To my family who chose [Disgraced Racist] over me: Was it worth it?

[Dem2]

(CNN)"Was it worth it?" That was the poignant and wise question a family member posed on Facebook after Joe Biden became President-elect. It's a question I've grappled with for four years now. More specifically: Was your blind loyalty to President [Tangerine Torquemada], a person you've never met, worth burning our family to the ground?

Like so many across the country since the election of the 45th President, our family has been splintered. While these disagreements could previously be contained by setting sensible "No Politics Allowed!" ground rules for family gatherings (my mom first had to institute this during the Ronald Reagan administration), in the age of social media, these arguments now routinely spill into our online lives.

Mirroring our real-life relationships, Facebook connections among our family members ended suddenly after [Undead Tangerine]'s inauguration. We disagreed sharply when it was reported that Melania [Badhair al-Asshead] would remain with the couple's young son in New York City to finish out the school year instead of moving with him to Washington DC. The additional costs for Secret Service protection in New York were significant.

We argued about it on Facebook until I wrote these two sentences: "If Michelle Obama had announced she was going to remain in Chicago with Sasha and Malia while running up the tab on the taxpayer-paid Secret Service protection, all the while charging them rent, I would have heard you bellowing all the way down here in Atlanta. You're a hypocrite."

The last thing I remember was the top of your head figuratively coming off, IN ALL CAPS as you fired off an incendiary reply. As I hit reply on my response, I received a message from Facebook informing me my comment wouldn't load. That's when I realized you had "unfriended" me.

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https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/10/opinions/trump-tore-my-family-apart-eldredge/index.html

[flibbitygiblets]

1. I've lost friends but not family

we just don’t talk about it

[grantcart]

2. I have become closer to relatives where we couldn't talk about politics

But now, as never Trump Republicans, call to get updates on how "we" are going to take the Senate.

Sad to hear families go the other way.

[MissHoneychurch]

3. There is a thread about it already

https://democraticunderground.com/100214528830

[FM123]

4. Amazing essay. Long, but definitely worth the read all the way to the end.

[Happy Hoosier]

5. It almost caused a permanent rift with my in-laws

HUGE blow-up a couple years ago when they were visiting. After a period of silence and healing, they have finally heeded my plea of “no politics.” They are old (90+) and we din’t want to cut them off from their only granddaughter, but it was close.

[Paladin]

6. To hell with friends and family who have gone over to the dark trump side.

Those who make such a stupid decision need to know there is a significant personal penalty to be paid for doing so.

[SWBTATTReg]

7. I'm for one in listening to all viewpoints...I told my rabid brother (democratic) and my rabid dad

(republican) that I'm not going to listen to either of their 'gotcha' statements when they are both literally just ranting and raving at each other, trying to support their positions.

I'm democratic, but that doesn't mean that I won't support a good republican, or in other words, a person who is good at their job, why not? In Missouri, where we seemed to, at one time, have a mix of both parties, but since then, the republicans jury-rigged district boundaries so everything is now messed up in MO, a real shame for I think the more cooks in the kitchen can lead to good things.