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MineralMan

(146,254 posts)
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:35 AM Jan 2021

In the Midst of All This Good News - It Is a Sad Day for Me

I received a call this morning that my 96-year-old mother died in her sleep last night of Alzheimer's complications. At the same time, my father, who is also 96 years old, lies in a hospital on palliative hospice care and will probably die today from COVID-19 pneumonia. They celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary in June of 2020.

So, instead of watching Congress confirm the election of Joe Biden and Kamala Harris, I will be planning arrangements with a funeral home for both of my parents and talking with the lawyer who has been handling the family trust. My parents' citrus farm has been sold, but the closing is scheduled for later this week. As the administrator of the trust, I will have to do that closing remotely.

Due to the raging COVID-19 pandemic in California, I won't be there for my parents' burials. Nobody, really, will be there, except maybe my brother-in-law and nephew. My sister also has advanced Alzeheimer's, so she won't be there, either.

Meanwhile, politics goes on, and we appear to have won important races in Georgia, so there is that to offer some positive news on a very sad day for me.

MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!

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In the Midst of All This Good News - It Is a Sad Day for Me (Original Post) MineralMan Jan 2021 OP
My condolences Ohio Joe Jan 2021 #1
Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mother. MontanaMama Jan 2021 #2
I am so sorry. SamKnause Jan 2021 #3
I am so sorry for your loss jmbar2 Jan 2021 #4
(((MM))) blaze Jan 2021 #5
May her memories be a blessing. 🕯️ irisblue Jan 2021 #6
I'm very sorry. sinkingfeeling Jan 2021 #7
Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Jan 2021 #8
So sorry, Mineral Man. Turin_C3PO Jan 2021 #9
I am so sorry ismnotwasm Jan 2021 #10
I am sorry for all your loss, MineralMan. madaboutharry Jan 2021 #11
sorry to learn this struggle4progress Jan 2021 #12
I'm very sorry. As one who lost both parents in the same year a couple of decades ago, it is hlthe2b Jan 2021 #13
I am so sorry Tbear Jan 2021 #14
My deepest condolences to you and your family. dalton99a Jan 2021 #15
I am so sorrry, MineralMan. Laffy Kat Jan 2021 #16
My heart is breaking for you. I know that there are no words that can help. But know that your DU niyad Jan 2021 #17
I am so very sorry. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. onecaliberal Jan 2021 #18
sorry for your loss. Voltaire2 Jan 2021 #19
I'm so sorry for all of your losses, MineralMan. BComplex Jan 2021 #20
I am so sorry. Stuart G Jan 2021 #21
My heart goes out to you. May you find the strength to do what needs doing. nt Atticus Jan 2021 #22
I'm so very sorry to hear about these events in your life, MM. Hugin Jan 2021 #23
I'm so so sorry for your loss, MineralMan... Backseat Driver Jan 2021 #24
I am so sorry. Go in peace, MM's parents. uppityperson Jan 2021 #25
I'm so sorry for your loss democrattotheend Jan 2021 #26
Sorry to hear this. bluestarone Jan 2021 #27
So very sad. My condolences, MM. nt babylonsister Jan 2021 #28
I am very sorry for your loss and also sorry that PA Democrat Jan 2021 #29
My sincere sympathies, MineralMan Metatron Jan 2021 #30
I am so sorry. yardwork Jan 2021 #31
I'm sorry for your loss Bettie Jan 2021 #32
I am so sorry for your loss wellst0nev0ter Jan 2021 #33
Sincere condolences. k&r n/t Laelth Jan 2021 #34
I won't be able to acknowledge everyone's replies individually. MineralMan Jan 2021 #35
That is surely what your parents would have said. They... 3catwoman3 Jan 2021 #255
So sorry Mineral Man. marmar Jan 2021 #36
I am so sorry. It is a disgrace what has happened in this country to your parents and to others... Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #37
Condolences, MM. Gidney N Cloyd Jan 2021 #38
Deepest sympathy to you and your family malaise Jan 2021 #39
So sorry MM. Take care still_one Jan 2021 #40
Very sorry for your loss MM. 7wo7rees Jan 2021 #41
No matter their age at passing, it is very hard to deal with. triron Jan 2021 #42
So sorry for your loss Mz Pip Jan 2021 #43
So very sad...perhaps this? MomInTheCrowd Jan 2021 #44
MM, what a terrible turn of events for your family and you. cry baby Jan 2021 #45
🕯😢🕯 blm Jan 2021 #46
Dear MM, do what you must do for your loved ones at this time. . . DinahMoeHum Jan 2021 #47
I'm so sorry, MineralMan. That devastating news is bad enough without adding covid to the mix judesedit Jan 2021 #48
Deeply sorry, MM. AngryOldDem Jan 2021 #49
May their memories always be for a blessing. PCIntern Jan 2021 #50
My condolences. It's so sad that you can't be there, and probably haven't seen... LAS14 Jan 2021 #51
I am so sorry for your loss mercuryblues Jan 2021 #52
Dear Mr. MM Tracer Jan 2021 #53
So sorry for your loss n/t HipChick Jan 2021 #54
Fair winds and following seas to your mom, MM obamanut2012 Jan 2021 #55
So sorry to hear this BumRushDaShow Jan 2021 #56
oh man, I am so sorry. Kali Jan 2021 #57
Wow, that's harsh. Roisin Ni Fiachra Jan 2021 #58
So sorry MM. spanone Jan 2021 #59
Aw... so sorry. farmbo Jan 2021 #60
Know my heart is filled with such sorrow for your loss, and for what you're going through. a kennedy Jan 2021 #61
I'm so sorry Beaverhausen Jan 2021 #62
I am so sorry to hear this, Mineral Man. Mrs. Overall Jan 2021 #63
so very sorry for your loss. nt Akacia Jan 2021 #64
My sincere condolences to you and your family. mtnsnake Jan 2021 #65
So sorry for your loss, very sad circumstances. nt intheozone Jan 2021 #66
So very sorry 😢 Justice Jan 2021 #67
Oh I am so very sorry MissB Jan 2021 #68
Yours is such an important voice on DU. So sorry to hear you dealing with so much pain. FailureToCommunicate Jan 2021 #69
Very sorry for your loss... Blasphemer Jan 2021 #70
Sigh. I'm so sorry. ananda Jan 2021 #71
