selfishly, I never want to have to go through what Trayvon's parents are now enduring.

Every child is precious.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 04:43 AM

6. MarianJack, we who do care AND know firsthand what it's like to be viewed by fellow Americans

as less than human will NOT STOP FIGHTING for the simple human right to be know that a simple walk to the store is ALWAYS just that and that someday, your son will raise children in a world where they can wear anything they want, go to stores to shop, ride bikes with friends and the thought that someone would stalk them with an eye toward hurting will seem as insane as a Nobel Prize for Sarah Palin.

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Response to Ecumenist (Reply #6)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:33 AM

15. You describe a beautiful world.

May it be and very soon

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 05:16 AM

7. I love this OP

It's both scary and hopeful.

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Response to malaise (Reply #7)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:33 AM

16. Thankful, malaise!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 06:29 AM

8. I share your concern. My son is 19

he was brought home by the police once when he was about 14. Why? He was riding his bike with a friend and they decided to go in opposite directions. The police decided that it was drug deal. They chased him down, searched him and brought him home after they accused him of having a crack pipe. At no time did my son possess or sell drugs. What he had in his pocket was a bike wrench.

I told him right in front of the police, to never run because that it the way you get shot in the back. One of the officers said to me maam, we would never do that. I just look at him and told him to have a nice day.

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Response to notadmblnd (Reply #8)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:38 AM

18. The thought of your story makes me frightened.

My best wishes for your son.

There are many decent and honest cops out there. Unfortunately there are too many who se themselves a Rambo and are WAY too trigger happy.

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 08:31 AM

9. He looks like one of my former students.

I've always considered my students my kids, and his picture looks so much like one of my former students that it's a bit scary. The thought of losing one of them to some racist vigilante makes me sick to my stomach. He looked like such an amazing young man with all kinds of potential and kind eyes. All of that lost because that fracking bigot just saw his skin color. Makes me sick.

Trayvon could have been almost anyone. You're right: his murderer didn't see him, just the signs he was looking for.

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Response to knitter4democracy (Reply #9)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:41 AM

19. After I see my son's face,...

...I see the faces of my former students and my neices and nephews.

george zimmerman needs to go to jail for a VERY LONG time!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 09:02 AM

10. You know,

My son is grown but he lives with us as he can't afford to live on his own.

He didn't come home last night which is not unusual as sometimes he spends the night with friends. I texted him about an hour ago for him to reassure me that he's at work. He has not responded yet. He's probably busy. I don't like the way I'm feeling. I'm certain he's busy and will respond the first chance that he gets.

But, I am still checking the phone.

I look at Trayvon and see my son, also.

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Response to NOLALady (Reply #10)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:36 AM

17. Oh, I hate when they do that...

Same situation here-
Please get back to us and let us know he is okay...
I'll be worried about it all day...
My daughter lives with us for the same reasons and I
freak out when she doesn't come home and doesn't reply
to VM or text.
You are not alone.


BHN

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Response to BeHereNow (Reply #17)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:53 AM

22. I'm seeing that same future!

I wonder if what you say to your daughter is somewhat reflected in your screen name?

They think that we're pains in the ass when we want only to protect them from all the evils of the world.

PEACE!

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Response to BeHereNow (Reply #17)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 02:08 PM

29. Thanks for your concern.

I didn't want to call his job. You know, couldn't have his Mom checking up on him.

But, my daughter came over and saw that look on my face. So, she called. Everything's OK.

But, I feel like I'm on heightened alert, anxious, on edge. I usually worry somewhat when I don't know where they are. But now, I am in overdrive mode.

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Response to NOLALady (Reply #29)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 03:59 PM

32. I've been on "overdrive" for several years now-

It's not a good thing, health wise, but this world is getting crazier
by the minute, so any one who is paying attention is likely to
go into "overdrive" anxiety mode.
Especially when you don't know if your child is safe.

I get it- I really do.

