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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsCan we PLEASE have a "gender forum" where all gender-based threads can go die?
Rules could look something like this:
**** If a gender is called out in the OP, but has no pertinence to the topic, it belongs in the gender forum.
**** If the OP is gratuitously sexy for no reason other than to be sexy, it belongs in the gender forum.
Threads about real political topics where gender is a factor, including rape, abortion, LGBT threads, etc., would not belong in the gender forum. Political satire can also be excluded. But the gratuitous stuff...get rid of it.
Any other rules?
I'm just so sick of the gender wars going on right now in GD. It diminishes DU. I honestly think some kind of rules need to be established.
Am I alone in this wish?
1000words
(7,051 posts)Seriously.
TroglodyteScholar
(5,477 posts)Why should DU change to accommodate people who refuse to use them?
Absurd.
1000words
(7,051 posts)Enough folks put a poster on ignore, they've effectively been voted off the island.
TroglodyteScholar
(5,477 posts)And it brings me nothing but joy when I see that an ignored poster has responded to me.
I don't get the least bit curious. Just that warm fuzzy "not gonna deal with that garbage again" feeling.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)style war zone, I think.
I use the trash can a bunch right now.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Sadly, they've banned so many members from there that the only way to reach the target audience is to proselytize post in GD.
FourScore
(9,704 posts)lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)1000words
(7,051 posts)I've seen HOF used as an abbreviation for "Hair on fire."
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Silent3
(15,148 posts)Later asked someone to make sure, and for the first time learned about History of Feminism.
Doctor_J
(36,392 posts)The actual HoF is pretty monotonous.
1000words
(7,051 posts)if there is a History of Feminism Hair on Fire Hall of Fame.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Plenty could give a fuck - about any of the numerous 'woman', 'feminist' forums.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)and a bunch of answers. It's a lounge thread from last June.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018415045
seaglass
(8,171 posts)have been posted there. It fits your group.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)It's their group. They can post whatever the fuck they want to - which is pretty much the rule for any group/haven.
seaglass
(8,171 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Or is that 'no shit' because it bothers the hell out of you that they have that thread? People that don't belong to a group don't really have shit to say about what is in there. If people start having an 'I don't like that' attitude towards groups they don't belong to, all hell is going to break loose. People need to respect the group's boundaries, whether they like and/or agree with them or not.
seaglass
(8,171 posts)say anything that I didn't already know.
I'll repeat what I said in different words. lumberjack_jeff suggested threads such as the OP had wanted in a gender forum should be posted in HoF. Since the OP specifically mentioned " If the OP is gratuitously sexy for no reason other than to be sexy, it belongs in the gender forum." I suggested the Men's Group would be a better fit because they already have gratuitous threads with half-naked women whereas HoF does not. Is it now clear?
You are under a mistaken impression if you think I can't comment about whatever I see on DU, wherever it is.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)So I wouldn't know or care if you had 10 naked threads in there.
I said nothing about that, because frankly I'm sure he's kidding.
I agree. We ALL can comment on whatever we see on DU. You have made that clear.
seaglass
(8,171 posts)Enjoy your day.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Enjoy your disjointed, OT day too, dear.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Pffft. This isn't worth any more of my attention.
seaglass
(8,171 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)seaglass
(8,171 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)How DARE you? I have some lovely pashminas....and make up.....
Shall I send you a lovely chianti....no fava beans ....
pintobean
(18,101 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Project much?
OilemFirchen
(7,143 posts)I would think that HoF would be just as appropriate a group. Or are men not considered sexy amongst the members?
seaglass
(8,171 posts)has such a thread with both females and males. HoF does not.
Oh!
im convinced. they would accept me. oh wait.
libodem
(19,288 posts)It was so nice and quite when one of them had her time out. I thought it was worth renewal of my star.
I care that women are treated with respect and equality but this behavior makes it difficult to like some members of my own sex.
I find the deflection of lol after the snotty comments especially disingenuous.
I agree...now that a certain poster has returned, these ridiculous threads are starting to pop up again
libodem
(19,288 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)I HATE the bullying most of all. It makes my skin crawl to see it.
It is the instigating and then the proclamation of innocence and not being serious about the intention. Just throw in a lol and a to prove you are in a hilarious mood and the poor fuck you have furious is taking it wrong.
Feral Child
(2,086 posts)It's gruesome.
kcr
(15,315 posts)but others get a pass
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4515713
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4517501
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4503175
This was while Seabeyond was away
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4385852
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)We are the problem. What a fuckin joke. The blatant insults are just fine for these people.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)You dont belong to. What a fuckin joke. You expect respect. But don't give it. Blatant insults are just fine for some people.
What a fuckin joke. Demanding respect. When you dont give it. Life is hard.
edit to add -----
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I have mine. You have your's.
Mine is no less valid than your's.
I consider your opinion bullshit. Here we are.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Whatever you say.
I have better things to do right now frankly, than listen to gender carping in GD.
And the usual ' you insulted me!1'... blah what ever.........you started it.....
