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Nevilledog

(51,020 posts)
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 02:12 PM Aug 2021

Funeral directors being asked by denialists to not mention Covid in obits, death notices, cause...



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Zeeshan Aleem
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Absolutely stunning.

Funeral directors being asked by denialists to not mention Covid in obits, death notices, and even official death certificates as a cause of death in order to not "give credence to Covid."

https://kut.org/covid-19/2021-08-30/when-covid-deaths-are-dismissed-or-stigmatized-grief-is-mixed-with-shame-and-anger?fbclid=IwAR2t-ZZIBvTdx_M7LiEH2O6xr7XJCrOeFicN82WZJ2h0a81k41i2jA1Zo_4
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https://www.kut.org/covid-19/2021-08-30/when-covid-deaths-are-dismissed-or-stigmatized-grief-is-mixed-with-shame-and-anger?fbclid=IwAR2t-ZZIBvTdx_M7LiEH2O6xr7XJCrOeFicN82WZJ2h0a81k41i2jA1Zo_4

"You know, I've had people say 'My mother or my father was going to die, probably in the next year or two anyway, and they were in a nursing home, and then they got COVID, and you know, I don't really want to give a lot of credence to COVID," Kuhn says.

Some families wanted to have their loved one's official death certificate changed so that COVID was not listed as the cause of death, Kuhn adds. Death certificates are official state documents, so Kuhn couldn't make that change even if he wanted to. But the request shows how badly some people want to minimize the role of the virus in a loved one's death.

Refusing to face the truth about what killed a family or community member can make the grieving process much harder, according to Ken Doka, who works for the Hospice Foundation of America and has written books about aging, dying, grief and end-of-life care.

When a person dies from something that is controversial, Doka says, that's called a "disenfranchising death." The term refers to a death that people don't feel comfortable talking openly about due to social norms.

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ShazzieB

(16,281 posts)
2. Every time I think I know how crazy the covid denialists are, they turn out to be even crazier.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 02:19 PM
Aug 2021

I'm beginning to accept that they really are crazier than I would have ever thought possible.

sarisataka

(18,497 posts)
4. ?- Funeral directors do not
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 02:31 PM
Aug 2021

Write the obituaries, that is done by the family. They can include or exclude anything they want. More often than not the cause of death is omitted.

dsc

(52,152 posts)
12. actually they often do now since news papers charge for death notices
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:37 PM
Aug 2021

quite often the only obit a person has is on the funeral home's website.

democrattotheend

(11,605 posts)
11. FWIW, I have a friend who made a request like that
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:10 PM
Aug 2021

But in his case, his father went into the hospital very sick with a stomach hernia, got COVID while he was in the hospital, died almost certainly from the stomach hernia, but was still listed as a COVID death. My friend didn't want it listed that way because they are almost sure his father did not actually die of COVID.

dsc

(52,152 posts)
13. I am old enough to remember when people who died of AIDS would be listed as having
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:38 PM
Aug 2021

died after a lengthy illness. Of course, that was to keep from outing the deceased.

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