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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIn the Midst of All This Good News - It Is a Sad Day for Me
I received a call this morning that my 96-year-old mother died in her sleep last night of Alzheimer's complications. At the same time, my father, who is also 96 years old, lies in a hospital on palliative hospice care and will probably die today from COVID-19 pneumonia. They celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary in June of 2020.
So, instead of watching Congress confirm the election of Joe Biden and Kamala Harris, I will be planning arrangements with a funeral home for both of my parents and talking with the lawyer who has been handling the family trust. My parents' citrus farm has been sold, but the closing is scheduled for later this week. As the administrator of the trust, I will have to do that closing remotely.
Due to the raging COVID-19 pandemic in California, I won't be there for my parents' burials. Nobody, really, will be there, except maybe my brother-in-law and nephew. My sister also has advanced Alzeheimer's, so she won't be there, either.
Meanwhile, politics goes on, and we appear to have won important races in Georgia, so there is that to offer some positive news on a very sad day for me.
MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!
Ohio Joe
(21,727 posts)RIP
MontanaMama
(23,295 posts)Alzheimers indeed sucks. I lost my dad and grandad to it. These are such hard days. Im sorry.
SamKnause
(13,088 posts)jmbar2
(4,862 posts)At least they are leaving this planet together. That would be a comfort to either one of them.
Take care of yourself during this stressful time. The nation is gonna be OK...
blaze
(6,345 posts)irisblue
(32,929 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,438 posts)Freedomofspeech
(4,221 posts)Turin_C3PO
(13,909 posts)Take all the time you need to grieve. Your friends here at DU will be here for you.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)The first 11 years I spent as a nurse were in Long term care, and it remains my favorite kind of nursing.
Alzheimers, I used to watch the love of family members pour out even when it could no longer be returned. It was magical, sometimes you saw the very best of humanity.
I wish you well, I hope you have as much health and healing as possible.
madaboutharry
(40,190 posts)Peace to you and your family.
struggle4progress
(118,228 posts)hlthe2b
(102,120 posts)always still with me. Less painful, yes, but how much I would have loved to have had them to talk over things over those past many years. Of course, I might also have faced Alzheimer's with one or both. They died too young to predict.
May your good memories with them sustain you now.
Tbear
(486 posts)Spiritual hug has bent sent to you.
dalton99a
(81,392 posts)Laffy Kat
(16,373 posts)niyad
(113,055 posts)family is holding you and yours tightly in love and light. We are here for you.
onecaliberal
(32,777 posts)Voltaire2
(12,958 posts)Alzheimer's is indeed horrible. I hope your dad recovers.
Covid sucks but would suck a whole lot less if all the assholes would stay home, and if they went out wore a damn mask.
BComplex
(8,017 posts)Alzheimer's is so heartbreaking all on its own, but when you throw in COVID and not being able to go to their funerals, I just can't imagine. Sending you and your family big hugs.
Stuart G
(38,414 posts)Atticus
(15,124 posts)Hugin
(33,047 posts)Hopefully, the news of progress today will lighten your burden somewhat.
Take care and peace.
Backseat Driver
(4,380 posts)Comfort and (like everything else) virtual hugs.
uppityperson
(115,677 posts)democrattotheend
(11,605 posts)I can't even imagine how hard it must be to lose one or both of your parents and to not be able to be with them in their last days. My heart goes out to you.
bluestarone
(16,859 posts)Wishing you the best. losing a family member is rough BUT losing a family member under these type conditions is even WORSE. Take care,
babylonsister
(171,033 posts)PA Democrat
(13,225 posts)due to the out-of-control pandemic you are denied the traditional rituals of mourning to ease your loss.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)yardwork
(61,538 posts)Bettie
(16,071 posts)it is sad that you can't be with your family to grieve together. I'm sorry.
wellst0nev0ter
(7,509 posts)Laelth
(32,017 posts)-Laelth
MineralMan
(146,254 posts)But please accept my thanks for your well-wishes and sympathy.
