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OffWithTheirHeads

(10,337 posts)
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:09 PM Dec 2012

Eleven years ago we had the family over for X-mas dinner

The youngest grandson noticed that there was nothing in my Christmas stocking. He was 10. On Christmas day, I found that he had left $1.00 bill in my stocking. At 10 years old, he was not clear on the concept that I could pretty much buy myself anything I wanted for X-Mas. These things don't often occur to 10 year olds. All he knew was that it looked like granpa was getting short shrift so he pulled a dollar out of his wallet and stuck it in my stocking.

Now, I don't know about you but when I was 10, a dollar was a lot of money. I kept that dollar and wrote on it the year and who gave it to me and why.

That grandson turned 21 a few weeks ago. My wife is going to visit him next month and return the dollar.

Are you surprised that this kid votes straight Democratic ticket? Me either.

I don't really know why I am sharing this personal memory at this time but I just need a change from guns and fiscal cliff.

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Eleven years ago we had the family over for X-mas dinner (Original Post) OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 OP
Aww. What a nice Christmas story. A good kid... The Velveteen Ocelot Dec 2012 #1
What a lovely story to share. Thank you for sharing southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #2
Thank you. annabanana Dec 2012 #3
What a great story. I bet he cries when he realizes you kept that dollar for so long. Both of you Booster Dec 2012 #4
We are also returning his Alladin sippy cup. OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 #5
He will love it and drink beer from it obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #63
I think you're sharing that story b/c democrats these days are just "good to the bone" BillyJack Dec 2012 #6
I think you need to worry about the rest of the family... brooklynite Dec 2012 #7
Nah! They brought good appitites and I love to cook. OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 #8
Ditto; doesn't mean I don't want a stocking on Christmas... brooklynite Dec 2012 #9
Great kid, and that story was just what I needed. *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Dec 2012 #10
Thanks. I'm glad this story is getting some attention as a change OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 #13
Merry Christmas! bmbmd Dec 2012 #11
If only conservatives had such Christmas spirit! baldguy Dec 2012 #12
Sweet Mira Dec 2012 #14
You too Mira! OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 #16
He probably gets that from you guys, TBH. AverageJoe90 Dec 2012 #15
Lovely malaise Dec 2012 #17
Merry Christmas GeorgeGist Dec 2012 #18
K&R for a sweet Christmas memory.The demographics of DU is amazing - all age groups are represented AnotherMother4Peace Dec 2012 #19
Should have given him $2 adieu Dec 2012 #20
Fuck! I've had enough of Capitalisim! OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2012 #22
Good thing you aren't a bank, svpadgham Dec 2012 #33
I think he already knows what real value is. n/t jtuck004 Dec 2012 #47
That's a nice story. Thank you for sharing it here. yardwork Dec 2012 #21
I love that story. TheOther95Percent Dec 2012 #23
It was a gift. Don't return it. Nye Bevan Dec 2012 #24
exactly, it's a GREAT gift. keep it, that's what the GS wanted by giving it to him. maybe just show Divine Discontent Dec 2012 #50
Returning it will be great. Curmudgeoness Dec 2012 #61
Thanks for sharing that great story. ProudProgressiveNow Dec 2012 #25
Its a great story, your grandson learned empathy.... Historic NY Dec 2012 #26
That's sweet A Little Weird Dec 2012 #27
Great story, thanks for sharing! Canoe52 Dec 2012 #28
What a wonderful story. SheilaT Dec 2012 #29
I loved reading this... secondwind Dec 2012 #30
Excellent story - thank you! BobTheSubgenius Dec 2012 #31
Lovely story, thanks for sharing it. Beacool Dec 2012 #32
I'm the mom of The Boy MomDude Dec 2012 #34
Merry Christmas! daleanime Dec 2012 #40
Thank You! MomDude Dec 2012 #66
" If I guided him in finding his truth, then I did my job," Amen... uponit7771 Dec 2012 #44
What a great family you all have qanda Dec 2012 #49
Thanks. We have our moments (which hopefully make up for all the other moments, ha ha). MomDude Dec 2012 #67
Welcome to DU... AnneD Dec 2012 #56
A thoughtful mother listened to her thoughtful child MomDude Dec 2012 #68
what a darling! renate Dec 2012 #35
I'm with you. A change is good. Great story. I have a grandson like that. juajen Dec 2012 #36
Wonderful story! Merry Christmas! lucca18 Dec 2012 #37
Sounds like your kid raised a great guy DiverDave Dec 2012 #38
The thread title and your user name made me think this would be a screed against visiting relatives. randome Dec 2012 #39
The ability to feel compassion for others reveals itself very early in a child's life. JDPriestly Dec 2012 #41
Nice of you to remember for all those years. dgauss Dec 2012 #42
So, your grandson is a Socialist, huh? merrily Dec 2012 #43
Thank you for a beautiful Christmas story.... ReRe Dec 2012 #45
Thank you! OldEurope Dec 2012 #46
K&R closeupready Dec 2012 #48
What a lovely story.... You must be a proud grandpa! n/t Sekhmets Daughter Dec 2012 #51
Happy to be the 200th Rec.... WCGreen Dec 2012 #52
Big K&R. Lovely. Chorophyll Dec 2012 #53
Ah, crap.... something in my eye again. Raster Dec 2012 #54
Raster, the same thing got in my eye as well. Whovian Dec 2012 #55
Happy Holidays, my Friend! Raster Dec 2012 #65
Sweet. You have a wonderful grandson. Aristus Dec 2012 #57
A generous soul is always a Democrat. eom EmeraldCityGrl Dec 2012 #58
AWESOME! nt cbrer Dec 2012 #59
isn't there any way you can be there to return it? elehhhhna Dec 2012 #60
You defaced Federal currency???!?!?!?!!? Beartracks Dec 2012 #62
Thank you for posting. Some humans are cool fadedrose Dec 2012 #64

