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Hekate

(90,202 posts)
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:30 PM Jul 2020

My brother Joe passed on Saturday night

A friend found him today on his couch at home, and our younger brother called me.

Think a good thought for him, my friends. He was 71 and it was COPD and emphysema that got him in the end. We remaining siblings are grieving from SoCal to New York state and up to Oregon, where he had lived for over 50 years. We don’t know when we will be able to be together again, but I told our younger brother that from the first time I heard Liam Clancy sing The Parting Glass, I knew that song would be Joe’s elegy. So he pulled it up on You Tube and we cried together.








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My brother Joe passed on Saturday night (Original Post) Hekate Jul 2020 OP
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Jul 2020 #1
((Hekate)) blm Jul 2020 #2
I'm so very sorry for your loss. yardwork Jul 2020 #3
My condolences Ohio Joe Jul 2020 #4
Deepest sympathy to you and your family Hekate malaise Jul 2020 #5
I sorry for your loss. icymist Jul 2020 #6
I am so sorry. nt Phoenix61 Jul 2020 #7
My heart aches for you and the family. FarPoint Jul 2020 #8
Oh, no! It sounds like he had a peaceful transition...that may be the only good thing to cling Karadeniz Jul 2020 #9
Thoughts to you and your family in this very difficult time. TheBlackAdder Jul 2020 #10
Safe journey, brother Joe ucrdem Jul 2020 #11
I added the song to the OP. I have an unopened bottle of Black Bush I've been saving... Hekate Jul 2020 #12
So sorry jpak Jul 2020 #13
wishing your family comfort and peace Chili Jul 2020 #14
I'm so sorry for your loss. MoonRiver Jul 2020 #15
I am so sorry for your loss, Hekate. sheshe2 Jul 2020 #16
My sincere condolences. Nt jaysunb Jul 2020 #17
I've lost three siblings....it's so tough...you shared so much spanone Jul 2020 #18
Siblings remember things & know thing about you that no one else in the world does Hekate Jul 2020 #150
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Jul 2020 #19
so sorry... dhill926 Jul 2020 #20
Oh, I'm so sorry Hekate. JohnnyLib2 Jul 2020 #21
I am so sorry. revmclaren Jul 2020 #22
I am sorry. murielm99 Jul 2020 #23
So sorry Hekate. panader0 Jul 2020 #24
I am sorry for your loss. And, the tune does touch deep places in the heart. nt Atticus Jul 2020 #25
So very sorry, Hekate. I know that emptiness that takes over and I hope it will be replaced soon hlthe2b Jul 2020 #26
So sorry for your loss, Hekate mcar Jul 2020 #27
So Sorry! bluestarone Jul 2020 #28
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother Joe. My sympathy livetohike Jul 2020 #29
So sorry for your loss Hekate. Thoughts to you and your family still_one Jul 2020 #30
So sorry for your loss.. Stuart G Jul 2020 #31
So sorry for your loss. warmfeet Jul 2020 #32
Hekate....I am so sorry...What a great song by the way... Demsrule86 Jul 2020 #33
Oh {{{Hekate}}} I'm so sorry for your loss. fierywoman Jul 2020 #34
I am so very sorry. MuseRider Jul 2020 #35
We grew up on their music, and learned just about everything they sang... Hekate Jul 2020 #149
so sorry to hear of your loss... chillfactor Jul 2020 #36
I am sorry for your loss. thinkingagain Jul 2020 #37
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, Hekate. smirkymonkey Jul 2020 #38
May your brother Joe rest in peace. chia Jul 2020 #39
💕💕💖💖💖💕💕💕💖💖💖💕💕💕💕 MLAA Jul 2020 #40
Thinking of you canetoad Jul 2020 #41
I'll drink to that. trof Jul 2020 #42
My heart goes out to you and your family. May your brother Rest In Peace. nt iluvtennis Jul 2020 #43
I am so sorry for your loss. CottonBear Jul 2020 #44
I'm sorry for your loss ornotna Jul 2020 #45
My deepest condolence to you and your family. jrthin Jul 2020 #46
So my sister, Brigid, contributes "Isn't it Grand Boys" where you laugh thru your tears... Hekate Jul 2020 #47
Condolences, Hekate ProfessorGAC Jul 2020 #48
Oh sister. I am so very sorry. Dear heart. mahina Jul 2020 #49
Mahalo, that means a lot Hekate Jul 2020 #152
Eo. mahina Jul 2020 #156
Wishing you and your entire family peace Stinky The Clown Jul 2020 #50
Deepest sympathy and condolence to you, Hekate Glorfindel Jul 2020 #51