Condolences to you amigo! Vinnie From Indy Jan 2021 #72
I am sorry for your loss, MineralMan KS Toronado Jan 2021 #73
My condolences mokawanis Jan 2021 #74
Condolences, MineralMan on the loss of your beloved parents. gademocrat7 Jan 2021 #75
They'll continue to add to your strength... Harker Jan 2021 #76
I'm very sorry MM geardaddy Jan 2021 #77
So sorry for your loss, Mineral Man. ancianita Jan 2021 #78
.... panader0 Jan 2021 #79
Oh MM, I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers and a hug to you. n/t monmouth4 Jan 2021 #80
This is sad, and I am sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2021 #81
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 2021 #82
Sending condolences, MM. volstork Jan 2021 #83
I'm so very sorry for your loss. You're going pnwest Jan 2021 #84
I'm so sorry for your loss. MelissaB Jan 2021 #85
My sincerest sympathies on your loss, PRETZEL Jan 2021 #86
How very sad . . . people Jan 2021 #87
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jan 2021 #88
MineralMan mcar Jan 2021 #89
I'm so very sorry for your loss. herding cats Jan 2021 #90
I am so very sorry for your loss. May your memories of them be a comfort to you. shrike3 Jan 2021 #91
My heart and Prayers go out to you and your family. Tommymac Jan 2021 #92
My condolences to you for your great loss. Texin Jan 2021 #93
Sending peace cp Jan 2021 #94
So sorry for your loss🙏♥️...n/t SayitAintSo Jan 2021 #95
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. NoRoadUntravelled Jan 2021 #96
My deepest condolences to you, MineralMan! LaMouffette Jan 2021 #97
Great Sympathy marieo1 Jan 2021 #98
My condolences MM angrychair Jan 2021 #99
I'm so sorry. StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #100
I'm so sorry, MM. hamsterjill Jan 2021 #101
Very sorry sir. berni_mccoy Jan 2021 #102
I am so sorry. Tech Jan 2021 #103
I'm very sorry, MM. brer cat Jan 2021 #104
Oh MM, I am so sorry! AllyCat Jan 2021 #105
So sorry for your loss marlakay Jan 2021 #106
I'm so sorry, MM... Phentex Jan 2021 #107
Condolences. mfcorey1 Jan 2021 #108
My condolences on your loss. IrishEyes Jan 2021 #109
I am so sorry, MineralMan. GoCubsGo Jan 2021 #110
Oh Mineral Man I am so sorry for your loss zeusdogmom Jan 2021 #111
Sorry for your loss bucolic_frolic Jan 2021 #112
You're in my thoughts. Tom Yossarian Joad Jan 2021 #113
I am so sorry MineralMan Tom Rinaldo Jan 2021 #114
You are in my heart OddMom20 Jan 2021 #115
Peace and strength to you, brother. 75 years together...remarkable! slumcamper Jan 2021 #116
I'm so sorry for your loss, MineralMan. Lars39 Jan 2021 #117
I am so sorry. senseandsensibility Jan 2021 #118
So very sorry for your sadness, Mineral Man. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2021 #119
Condolences to you and yours sazemisery Jan 2021 #120
Sorry for your losses N/T tiredtoo Jan 2021 #121
MY condolences to you and your family........... turbinetree Jan 2021 #122
... N_E_1 for Tennis Jan 2021 #123
Sending you and your family💖 MLAA Jan 2021 #124
Been following your posts on this. rurallib Jan 2021 #125
I'm so sorry. Jay25 Jan 2021 #126
My deepest condolences, dear Mineral Man GoldenMezzoDiva Jan 2021 #127
Very sad news... Spazito Jan 2021 #128
I am so sorry cally Jan 2021 #129
I'm SO sorry to hear about your mother, and the father. onecent Jan 2021 #130
My heart goes out to you MineralMan. May your mom Rest in Peace and her memories be a blessing. nt iluvtennis Jan 2021 #131
Condolences. A marriage that lasted 75 years is something... NNadir Jan 2021 #132
My deepest sorrow for you LymphocyteLover Jan 2021 #133
So sorry for your loss Dem4Life1102 Jan 2021 #134
In our prayers. Find peace. 634-5789 Jan 2021 #135
Please accept my sincere condolences. TNNurse Jan 2021 #136
I am so sorry. BadgerMom Jan 2021 #137
Sorry to hear of this. skip fox Jan 2021 #138
Sorry for your loss matt819 Jan 2021 #139
So sorry for your loss, Mineral Man PJMcK Jan 2021 #140
I'm sorry seta1950 Jan 2021 #141
That is a gut kicker. LiberalFighter Jan 2021 #142
..😰 Demovictory9 Jan 2021 #143
Your parents knew and know you loved them and they love you. SayItLoud Jan 2021 #144
I am so sorry. Honest_Abe Jan 2021 #145
I' m truly sorry democrank Jan 2021 #146
I'm so sorry for your loss. AirmensMom Jan 2021 #147
My condolences and respect to you and your family MM kr PufPuf23 Jan 2021 #148
Holding you in my heart, MM. Stay strong, you're not alone. TygrBright Jan 2021 #149
I am so sorry for wat you are going through MM. Dream Girl Jan 2021 #150
There are no words that can take your pain away BlueIdaho Jan 2021 #151
Sorry to hear that MM. world wide wally Jan 2021 #152
Sincere condolences.....nt Heartstrings Jan 2021 #153
Please accept my condolences. n/t malthaussen Jan 2021 #154
My deepest sympathies to you. Sogo Jan 2021 #155
I'm so sorry. Losing both parents at the same time is just doubly hard. Lonestarblue Jan 2021 #156
I'm so sorry wryter2000 Jan 2021 #157
Oh god, MineralMan! Blue_playwright Jan 2021 #158
Another Thing tsSleepyTimeDwnSout Jan 2021 #159
So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother... CatMor Jan 2021 #160
Sincere condolences for your loss, sir. mac56 Jan 2021 #161
Loss of a parent - what a life altering experience GentleAlien Jan 2021 #162
I'm so sorry, Mineral Man LeftInTX Jan 2021 #163
So very very sorry for the sadness you are Ninga Jan 2021 #164
R.I.P. sweet lady MoonRiver Jan 2021 #165
I'm very sorry for your loss. 58Sunliner Jan 2021 #166
So sorry about your mom and dad Meowmee Jan 2021 #167
Take comfort in the fact that they lived long and fulfilling lives, Liberty Belle Jan 2021 #168
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Jan 2021 #169
Please accept my condolences for loss. BMW2020RT Jan 2021 #170
This is a heavy load. I'm so terribly sorry. nt chowder66 Jan 2021 #171
I am so sorry, MineralMan. tblue37 Jan 2021 #172
I'm so sorry sdfernando Jan 2021 #173
I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel Jan 2021 #174
So sorry to hear about your parents, MM. pazzyanne Jan 2021 #175
