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Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:30 PM

My mom needs urgent help. My GoFundMe is included in this thread

Hi all,

I have started this GoFundMe to help my mom out. Full story is in the GoFundMe link, but I will give a summary. My mom has been having health and blood pressure problems and is a 72 year old widow. She is having major financial stress and I am afraid something serious will happen if this stress continues. My mom and I have always tried to get through it before, but now she has been hit very hard and I really needed to start this for her. Anything you can give I will be extremely thankful for.

Here is the GoFundMe link:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/v676x-my-mother-needs-help

Thank you very much,
Matt/mvd

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Reply My mom needs urgent help. My GoFundMe is included in this thread (Original post)
mvd Sep 2021 OP
Elessar Zappa Sep 2021 #1
mvd Sep 2021 #2
marble falls Sep 2021 #3
mvd Sep 2021 #4
tblue37 Sep 2021 #5
tblue37 Sep 2021 #6
mvd Sep 2021 #8
a kennedy Sep 2021 #7
mvd Sep 2021 #9
CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2021 #10
mvd Sep 2021 #11
ARPad95 Sep 2021 #12
mvd Sep 2021 #15
3Hotdogs Sep 2021 #13
mvd Sep 2021 #14
3Hotdogs Sep 2021 #27
mvd Oct 2021 #60
Bayard Sep 2021 #16
mvd Sep 2021 #18
MLAA Sep 2021 #17
mvd Sep 2021 #19
whathehell Sep 2021 #20
mvd Sep 2021 #21
whathehell Sep 2021 #38
mvd Oct 2021 #51
whathehell Oct 2021 #61
marybourg Sep 2021 #22
mvd Sep 2021 #23
mvd Sep 2021 #24
MANative Sep 2021 #25
bluecollar2 Sep 2021 #26
mvd Sep 2021 #28
Treefrog Sep 2021 #29
mvd Sep 2021 #34
Treefrog Sep 2021 #36
mvd Sep 2021 #37
Treefrog Sep 2021 #41
mvd Oct 2021 #50
DownriverDem Sep 2021 #30
mvd Sep 2021 #32
tavernier Oct 2021 #54
mvd Oct 2021 #56
dixiechiken1 Sep 2021 #31
mvd Sep 2021 #33
Pepsidog Sep 2021 #35
JudyM Sep 2021 #45
mvd Sep 2021 #46
Cadfael Sep 2021 #39
mvd Sep 2021 #40
Arazi Sep 2021 #42
mvd Sep 2021 #43
mvd Sep 2021 #44
dixiechiken1 Sep 2021 #47
mvd Oct 2021 #48
mvd Oct 2021 #49
Arazi Oct 2021 #52
mvd Oct 2021 #53
DFW Oct 2021 #62
mvd Oct 2021 #64
DFW Oct 2021 #66
SidDithers Oct 2021 #55
electric_blue68 Oct 2021 #57
mvd Oct 2021 #58
electric_blue68 Oct 2021 #59
JonAndKatePlusABird Oct 2021 #63
mvd Oct 2021 #65
mvd Oct 2021 #67

Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:33 PM

1. I get paid tomorrow.

I canít give much but Iíd be happy to chip in. Iím sending good vibes to your mom, whatever thatís worth.

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Response to Elessar Zappa (Reply #1)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:35 PM

2. Thank you so very much!

Anything you can do would be greatly appreciated. My mom is not doing well and I had to do this.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:35 PM

3. You're a good son.

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Response to marble falls (Reply #3)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:35 PM

4. Thank you

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:40 PM

5. K&R for visibility. nt

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:45 PM

6. Done. Good luck.

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #6)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:49 PM

8. Thank you very much!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:46 PM

7. Just donated to your cause, and good luck.

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Response to a kennedy (Reply #7)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:50 PM

9. Thank you

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:50 PM

10. Just donated and am very happy to help! ♥

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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #10)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:52 PM

11. Thank you very much Peggy!

And thank you for your encouragement!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:56 PM

12. I'm glad to help your mother out. Hope your GoFundMe will successfully take the excess stress off.

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Response to ARPad95 (Reply #12)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:05 PM

15. Thank you!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 02:59 PM

13. Was your dad or mom a viet nam vet?

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Response to 3Hotdogs (Reply #13)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:05 PM

14. My dad was not in Vietnam, but was an Army vet

We are proud of his service and thanks for asking.