I'll be OK. There are so many things I must do today that I'll have little time to grieve. Their deaths were not unexpected, but it is still very difficult to imagine them being gone.
Today, I'll be distracted by things I must do. I'll also use DU and the news to distract myself further.
Neither of my parents would have wanted me to risk getting sick from COVID at this time. They would have said,
"Stay where you are and take care of yourself and your own family." That's who they were.
Thanks again, everyone, for all your kind words.
3catwoman3
(23,947 posts)...never stop worrying about us, no matter how old/grownup we are.
I hope you have people you can lean on when you need to. I think youve been the rock for quite some time.
marmar
(77,053 posts)Demsrule86
(68,456 posts)I hope Trump is tried for crimes against humanity. But all I can say is what my best friend told me when I lost my Mom and my Dad...they were younger than your parents and I bitterly resented those I knew who still had living parents (pretty awful huh). My friend said I wish you peace. The peace of knowing you did what you could...and you made their lives brighter just by being there through the years. I am sending prayers, good wishes and peace as you complete these last tasks for your parents. You were lucky to have had them for so long and they were lucky to have had such a son as you. God bless, I believe we will see our loved ones again.
Gidney N Cloyd
(19,819 posts)malaise
(268,694 posts)I know you loved both your mom and dad
still_one
(92,061 posts)7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)The Covid has made the suffering for those with Alz/dementia and their families and friends so much worse.
You loved them well.
Peace to you and yours.
Sincerely, The 7wo7rees family
triron
(21,984 posts)Mz Pip
(27,430 posts)What a terrible way to begin the new year. My condolences to you and your family.
MomInTheCrowd
(268 posts)Our parents wishes were cremation and to be buried together. Dad passed a year and a half before Mom. At about 2 years from Moms passing we finally had a service. My sister got to live with both their ashes, in comfort, for that interim time. It brought great peace.
cry baby
(6,682 posts)Im going to be thinking of you and sending cyber hugs. Im just so mad at all the things covid is taking from our lives.
((MinMan))
DinahMoeHum
(21,774 posts). . .take time off from DU here if you must. We will understand.
You know we're all here for you if you need us.
judesedit
(4,437 posts)Please know we are praying for strength for you and your family to get through this. I know you feel like your world has stopped, and the rest of the world just keeps going without recognizing it's loss. Thankfully, you will have your memories for as long as you live. I hope you find comfort in knowing your parents will be together again.
AngryOldDem
(14,061 posts)May you find peace today, and in the days ahead.
PCIntern
(25,480 posts)My heartfelt condolences upon your great loss.
LAS14
(13,769 posts).. your parents for many months.
mercuryblues
(14,522 posts)When my Dad passed in November the funeral home livestreamed his graveside service. Please check into that. I know it is not the same as being there, but it is the best we can do, at this point.
There will be a day when the sorrow and sadness will be replaced with memories we cherish, easing the pain of loss.
Hugs to you.
Tracer
(2,769 posts)I'm saddened by your loss.
HipChick
(25,485 posts)obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)BumRushDaShow
(128,455 posts)although I know you were already bracing for it.
Sending my condolences to you and your family.
Kali
(55,003 posts)Roisin Ni Fiachra
(2,574 posts)So sorry for your losses. Ouch.
spanone
(135,791 posts)farmbo
(3,121 posts)I lost mine (age 97) in July.
a kennedy
(29,615 posts)❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Beaverhausen
(24,470 posts)Condolences to you and your family.
Mrs. Overall
(6,839 posts)Wishing your family peace and strength during this time.
Akacia
(583 posts)mtnsnake
(22,236 posts)intheozone
(1,102 posts)Justice
(7,185 posts)MissB
(15,803 posts)FailureToCommunicate
(14,007 posts)And loss.
Blasphemer
(3,261 posts)My grandmother had Alzheimer's. They said she died "peacefully" but there is nothing peaceful about Alzheimer's. So much worse for you to have to go through this during a pandemic.
ananda
(28,835 posts)Vinnie From Indy
(10,820 posts)I have also lost my mother. It was a horrible time.