So sorry to hear about your loss... orwell Jan 2021 #176
Some mileposts in life are tough to embrace, we do what we can and what we just have to do. marble falls Jan 2021 #177
My deepest condolences Mad_Dem_X Jan 2021 #178
I'm so sorry, Mineral Man whathehell Jan 2021 #179
... Nevilledog Jan 2021 #180
My Sincerest Condolences RustyWheels Jan 2021 #181
So sorry for your loss. yellowdogintexas Jan 2021 #182
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Jan 2021 #183
Condolences, MM maxsolomon Jan 2021 #184
So sorry MM NightWatcher Jan 2021 #185
I'm so sorry. Mickju Jan 2021 #186
I'm so sorry for your loss exacerbated by this pandemic 😕 live love laugh Jan 2021 #187
Condolences, MM. Gidney N Cloyd Jan 2021 #188
(((Mineral Man, what a terrible time for you))) Hekate Jan 2021 #189
My Condolences - and you're right.. Tiger8 Jan 2021 #190
So sad for you. McCamy Taylor Jan 2021 #191
... SammyWinstonJack Jan 2021 #192
It doesn't get much sadder than that. Condolences to you. Vinca Jan 2021 #193
Condolences, MineralMan sarge43 Jan 2021 #194
What a truly sad day for you and your family PatSeg Jan 2021 #195
So very sorry. MuseRider Jan 2021 #196
Sending sympathetic comfort vibes. Know this is hard to accept loss of loved ones, even those northoftheborder Jan 2021 #197
I'm so sorry for your loss. 🙏 LiberalLoner Jan 2021 #198
So sorry, MM peggysue2 Jan 2021 #199
I am so sorry, MM peacebuzzard Jan 2021 #200
I'm so sorry for your loss W T F Jan 2021 #201
I am so sorry. Andy823 Jan 2021 #202
My condolences. Labiglabocce Jan 2021 #203
I am so sorry for your losses Maeve Jan 2021 #204
Sorry for your loss... Alacritous Crier Jan 2021 #205
I'm so sorry MineralMan Polybius Jan 2021 #206
My condolences Leith Jan 2021 #207
So sorry for your loss. rsdsharp Jan 2021 #208
so sorry for your loss. fantase56 Jan 2021 #209
So very sorry! AwakeAtLast Jan 2021 #210
so sorry joanbarnes Jan 2021 #211
My condolences PirateRo Jan 2021 #212
Our hearts ache with yours MineralMan and peace be with you. KY_EnviroGuy Jan 2021 #213
I am so sorry for your losses, Mineral Man. Ilsa Jan 2021 #214
I'm so sorry. BobTheSubgenius Jan 2021 #215
I am sorry for your loss, MM. yonder Jan 2021 #216
Hugs from all of us Rorey Jan 2021 #217
My condolences. Nt LittleGirl Jan 2021 #218
Sorry for your family and your personal loss MM usaf-vet Jan 2021 #219
I am sorry for your loss and that you couldn't be with them. Nt spooky3 Jan 2021 #220
My heart goes out to you. appleannie1 Jan 2021 #221
I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. My condolences to you and your family. Vivienne235729 Jan 2021 #222
I'm so very sorry stage left Jan 2021 #223
My sincere sympathies... my heart aches with you. Raster Jan 2021 #224
Condolences on your loss DeminPennswoods Jan 2021 #225
I'm sorry, MineralMan. LudwigPastorius Jan 2021 #226
So sorry to learn of this enormous grief you've been given. So much at once. Judi Lynn Jan 2021 #227
My deepest condolences Mineral Man! denvine Jan 2021 #228
Ah, Mineral Man, I am so sorry to hear this news. GoneOffShore Jan 2021 #229
I am so so very sorry demtenjeep Jan 2021 #230
I am so sorry, mineralman UpInArms Jan 2021 #231
I can only send hugs for comfort, and my deepest condolences. love_katz Jan 2021 #232
I am so sorry, MM. sheshe2 Jan 2021 #233
My condolences, MineralMan. cayugafalls Jan 2021 #234
Being hit from all sides, it seems lillypaddle Jan 2021 #235
MineralMan, I am so sorry. crickets Jan 2021 #236
My most sincere condolences MineralMan Moostache Jan 2021 #237
i am so sorry for your loss, Mineral Man Wicked Blue Jan 2021 #238
I'm so sorry to hear this The Mouth Jan 2021 #239
May you have peace blogslut Jan 2021 #240
I'm so sorry dflprincess Jan 2021 #241
I am so sorry to hear this. I'm having a memorial service for my favorite uncle today, via ZOOM, SWBTATTReg Jan 2021 #242
what a remarkable outpouring of prayers and good thoughts for MineralMan . . . OneBlueSky Jan 2021 #243
So sorry for you loss MineralMan. c-rational Jan 2021 #244
Peace be with you Mineral Man Blue Owl Jan 2021 #245
I'm so sorry KT2000 Jan 2021 #246
We are all with you in your moment of grief. BigBearJohn Jan 2021 #247
Sending condolences, courage and peace to you and your family. NurseJackie Jan 2021 #248
I am so sorry MM. I know your pain. Maraya1969 Jan 2021 #249
My condolences 🙏🙏 flying-skeleton Jan 2021 #250
I am so sorry for your loss, Mineral Man. smirkymonkey Jan 2021 #251
Sorry to hear about your loss. Niagara Jan 2021 #252
Oh no! I feared that had happened BigmanPigman Jan 2021 #253
Sorry for your loss MM Submariner Jan 2021 #254
Huge Condolences. Paka Jan 2021 #256
A virtual hug to a wonderful son. royable Jan 2021 #257
I'm So Sorry To Hear About Your Losses COL Mustard Jan 2021 #258
My Sympathies MineralMan denbot Jan 2021 #259
So sorry Mineral man even though you expected it, it's a hard thing to deal with kimbutgar Jan 2021 #260
My condolences treestar Jan 2021 #261
My deepest condolences Mineral Man, to lose both parents Vadem Jan 2021 #262
Many virtual hugs, MM. calimary Jan 2021 #263
So terribly sorry, Mineral Man... Trueblue Texan Jan 2021 #264
I'm so very sorry cate94 Jan 2021 #265
Darn TuxedoKat Jan 2021 #266
... Catherine Vincent Jan 2021 #267
My sincerest condolences, sir. ClusterFreak Jan 2021 #268
I am so sorry. Life goes on--or doesn't. May their memories be for a blessing; may you find comfort. catrose Jan 2021 #269
Please accept my condolences raising2moredems Jan 2021 #270
so very sorry... jtb653 Jan 2021 #271
Our hearts are with you, MM. Totally Tunsie Jan 2021 #272
So sorry dude GregD Jan 2021 #273
RIP Snoopy 7 Jan 2021 #274
I am so sorry for your pain and loss.MM stuffmatters Jan 2021 #275
My deepest sympathies. DonaldsRump Jan 2021 #276
Oh how heartbreaking. a la izquierda Jan 2021 #277
Sorry, MM. So terribly sad that it is this way. Stay well. Hortensis Jan 2021 #278
My condolences to you and your family thucythucy Jan 2021 #279
Let's hope this wraps up a bad year. JohnnyRingo Jan 2021 #280