Booster

(10,021 posts)
4. What a great story. I bet he cries when he realizes you kept that dollar for so long. Both of you
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:20 PM
Dec 2012

guys are impressive. I bet he keeps it for the rest of his life. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

BillyJack

(819 posts)
6. I think you're sharing that story b/c democrats these days are just "good to the bone"
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:27 PM
Dec 2012

they are good hearted and love "long".

Merry Christmas! Happy Hannukah! Happy Danali! Whatever your 'fest' of choice these days....

You Love!

brooklynite

(94,333 posts)
7. I think you need to worry about the rest of the family...
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:28 PM
Dec 2012

They weren't mellow enough to fill your stocking with goodies? They should be "boiled in their own pudding, and buried with a stake of holly through their heart"

 

OffWithTheirHeads

(10,337 posts)
8. Nah! They brought good appitites and I love to cook.
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:33 PM
Dec 2012

Hard to meke me happier than to tell me you love my cooking! They did.

 

OffWithTheirHeads

(10,337 posts)
13. Thanks. I'm glad this story is getting some attention as a change
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:42 PM
Dec 2012

From the doom and gloom I keep seeing here.

AnotherMother4Peace

(4,237 posts)
19. K&R for a sweet Christmas memory.The demographics of DU is amazing - all age groups are represented
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 10:59 PM
Dec 2012

We're waiting for our youngest who is driving home from college. Should be getting here late tonight.

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
24. It was a gift. Don't return it.
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 11:28 PM
Dec 2012

Tell him you still remember it, and very much appreciate it, and give him a hug. But when I give a gift I don't want it to be returned.

Divine Discontent

(21,056 posts)
50. exactly, it's a GREAT gift. keep it, that's what the GS wanted by giving it to him. maybe just show
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 04:07 PM
Dec 2012

it to him, and have her say your grandpa is so proud of the young man you've turned out to be, and this showed us that would be the case. I love this story, but don't return it.

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
61. Returning it will be great.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 08:16 PM
Dec 2012

It will mean so much to him....more than any gift. That his grandpa kept it all these years will mean something. And I bet that he keeps it, and may write more on it, and it may come back to grandpa again one day.

Historic NY

(37,449 posts)
26. Its a great story, your grandson learned empathy....
Thu Dec 20, 2012, 11:44 PM
Dec 2012

at a young age, no doubt you and your family were the cause.

Merry Christmas to you all.

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
29. What a wonderful story.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 12:00 AM
Dec 2012

What a wonderful young man.

That degree of awareness and compassion seems to me to be pretty amazing in a 10 year old. Obviously, he'd been raised well. He must have wonderful parents also.

