Alexis' brother-in-law apologizes to families for the "inconvenience" of losing a loved one.

[MoonRiver]

"INCONVENIENCE"???

[MindPilot]

1. cut the guy some slack...

If you just got the news that your BIL is the latest mass shooter, and someone sticks a microphone in your face, would you have the exact right words?

Me neither.

[MoonRiver]

2. I'm 100% sure I would not have used the word inconvenience.

[Supersedeas]

4. but his brother was a peace loving Buddhist...reportedly

so who knows what language in appropriate for a family who believes that

[MindPilot]

6. Right, so how about we not starting bagging on the family?

This is as much a tragedy to them as to those who's loved ones' were the victims.

[hlthe2b]

9. So you are attacking the family? Really? Or are you attacking Buddhists?

Geebus.

[Supersedeas]

14. if "peace loving Buddhist" and describing someone as in need of "anger management"

the juxtaposition with the "inconvenient" deaths...is enough to make anyone pause about the use of language.

But if attacking someone for pointing out the juxtaposition makes you feel better...feel free to disparage.

Great day to you too.

[hlthe2b]

15. Your attitude is as ugly as they come... n/t

[alcibiades_mystery]

16. Agreed...this is pointless lashing out

Both the OP and the OP's supporters are acting in a ridiculous manner.

[Supersedeas]

18. i am sorry others peoples use of language has that affect on people

pointing out is a worse crime still...apparently

[hlthe2b]

3. That's why emotional public responses need to be written and "practiced"... It was a callous

thing to say, but I'm not sure it was intentional.

[MindPilot]

5. You mean we should all have prepared statements?

In case one of our relative goes sideways, just like we have some food and water put aside for the power outage?

That sounds way too apocalyptic and Orwellian for me.

[hlthe2b]

7. If you speak to the National Media and are not confident that you & your emotions may leave you

prone to using inappropriate words that could be misconstrued, yes.

I have seen emotional people, all too often fumble for words--usually that only underscores their sincerity. But, if one is extremely anxious by the process, an unfortunate word can bubble out, having the opposite effect, as here.

That is why most families reeling from tragic, emotional events such as this, chose a family spokesperson or submit a written comment to the media.

[MindPilot]

11. Good idea in theory.

But I suspect that most people confronted with such a sudden and tragic event, aren't afforded that opportunity.

[hlthe2b]

13. One always has the choice to speak or not...

Simply saying something to the effect of I'm sorry but I can't speak right now or even "I can't"... and moving past reporters works.

This is hardly as contrived as you suggest (preparing in advance for a relative to go "sideways&quot .... Everyone will deal with tragedy in their lives or unfortunate occurrences... Even if it is dealing with prying neighbors, "friends", colleagues, deciding when and to whom to speak to an emotionally-charged event is hardly something most won't have to face at some point.

[PearliePoo2]

8. Uggghh...I grimaced when I watched that.

I was actually embarrassed for him and his poor choice of words. But it's also obvious he's in distress and very shook up. I feel sorry for him and his family.

[Yo_Mama]

10. Oh, you try getting news like this and choosing the right words.

There's no need to slander the family.

Yes, I understand the language is jarring, but it's not intentional and if you haven't found out one day that your sibling is dead in a massacre he committed, you probably don't have the right to criticize the communications skills of someone who did.

[rl6214]

12. Come on give the guy a break, he's not a public speaker

[darkangel218]

17. Inconvenience??!?

Wtf...

[Blue_Tires]

19. Newsflash: Not all Americans have a deft, savvy touch when speaking

to the national media...