MontanaMama

(23,295 posts)
2. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mother.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:37 AM
Jan 2021

Alzheimers indeed sucks. I lost my dad and grandad to it. These are such hard days. I’m sorry.

jmbar2

(4,862 posts)
4. I am so sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:38 AM
Jan 2021

At least they are leaving this planet together. That would be a comfort to either one of them.

Take care of yourself during this stressful time. The nation is gonna be OK...

Turin_C3PO

(13,909 posts)
9. So sorry, Mineral Man.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:39 AM
Jan 2021

Take all the time you need to grieve. Your friends here at DU will be here for you.

ismnotwasm

(41,965 posts)
10. I am so sorry
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:39 AM
Jan 2021

The first 11 years I spent as a nurse were in Long term care, and it remains my favorite kind of nursing.

Alzheimer’s, I used to watch the love of family members pour out even when it could no longer be returned. It was magical, sometimes you saw the very best of humanity.

I wish you well, I hope you have as much health and healing as possible.

hlthe2b

(102,120 posts)
13. I'm very sorry. As one who lost both parents in the same year a couple of decades ago, it is
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:39 AM
Jan 2021

always still with me. Less painful, yes, but how much I would have loved to have had them to talk over things over those past many years. Of course, I might also have faced Alzheimer's with one or both. They died too young to predict.

May your good memories with them sustain you now.


niyad

(113,055 posts)
17. My heart is breaking for you. I know that there are no words that can help. But know that your DU
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:40 AM
Jan 2021

family is holding you and yours tightly in love and light. We are here for you.

Voltaire2

(12,958 posts)
19. sorry for your loss.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:40 AM
Jan 2021

Alzheimer's is indeed horrible. I hope your dad recovers.

Covid sucks but would suck a whole lot less if all the assholes would stay home, and if they went out wore a damn mask.

BComplex

(8,017 posts)
20. I'm so sorry for all of your losses, MineralMan.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:40 AM
Jan 2021

Alzheimer's is so heartbreaking all on its own, but when you throw in COVID and not being able to go to their funerals, I just can't imagine. Sending you and your family big hugs.

Hugin

(33,047 posts)
23. I'm so very sorry to hear about these events in your life, MM.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:41 AM
Jan 2021

Hopefully, the news of progress today will lighten your burden somewhat.

Take care and peace.

democrattotheend

(11,605 posts)
26. I'm so sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:42 AM
Jan 2021

I can't even imagine how hard it must be to lose one or both of your parents and to not be able to be with them in their last days. My heart goes out to you.

bluestarone

(16,859 posts)
27. Sorry to hear this.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:42 AM
Jan 2021

Wishing you the best. losing a family member is rough BUT losing a family member under these type conditions is even WORSE. Take care,

PA Democrat

(13,225 posts)
29. I am very sorry for your loss and also sorry that
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:43 AM
Jan 2021

due to the out-of-control pandemic you are denied the traditional rituals of mourning to ease your loss.

MineralMan

(146,254 posts)
35. I won't be able to acknowledge everyone's replies individually.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:44 AM
Jan 2021

But please accept my thanks for your well-wishes and sympathy.

I'll be OK. There are so many things I must do today that I'll have little time to grieve. Their deaths were not unexpected, but it is still very difficult to imagine them being gone.

Today, I'll be distracted by things I must do. I'll also use DU and the news to distract myself further.

Neither of my parents would have wanted me to risk getting sick from COVID at this time. They would have said,
"Stay where you are and take care of yourself and your own family." That's who they were.