KS Toronado
(17,147 posts)mokawanis
(4,435 posts)gademocrat7
(10,644 posts)Take care.
Harker
(13,976 posts)as you keep them safe in your heart.
geardaddy
(24,926 posts)ancianita
(35,933 posts)Wishing you peace ahead, and good memories always.
panader0
(25,816 posts)monmouth4
(9,686 posts)PoindexterOglethorpe
(25,816 posts)I hope it is possible for you to say that they both had a long and full life. I realize recent years weren't so good, but I also know from your posts that you did your very best to be there for them when it was possible.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Please take time for good self care. Eat, sleep, do deep breathing to stay grounded.
So sorry for your loss.
Healing energy on the way. 💗💗💗
volstork
(5,399 posts)So sorry to hear of these deep losses.
pnwest
(3,266 posts)through so many very hard things right now, please remember to take time for self care. Just went through some of these same trials myself and my heart goes out to you.
MelissaB
(16,420 posts)PRETZEL
(3,245 posts)I lost my aunt to Covid yesterday. My wife lost her step-mother yesterday also.
And, yes this Covid sucks.
people
(622 posts)You have written about your sadness that covid has prevented you from visiting them in the last year. I hope your mom suffered no pain and that your dad is not suffering any pain now. Must have been wonderful to visit them at their citrus farm. Take care. So
very sorry.
dlk
(11,512 posts)I wish comfort and peace for you and your family at this most difficult time.
mcar
(42,278 posts)herding cats
(19,558 posts)May she Rest In Peace.
shrike3
(3,485 posts)Tommymac
(7,263 posts)Godspeed Mom.
Texin
(2,590 posts)cp
(6,616 posts)for you and your family.
SayitAintSo
(2,207 posts)NoRoadUntravelled
(2,626 posts)LaMouffette
(2,019 posts)And you are correct in your statement about MAGA, Covid, and Alzheimer's. They are co-conspirators in MAWA (making America weep again).
Please take extra good care of yourself during this tremendously sad time in your life.
marieo1
(1,402 posts)MineralMan......you have my deepest sympathy....It's hard to be overjoyed in the face of losing ones parents.
angrychair
(8,678 posts)My grandmother died from complications from Alzheimer's disease many years ago. That disease creates so many more victims than just the patient.
I hope you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.
StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)hamsterjill
(15,220 posts)Words always fail in times like these. Im sorry about your parents and yes, it just sucks!!!
Please know that your contributions to DU and the successful sharing of Democratic principles are much appreciated. We will all celebrate for your until you feel ready to do that yourself.
Hugs!
berni_mccoy
(23,018 posts)Tech
(1,769 posts)I have enjoyed your parental musing the past few years. My husband and I both list our moms last year. Many of your stories hit home.
brer cat
(24,523 posts)AllyCat
(16,140 posts)And in this horrible pandemic, I remember you saying you couldn't even visit and now have all this to manage with losing both of your parents. I am so sorry. Dementia sucks. Crappy, horrible disease I wish we could figure out. Hugs to you man. My heart breaks for you.
marlakay
(11,425 posts)And that you can't be there. It really really sucks!
Phentex
(16,330 posts)My heart goes out to you!
mfcorey1
(11,001 posts)IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)GoCubsGo
(32,074 posts)zeusdogmom
(987 posts)Words seem empty at this point. Surrounding you with gentle thoughts.
bucolic_frolic
(43,044 posts)Cherish the memories, it will all sort out.
Tom Yossarian Joad
(19,226 posts)Condolences.
Tom Rinaldo
(22,911 posts)You should have been able to bask in the glow of this day. As it is I hope it offers you some comfort. Those who are partially complicit in your mother's death, due to the malicious mismanagement of this pandemic, at the least being politically held to some account.
