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Women of DU, married, single or in between, have you ever had a man send you a picture of his Anthony Weiner via twitter, email, text, etc. . .?
I'm afraid I have to answer yes, more times than I can count, and always unsolicited.
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)but yes -- completely unsolicited. My response: "EWWWW!" Why? Because we're women and, let's face it, we can go out and get the real thing pretty much anytime we want. At least that was the way it was when I was young and single and good-lookin'.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)and love to share photos of them widely. I find that pattern has nothing to do with size or shape either.
Coyotl
(15,262 posts)So if your girlfriend searches your name, up pops your unsolicited junk photo. And, she might recognize you!! That would give pause to would-be offenders.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)darkangel218
(13,985 posts)And none of them got another date.
It was clear what/the only thing they were after.
darkangel218
(13,985 posts)When are guys going to get it? That's not what turns us on, it does the exact opposite actually.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)I much prefer his chest. A face is most important, of course.
darkangel218
(13,985 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)just kidding
Cali_Democrat
(30,439 posts)BainsBane
(53,003 posts)doesn't matter to me as long as it's not scary hairy.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)horrible
Dash87
(3,220 posts)It's total crap. Everybody with eyes judges others based on appearance.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)of bikini babes all over DU.
pokerfan
(27,677 posts)You wanna see that, right?
leftyladyfrommo
(18,816 posts)going on there.
Do guys like to look at each other's dicks? Maybe they do.
pokerfan
(27,677 posts)the how do babies happen?
Deep13
(39,154 posts)I'm going to take a guess and say she is attracted to the man, not the hardware.
For me, I'm attracted to the woman, not the reproductive apparatus. Seriously, they don't call it "bumping uglies" for nothing.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)BainsBane
(53,003 posts)It's that we are far less interested in what they look like than what they can do.
Liberal_Stalwart71
(20,450 posts)Warpy
(110,913 posts)A picture doesn't do anything for us.
Deep13
(39,154 posts)besides anyone who gave it a moment's thought.
Nay
(12,051 posts)like?? I sure as hell would never give a damn unless it was so large or so small as to be unworkable.
Guys, just because YOU are in love with your penis doesn't mean we are. Penises are pretty damn ugly, frankly.
Generally, I'm more interested in your day-to-day personality and outlook. I personally can appreciate a nice chest and beautiful forearms (if you are going to make me pick out favorite physical features), but penises?
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Personally, I think it's pretty damn obvious that that's the case.
XemaSab
(60,212 posts)Skittles
(152,965 posts)I do not date creeps
MiddleFingerMom
(25,163 posts).
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Skittles
(152,965 posts)*EGREGIOUS!!!!!!*
Kennah
(14,116 posts)Skittles
(152,965 posts)YES INDEED
Kennah
(14,116 posts)Skittles
(152,965 posts)THE NAME MFM IS ALWAYS PEPPERED THROUGHOUT MY KICK ASS LIST; yes INDEED
Kennah
(14,116 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,921 posts)Well lets just say I have no problem with public confrontation.
Actually, I'm a fairly private person, I don't use my twitter and just got Facebook. Those that have my contact info aren't creepers.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Thankfully.
SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)pnwmom
(108,925 posts)I would have run as fast as I could in the opposite direction.
Narcissism is not an attractive feature on anyone -- male or female. And I knew to avoid people like that long before I had a label for the disorder.
Raksha
(7,167 posts)freshwest
(53,661 posts)silverweb
(16,402 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)bunnies
(15,859 posts)fredamae
(4,458 posts)Fawke Em
(11,366 posts)LOL. Seriously, my cat looks just like that and he's "paw-happy," too.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)Actually, more serious feline behaviors have been recorded:
http://static.fjcdn.com/gifs/Fucking+cats.+no+fucks+were+given_6166dc_4156608.gif
EEK!
I want that kitteh!
AsahinaKimi
(20,776 posts)silverweb
(16,402 posts)[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I never knew who it was or how he got my email.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)silverweb
(16,402 posts)[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I puzzled over it for a while but there was no followup of any kind, so I eventually forgot about it until I saw this thread.
Hekate
(90,202 posts)I'm a deep believer in "no photos" -- my dating days all predated social media, but kids, we certainly had Polaroids and I could tell you stories.
If any of my Anthonys had Weinered me, it would definitely have been a deal-breaker. And if someone from my workplace had done it, it would have meant a sexual harassment complaint mighty fast, as being totally creepy.
Once again, may I point out the manner in which the populace has thrown their own privacy away?
freshwest
(53,661 posts)HipChick
(25,485 posts)however I am handy with Photoshop, and send something back to them to deflate their ego..
freshwest
(53,661 posts)SwissTony
(2,560 posts)An attractive female teacher I knew was flashed by some creep. He opened the front of his coat and said "Do you see this". She replied "Oh, it looks like a penis...only smaller".