Thanks again, everyone, for all your kind words.

3catwoman3

(23,947 posts)
255. That is surely what your parents would have said. They...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 06:43 PM
Jan 2021

...never stop worrying about us, no matter how old/grownup we are.

I hope you have people you can lean on when you need to. I think you’ve been the rock for quite some time.

Demsrule86

(68,456 posts)
37. I am so sorry. It is a disgrace what has happened in this country to your parents and to others...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:45 AM
Jan 2021

I hope Trump is tried for crimes against humanity. But all I can say is what my best friend told me when I lost my Mom and my Dad...they were younger than your parents and I bitterly resented those I knew who still had living parents (pretty awful huh). My friend said I wish you peace. The peace of knowing you did what you could...and you made their lives brighter just by being there through the years. I am sending prayers, good wishes and peace as you complete these last tasks for your parents. You were lucky to have had them for so long and they were lucky to have had such a son as you. God bless, I believe we will see our loved ones again.

7wo7rees

(5,128 posts)
41. Very sorry for your loss MM.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:45 AM
Jan 2021

The Covid has made the suffering for those with Alz/dementia and their families and friends so much worse.
You loved them well.
Peace to you and yours.
Sincerely, The 7wo7rees family

Mz Pip

(27,430 posts)
43. So sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:46 AM
Jan 2021

What a terrible way to begin the new year. My condolences to you and your family.

MomInTheCrowd

(268 posts)
44. So very sad...perhaps this?
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:46 AM
Jan 2021

Our parents wishes were cremation and to be buried together. Dad passed a year and a half before Mom. At about 2 years from Mom’s passing we finally had a service. My sister got to live with both their ashes, in comfort, for that interim time. It brought great peace.

cry baby

(6,682 posts)
45. MM, what a terrible turn of events for your family and you.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:46 AM
Jan 2021

I’m going to be thinking of you and sending cyber hugs. I’m just so mad at all the things covid is taking from our lives.

DinahMoeHum

(21,774 posts)
47. Dear MM, do what you must do for your loved ones at this time. . .
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:47 AM
Jan 2021

. . .take time off from DU here if you must. We will understand.

You know we're all here for you if you need us.

judesedit

(4,437 posts)
48. I'm so sorry, MineralMan. That devastating news is bad enough without adding covid to the mix
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:47 AM
Jan 2021

Please know we are praying for strength for you and your family to get through this. I know you feel like your world has stopped, and the rest of the world just keeps going without recognizing it's loss. Thankfully, you will have your memories for as long as you live. I hope you find comfort in knowing your parents will be together again.

LAS14

(13,769 posts)
51. My condolences. It's so sad that you can't be there, and probably haven't seen...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:48 AM
Jan 2021

.. your parents for many months.

mercuryblues

(14,522 posts)
52. I am so sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:49 AM
Jan 2021

When my Dad passed in November the funeral home livestreamed his graveside service. Please check into that. I know it is not the same as being there, but it is the best we can do, at this point.

There will be a day when the sorrow and sadness will be replaced with memories we cherish, easing the pain of loss.

Hugs to you.

BumRushDaShow

(128,455 posts)
56. So sorry to hear this
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:51 AM
Jan 2021

although I know you were already bracing for it.

Sending my condolences to you and your family.

a kennedy

(29,615 posts)
61. Know my heart is filled with such sorrow for your loss, and for what you're going through.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 11:56 AM
Jan 2021

❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Blasphemer

(3,261 posts)
70. Very sorry for your loss...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:01 PM
Jan 2021

My grandmother had Alzheimer's. They said she died "peacefully" but there is nothing peaceful about Alzheimer's. So much worse for you to have to go through this during a pandemic.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,816 posts)
81. This is sad, and I am sorry.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:04 PM
Jan 2021

I hope it is possible for you to say that they both had a long and full life. I realize recent years weren't so good, but I also know from your posts that you did your very best to be there for them when it was possible.

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
82. Deepest condolences
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:04 PM
Jan 2021

Please take time for good self care. Eat, sleep, do deep breathing to stay grounded.

So sorry for your loss.

Healing energy on the way. 💗💗💗

pnwest

(3,266 posts)
84. I'm so very sorry for your loss. You're going
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:05 PM
Jan 2021

through so many very hard things right now, please remember to take time for self care. Just went through some of these same trials myself and my heart goes out to you.

PRETZEL

(3,245 posts)
86. My sincerest sympathies on your loss,
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:05 PM
Jan 2021

I lost my aunt to Covid yesterday. My wife lost her step-mother yesterday also.

And, yes this Covid sucks.

people

(622 posts)
87. How very sad . . .
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:06 PM
Jan 2021

You have written about your sadness that covid has prevented you from visiting them in the last year. I hope your mom suffered no pain and that your dad is not suffering any pain now. Must have been wonderful to visit them at their citrus farm. Take care. So
very sorry.

dlk

(11,512 posts)
88. I'm very sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:06 PM
Jan 2021

I wish comfort and peace for you and your family at this most difficult time.

LaMouffette

(2,019 posts)
97. My deepest condolences to you, MineralMan!
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:12 PM
Jan 2021

And you are correct in your statement about MAGA, Covid, and Alzheimer's. They are co-conspirators in MAWA (making America weep again).

Please take extra good care of yourself during this tremendously sad time in your life.

marieo1

(1,402 posts)
98. Great Sympathy
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:12 PM
Jan 2021

MineralMan......you have my deepest sympathy....It's hard to be overjoyed in the face of losing ones parents.

angrychair

(8,678 posts)
99. My condolences MM
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:13 PM
Jan 2021

My grandmother died from complications from Alzheimer's disease many years ago. That disease creates so many more victims than just the patient.


I hope you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.

hamsterjill

(15,220 posts)
101. I'm so sorry, MM.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:14 PM
Jan 2021

Words always fail in times like these. I’m sorry about your parents and yes, it just sucks!!!

Please know that your contributions to DU and the successful sharing of Democratic principles are much appreciated. We will all celebrate for your until you feel ready to do that yourself.

