apologies - its been a tough slog

[Layzeebeaver]

I lost my mom 6 months ago, and my dad just a couple of months ago.

I thought it would be easy to respond to everyone who sent kind regards, but it was really not that easy.

So, I'm sorry if I can't complete my promise. I hope you all understand. the circumstances were dire and its taken some time for me to adjust.

regardless, life goes on...

I'm going to try an re-engage now - time to keep up the good fight for what we all are fighting for. especially in memory of those before us...

Happy to be back.

Sincerely, your beaver...

[hlthe2b]

1. Be kind to yourself. All too many here can truly understand what you are going through.

'Happy to see you back and yes, there is a big fight on the horizon. But, take care of yourself first.

[Skittles]

2. no need to apologize, you are fine here

so sorry for your losses, two that quick is very tough indeed.

[MFM008]

3. I was

"lucky", I got to keep my mom 19 years longer than dad.🥹

[ShazzieB]

4. Welcome back!

[LittleGirl]

5. 50 years ago on 7/7/1973

My dad had his first heart attack. He was 40 years old.
He passed on April 7, 1975.

Mother passed on September 15, 2021 and I lost two brothers before her. It’s been rough to carry on all these years without Dad. Losing my brothers before my mother broke her heart and mine. Because of covid, I couldn’t visit Mom so I never really got to say goodbye except by phone. My family allowed me one FaceTime before she passed.

It gets easier every month. I listened to Anderson Cooper’s podcast All There Is. 6 episodes of topics like suicide, death by the elderly and sudden death of your close friends that you never expected. I admit I have trouble with depression anyway but those podcasts were amazing therapy for me. I have barely cried since I listened to all 6 of them. Highly recommend for anyone struggling with grief.

Everyone survives differently. No reason to apologize for your life. Hugs. Xx

[yardwork]

11. I'm so sorry for your losses.

My mother passed away last July. She suffered from dementia and was in assisted living in the final years of her life, which overlapped with COVID so there were long stretches of time when I couldn't see her. I was responsible for her care and finances. It's been... very difficult.

My father passed away unexpectedly 25 years ago, just when my mother had a disabling stroke.

I'm sorry for all your losses.

[LittleGirl]

14. I'm so sorry about your losses.

A friend of mine that I’ve known since ‘71 said she thought it was weird to be living so long and suffer so many losses. She said she never really thought about how it would be to be this age. I get that. I never even thought about it.

Positive vibes sent. Xx

[niyad]

6. Hugggggggs. No apologies needed. You have had two severe blows in a very

short time. Please be kind and gentle wiith yourself, and remember your DU family is here for you.

Welcome back.

[duhneece]

7. Sometimes we just have to sit in a corner and lick our wounds

When we feel like re-engaging, DU is right there waiting for us.

I’m happy you’re back.

[SallyHemmings]

8. Hugs

[TNNurse]

9. Take the time you need.

You are having a tough, tough time.

People here understand.

[Irish_Dem]

10. No apology need at all. I am glad you are doing better.

Condolences are are given free and clear, no need for response.
People understand.

I am glad you are doing better.
The first year is the hardest.
It gets easier after that.

[yardwork]

12. We're just glad you're here. You don't owe any apologies.

Be kind to yourself.

[electric_blue68]

13. Wow, that's really rough. My condolences. Take your time.

[greatauntoftriplets]

15. Sorry for your losses.

That's a lot in a short time.

[greatauntoftriplets]

16. Sorry for your losses.

That's a lot in a short time.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

17. I am so sorry for your losses

[peggysue2]

18. You've had a double whammy over a short period of time

Not surprising you've needed (and I suspect still need) time to wrap your mind and heart around the loss, the change and the how of going forward.

It's hard and people process these losses and grieve quite differently.

So, my advice would be: be kind to yourself and take whatever time you need.

A lot of us have been there.