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Response to mvd (Reply #14)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:34 PM

27. If money owed for medical care is still outstanding, she should file for bankruptcy.

She should not continue paying it.

Have you investigated social services?

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Response to 3Hotdogs (Reply #27)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 12:20 AM

60. Yes

This is only part of the plan for my mom and me to be more financially stable. I have some things that could be used for disability. There are places that help with utilities and transportation. Maybe other senior services. I do some care for my mom but I am looking into those. I have a friend who helps out with borrowing money but she isnít the solution.

Her lawyer hasnít recommended bankruptcy but we will keep it in mind.

While I wonít be kicking the thread anymore as the goal has been reached, I will still reply to others.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:12 PM

16. Done!

Best wishes to you and your mom,

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Response to Bayard (Reply #16)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:14 PM

18. Thank you and hugs

:hugs:

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:12 PM

17. Best wishes, made a small contribution 🙂

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Response to MLAA (Reply #17)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:15 PM

19. Thanks, any amount is greatly appreciated!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:20 PM

20. Happy to donate..

Best of luck to you and your family.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #20)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:25 PM

21. Thank you

I was a apprehensive before starting this but DU has been wonderful!

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Response to mvd (Reply #21)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:25 PM

38. You're quite welcome, mvd

Having one's faith in people renewed is always a great feeling.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #38)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 02:56 PM

51. It is

It is a very good feeling!

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Response to mvd (Reply #51)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 09:26 AM

61. Yes..

Back at ya.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:28 PM

22. Check out whether your mom will qualify for SSI -

Supplemental Security Income. Also check your local Area Agency on Aging to see if she qualifies for aid such as food stamps, housing aid, Medicaid, etc.

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Response to marybourg (Reply #22)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 03:40 PM

23. Thank you - good ideas for her

She gets food stamps (and thank President Biden and the Democrats for boosting them!) but they donít last the whole month.

This thread is because of the immediate emergency.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:03 PM

24. Thank you all so much for the support!

My mom already feels better and we are well on our way to our goal. I canít thank DU enough!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:06 PM

25. Sent a little something - best wishes to both of you NT

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:33 PM

26. Done

From one Matthew to another. Best wishes my friend.

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Response to bluecollar2 (Reply #26)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:35 PM

28. Thanks so much fellow Matthew!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:46 PM

29. Why isn't your mom getting your dad's social security benefits?

Check into that, because she should.

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Response to Treefrog (Reply #29)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:04 PM

34. I agree, she should

The SSA told us that my mom could only receive one of the two when my dad died.

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Response to Treefrog (Reply #29)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:21 PM

36. I don't get that. Pretty sure my mother got my father's benefits.

She wasnít hard up for money so it wasnít a real conversation, but I helped her with her mail and so on. Iím sure she did.

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Response to Treefrog (Reply #36)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:24 PM

37. Oh, she does get the bigger part

But when my dad was alive it was $600 higher which made a difference.

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Response to mvd (Reply #37)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:47 PM

41. Ok good.

Just worried she was missing out. I have to say they were one of the easiest bureaucracy I had to deal with. At least in that instance.

They were right on it. I remember thinking how odd it was they knew he was dead before we notified anyone. Funny that, huh?

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Response to Treefrog (Reply #41)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 12:19 PM

50. Yeah the process was pretty simple

I am glad we have President Bidenís appointee in the SSA now. My mom was supposed to get a one time $200 bonus but didnít. That was the only issue.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:53 PM

30. Social Security

I hope my donation helps. How come you Mom doesn't get part of your Dad's Social Security?

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Response to DownriverDem (Reply #30)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:02 PM

32. When one spouse dies, they take the other spouces's away

I hope that policy changes. Thank you very much!

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Response to mvd (Reply #32)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:17 PM

54. No.

She should be getting hers and half of his.
Thatís what I get and all the people that I know who are widows get the same.

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Response to tavernier (Reply #54)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:28 PM

56. She still gets his part. I want to make sure I am clear

Mom lost her part. I hope she is getting the right amount.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 04:56 PM

31. Done.

Best wishes to you and your mom, my friend. May better times be upon you both very soon.