Hugs!

Tech

(1,769 posts)
103. I am so sorry.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:16 PM
Jan 2021

I have enjoyed your parental musing the past few years. My husband and I both list our moms last year. Many of your stories hit home.

AllyCat

(16,140 posts)
105. Oh MM, I am so sorry!
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:16 PM
Jan 2021

And in this horrible pandemic, I remember you saying you couldn't even visit and now have all this to manage with losing both of your parents. I am so sorry. Dementia sucks. Crappy, horrible disease I wish we could figure out. Hugs to you man. My heart breaks for you.

zeusdogmom

(987 posts)
111. Oh Mineral Man I am so sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:20 PM
Jan 2021

Words seem empty at this point. Surrounding you with gentle thoughts.

Tom Rinaldo

(22,911 posts)
114. I am so sorry MineralMan
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:22 PM
Jan 2021

You should have been able to bask in the glow of this day. As it is I hope it offers you some comfort. Those who are partially complicit in your mother's death, due to the malicious mismanagement of this pandemic, at the least being politically held to some account.

OddMom20

(40 posts)
115. You are in my heart
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:22 PM
Jan 2021

I am so sorry MineralMan - I wish that I could offer more to help ease the pain you and your family must be holding at this time.

senseandsensibility

(16,929 posts)
118. I am so sorry.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:25 PM
Jan 2021

I hope you find some comfort and distraction here at DU. I agree with your last sentiments completely.

sazemisery

(2,608 posts)
120. Condolences to you and yours
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:25 PM
Jan 2021

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”

― Kahlil Gibran

rurallib

(62,379 posts)
125. Been following your posts on this.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:29 PM
Jan 2021

So sorry this happened especially under such terrible circumstances.

GoldenMezzoDiva

(79 posts)
127. My deepest condolences, dear Mineral Man
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:30 PM
Jan 2021

...Words escape. Please know at least that your DU buddies have you and your beloved family
in our hearts...Again, words fade away..

cally

(21,591 posts)
129. I am so sorry
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:30 PM
Jan 2021

It is almost unimaginable to have both parents die so close together. My Mom died last year and I still am processing the grief and shock. Plus, handling an estate is very time consuming and hard.

NNadir

(33,470 posts)
132. Condolences. A marriage that lasted 75 years is something...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:33 PM
Jan 2021

...wonderful, and although they are passing, it is something to cherish.

TNNurse

(6,926 posts)
136. Please accept my sincere condolences.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:35 PM
Jan 2021

Will keep you in my thoughts. Hope the fact that their struggles are over will be some comfort.

matt819

(10,749 posts)
139. Sorry for your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:36 PM
Jan 2021

It seems that many of us here are confronting comparable situations these days. Either dealing with the immediacy of illness or death, or awaiting the call.

DU will still be here when you're back.

PJMcK

(21,995 posts)
140. So sorry for your loss, Mineral Man
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:37 PM
Jan 2021

You've been open about your family and your affection and obligations. This is, indeed, a difficult day and I feel for you and your family.

Let me repeat your profound words:

MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!

Thank you for the intelligence, passion, humor and insights you bring to DU.

Peace.

SayItLoud

(1,701 posts)
144. Your parents knew and know you loved them and they love you.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:40 PM
Jan 2021

DU'ers here sharing some of your pain.
Peace.

TygrBright

(20,755 posts)
149. Holding you in my heart, MM. Stay strong, you're not alone.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:44 PM
Jan 2021

They had 96 years and so many of them together. I would take that if it were me and my beloved. It's tough to be orphaned and lose that here-and-now connection to your roots, and when the irritating paperwork and arrangements and detail stuff is done, that may come back around again.

And we'll still be here for you, and a lot of us "get it", so those prayers and good vibes and loving thoughts will be with you through it all.

affectionately,
Bright

BlueIdaho

(13,582 posts)
151. There are no words that can take your pain away
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:44 PM
Jan 2021

But know you do not travel through this grief alone. May you and yours find peace and comfort in this very sad time.

Sogo

(4,986 posts)
155. My deepest sympathies to you.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:48 PM
Jan 2021

It's never easy to let our loved ones go, but there's a relief knowing that they no longer suffer.

Wishing you ease and peace.....








Lonestarblue

(9,958 posts)
156. I'm so sorry. Losing both parents at the same time is just doubly hard.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:49 PM
Jan 2021

As is not being able to say goodbye in person. May you find peace and let the memories of the good times with your parents be uppermost in your mind.

Blue_playwright

(1,568 posts)
158. Oh god, MineralMan!
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:51 PM
Jan 2021

I am so sorry.

I lost two family members (mom and favorite aunt) within weeks of each other. Do NOT discount how that double dose of grief will hit you. And don’t feel guilty if one hits you harder than the other. (Surprisingly, my aunt continues to hit me harder than my mother.)

And take care of yourself. They would want you to come out of this on the other side healthy and ready to continue your life.

Sending love to you and your family.

Lisa

159. Another Thing
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:51 PM
Jan 2021

Hard to read your post, Mineral Man. Love my parents too, and I can imagine your pain. I would like to say something that is personal to me: your parents (apparently) were involved in one of the most noble human undertakings. - after a long career in IT, realizing I hated it, I got a degree in horticulture late in life, left IT for hort and Ag, and never looked back. Five jobs in the industry before I retired showed me several definite things, among them that the US does not value horticulture and agriculture anywhere nearly to the degree that it should. Your parents owned a citrus farm in California? Well, color me jealous, but also enamored. For those who still don't know: your food doesn't come from grocery stores, it comes from people like Mineral Man's Mom and Pop, people who spend an incredible amount of time, labor, effort, and risk growing food to feed a hungry nation and world. "Taxes on the farmer feeds us all". MM, I hope in your time of sadness you will be reminded of all of the good things they contributed to the world.

CatMor

(6,212 posts)
160. So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:51 PM
Jan 2021

and your fathers suffering. One consolation is they led a long life and had a good son.

