My husband had a run-in with a very inconsiderate person.

[Baitball Blogger]

White female, in her fifties. He was trying to come out of a Mall in Altamonte Springs, which he says was packed, when he saw a crowd at the exit door. It was raining outside so he pulled out his umbrella, prepared to quickly walk through the crowd by broadcasting his intentions.

Well, as he walks through the crowd, the white woman grabs his arm and says, "Oh, good! My husband is just outside." And she gets under his umbrella, holding tight to his forearm and doesn't let go until her husband comes out to get her.

My husband is so shocked, that he didn't even take notice of whether she was wearing a mask or not. When he got in the car he used his germ-x to wipe down his entire arm.

This is the kind of inconsiderate bullshit that I've come to associate with a certain element in Central Florida.

[Ferrets are Cool]

1. He was more "considerate" than I would have been.

[Baitball Blogger]

2. You don't have to tell me.

We live the story of the two Americas under the same roof.

[In_The_Wind]

3. Your husband is nicer than I would have been. I would have yelled at her

to take her hands off my arm. Get away from me!

[Baitball Blogger]

4. She's lucky I wasn't there.

Just say'n. So tired the way some people take kindness as a weakness.

[GoneOffShore]

5. WTAF? That's gobsmackingly awful behaviour.

Your husband is a saint.

[Baitball Blogger]

6. I think he's lobbying for sainthood.

I find it aggravating the way he avoids confrontation. He seems to think that he can go to bed peacefully, because he looks the other way.

So many, including his closest friend, has taken advantage of his kindness. But, when they thought they could do the same groserias to me, they got to meet the real me. I don't care how close they are as friends. They are dead to me.

[dixiechiken1]

7. "They are dead to me."

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL


That's my attitude, as well. My husband ribs me constantly about it.

[Stinky The Clown]

8. I have never been in such a situation. Your husband must be a patient man to allow her to . . . .

. . . . stay on his arm.

I try to take no chances. I wear a mask and gloves and instead of hand sanitizer I carry a 3 oz atomizer bottle of 91% isopropyl alcohol.

I mist myself down when people have gotten too close and, in general, when I get back to my car. I have also been known to wipe the inside of my nostrils with it when that seemed appropriate.

Mine is similar to this (trigger head)

[Baitball Blogger]

9. It's just wearing us down, isn't it?

I can't wait for Biden to take over so we can have universal protocols.

[marlakay]

16. I am wondering if it will do any good

Sheriff in my conservative city said he won't enforce mask or distance laws.

Luckily I also live in a retirement town and most of us over 60 don't want to die including R's, I see mostly young people without masks but i am not near them. People at stores wear them since we have state laws.

[procon]

10. "inconsiderate" is not the word I would have used.

It was an assault. Some people are crazy under normal circumstances but this quarantine has made them worse. Normal people don't accost strangers, invade their personal space and demand to share their umbrella.

Stranger Danger isn't just a cautionary warning for kids, it applies to adults too. He should have reacted quickly to protect himself. Women instinctively know how to respond to unwanted touching, we make a scene, yell, curse, push, shove, MACE, do whatever we can to be assertive and get away from dangerous people like she was a rabid dog.

In today's environment men must learn to put their own safety, and that by their families, first. There's not just the risk of exposure to the contagious C19, which he may have brought home with him to infect his household, but what if she had a gun or a knife, or some other toxic substance, or he was kidnapped, or even killed or injured?

The whole thing was entirely avoidable. I'm glad he wasn't harmed, but he was very lucky.

[Baitball Blogger]

12. So very true. It just takes one inconsiderate Covid positive

to ruin your day.

[Aristus]

11. If her husband hadn't shown up at the end,

I might wonder if she might have been pulling a "Darling! There you are!" to escape from an abuser or a harasser.

I guess not.

I guess she's just rude...

[WyattKansas]

13. I would have held the umbrella only over me and let it pour the water on her.

If she complained, then I would have said, I do not know you and you did not ask my permission before you violated my personal and social distance space, so I suggest you get away from me and stay away from me.

[aka-chmeee]

14. Well, even though, as a Boomer,

Everything I do, eat, listen to, read, like and think is disparaged everyday by a bunch of smug Xers and Zers, etc. My deplorable upbringing and distorted view of civility would have dictated that I happily assist the lady in question.

[LuckyCharms]

15. I'm sorry this happened. Here's my opinion.

I can understand why your husband reacted the way he did. In normal times, I would have reacted the same way. That woman provided the element of surprise, and that tends to overcome just about everyone, in every situation.

But here is my personal perspective on how this should be handled in current times.

Whenever I go out now, which is extremely rare, I view every other person around me as a potential killer. We are not all walking around with masks on for no reason. If someone like this woman is so disconnected that she does not know enough to not get close to people in the manner in which she did, whether she is wearing a mask or whether she isn't, that's not my problem.

Nobody is going to protect me, except me. Nobody in the public is interested in whether I get Covid or not. Nobody in the public is interested in whether I bring home Covid to my family. Nobody in the public is interested in whether or not I get sick or die, or if the same happens to someone in my family. I am trying my best to protect both myself and my family. Nobody in the public cares at all about pre-existing conditions that I may have, or that my family may have.

I have had plenty of people approach me, but I am able to politely ask them to please keep their distance, and they do. However, if somebody, anybody, ambushed me like that woman did...they would be thrown to the ground immediately.

And that brings me to what I believe is the most difficult thing about this pandemic. Some people are dead stupid. Some people are uncaring. Some are assholes just because they can be. Whatever the case, I feel you have to develop the mindset that I stated above...no one else will protect me if I don't protect myself. If I have to be a prick about it, I don't care.

Sounds to me like that woman just didn't want to get wet, and what she did, whether intentional or not, was horrible.

[Baitball Blogger]

21. We see it the same way.

[Solly Mack]

17. Your husband is very nice.

Me, not so much.

[Baitball Blogger]

22. He is very nice.

I guess I wouldn't change him. But I wish I had the power to scare off the kind of people who would take advantage of kind people.

[Beartracks]

18. Wow, she was assuming a lot. But... is it important that she was white?

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[KentuckyWoman]

19. Honestly?

Not really. A woman with that level sense of entitlement is going to be white. It could be left off and still be fairly assumed.

[Baitball Blogger]

20. Oh, yeah.

Central Florida has a predominately white, backwater culture that is almost entirely populated by personalities who assume top dog status, regardless of your property rights or any other civil rights. You encounter them everywhere. Schools, churches, law firms civic organizations. It is crass arrogance mixed in with entitlement. They size you up, and if they think they can roll you over, they will.

[Pacifist Patriot]

23. If left out of the post, I would still have made that assumption.

Especially in that area. I honestly cannot imagine a black woman being that presumptively rude. That may be unfair of me, but unfortunately, that's an experiential bias.