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Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:48 PM

At a small country church.

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Most of my Dad's big family is buried there, including Dad, my Mom and a brother. My sister and I make the 90 mile trip twice a year. Last fall for the first time i noticed there was a flag pole and a faded thread bare flag. I pointed it out to sister and we talked on the way back. I suggested that we donate Dad's flag. It's been almost 20 years since he passed and the flag sat in a triangle box and I never noticed the flag at the cemetery.

I called the church and they really liked the idea. They replaced the rope on the flag pole and fixed the light. So today my Dad's flag (WWII vet) is finally doing what it was intended to do, honoring our Veterans, my Dad and my brother(Viet Nam vet).


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Reply At a small country church. (Original post)
Delmette2.0 Apr 30 OP
Wounded Bear Apr 30 #1
lisa58 Apr 30 #2
Delmette2.0 Apr 30 #5
wryter2000 Apr 30 #3
FalloutShelter Apr 30 #4
DURHAM D Apr 30 #6
Delmette2.0 Apr 30 #10
DURHAM D Apr 30 #11
Delmette2.0 Apr 30 #14
hamsterjill Apr 30 #7
central scrutinizer Apr 30 #8
Delmette2.0 Apr 30 #9
central scrutinizer May 1 #23
BobTheSubgenius May 1 #31
BobTheSubgenius May 1 #33
Martin Eden Apr 30 #12
Rabrrrrrr Apr 30 #13
KT2000 Apr 30 #15
hibbing Apr 30 #16
aggiesal Apr 30 #17
Mickju Apr 30 #18
Rhiannon12866 May 1 #19
Delmette2.0 May 1 #20
Rhiannon12866 May 1 #21
Delmette2.0 May 1 #22
BobTheSubgenius May 1 #24
Delmette2.0 May 1 #25
BobTheSubgenius May 1 #30
Delmette2.0 May 1 #32
BobTheSubgenius May 2 #34
lillypaddle May 1 #26
Peacetrain May 1 #27
Delmette2.0 May 1 #28
lark May 1 #29

Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:49 PM

1. Cool story!

Thanks for sharing.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:52 PM

2. So beautiful- I don't have my dad's flag. Was given to my stepmother..

I love that your familyís sacrifice has been represented

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Response to lisa58 (Reply #2)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:58 PM

5. So many relatives.

Grandparents, great uncle and aunt, aunts, uncles and cousins. Every one of them with their own story.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:52 PM

3. That's very good of you

I'm not sure I could be that generous, but good on you.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 06:53 PM

4. Wonderful story

And tribute to the sacrifices of our vets.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:00 PM

6. I recently paid $500 to have my Great Great Grandmother's

tombstone straightened up and stabilized so it won't lean again. It was placed 125 years ago. I didn't figure anyone after me would bother. The cemetery has drainage issues and a lot of stones have fallen over and the little country church can't afford to do all the needed repairs.

The name of the cemetery is "Friedhof". Makes me smile to see the German word for graveyard above the entrance.



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Response to DURHAM D (Reply #6)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:14 PM

10. There is an uncle who passed just after he came home after WWII.

His white marble headstone is leaning. We are going to get that fixed also.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #10)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:24 PM

11. Good for you and it is great what you did with your flag.

On memorial day we visit 7 country churches in three counties. I don't know how they all stay in business but they do. Sometimes the church will take care of all the maintenance issues but the graveyard committee members are getting older and older so they need some help. One of the country graveyards has more than 110 of my ancestors and relatives.

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Response to DURHAM D (Reply #11)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 08:00 PM

14. I worry that the same thing will happen to ours.

Unless the county or historical group can help the inability to keep up will happen.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:03 PM

8. I have my dad's flag

48 stars. WWII Navy vet. He died in 1956 before Alaska and Hawaii became states. I display it on July 4 every year. With my Black Lives Matter yard sign, Iím sure no one confuses me with a MAGAt.

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Response to central scrutinizer (Reply #8)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:11 PM

9. You are awesome.

I never had the resources for a flag pole or a stable place to display on the side of my house.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #9)

Sat May 1, 2021, 09:47 AM

23. Yes, it's huge and I don't have a flagpole

Itís hard to find a spot where it wonít touch the ground. I have to ask a neighbor to help me fold it correctly. I handle it with reverence.

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Response to central scrutinizer (Reply #8)

Sat May 1, 2021, 04:46 PM

31. I'm sure no one would, too.

Frank would be rolling in his grave.

