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anobserver2

(836 posts)
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:45 PM Nov 2012

Paula Broadwell 'filled with guilt and shame' for affair with ex-CIA chief Petraeus [bro confirmed]

...Paula Broadwell wishes she had never made the leap from biographer to bedfellow.

David Petraeus’s ex-mistress is “devastated” and racked by guilt over the scandalous love affair that toppled the retired four-star general from his perch at the CIA, according to her brother, Stephen Kranz.

“She’s been devastated by this,” Kranz told People magazine. “She is filled with guilt and shame for what she’s done and she’s incredibly sorry for the pain she’s caused her husband, her family, Petraeus’s family.


“She accepts responsibility for her actions and knows she made a mistake,” Kranz said....

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/broadwell-smacks-photog-car-door-article-1.1204627

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Paula Broadwell 'filled with guilt and shame' for affair with ex-CIA chief Petraeus [bro confirmed] (Original Post) anobserver2 Nov 2012 OP
OK, I now believe she had an affair - it is no longer alleged anobserver2 Nov 2012 #1
Petraeus destroyed his career and reputation by admitting to the affair. Why you didn't believe him riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #21
it's amazing how people can make themselves feel bad aletier_v Nov 2012 #24
Poppycock carolbrenner Nov 2012 #2
Welcome to DU! hrmjustin Nov 2012 #9
Not so Sure.... PoliticalBiker Nov 2012 #10
Well GermanSmoker Nov 2012 #15
Yup. The General mercuryblues Nov 2012 #40
Poor Dave GeorgeGist Nov 2012 #18
I think she feels humiliated because the whole world knows about it. madaboutharry Nov 2012 #3
Keep it in your pants, if at all possible. liberalmuse Nov 2012 #4
All he had to do is say no RobertEarl Nov 2012 #14
I somewhat agree with you that he may have had more guilt and fault than she did Cleita Nov 2012 #17
I've said no plenty of times RobertEarl Nov 2012 #20
Doubt if she will get that luxury. Cleita Nov 2012 #22
I was in the grocery store with my sister earlier this afternoon while in line she picked notadmblnd Nov 2012 #5
I wonder if she feels shame about using a ghostwriter for her biography of Petraeus? librechik Nov 2012 #6
The co-author's name is on the book cover cthulu2016 Nov 2012 #8
yes? So it's an open declaration of "as told to?" librechik Nov 2012 #11
Oh I think she went beyond flirting Fumesucker Nov 2012 #13
+1,000! What you said... Surya Gayatri Nov 2012 #35
cool story, bro cthulu2016 Nov 2012 #7
that's all part of it bigtree Nov 2012 #12
Well, she should be. She just made the lives of her kids a living hell. catbyte Nov 2012 #16
+1 Cleita Nov 2012 #19
+2. nt riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #26
+3 Care Acutely Nov 2012 #37
+4. I have no sympathy for any of main characters in this. Kaleva Nov 2012 #38
+5 laundry_queen Nov 2012 #39
Wait a minute.......................... johnq45 Nov 2012 #23
Bang on. snagglepuss Nov 2012 #27
Oh, please. She is sitting with her agent who is sifting requests from media for interviews and CTyankee Nov 2012 #25
And if it had never been found out? Would there be shame and guilt then. I call a giant B.S. Lint Head Nov 2012 #28
Broadwell is fortunate that she did not get "disappeared" PufPuf23 Nov 2012 #29
If she was truly ashamed it would never have been an "affair." It would have been a one-nighter. vaberella Nov 2012 #30
Next step....Playboy underpants Nov 2012 #31
Are we supposed to care? Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #32
Yeah, she's laughing all the way to the mailbox. Ruby the Liberal Nov 2012 #33
A mistake? DavidDvorkin Nov 2012 #34
I love cheaters' reactions to getting caught in affairs Nevernose Nov 2012 #36
Yup DavidDvorkin Nov 2012 #41

anobserver2

(836 posts)
1. OK, I now believe she had an affair - it is no longer alleged
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:47 PM
Nov 2012

I realize I may be the last one to know, but when her brother says it, and she just stayed with him for a week,
then, I believe it.

But, I am really shocked. I think her next career move should be as an actress.

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
21. Petraeus destroyed his career and reputation by admitting to the affair. Why you didn't believe him
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:27 PM
Nov 2012

is weird.

aletier_v

(1,773 posts)
24. it's amazing how people can make themselves feel bad
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:44 PM
Nov 2012

Because someone else wants to feel good.

Life is short
And real chemistry is rare.

I was lucky
I had a poly girlfriend for several years
It was great. She had other people during the week
While I was out of state mon to fri.

PoliticalBiker

(328 posts)
10. Not so Sure....
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:00 PM
Nov 2012

If she had a history like Ms. Kelley, I might believe it.
This is of course, the only thing we've heard of her so far, but if it is, she was probably just seduced by the power she was suddenly palling around with. If there is more about sordid affairs come out (that are verifiable) then I would say you are right.
Until then....

 

GermanSmoker

(91 posts)
15. Well
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:10 PM
Nov 2012

It takes two to Tango. Because of that i never understood the term "homewrecking". It's mostly the woman who is the considered "The Guilty One" in the public eye and that is unjust.

mercuryblues

(14,530 posts)
40. Yup. The General
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 10:12 PM
Nov 2012

was also involved in the affair. He apparently was also more than willing to throw his marriage vows out the window. along with his career. Ten years from now he won't be know as an admired (by some) four star General he will be known for sleeping around and cheating on his wife.

madaboutharry

(40,209 posts)
3. I think she feels humiliated because the whole world knows about it.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:50 PM
Nov 2012

Humiliation is different from shame.