AzDar
(14,023 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)I have never texted pictures of my junk, and don't think it would be appreciated.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)Ilsa
(61,675 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)Last edited Thu Jul 25, 2013, 01:21 PM - Edit history (1)
would be GROSS!
Contrary1
(12,629 posts)Since he's been "saved" and on infomercials and stuff?
Ok...I lied. Pat didn't send this to me. But only because I was about 8 at the time, and the internets hadn't been invented yet.
phylny
(8,353 posts)I kid you not, and I'm married. Former lover.
Hekate
(90,202 posts)Did he send you one of him with a blue ribbon for first prize hanging off it?
The ego of it is making me lol.
Lucinda
(31,170 posts)bravenak
(34,648 posts)I can't even think of how many times that happens.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)bravenak
(34,648 posts)Worked at a strip club, married men love to pull it out to impress you. Luckily you can keep the money and have them thrown out and arrested. They always think somebody should be impressed.
nolabear
(41,915 posts)Even as a teen I lived near a shipyard and ALL us young things knew DON'T LOOK IN THE CAR when they drove by whistling and catcalling. You were sure to be treated to a glimpse of the thing. Interestingly it didn't seem like most were whipping Willie, just showing him off as if he was their pride and joy.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)I have no idea why they thought we wanted to see them naked. I didn't even want to be naked. Sometimes I'd go to 'Theme Room' or Chapmgagne room" an som idiot would take off their pants and chones like we were in a brothel. Good way to get kicked out and have the police called.
We'd sit in back watching the videos after hours and trip out. Nothing can shock me now.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)MerryBlooms
(11,728 posts)Last edited Thu Jul 25, 2013, 07:43 AM - Edit history (1)
made it so difficult to report abuse, I just chose to leave.
None of that sort of mischief here on DU.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)that or any kind. We I get email on my home computer and I don't recognize who the email is from I don't open it. I automatically delete it.
malaise
(267,823 posts)Never
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Who the hell thinks that is a good plan
"Let me jump in my car and go get me some of that there Wiener" (said no woman ever)
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)Happyhippychick
(8,379 posts)LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,319 posts)newfie11
(8,159 posts)I guess I missed out.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Thankfully.
bunnies
(15,859 posts)Id get them ALL the time.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)The most obvious is that anyone for whom a relationship with a woman is more than a theoretical abstraction knows that the best way to turn a woman off is to try to pressure her into any kind of intimacy before she feels ready. And this isn't the 1920's, women who are ready/interested in that aren't shy about expressing it. And of course, if a woman IS ready/interested you don't need something stupid like a weiner pic.
Even as a guy who has had nude pictures sent to me unsolicited twice by women, I can say that those pictures do not help if you are not interested in/don't find that person attractive anyway.
Then of course there is the whole "potential of naked pictures of ones-self being out there on the internet forever" thing.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)Anthony Weiner's, so they don't identify the person.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)judgment of anyone who would put such a photo out on the internet where it could be viewed by millions forever and where you would have no control once it's out there.
I would just think they were extremely stupid.
woolldog
(8,791 posts)or get a woman ready or interested. They're doing it because they're exhibitionists and they get off on exposing themselves.
Nay
(12,051 posts)Last edited Fri Jul 26, 2013, 12:43 PM - Edit history (1)
him a pass, because he's a creep, no different than the flasher in the alley. But that's just me.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I think that someone who cannot help but do that should probably not be in or run for public office.
RebelOne
(30,947 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,683 posts)I've never received that in text or email.
Common Sense Party
(14,139 posts)I'm wondering if it is more prevalent in younger generations, or if this has been going on for a long time.
As a man (mid-40's) I can say that the thought of doing that never would have occurred to me. It boggles the mind that some guys (creeps) think it would work.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)is whether someone has dated in the internet age. If you're 45 and have been faithfully married for 20 years, you've likely been spared this.
Common Sense Party
(14,139 posts)I still can't comprehend the mindset of the Weiner-sender: "Ooh, I'll bet THIS will get her to like me!"
It's the ugliest part of the male anatomy, Sparky, and you're a lot more interested in it than she is.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)I think it's more about their own arousal.
marions ghost
(19,841 posts)I'm so baaaaaaad...
Kind of like playing "look what I've got" on the playground.
Hekate
(90,202 posts)... based on age. From there on parents are supposed to have taught the little jokers what is and is not acceptable.
All bets are off in the Internet age, though.
allin99
(894 posts)Spazito
(49,765 posts)then again, those are the newest ways, the old-fashioned way was the flasher way, same thing different 'technology', imo.
I've encountered a few flashers in my day, unfortunately.
Flashing, in person, is illegal yet flashing via the internet isn't, I wonder why.
Little Star
(17,055 posts)Spazito
(49,765 posts)it wasn't until I clicked on this thread and started thinking about how my answer was no to the twitter, text, etc, question but had been flashed on a few occasions in the past that I realized the only difference in the two was the technology, the action and intent are the same.