OddMom20
(40 posts)I am so sorry MineralMan - I wish that I could offer more to help ease the pain you and your family must be holding at this time.
slumcamper
(1,604 posts)Lars39
(26,106 posts)senseandsensibility
(16,929 posts)I hope you find some comfort and distraction here at DU. I agree with your last sentiments completely.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)😪💔
sazemisery
(2,608 posts)When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
― Kahlil Gibran
tiredtoo
(2,949 posts)turbinetree
(24,683 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,664 posts)MLAA
(17,250 posts)rurallib
(62,379 posts)So sorry this happened especially under such terrible circumstances.
Jay25
(417 posts)GoldenMezzoDiva
(79 posts)...Words escape. Please know at least that your DU buddies have you and your beloved family
in our hearts...Again, words fade away..
Spazito
(50,151 posts)My sympathies to you and your family.
cally
(21,591 posts)It is almost unimaginable to have both parents die so close together. My Mom died last year and I still am processing the grief and shock. Plus, handling an estate is very time consuming and hard.
onecent
(6,096 posts)iluvtennis
(19,833 posts)NNadir
(33,470 posts)...wonderful, and although they are passing, it is something to cherish.
LymphocyteLover
(5,636 posts)Wishing you the best
Dem4Life1102
(3,974 posts)634-5789
(4,175 posts)TNNurse
(6,926 posts)Will keep you in my thoughts. Hope the fact that their struggles are over will be some comfort.
BadgerMom
(2,770 posts)Sending peace, love and an eventual rebirth of hope and joy your way.
skip fox
(19,356 posts)matt819
(10,749 posts)It seems that many of us here are confronting comparable situations these days. Either dealing with the immediacy of illness or death, or awaiting the call.
DU will still be here when you're back.
PJMcK
(21,995 posts)You've been open about your family and your affection and obligations. This is, indeed, a difficult day and I feel for you and your family.
Let me repeat your profound words:
MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!
Thank you for the intelligence, passion, humor and insights you bring to DU.
Peace.
seta1950
(932 posts)My deepest condolences 😢😢😢
LiberalFighter
(50,783 posts)Demovictory9
(32,421 posts)SayItLoud
(1,701 posts)DU'ers here sharing some of your pain.
Peace.
Honest_Abe
(155 posts)NM
democrank
(11,085 posts)AirmensMom
(14,637 posts)All I can do is wish you peace.
PufPuf23
(8,755 posts)TygrBright
(20,755 posts)They had 96 years and so many of them together. I would take that if it were me and my beloved. It's tough to be orphaned and lose that here-and-now connection to your roots, and when the irritating paperwork and arrangements and detail stuff is done, that may come back around again.
And we'll still be here for you, and a lot of us "get it", so those prayers and good vibes and loving thoughts will be with you through it all.
affectionately,
Bright
Dream Girl
(5,111 posts)BlueIdaho
(13,582 posts)But know you do not travel through this grief alone. May you and yours find peace and comfort in this very sad time.
world wide wally
(21,738 posts)They are just determined to stay together no matter what.
Peace
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)malthaussen
(17,175 posts)Sogo
(4,986 posts)It's never easy to let our loved ones go, but there's a relief knowing that they no longer suffer.
Wishing you ease and peace.....
Lonestarblue
(9,958 posts)As is not being able to say goodbye in person. May you find peace and let the memories of the good times with your parents be uppermost in your mind.
wryter2000
(46,023 posts)How hard to lose both of them within a day of each other.
Blue_playwright
(1,568 posts)I am so sorry.
I lost two family members (mom and favorite aunt) within weeks of each other. Do NOT discount how that double dose of grief will hit you. And dont feel guilty if one hits you harder than the other. (Surprisingly, my aunt continues to hit me harder than my mother.)
And take care of yourself. They would want you to come out of this on the other side healthy and ready to continue your life.
Sending love to you and your family.