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Response to BobTheSubgenius (Reply #31)

Sat May 1, 2021, 06:58 PM

33. Ooops.

My post would make an awful lot more sense were it attached to the post I meant to reply to, which was central scrutinizer's.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:48 PM

12. It warms my heart to know our flag is being put to such a noble use

.. because it turns my stomach to see our flag being waved alongside Trump and Confederate flags, especially during the Kan 6 coup attempt.

When I see a pickup truck flying the Stars & Stripes I'm not filled with reverance and pride -- I'm filled with revulsion because the driver is almost certainly a Trumper.

We need to take our flag back, and I love how you did it.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 07:53 PM

13. That's wonderful!!

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 08:00 PM

15. Love - love this!

You and your sis saw a problem and fixed it where so many would have just complained. Your Dad would be proud I am sure.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 08:09 PM

16. Awesome, I have my grandfather's n/t

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 09:31 PM

17. All flags given to the Veteran's family at the funeral ...

have flown over the U.S. Capitol.

I would consider that a great honor.
The church should know.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Fri Apr 30, 2021, 10:56 PM

18. That's really nice.

Your post gave me chills. (in a good way!)

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Sat May 1, 2021, 05:12 AM

19. K&R for a great story and for your Dad!

In front of the house where my father grew up, there's also a flagpole. My grandfather was also a veteran, served in the cavalry, brought ammunition to the front on horseback during WWI. My grandfather never lived in that house, he died suddenly at age 48 just after having bought it - he and my grandmother saved to buy their own house, there weren't mortgages in those days. So it was up to my grandmother to move the family from their rented house to a home of their own. I'm not sure who erected that flagpole. but it was to honor my grandfather's service. This was in September 1940 and my father was 12.

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Response to Rhiannon12866 (Reply #19)

Sat May 1, 2021, 06:30 AM

20. Your grandmother must have been a very strong woman.

She lost her husband and still kept their home and raised the children. That could not have been easy in the 1940's.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #20)

Sat May 1, 2021, 06:41 AM

21. She certainly was. She was a teacher and went back to work

With the war on, she went to work in the Office of Price Administration, think that had to do with rationing. But it was tough, she had 4 children, my Dad was the eldest boy at 12, his youngest brother was only 3, not in school yet so she had to find some sort of day care - which they also didn't have in those days. But she said that she found a kind Jewish group that took young children, which was especially kind since they weren't Jewish. But my grandmother was awfully good with people and could be very persuasive. And education was especially important to her, all 4 of her kids graduated from college. My Dad was an engineer and my youngest uncle got his Masters, worked with computers in D.C.

Obviously, I was particularly close to my grandmother. I lost her in 1998, just before her 98th birthday. I miss her a lot still.

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Response to Rhiannon12866 (Reply #21)

Sat May 1, 2021, 08:04 AM

22. You are lucky to have known her.

I barely knew my grandmother on Dad's side. I am about the 25th out of 50 grandchildren. By the time i was 16 she had several strokes and didn't recognize me.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Sat May 1, 2021, 10:55 AM

24. What a lovely gesture!

And out in public, doing what it was always meant to do - proclaim the honour of those that served it.

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Response to BobTheSubgenius (Reply #24)

Sat May 1, 2021, 11:00 AM

25. Thank you.

Our Mom displayed that flag and proudly. It is just time to let go of some things to benefit someone else.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Reply #25)

Sat May 1, 2021, 04:43 PM

30. I totally get it. You're not divesting, you're making the honour ripple out like water on a pond.

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Response to BobTheSubgenius (Reply #30)

Sat May 1, 2021, 05:08 PM

32. Oh, that is a wonderful way to say it.

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Response to BobTheSubgenius (Reply #30)

Sun May 2, 2021, 02:32 PM

34. Thank you!

Your gesture still deserves better.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Sat May 1, 2021, 11:02 AM

26. Lovely gesture, lovely story

They are smiling with pride.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Sat May 1, 2021, 11:11 AM

27. I am sitting here crying like a baby after reading your op

What a sweet and wonderful gesture on the part of you and your sister. What a wonderful honor. My Dad died in 2007, He was a WW2 Vet also. And you are so right, my brother has the flag that was on his coffin, in a little wooden triangular box.. I am going to mention your op to my brother. What a great way to honor our vets.

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Response to Peacetrain (Reply #27)

Sat May 1, 2021, 11:20 AM

28. If not a cemetery, their cemetery check out other places.

There are a lot of shelters that are used by veterans. Drive by and see if they have a flag pole.

Contact your dad's school (s) and your brother's schools.

One last suggestion check with the VFW or American Legion for suggestions. Basically, who ever seems to need it the most.

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Response to Delmette2.0 (Original post)

Sat May 1, 2021, 12:46 PM

29. I thank your family for their service and you for your kindness.

What a great idea!

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