Nay
(12,051 posts)Spazito
(49,765 posts)the law needs to catch up and include acts committed digitally that are the same acts committed in person, ie flashing
fredamae
(4,458 posts)won the contest for most creative costume by going as a "Dick-Tator" and all he wore was a Potato and a Raincoat....
Otherwise...nope.
There is no greater aversion than that, imo.
Eyes, Smile, Heart touch me first.....
treestar
(82,383 posts)Thank God! In my day, there was no twitter, email or text. Photos might have been possible but I never got any (and would have been traumatized if I did, lol).
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)I would not associate with any guys that would even think about doing something like that! For the record, I'll be turning 50 in January, so most of my life was internet-free.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)These typically are guys one might correspond with a bit online, and then they send the A.Weiner Jr. pic. It's not like they are actual boyfriends.
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)Well, I don't correspond with any guys online, so....
nolabear
(41,915 posts)Maybe there's something in some Neanderthal cave painting somewhere that's yet undiscovered!
Coyotl
(15,262 posts)is the most common answer, I'm sure.
Besides, there are so many to pick from on Craigslist, who needs to get them in the mail
so true.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Shrike47
(6,913 posts)It would not be a turn-on.
Phentex
(16,330 posts)I don't give mine out. And anyone who has it is certainly not the type to send me pictures.
Otherwise, no. No random person has accidentally sent me a naked pic of themselves.
BainsBane
(53,003 posts)Sissyk
(12,665 posts)But then I don't give my email or phone number out to people I don't know. I also don't read email or text if the name is not in my address book, or I don't recognize it. And, I don't "do" facebook or twitter.
Ednahilda
(195 posts)I don't have a cell phone and only a few family members have my email address.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)eissa
(4,238 posts)Years ago when I was a member of a political chat group, one older gentlemen befriended me and we began exchanging e-mails. Nothing personal, just political stuff.....until he started sending me "jokes" that contained some sexual stuff. At first I didn't want to be a prude about it and didn't say much, but that only seemed to encourage him to send even more graphic material. I finally blocked him when he sent a sick porno clip of a woman and a horse
Neoma
(10,039 posts)I'm a victim of a few Internet pedophiles, looking back at it. I don't really feel much of a victim, but there you go...people take advantage of lonely horny teenagers to get off.
Since video games went mainstream, users are much more normal than they used to be.
Still lots of pedos I bet, though.
KoKo
(84,711 posts)Also...don't use Facebook so that probably is why it's not likely to happen.
polichick
(37,152 posts)Scout
(8,624 posts)do not want to be on the radar of a creepy fuck. although, i have rec'd some text messages from unknown sources, and i promptly delete without reading them... maybe i have rec'd a dick pic.
someone did manage to hack one of our printers at work, and we got hundreds of pages print out of some old guy none of us knew, with his pecker sticking out. waste of paper and toner....
if i want to see your dick, i'll ask you to show it to me. i bet most women feel the same way.
TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)Grossed me out. I can't for the life of me figure out why men do this. Do they really expect that woman will ooo and ahhh and compliment them over their harassing photos?
AsahinaKimi
(20,776 posts)Like as if it would do any good.
MotherPetrie
(3,145 posts)freshwest
(53,661 posts)BainsBane
(53,003 posts)I also like the comment someone made about photoshopping the pic and returning it to sender.
Warpy
(110,913 posts)I do know women who have gotten them. Those pictures do [i[not have the effect the sender is hoping for.
Instead of being aroused to insatiable lust, most women pass them around to gales of laughter. A few get disgusted and stomp off in a huff.
prole_for_peace
(2,064 posts)I don't want to see that. I would rather see a nice arm or chest.
dionysus
(26,467 posts)BainsBane
(53,003 posts)Eeew. Were you on MIRT at the time?
dionysus
(26,467 posts)big mistake.
shanti
(21,670 posts)When I was a member of a well-known dating site, I was sent an unsolicited photo of some jerk's erect junk. I found it pretty distasteful, reported him, and then blocked him.
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)Saw the real thing being flashed at me in the flesh, though, a few times. Grrrrroossss. I don't twitter and I'm old, so I haven't caught up with this trend.
Or maybe I should say this trend hasn't caught up with me.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)(I am not implying that a certain age means one is not technologically savvy/ Weiner is not a "young'un"
Many of us "older folk" (I am 51) have been spared (or experienced in smaller numbers) than the younger folk.
To guys who do this or have the urge to do this kind of thing: We like your "equipment", we like what you do with it ... but, this is an invitation only sort of thing. If I haven't invited you to "show me" ... it probably means doing so is really going to p*ss me off!
Th1onein
(8,514 posts)Why THEY think so much of themselves, I'm not sure.
eridani
(51,907 posts)Liberal_Stalwart71
(20,450 posts)calimary
(80,699 posts)Wouldn't want to see it, and wouldn't be interested. A man's weiner is not what turns me on. It's what's inside his other head (the one at the upper end of his neck) that intrigues me.