Lisa
tsSleepyTimeDwnSout
(3 posts)Hard to read your post, Mineral Man. Love my parents too, and I can imagine your pain. I would like to say something that is personal to me: your parents (apparently) were involved in one of the most noble human undertakings. - after a long career in IT, realizing I hated it, I got a degree in horticulture late in life, left IT for hort and Ag, and never looked back. Five jobs in the industry before I retired showed me several definite things, among them that the US does not value horticulture and agriculture anywhere nearly to the degree that it should. Your parents owned a citrus farm in California? Well, color me jealous, but also enamored. For those who still don't know: your food doesn't come from grocery stores, it comes from people like Mineral Man's Mom and Pop, people who spend an incredible amount of time, labor, effort, and risk growing food to feed a hungry nation and world. "Taxes on the farmer feeds us all". MM, I hope in your time of sadness you will be reminded of all of the good things they contributed to the world.
CatMor
(6,212 posts)and your fathers suffering. One consolation is they led a long life and had a good son.
mac56
(17,564 posts)GentleAlien
(57 posts)I know because I have lost both of mine. Not easy, esp. the loss of one's mother. My sincere condolences to you and your siblings. Indeed COVID sucks for making it harder for people to mourn their loved ones
LeftInTX
(25,126 posts)Ninga
(8,272 posts)dealing with from your immense loss.
MoonRiver
(36,926 posts)58Sunliner
(4,372 posts)Meowmee
(5,164 posts)And everything about the circumstances, it is so unfair. My condolences.
Liberty Belle
(9,533 posts)And neither will be left to carry on alone. My Dad died of Alzheimer's around 10 years ago, and Mom has slowly declined ever since, now with dementia herself, but there's been a sadness about her that's never gone away, and she is very lonely no matter how often all of us visit her (she's still at home, due to COVID, not in a facility).
Remember the good things they taught you and take comfort in the warm memories. You did all that you could for them, without putting your family's safety at risk.
I hope by the time you and I are a little older there will be a cure or prevention for Alzheimer's.
catbyte
(34,333 posts)BMW2020RT
(139 posts)chowder66
(9,055 posts)tblue37
(65,227 posts)sdfernando
(4,925 posts)You are right, Alzheimer's Sucks....it takes away your loved ones long before they pass on.
96 is a good long life and I hope both your parents lived them well. 75 years married!...what a wonderful testament to the power of love.
Peace and hugs
Danmel
(4,907 posts)May sweet memories sustain you.
pazzyanne
(6,543 posts)Sincere condolences to you and your family. Prayers and blessings being sent to you as you go forward with plans and time of grief!
orwell
(7,769 posts)...that's a bitter pill to swallow, possibly losing both parents within a 24 hour period.
Your parents raised a good son. I'm sure they were proud of the person you have become.
Peace to you and your family at this difficult time.
marble falls
(57,010 posts)My thoughts are with you. I pray your strength maintains. Bless you, MM.
Mad_Dem_X
(9,547 posts)I can't imagine losing both parents so close together...and then not being able to attend their burials. Sending love and hugs your way.
whathehell
(29,034 posts)So much on your plate.
Nevilledog
(51,006 posts)RustyWheels
(123 posts)So sorry to hear of your loss... As a former Minnesotan I read you posts regularly and have followed your parents 'story' through your posts. Again, sorry for your loss.
And yes, MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks!! Alzheimer's Sucks!!!
yellowdogintexas
(22,231 posts)These are very tough times. We can't gather for grief or joy which is a very human need.
We just lost a dear dear friend to COVID. Our church will livestream the services; only his widow and their local daughter & her family will attend
Again, my condolences
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)maxsolomon
(33,244 posts)I'm sorry you couldn't be there to say goodbye to your mom; that has to be tough.
I missed my mother's passing by 12 hours.
NightWatcher
(39,343 posts)Mickju
(1,797 posts)live love laugh
(13,079 posts)Gidney N Cloyd
(19,819 posts)Hekate
(90,556 posts)Words may be of dubious use, but this I believe: they go where all hurts are healed, and they go together.
May all beings be peaceful
Mat all beings be happy
May all beings be safe
May all beings awaken to the light of their true nature
May all beings be free
Tiger8
(432 posts)MAGA, COVID, Alzheimers all SUCK!
In your busy time, please take a moment to reflect on the good times your family had.