.... I haven't dealt with that sort of crap since my sons were 2....enjoy...
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)And others that feel it is ok to insult other duers. I think hof was minding their own business.... Again, and YOU chose to start something. How does that make you the good guy, or the others?
Lizzie Poppet
(10,164 posts)Notice all the "not big national news" gun threads in GD over the last few months? The ban is still in place, but the hosts don't enforce it. A similar rule for the "gender wars" threads would be only as useful as the hosts' willingness to enforce it (because you know there'd be people who would ignore it and post wherever they see fit).
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Response to Warren Stupidity (Reply #17)
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Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)Lizzie Poppet
(10,164 posts)Hey, maybe we don,t need Meta back after all!
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)I know you and I fall on opposite sides of the gun issue ... but, it is an important issue to both of us and neither of us need be silenced or ushered off to an anteroom.
What I wish for on those threads is a little more civility ...
treestar
(82,383 posts)But what is wrong with discussion of these issues? They are part of the progressive agenda, no?
FourScore
(9,704 posts)And no one is suggesting banning it altogether. It can have it's own forum.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Cats and puppies, 24/7.
petronius
(26,598 posts)'Cause that could get contentious...
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Mudslinging in your thread and others jumped in?
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)But usually the threads turn into insult and accusation festivals.
Abortion, birth control, wages are about the best hopes for any reasoned discussion.
JTFrog
(14,274 posts)Just sayin..... you never seem to miss an opportunity.
Whatever.
I responded to the make up thing today. Dumped all the rest.
It's a discussion board, do you have a problem with people responding?
You also, don't miss an opportunity apparently.
itsrobert
(14,157 posts)I will be regulated to the gender forum. Just for being too sexy.
FourScore
(9,704 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)pacalo
(24,721 posts)Squinch
(50,916 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)it's photoshopped. Real rumpuses never look like that.
pacalo
(24,721 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)that shizz is HOT!
pacalo
(24,721 posts)If I had known itsrobert was that sexy, I would have given him one of my hearts before I ran out.
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)There are those on both sides of the discussion who take delight in flames. As for me
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Can We Please Have based threads can go die?
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)that they care about specifically, without getting dragged into trivial or aggravating threads. Be a little lonely, but that's a small price to pay.
Bryant
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Squinch
(50,916 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)We're slipping.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,286 posts)Iggo
(47,534 posts)NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Sunlight is the best disinfectant. There are a handful of people here who are enemies toward women. I want their posts front and center. Some have outed themselves today. Not that they weren't out already.
Comrade Grumpy
(13,184 posts)I usually reserve that tag for especially troglodytic Republican state legislatures.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)If you can't, that in itself should be an answer.
pnwmom
(108,955 posts)nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)I have and it's great.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)issues but those members would rather use GD instead. Go figure. Perhaps the ads should think of banning those topics to those forums like they have guns and Israel/Palestine.
BeyondGeography
(39,350 posts)TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)where all of this silly shit could go.
When any threads get contentious, juries and/or hosts can move the thread to Fight Club and just let them duke it out.
There's only a few who keep poking at the scab, and this might be the best thing for them.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)not the least of which was too many rules.
If yer gonna fight it out-- fight it out.
It will not be pretty, and membership will possibly drop, but it will be honest.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)"Meta had too many rules"
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Same Shit Different Year-lastic
1000words
(7,051 posts)Just tired of seeing so many consecutive "Warrens."
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)if something was said that pissed you off, it was the other guy.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)1000words
(7,051 posts)And no one Warrened me.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Then there will be an underwear underwar uproar, along with a 'landscaping' war.
I'll just leave this here ---
commando.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)bathing suits.
Post something about North Korean concentration camps, and watch it sink like a stone.
BUT BATHING SUITS? OUTRAGEREEEEEERE OPRRESSIOOOOON ARUUGHGHGHG and I broke my caps lock I'm so mad
Same as it ever was.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I would love to see some lava under ware/wear disaster action suffering/ people (men/boys too!). It's gonna be an awesome blame game. MEN CAUSED this!!1! Bastards with their 'dickishness' ( oh noes!! sexist....oh wait....)
If women were in charge, men would still be to blame, no?
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Shit, I can live with that.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Whatever you do, don't Google search "Wicked Weasel"! ... I think that runs the risk of causing massive containment failure of the dilithium crystals!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)"LuluLemon Yoga Pants"
Damn you, marketing demons! is there no end to your pernicious perfidy???
FourScore
(9,704 posts)nadinbrzezinski
(154,021 posts)Use them liberally.
Texasgal
(17,039 posts)You have the option to read or participate. If not it's called trash.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)than sweeping racism or any other flashpoint from view is helpful to carrying on constructive dialogue.
1000words
(7,051 posts)is "constructive dialogue?"
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)It is equally important that some of the ideas and attitudes that reflect sexism be noted and recognized for what they are. Sometimes attitudes are assumed to be okay just because no one in the person's social network sees them as derogatory or undesirable. Calling people on bigotry and sexism provides opportunities to introduce new ways of looking at others and ourselves.