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Response to dixiechiken1 (Reply #31)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:03 PM

33. Thank you so much!

This will definitely make our lives easier.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:12 PM

35. Not sure where you live but I practice bankruptcy law in NJ in addition to contributions she should

talk to a bankruptcy lawyer who may be able to help. If you are from South Jersey I will be happy to offer my services for free if itís helpful.

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Response to Pepsidog (Reply #35)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 09:23 PM

45. Wow, that's a really kind and generous offer.

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Response to Pepsidog (Reply #35)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 09:26 PM

46. I live in SE PA, but that is a very nice offer!

Sorry I missed your post. Yes it something my mom and I have considered because of the foreclosure.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:34 PM

39. Done

I hope your momís situation eases soon

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Response to Cadfael (Reply #39)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 05:39 PM

40. Thank you very much and this will help

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 06:15 PM

42. K&R. Good luck!

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Response to Arazi (Reply #42)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 06:54 PM

43. Thank you!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 08:32 PM

44. So close to the goal

Whatever you can contribute would help get there. DU has been wonderful! I hope I can donate in return someday.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Thu Sep 30, 2021, 10:37 PM

47. Kicking for visibility. n/t

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:33 AM

48. I'm bringing this up to give people..

a chance to see this thread who might have missed it yesterday.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 10:01 AM

49. This is great! Only $140 shy of my goal

DU has been extremely kind. I have been here for 20 years and know how it can come through. I bet my momís blood pressure reading will be better today!

I will be withdrawing the money today as it takes 2-5 business days to transfer. But I will leave the fundraiser open for now because you I can withdraw again.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 05:24 PM

52. Can we get Matt's mom a little extra breathing room?

Can we get her a couple hundred extra to help her really breathe easier? When you're this poor and desperate you have no idea how helpful that extra can be.

Matt's been a DUer for 20 years! His mom raised him right

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Response to Arazi (Reply #52)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:11 PM

53. I reached the goal which is so great, but if people want to give some..

breathing room Iíll keep donations open for a bit. Thanks so much! Your words are very kind.

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Response to mvd (Reply #53)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 09:29 AM

62. Good thing you did

I only saw this today, sent a contribution this morning.

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Response to DFW (Reply #62)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 11:18 AM

64. Thank you very much, DFW!

I will keep it open as long as this thread still shows interest.

I am so happy I started this. I do not like asking for money, but I have been at DU a long time and felt it would work out. I also do not like showing my picture as I am private, but it wasnít so bad. I actually did not intend for my eyes to look closed - I am not good at taking selfies.

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Response to mvd (Reply #64)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 01:25 PM

66. Don't worry about the pic

I have been breaking mirrors for decades with mine. If the mirror is still intact afterwards, it's only because my wife was with me when the pic was taken.

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:17 PM

55. Done. Not much, but DUers stick together...nt

Sid

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 06:58 PM

57. A little bit for your extra cushion. The best of luck to her & you

🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

and I've never actually seen a 'go fund me' page - so that was a new experience, for me. 👍

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Response to electric_blue68 (Reply #57)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 07:09 PM

58. Thank you very much



This is my second GoFundMe. The first one was set up to help with dadís cancer bills and only went to relatives. But I have drifted apart from those relatives which is a shame.

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Response to mvd (Reply #58)

Fri Oct 1, 2021, 07:28 PM

59. You're very welcome 👍 ...

Well, there are genuine reasons why relatives can drift apart.
Good you've got DU for support.


I've been here for 16 months so I'm pretty recent, enjoying my time here. 👍

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 09:45 AM

63. Donated

Sending good vibes to your mom and you!

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Response to JonAndKatePlusABird (Reply #63)

Sat Oct 2, 2021, 11:18 AM

65. Thank you very much!

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Response to mvd (Original post)

Tue Oct 12, 2021, 11:51 PM

67. Update to my fundraiser

I am just bringing this up once for an update. Mom is doing better. I canít imagine where she would be without DUís generosity! I am leaving the fundraiser up until October 20. This is a 5 week wait for momís Social Security and she could still use a little more breathing room and less stress. Whatever you can do in the week I keep the fundraiser up would be appreciated.

Hugs to all!

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