McCamy Taylor
(19,240 posts)SammyWinstonJack
(44,129 posts)Vinca
(50,236 posts)sarge43
(28,940 posts)Peace and comfort in the days to come.
Virtual
PatSeg
(47,260 posts)I'm so sorry you weren't able to be with them.
MuseRider
(34,095 posts)northoftheborder
(7,569 posts)who have lived long lives. They live on in you with in your memories. I'm sure they were proud of you and glad for your success in life.
LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)May the angels comfort you in this time of grief.
peggysue2
(10,823 posts)And yes, Covid and Alzheimer's suck. I have personal experience with the latter having lost my father to the disease and most recently my only sister. Covid has turned into a scourge that's kept many families apart at the worst possible time.
Condolences.
peacebuzzard
(5,148 posts)My condolences, I am so sorry
W T F
(1,145 posts)Andy823
(11,495 posts)Labiglabocce
(13 posts)Our deepest sympathies.
Maeve
(42,271 posts)Hold tight to the good memories and the celebration of 75 years they were wed. Be glad someone will be taking care of the farm--that is one thing you won't have to deal with, the sale and all--and that they died in care.
Alacritous Crier
(3,813 posts)Polybius
(15,334 posts)If you need anything, PM me.
Leith
(7,808 posts)Too much to endure all at once. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones.
rsdsharp
(9,137 posts)fantase56
(442 posts)ms. fantase56 and i send our deepest condolences.
AwakeAtLast
(14,123 posts)Sending love and hugs to you!
joanbarnes
(1,721 posts)PirateRo
(933 posts)I am very sorry your and yours have to go through this. The world is harsh enough without this. I wish you all the best.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,488 posts)KY.......... .........
Ilsa
(61,690 posts)This is all very devastating. I hope you can find the time and place to have a memorial of your own for them, with others that loved them.
Lots of us DU old-timers will be thinking of you.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,559 posts)I lost my mother to A's disease, but many years ago. I've yet to lose anyone to COVID, and have great hope that I never will. Being Canadian, I haven't really lost anyone to MAGA, and am as thankful for that as for my lack of experience with COVID.
What a terrible piece of new for you, on what should be a happy day. Again, my condolences.
yonder
(9,657 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)Our arms are around you, Mineral Man.
LittleGirl
(8,279 posts)usaf-vet
(6,161 posts)spooky3
(34,405 posts)appleannie1
(5,062 posts)Vivienne235729
(3,377 posts)stage left
(2,961 posts)for your loss. Covid does suck. It keeps us from our families when we most need to be there.
Raster
(20,998 posts)DeminPennswoods
(15,265 posts)But be grateful your mom died peacefully and that your dad who is well-cared for in hospice will do the same and will not be alone at the end.
You can always have a celebration of their lives at a later time.
LudwigPastorius
(9,104 posts)I can't imagine losing one parent and being on the cusp of losing another.
You have my heartfelt condolences.
Judi Lynn
(160,450 posts)Deepest respects, condolences.
denvine
(799 posts)A conflagration of awful events combined with a feeling of helplessness. My heart breaks for you. Yes, MAGA Sucks! COVID Sucks! Alzheimer's Sucks!
GoneOffShore
(17,337 posts)demtenjeep
(31,997 posts)losing a parent is hard but to lose both at the same time is horrible.
My prayers are with you
UpInArms
(51,280 posts)love_katz
(2,578 posts)sheshe2
(83,654 posts)My heart goes out to you and yours.
cayugafalls
(5,639 posts)It is always difficult and this current situation makes it even more so...
Peace, good sir.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)So sorry for your loss(es) - what a difficult time. Take care of yourself.
crickets
(25,952 posts)What an awful double blow. I hope all of the tasks that go with sad time are trouble free. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Moostache
(9,895 posts)I am saddened again every time I hear that another person has had to live through this pandemic losing a parent along the way, let alone both. The loss of my mother in November still weighs heavily on my heart and mind, and the impact on my father has been difficult to see from a far as well. My parents only made it to 54 years of marriage before mom's passing, but it is an amazing thing to reach 75 years of marriage.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that you receive all the support and aide that you can in this extremely messed up time.