GentleAlien

(57 posts)
162. Loss of a parent - what a life altering experience
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:52 PM
Jan 2021

I know because I have lost both of mine. Not easy, esp. the loss of one's mother. My sincere condolences to you and your siblings. Indeed COVID sucks for making it harder for people to mourn their loved ones

Meowmee

(5,164 posts)
167. So sorry about your mom and dad
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:57 PM
Jan 2021

And everything about the circumstances, it is so unfair. My condolences.

Liberty Belle

(9,533 posts)
168. Take comfort in the fact that they lived long and fulfilling lives,
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:58 PM
Jan 2021

And neither will be left to carry on alone. My Dad died of Alzheimer's around 10 years ago, and Mom has slowly declined ever since, now with dementia herself, but there's been a sadness about her that's never gone away, and she is very lonely no matter how often all of us visit her (she's still at home, due to COVID, not in a facility).

Remember the good things they taught you and take comfort in the warm memories. You did all that you could for them, without putting your family's safety at risk.

I hope by the time you and I are a little older there will be a cure or prevention for Alzheimer's.

sdfernando

(4,925 posts)
173. I'm so sorry
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 12:59 PM
Jan 2021

You are right, Alzheimer's Sucks....it takes away your loved ones long before they pass on.

96 is a good long life and I hope both your parents lived them well. 75 years married!...what a wonderful testament to the power of love.

Peace and hugs

pazzyanne

(6,543 posts)
175. So sorry to hear about your parents, MM.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:03 PM
Jan 2021

Sincere condolences to you and your family. Prayers and blessings being sent to you as you go forward with plans and time of grief!

orwell

(7,769 posts)
176. So sorry to hear about your loss...
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:06 PM
Jan 2021

...that's a bitter pill to swallow, possibly losing both parents within a 24 hour period.

Your parents raised a good son. I'm sure they were proud of the person you have become.

Peace to you and your family at this difficult time.

marble falls

(57,010 posts)
177. Some mileposts in life are tough to embrace, we do what we can and what we just have to do.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:10 PM
Jan 2021

My thoughts are with you. I pray your strength maintains. Bless you, MM.

Mad_Dem_X

(9,547 posts)
178. My deepest condolences
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:10 PM
Jan 2021

I can't imagine losing both parents so close together...and then not being able to attend their burials. Sending love and hugs your way.

RustyWheels

(123 posts)
181. My Sincerest Condolences
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:15 PM
Jan 2021

So sorry to hear of your loss... As a former Minnesotan I read you posts regularly and have followed your parents 'story' through your posts. Again, sorry for your loss.

And yes, MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks!! Alzheimer's Sucks!!!

yellowdogintexas

(22,231 posts)
182. So sorry for your loss.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:16 PM
Jan 2021

These are very tough times. We can't gather for grief or joy which is a very human need.

We just lost a dear dear friend to COVID. Our church will livestream the services; only his widow and their local daughter & her family will attend

Again, my condolences

maxsolomon

(33,244 posts)
184. Condolences, MM
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:16 PM
Jan 2021

I'm sorry you couldn't be there to say goodbye to your mom; that has to be tough.

I missed my mother's passing by 12 hours.

Hekate

(90,556 posts)
189. (((Mineral Man, what a terrible time for you)))
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:27 PM
Jan 2021


Words may be of dubious use, but this I believe: they go where all hurts are healed, and they go together.

May all beings be peaceful
Mat all beings be happy
May all beings be safe
May all beings awaken to the light of their true nature
May all beings be free



 

Tiger8

(432 posts)
190. My Condolences - and you're right..
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:27 PM
Jan 2021

MAGA, COVID, Alzheimers all SUCK!

In your busy time, please take a moment to reflect on the good times your family had.

northoftheborder

(7,569 posts)
197. Sending sympathetic comfort vibes. Know this is hard to accept loss of loved ones, even those
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:39 PM
Jan 2021

who have lived long lives. They live on in you with in your memories. I'm sure they were proud of you and glad for your success in life.

peggysue2

(10,823 posts)
199. So sorry, MM
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:45 PM
Jan 2021

And yes, Covid and Alzheimer's suck. I have personal experience with the latter having lost my father to the disease and most recently my only sister. Covid has turned into a scourge that's kept many families apart at the worst possible time.

Condolences.

Maeve

(42,271 posts)
204. I am so sorry for your losses
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 01:50 PM
Jan 2021

Hold tight to the good memories and the celebration of 75 years they were wed. Be glad someone will be taking care of the farm--that is one thing you won't have to deal with, the sale and all--and that they died in care.

PirateRo

(933 posts)
212. My condolences
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:11 PM
Jan 2021

I am very sorry your and yours have to go through this. The world is harsh enough without this. I wish you all the best.

Ilsa

(61,690 posts)
214. I am so sorry for your losses, Mineral Man.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:13 PM
Jan 2021

This is all very devastating. I hope you can find the time and place to have a memorial of your own for them, with others that loved them.

Lots of us DU old-timers will be thinking of you.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,559 posts)
215. I'm so sorry.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:13 PM
Jan 2021

I lost my mother to A's disease, but many years ago. I've yet to lose anyone to COVID, and have great hope that I never will. Being Canadian, I haven't really lost anyone to MAGA, and am as thankful for that as for my lack of experience with COVID.

What a terrible piece of new for you, on what should be a happy day. Again, my condolences.

stage left

(2,961 posts)
223. I'm so very sorry
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:25 PM
Jan 2021

for your loss. Covid does suck. It keeps us from our families when we most need to be there.

DeminPennswoods

(15,265 posts)
225. Condolences on your loss
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:30 PM
Jan 2021

But be grateful your mom died peacefully and that your dad who is well-cared for in hospice will do the same and will not be alone at the end.

You can always have a celebration of their lives at a later time.

LudwigPastorius

(9,104 posts)
226. I'm sorry, MineralMan.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:32 PM
Jan 2021

I can't imagine losing one parent and being on the cusp of losing another.

You have my heartfelt condolences.