If she felt so much shame, she wouldn't have behaved the way she did during her interview with Jon Stewart.

liberalmuse

(18,672 posts)
4. Keep it in your pants, if at all possible.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:50 PM
Nov 2012

That's pretty much the moral I take away from this story. No slut shaming here. I mean shit, he was a General. I feel bad for his wife, but it's not like she didn't know the General was getting some on the side during his long tours abroad. I think the worst part of this is that you and I even know about this.

 

RobertEarl

(13,685 posts)
14. All he had to do is say no
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:06 PM
Nov 2012

It is the generals fault for seducing this young woman. He should have known better. He is the one who could not control himself.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
17. I somewhat agree with you that he may have had more guilt and fault than she did
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:20 PM
Nov 2012

considering his position of power over her. However, she's guilty too.

 

RobertEarl

(13,685 posts)
20. I've said no plenty of times
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:25 PM
Nov 2012

Had the foresight to see that trouble loomed were I to say yes. And I'm not a publicly paid leader, much less a general.

Dave is the one to blame. This woman was seduced by his power and position and he used her for his own foolish pleasure. Now he pays. I hope she can get over this and rise high as a proud woman.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
22. Doubt if she will get that luxury.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:27 PM
Nov 2012

No woman she might socialize with will ever trust her around their husbands.

notadmblnd

(23,720 posts)
5. I was in the grocery store with my sister earlier this afternoon while in line she picked
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:52 PM
Nov 2012

up one of the scandal sheets, I don't even know which one it was Enquirer, Globe or another, but the headline said that she was plotting murder. I asked my sister who she was supposed to be killing.. neither of us opened it up to read it, so it remains a mystery to me.

librechik

(30,674 posts)
6. I wonder if she feels shame about using a ghostwriter for her biography of Petraeus?
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 07:55 PM
Nov 2012

That's the scandal I'M upset about. I guess if you want to get into publishing the best way is to know somebody famous and wiggle your ass. Don't worry about the work of being a writer.

I'd like to feel sorry for her, but I just feel she's getting a little bit of what she deserves for cheating and being a giant social climbing phony. With all her education and skills, she could have done some good in the world. Instead she wants the jet flights and the posh military parties. And not to work for them. Just to flirt for them.

Damn.

librechik

(30,674 posts)
11. yes? So it's an open declaration of "as told to?"
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:00 PM
Nov 2012

I heard the main function of Paula was that she could get in to see Petraeus due to her military background. And she took notes in between the you know.

Impressive!

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
13. Oh I think she went beyond flirting
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:04 PM
Nov 2012

The whole town's shaking from the bottom to the top

Everybody wants to do the horizontal bop

catbyte

(34,374 posts)
16. Well, she should be. She just made the lives of her kids a living hell.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:10 PM
Nov 2012

Not only will they have to deal with inevitable tension at home, but they'll probably get all sorts of shit from classmates. Good going, Ms. Broadwell. I hope it was worth it. I have no respect for people who ignore their vows and cheat--especially when they have kids. That was the one deal breaker for me and I told my husband that before we got married. I am a live and let live type except for this. If you want to fool around, be a decent person and divorce.

 

johnq45

(33 posts)
23. Wait a minute..........................
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:32 PM
Nov 2012

Quit painting Broadwell as a victim here. Its her fault this became public. This married woman is the psycho who wrote the jealous teenage threats to a woman who she thought was getting her claws into her man! When I heard the story I wondered if Paula had her diaper on for the long drive to kidnap and kill the other woman!

CTyankee

(63,903 posts)
25. Oh, please. She is sitting with her agent who is sifting requests from media for interviews and
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 08:51 PM
Nov 2012

book offers, I am sure! The movie rights will surely come later.

If you don't think she is cleaning up over this affair, then I have that bridge Al Sharpton talks about to sell you...

Lint Head

(15,064 posts)
28. And if it had never been found out? Would there be shame and guilt then. I call a giant B.S.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 09:06 PM
Nov 2012

She would walk away with the money from the book and stay on the inside connected to the right wing.

PufPuf23

(8,767 posts)
29. Broadwell is fortunate that she did not get "disappeared"
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 09:12 PM
Nov 2012

I'm reading reading the trial portion of Ann Rule's "Never Let Her Go", the Tom Capano case, about where the appointment secretary for the Democratic Governor of Delaware ends up in an ice chest in the Atlantic.

A secret affair with a powerful man that places low value on the lives of other's can be very dangerous.

Regardless, IMO Petraeus is involved with much deeper corruption than adultry. The adultry scandal and resignation may well be a cover.

Plus if I were Broadwell's husband, I would likely have filed for divorce and custody of the kids by now. The nature of her affair makes a stain on the marriage that is going to go away ever.

vaberella

(24,634 posts)
30. If she was truly ashamed it would never have been an "affair." It would have been a one-nighter.
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 09:15 PM
Nov 2012

This is a full on affair...with emails included. This is a mess and she definitely should be devastated --- much as he should be. I don't understand people ruining their families for one night of illicit sex. Pathetic.

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
36. I love cheaters' reactions to getting caught in affairs
Mon Nov 19, 2012, 09:46 PM
Nov 2012

"It was an accident!"
"It just sort of happened!"
"I didn't mean to have an affair!"
... and the always-popular "It's your fault I cheated, because our relationship is on the rocks."

I think the last one is my favorite. It's sort of a whitewashed way of saying, "You're imperfect, so I fellated someone else, and now I'm blaming my extramarital fellatio on you."

(The subject in the OP is Paula Broadwell, which is why I'm not going into men's ridiculous excuses, such as "But she as born a decade after you!&quot

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