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RadiationTherapy

(5,818 posts)
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 07:50 AM Feb 2012

Yesterday, my brother woke up deaf.

He only had hearing in his right ear. His other ear has too much scar tissue from the radiation and has been gone for a while now. I guess his other ear is scarred over now too. My brother's health has declined steadily through the years as he has lost his voice, ability to breathe, eat, open his mouth and his left arm due to nerve damage, but through it all we had our talks and our music. Every week for a few hours we hung out, drank, smoked, talked (I can understand his mangled language), listened to and recorded music together. I am devastated and we haven't seen each other since he texted me the news. It is a particularly cruel turn for us.

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Yesterday, my brother woke up deaf. (Original Post) RadiationTherapy Feb 2012 OP
Words are always so inadequate... Fumesucker Feb 2012 #1
Oh my. I'm so sorry, RT. pacalo Feb 2012 #2
Damn! Odin2005 Feb 2012 #3
Sorry about this! mazzarro Feb 2012 #4
Yeah, he had cancer in his sinuses from welding and had treatment 16 years ago when he was 23. RadiationTherapy Feb 2012 #5
I'm so sorry. As they say in my support group, "Cancer is the gift that just keeps on sinkingfeeling Feb 2012 #6
I'm so sorry for you both a kennedy Feb 2012 #7
my first wife lost her hearing due to hearing toxic antibitotics that were needed after chemo. dembotoz Feb 2012 #8
It's awful to see the piece by piece zombification. RadiationTherapy Feb 2012 #9
Life can be cruel RadiationTherapy Feb 2012 #10

mazzarro

(3,450 posts)
4. Sorry about this!
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 10:11 AM
Feb 2012

Was the radiation a result of medical treatment or otherwise an accident of some sort?

My best wishes and prayers for him, you and the family.

RadiationTherapy

(5,818 posts)
5. Yeah, he had cancer in his sinuses from welding and had treatment 16 years ago when he was 23.
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 10:30 AM
Feb 2012

Over the years the radiation has burned him into a hermit. This time, with his going deaf, I am just much more affected than the past. We have adapted to everything up to now, but for him to no longer hear music - ours and others' - just seems cruel.

sinkingfeeling

(51,448 posts)
6. I'm so sorry. As they say in my support group, "Cancer is the gift that just keeps on
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 11:00 AM
Feb 2012

giving". We never know when something else will show up.

dembotoz

(16,799 posts)
8. my first wife lost her hearing due to hearing toxic antibitotics that were needed after chemo.
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 12:38 PM
Feb 2012

of the many things she lost on the long trail to her eventual death, i think the hearing bothered her the most.

RadiationTherapy

(5,818 posts)
9. It's awful to see the piece by piece zombification.
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 01:21 PM
Feb 2012

We had just recorded a new album and a series of documentaries. I am in awe of the pain, really.

RadiationTherapy

(5,818 posts)
10. Life can be cruel
Mon Feb 27, 2012, 06:18 PM
Feb 2012

and life can be cruel to not slow down and give us a moment to adapt and cope. Bright, bent, burnt new skin.

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