Coyotl
(15,262 posts)NutmegYankee
(16,199 posts)Take guns - we have TWO forums dedicated to that topic, one a complete shelter for one side of the debate, and yet that debate and all the bullshit that goes with it still infests GD.
If the goal is to stir shit, GD is the place to do it. Nobody will go to a group to hash it out. Shit-stirring needs an audience!
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)which is also in itself another fascinating diversion.
idendoit
(505 posts)RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)FourScore
(9,704 posts)VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)and trying to 'win', and sadly, DU is the victim.
pnwmom
(108,955 posts)TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)No, that's not at all what I said.
pnwmom
(108,955 posts)"go to die."
Then you said that would be "nice," but too many people are vested in acting like children.
So a reasonable person could conclude that you think when women bring up gender related issues, they are acting like children.
A reasonable person could conclude that a couple groups on DU, one male one female, consistently use GD to troll each other and act like children. Which is what i said. You read into it what you wanted to. Not very reasonable.
pnwmom
(108,955 posts)of a progressive political site?
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Not to mention the folks around here (regardless of "side" who seem to care more about personal beefs than actual issues.
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pnwmom
(108,955 posts)Response to pnwmom (Reply #93)
CFLDem This message was self-deleted by its author.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)Iggo
(47,534 posts)sufrommich
(22,871 posts)of referring to feminists/women as "harpies"? It has absolutely no place on a progressive forum.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Bad
Please educate me on the significance.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)pnwmom
(108,955 posts)in all spheres of life now, right?
(By the way, the ERA failed.)
Doctor_J
(36,392 posts)WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)shenmue
(38,506 posts)they'd be on the toilet all day and we wouldn't have to read their nonsense.
Female and male carping.
You will be visited by that crappy British woman, and all her damn family will crab at you and follow you....no matter what.
You do get to fight back though.
elfin
(6,262 posts)I need to take long breaks from DU. Fortunately, most subject lines are hints enough to the vitriolic or stupid or whiny content, - allowing one to skip or trash. But every once in a while I click on one by mistake and think " Is this the same DU I used to spend hours on back in 2001?"
Vattel
(9,289 posts)I have learned a lot from gender war threads and have, I think, become a better person as a result. That youtube video about leering was especially edifying. Don't be shy: you really aren't complaining only about threads in which gender is called out but has no "pertinence to the topic," or threads that are "gratuitously sexy." You don't like challenges to conventional liberal wisdom about sexism and gender and such. You want milk toast. Or maybe I am full of shit.
Marr
(20,317 posts)I feel like a couple of small cliques have decided to move their endless slap fight into General, and it's mostly noise.
The "Kool Kids" wanna fight!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)to continue more shit?
FourScore
(9,704 posts)I had just been embroiled in a discussion which got heated, and I was hidden for the first time in my 10 years at DU. (And rightfully so, I am ashamed to say.) I had avoided commenting on the "gender war" threads up to that point because I knew it would make me so mad. Finally...I succumbed. It did not go well.
I was thinking, we have forums for 9-11 and guns and Israel/Palestine -- why not gender wars??? I was a genuine question.
At first, I looked for the "meta" forum and then remembered it was taken away. Somewhere in this thread someone suggested I pose this question in the "Ask the Admin" forum. I had forgotten about that one. That's where I should have posted this.
Looks like my idea has just perpetuated the problem, but my intentions were sincere.
Also, it did not seem as though it was dying down to me at 2:00 EST yesterday at all. I saw tons of gender threads when I started this discussion.
Anyway...It was just a suggestion.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)cause i gotta tell you. walking into this thread and seeing the number of people insulting me personally and our group took me to that anger point. and disgust. walking into another thread, i took it out there a bit. so i get that.
but... clearly the reality, of you starting your thread, manny starting his to mock feminist, the very people whining about these gender wars allow them to flourish with unchallenge insults to feminists on du, and women as a whole. (yes, i get some women are all up in the battle too). while the very people being insulted and mocked are minding their own business.
as i said in mannys thread. you might want to check out who are starting the threads. the flamebait. me... none. a couple from hof though one has well over 100 rec adn merely positive toward women. so shouldnt be flamebait. ALL the many other flamebait Ops are from people agitating the situation, or are throwing the first punch.
if women dare to fight back, they are the ones to blame.
anyway... thank you. thanks for letting me know where this is coming from. cause i am seeing a whole hell of a lot of hypocrisy going on.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)CFLDem
(2,083 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)CFLDem
(2,083 posts)Thanks mom!
Response to CFLDem (Reply #153)
Tuesday Afternoon This message was self-deleted by its author.
Recursion
(56,582 posts)CFLDem
(2,083 posts)GENDER WAAAARS!!!!!
CrispyQ
(36,424 posts)Or do you think all topics you find objectionable should be shuffled off to another room so you don't have to be bothered.
I'm going to use "Hide Thread" right now!