Judi Lynn

(160,450 posts)
227. So sorry to learn of this enormous grief you've been given. So much at once.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:32 PM
Jan 2021

Deepest respects, condolences.

denvine

(799 posts)
228. My deepest condolences Mineral Man!
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:40 PM
Jan 2021

A conflagration of awful events combined with a feeling of helplessness. My heart breaks for you. Yes, MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!

 

demtenjeep

(31,997 posts)
230. I am so so very sorry
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 02:45 PM
Jan 2021

losing a parent is hard but to lose both at the same time is horrible.

My prayers are with you

cayugafalls

(5,639 posts)
234. My condolences, MineralMan.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:04 PM
Jan 2021

It is always difficult and this current situation makes it even more so...

Peace, good sir.

lillypaddle

(9,580 posts)
235. Being hit from all sides, it seems
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:05 PM
Jan 2021

So sorry for your loss(es) - what a difficult time. Take care of yourself.

crickets

(25,952 posts)
236. MineralMan, I am so sorry.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:10 PM
Jan 2021

What an awful double blow. I hope all of the tasks that go with sad time are trouble free. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
237. My most sincere condolences MineralMan
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:15 PM
Jan 2021

I am saddened again every time I hear that another person has had to live through this pandemic losing a parent along the way, let alone both. The loss of my mother in November still weighs heavily on my heart and mind, and the impact on my father has been difficult to see from a far as well. My parents only made it to 54 years of marriage before mom's passing, but it is an amazing thing to reach 75 years of marriage.

I am sorry for your loss and hope that you receive all the support and aide that you can in this extremely messed up time.
Peace and love to you and yours.

Wicked Blue

(5,819 posts)
238. i am so sorry for your loss, Mineral Man
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:18 PM
Jan 2021

My best DU vibes to you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))



The Mouth

(3,145 posts)
239. I'm so sorry to hear this
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:30 PM
Jan 2021

Condolences. There's nothing else I can say except I've appreciated your posts and energy for years.

SWBTATTReg

(22,065 posts)
242. I am so sorry to hear this. I'm having a memorial service for my favorite uncle today, via ZOOM,
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 03:48 PM
Jan 2021

being that of course we can't be there in person, but we will prevail. My heart goes out to you and yours, my friend. Take a deep breath, and take care of yourselves.

OneBlueSky

(18,536 posts)
243. what a remarkable outpouring of prayers and good thoughts for MineralMan . . .
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 04:01 PM
Jan 2021

by the DU community . . . I am proud and grateful to be among the kinds of real human beings who take time to support someone on his day of unimaginable grief . . .

sincere condolences and best wishes, friend . . . God bless . . .

c-rational

(2,588 posts)
244. So sorry for you loss MineralMan.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 04:23 PM
Jan 2021

Your posts showed your love of your parents. Never easy to loose a parent at any age.

NurseJackie

(42,862 posts)
248. Sending condolences, courage and peace to you and your family.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 05:16 PM
Jan 2021

What a heavy burden you have. I'm so sorry that you must go through this.

Maraya1969

(22,462 posts)
249. I am so sorry MM. I know your pain.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 06:02 PM
Jan 2021

My aunt also died from Covid last week and we have talked about all getting together in a few months when it is safe. Just a thought for you.

May you mom rest in peace.

BigmanPigman

(51,567 posts)
253. Oh no! I feared that had happened
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 06:15 PM
Jan 2021

after I read the OP title. This is so terrible. Try not to do too much and take care of yourself. You'll need time.

Paka

(2,760 posts)
256. Huge Condolences.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 07:03 PM
Jan 2021

I lost my dear brother last June, not to Covid, but because of the pandemic I couldn't travel to be with him before he died. It's a hard blow during these terrible times. I send you oodle of strong good wishes.

COL Mustard

(5,870 posts)
258. I'm So Sorry To Hear About Your Losses
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 08:00 PM
Jan 2021

May you have the strength to cope. I can’t imagine what you’re going through tonight.

kimbutgar

(21,055 posts)
260. So sorry Mineral man even though you expected it, it's a hard thing to deal with
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 08:12 PM
Jan 2021

She is at peace and smiling down on you and waiting for your Dad. The day will come you will feel their warm embraces in your heart.

My condolences to you and your family.

Vadem

(2,596 posts)
262. My deepest condolences Mineral Man, to lose both parents
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 08:26 PM
Jan 2021

within a week is absolutely heartbreaking! Love and peace to you and your family.

calimary

(81,110 posts)
263. Many virtual hugs, MM.
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 08:31 PM
Jan 2021

MANY virtual hugs.

Dayum - such a world of hurt out there. I’m sorry some of it is yours, too. Just know you’re surrounded with love and support.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
266. Darn
Wed Jan 6, 2021, 10:19 PM
Jan 2021

So sorry you are dealing with this terribly sad situation and loss. Wish I could be as eloquent as others who already posted but my thoughts are with you.

raising2moredems

(632 posts)
270. Please accept my condolences
Thu Jan 7, 2021, 12:13 AM
Jan 2021

Alzheimer's is a horrid disease and your mother is now out of its clutches. Sending good karma so your father remains comfortable as he (unnecessarily) battles COVID-19.

MAGA does suck, I always called it MAWA (make america white again). But take heart, the nail in the coffin happened today. Lest we never forget.

GregD

(2,263 posts)
273. So sorry dude
Thu Jan 7, 2021, 02:37 AM
Jan 2021

Mine is 87, and other than dealing with dialysis twice a week, is lucid and watching the news. Freaking hates 45.

My heart is with you friend. Hang in there.

Snoopy 7

(526 posts)
274. RIP
Thu Jan 7, 2021, 06:21 AM
Jan 2021

I may not personally know you but, I feel you pain. My MOM died of cancer June 2020 and having my first Christmas and new years wasn't the same. Especially when I felt like picking up the phone to tell my MOM happy new years. I know the pain and I share the pain. Hang in there and believe you can and you will. Hell I know I'm trying to believe my own words so I can muster each passing day...

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