MomDude

(5 posts)
34. I'm the mom of The Boy
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 12:48 AM
Dec 2012

I hardly ever come on this site but I had to when I heard about this thread. I also ruined the surprise and read the post to my son, who was instantly blown away, to the point of tearing up just a little bit. He did not remember the incident. Before I read the comments to him he said "if he sends it back I'm going to frame it and send him a picture of it hanging on my wall!" i will tell you something about this child, I am humbled and grateful to be his mom. I love him so much and am so very proud of the man he has become. If I guided him in finding his truth, then I did my job, but in the end every person has to decide who they are going to be in this world, and this incident described so lovingly by his grandpa describes who the Boy is today. Thank you all for your kind comments.

qanda

(10,422 posts)
49. What a great family you all have
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 03:50 PM
Dec 2012

Having these kinds of proud Mom moments are what I live for. Merry Christmas to you.

MomDude

(5 posts)
67. Thanks. We have our moments (which hopefully make up for all the other moments, ha ha).
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 12:01 AM
Dec 2012

You are so right, this is what we live for. I think back on all the years of constant struggle and think my God, look what I got out of the deal !!! I won !!! Merry Christmas to you and yours.

AnneD

(15,774 posts)
56. Welcome to DU...
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 04:34 PM
Dec 2012

I too am the proud parent of a thoughtful child.

Once, when driving home from her 1st grade class, I ask her how her day went. She told me about the normal things and then she said something like...'and we had gym'. I knew by the way she said it that something bothered her. So I questioned her further. She told me what had happened and basically she had seen a child humiliated in the class when the teachers were trying to demonstrate something and the student did do it. "I think she was deaf Mommy-she had white hair and blue eyes". After her story I asked her.."and what did YOU do." "I didn't laugh at her Mommy, I tried to go over and be her friend".

I wish at 6 years old I had that much guts. I have to admit, I felt pretty small and humble next to my daughter. Seriously, who is suppose to be teaching who.

I called the Principal the next day and explained what my daughter had seen and how she had interpreted it. Well to my joy, the Principal had been my sister's kindergarten teacher. She assured me that she would discretely talk to my daughter and get to the bottom of the story. Within an hour and a half, she called me back. It seems the child was Danish, did not know English, and was a bit shy.

She went on to say that, although the situation was innocent, if one child could perceive it as my daughter did, others could too. She arranged for my daughter to have a special lunch with her new Danish friend and the Principal in the cafeteria-a high honor in the first grade world.

My daughter has grown to be a wonderful person. I can't tell you how much I worry about nice young people in the world today. There is so much ill will and pettiness. But these children are our hope.

Thank you for being a good parent.

MomDude

(5 posts)
68. A thoughtful mother listened to her thoughtful child
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 12:08 AM
Dec 2012

Anne, thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story. I can't help but point out that she gets it from you. Uour words "I knew by the way she said it that something bothered her..." You are a sensitive and so is she, and you modeled caring behavior that, I bet, helped her to grow and nurture her own sensitivity. I also can relate to your comment about the worry. I have three sons who are honest and forthright and caring and so they expect everyone to be, and I've also had to *try* to teach them how not to be taken advantage of - and that doesn't come naturally to me. Thank you also for being a good parent. The best of the season from my house to yours. : -)

renate

(13,776 posts)
35. what a darling!
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 12:51 AM
Dec 2012

When kids are sweet and thoughtful like that, it is so moving. It's like watching a flower bloom.

juajen

(8,515 posts)
36. I'm with you. A change is good. Great story. I have a grandson like that.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 12:58 AM
Dec 2012

He is so wonderful and I adore him. He is only 4 years old, but already a sweet soul.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
39. The thread title and your user name made me think this would be a screed against visiting relatives.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 06:49 AM
Dec 2012

But it was not.

JDPriestly

(57,936 posts)
41. The ability to feel compassion for others reveals itself very early in a child's life.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 12:47 PM
Dec 2012

But it has to be nurtured.

Your family did a good job encouraging that 10-year old to think of others as well as himself.

He will do well and be loved in his life because his love for his fellow man will be returned. Lucky boy to have grandparents like you.

dgauss

(882 posts)
42. Nice of you to remember for all those years.
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 01:56 PM
Dec 2012

I bet your grandson will remember you giving it back for even longer.

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
45. Thank you for a beautiful Christmas story....
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 02:24 PM
Dec 2012

K&R

....about your then 10-yr old grandson, who is all grown up now. I'm sure yours will be his
favorite 2012 Christmas gift. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and yours!

fadedrose

(10,044 posts)
64. Thank you for posting. Some humans are cool
Fri Dec 21, 2012, 08:33 PM
Dec 2012

and I thought it was only cats and dogs that were "human." I was wrong.

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