BHN

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Response to NOLALady (Reply #10)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:44 AM

20. Did he get back to you? I hope he's OK!

I can foresee the same circumstance with my son where I'd give him a hug and then a kick in the ass!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 09:45 AM

11. beautiful- so beautiful,

your words, your experience and your family.
Thank you for this excellent post

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Response to Bluerthanblue (Reply #11)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 10:51 AM

21. Thank you, bluerthanblue.

I think that I look at everything from the perspective of how it relates to my family. If I'm "known" for ANYTHING at this forum, it's probably that.

It's very frightening how fragile the life of a young person can be when confronted by an armed racist on the hunt. Shudder!

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 11:00 AM

23. MarianJack, this is so wonderfully written, powerful, and true.

I am completely with you and I would venture to say that most decent people are as well. There will always be setbacks because human beings are a messy lot, but I still believe, as MLK said, that the arc of history bends toward justice.

Happy birthday to your son!

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Response to Chorophyll (Reply #23)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 11:07 AM

24. I never heard that MLK statement. Thank you.

I do believe that most people are very decent and are outraged with what happenned to Trayvon (once the media tears itself away from who lost on "Danceing With the Stars" and covers actual news).

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 12:28 PM

25. Kids in hoodies were part of the march for Trayvon yesterday in L.A.

They were a constant reminder of why this fight, at this time, is so important...



Riding public transportation before and after the march--buses, subways and commuter rail--I was surrounded by minority kids who deserve a better future.

Coming home, when my train reached my station, I was waiting to get off with a young Black couple and their child. The young man pointed out my 'Million Hoodie March L.A.' shirt to his wife, and after we talked about that, he thanked me.

I was a little taken aback, because I didn't expect to be thanked just for being a white man involved in this issue. I was only able to say, "We're doing it for ALL of us"--not the best response, but the best I could manage at the time.

On the way home from the station I stopped at Walgreen's, and the young white woman who checked me out commented on my shirt. Being in a very red community of CA where displaying anything progressive, dem, or, at least to some extent, even anti-racism is almost an act of defiance, it was heartening to find this young woman knowledgable about the issue and about the marches and rallies occurring in our area--and VERY supportive.

The question used to be, "If not now, when?" Now, finally, for all of the tragedy and grief and loss, something positive is happening. Not an overnight cure, but a step, or two, or three toward a better world for your son.

Thanks for sharing your powerful story, MarianJack. Big K&R!

Love & Peace.
pinboy3niner

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Response to pinboy3niner (Reply #25)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:45 PM

28. Thank you, too!

It's responses like yours that make me wish we could K&R answers to threads, too!

PEACE!

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Mon Apr 2, 2012, 01:43 PM

27. Please allow me to embroider your nonsensical retort...

...on a Whoopie cushion!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 08:35 PM

33. Our Children are so precious

I can't understand this world. How can the color of a child's skin make them less worthy of life? I agree, we definitely need to do everything we can to stop this.

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Response to NEOhiodemocrat (Reply #33)

Mon Apr 2, 2012, 08:40 PM

34. We had a long discussion with our son about this...

...again.

One step needed is reflected in my new sig line, "George Zimmerman needs to go to jail for a VERY long time".

PEACE!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Apr 3, 2012, 07:01 AM

35. Hay everybody, check out this thread. It's important!

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Response to MarianJack (Original post)

Tue Apr 3, 2012, 07:43 AM

36. We are not black, but I see my sons' faces in Trayvon's as well

You don't have to be the same race to see your own child smiling out of Trayvon's eyes. There's an eagerness there, a light, a joy that came from knowing his whole life stretched ahead of him. That's why this has so obsessed me and torn me up inside. Trayvon is everyone's son, everywhere.

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Response to mainer (Reply #36)

Tue Apr 3, 2012, 08:51 AM

37. You're right.

EVERYONE'S son or daughter is a potential target when dealing with a trigger happy "human hunter". Thought and consideration aren't really a big part of what people like zimmerman do is it? If it were, he'd have backed off like the 911 dispatcher told him to, Trayvon would have probably told the cops what he was doing and we'd have never heard of this young man.

Instead, he's dead, his family devastatd and every concerned parent sees their child as a potential target for morons like george zimmerman who will be supported by the bagger/republican party and fox "news".

PEACE!

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