Peace and love to you and yours.
Wicked Blue
(5,819 posts)My best DU vibes to you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
The Mouth
(3,145 posts)Condolences. There's nothing else I can say except I've appreciated your posts and energy for years.
blogslut
(37,982 posts)dflprincess
(28,072 posts)No matter their age or health we're never ready to lose our patents.
Wishing you peace.
SWBTATTReg
(22,065 posts)being that of course we can't be there in person, but we will prevail. My heart goes out to you and yours, my friend. Take a deep breath, and take care of yourselves.
OneBlueSky
(18,536 posts)by the DU community . . . I am proud and grateful to be among the kinds of real human beings who take time to support someone on his day of unimaginable grief . . .
sincere condolences and best wishes, friend . . . God bless . . .
c-rational
(2,588 posts)Your posts showed your love of your parents. Never easy to loose a parent at any age.
Blue Owl
(50,259 posts)KT2000
(20,568 posts)You have my sympathy MM.
BigBearJohn
(11,410 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)What a heavy burden you have. I'm so sorry that you must go through this.
Maraya1969
(22,462 posts)My aunt also died from Covid last week and we have talked about all getting together in a few months when it is safe. Just a thought for you.
May you mom rest in peace.
flying-skeleton
(696 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sincere condolences to you.
Niagara
(7,557 posts)My heartfelt condolences to you and your family, MM.
BigmanPigman
(51,567 posts)after I read the OP title. This is so terrible. Try not to do too much and take care of yourself. You'll need time.
Submariner
(12,497 posts)Paka
(2,760 posts)I lost my dear brother last June, not to Covid, but because of the pandemic I couldn't travel to be with him before he died. It's a hard blow during these terrible times. I send you oodle of strong good wishes.
royable
(1,263 posts)COL Mustard
(5,870 posts)May you have the strength to cope. I cant imagine what youre going through tonight.
denbot
(9,898 posts)Peace to you and yours.
kimbutgar
(21,055 posts)She is at peace and smiling down on you and waiting for your Dad. The day will come you will feel their warm embraces in your heart.
My condolences to you and your family.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Vadem
(2,596 posts)within a week is absolutely heartbreaking! Love and peace to you and your family.
calimary
(81,110 posts)MANY virtual hugs.
Dayum - such a world of hurt out there. Im sorry some of it is yours, too. Just know youre surrounded with love and support.
Trueblue Texan
(2,419 posts)This joyful day has turned out so sad.
cate94
(2,810 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)So sorry you are dealing with this terribly sad situation and loss. Wish I could be as eloquent as others who already posted but my thoughts are with you.
Catherine Vincent
(34,486 posts)ClusterFreak
(3,112 posts)catrose
(5,059 posts)raising2moredems
(632 posts)Alzheimer's is a horrid disease and your mother is now out of its clutches. Sending good karma so your father remains comfortable as he (unnecessarily) battles COVID-19.
MAGA does suck, I always called it MAWA (make america white again). But take heart, the nail in the coffin happened today. Lest we never forget.
jtb653
(45 posts)stay strong. don't lose hope.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.
GregD
(2,263 posts)Mine is 87, and other than dealing with dialysis twice a week, is lucid and watching the news. Freaking hates 45.
My heart is with you friend. Hang in there.
Snoopy 7
(526 posts)I may not personally know you but, I feel you pain. My MOM died of cancer June 2020 and having my first Christmas and new years wasn't the same. Especially when I felt like picking up the phone to tell my MOM happy new years. I know the pain and I share the pain. Hang in there and believe you can and you will. Hell I know I'm trying to believe my own words so I can muster each passing day...
stuffmatters
(2,574 posts)DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)a la izquierda
(11,791 posts)I'm deeply sorry.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)thucythucy
(8,038 posts)at this sad time.
JohnnyRingo
(18,618 posts)My deepest sympathy. I hope things turn around for you.