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. peacebuzzard Jul 2020 #52
So sorry for your loss RainCaster Jul 2020 #53
Oh, Hekate, I am so very sorry for your loss! pnwmom Jul 2020 #54
I'm so sorry, Hekate. brer cat Jul 2020 #55
Condolences, Hekate sarge43 Jul 2020 #56
I am so sorry for your loss mercuryblues Jul 2020 #57
I am so very sorry UpInArms Jul 2020 #58
Very sorry to learn this. H2O Man Jul 2020 #59
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jul 2020 #60
Condolences on the loss of your brother. gademocrat7 Jul 2020 #61
Tears for your loss, and love for your heart, Hekate. SalmonChantedEvening Jul 2020 #62
... cry baby Jul 2020 #63
I'm so terribly sorry for you loss Docreed2003 Jul 2020 #64
... alwaysinasnit Jul 2020 #65
... SammyWinstonJack Jul 2020 #66
Im so very sorry! GreenPartyVoter Jul 2020 #67
My deepest condolences. mecherosegarden Jul 2020 #68
My sympathy to you and your family in the passing of Joe... asiliveandbreathe Jul 2020 #69
So sorry for yours and your family's loss, Hekate. ancianita Jul 2020 #70
Thinking of you and your family. Niagara Jul 2020 #71
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother Marrah_Goodman Jul 2020 #72
I'm so sorry mzmolly Jul 2020 #73
Sorry for your loss FakeNoose Jul 2020 #74
I'm so sorry for your Heartbreaking Cha Jul 2020 #75
Cha Hekate Jul 2020 #154
I know.. and a grand day it will be. Cha Jul 2020 #155
My sincerest condolences. A HERETIC I AM Jul 2020 #76
So very sorry to hear the sad news. NurseJackie Jul 2020 #77
....... dhol82 Jul 2020 #78
If we were together we'd sing Finnegan's Wake too. Thank you for listening... Hekate Jul 2020 #79
Sorry for your loss Bettie Jul 2020 #80
I've played that song for many... tavernier Jul 2020 #81
Deepest sympathy at your loss GeoWilliam750 Jul 2020 #82
Condolences to you and your family MustLoveBeagles Jul 2020 #83
I am so very sorry. redwitch Jul 2020 #84
i'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jul 2020 #85
I'm sorry for your pain. Nevilledog Jul 2020 #86
So very sorry Hekate! berni_mccoy Jul 2020 #87
I'm so sorry for your loss. Alliepoo Jul 2020 #88
May his memory bring you comfort blogslut Jul 2020 #89
Comfort 1plus1equals1 Jul 2020 #90
Hekate, I am so sorry for your loss.. Peacetrain Jul 2020 #91
So sorry... CaptainTruth Jul 2020 #92
Rest in peace shenmue Jul 2020 #93
Condolences Leith Jul 2020 #94
I'm very sorry for your loss, Hekate. LuckyCharms Jul 2020 #95
My sympathy to you Marthe48 Jul 2020 #96
Love and condolences, Hekate. babylonsister Jul 2020 #97
I'm so sorry your brother has passed sdfernando Jul 2020 #98
Hekate.... Upthevibe Jul 2020 #99
Condolences for this sad time, Hekate. dixiegrrrrl Jul 2020 #100
I'm sorry for your loss, Hekate. Solly Mack Jul 2020 #101
So sorry for your loss. 71 is way too young. sinkingfeeling Jul 2020 #102
Hurting for you, Hekate, and your family. madamesilverspurs Jul 2020 #103
Dear lady, sending you warmest wishes for healing and peace. scarletwoman Jul 2020 #104
I'm so sorry. Ilsa Jul 2020 #105
So sorry! ismnotwasm Jul 2020 #106
Hugs to you and your siblings lunatica Jul 2020 #107
I am so sorry, Hekate. hamsterjill Jul 2020 #108
I'm so very sorry for your loss. NoRoadUntravelled Jul 2020 #109
Condolences to you and your family. onecaliberal Jul 2020 #110
So very sorry. WinstonSmith4740 Jul 2020 #111
I am so sorry for your loss 😐 live love laugh Jul 2020 #112
So sorry... Talitha Jul 2020 #113
So sorry, Hekate democrank Jul 2020 #114
Sympathy to you and your family, Hekate. pazzyanne Jul 2020 #115
My heart grieves for you. herding cats Jul 2020 #116
Oh Hekate, I am so very sorry. How very crushing for you and your famly. Maru Kitteh Jul 2020 #117
I'm so sorry. May his memory be a blessing. EllieBC Jul 2020 #118
Safe home to your dear brother Joe. MontanaMama Jul 2020 #119
And the wheel turns. WheelWalker Jul 2020 #120
Holding you, and your sibs, in my heart for consolation. "Good night, and joy be with you all." n/t TygrBright Jul 2020 #121
So sorry luvallpeeps Jul 2020 #122
that's very sad orleans Jul 2020 #123
So sorry to hear this, Hekate. calimary Jul 2020 #124
so very very sorry diva77 Jul 2020 #125
I'm So Sorry DarthDem Jul 2020 #126
Deepest sympathies, dear Hekate Granny M Jul 2020 #127
may he rest in peace Demovictory9 Jul 2020 #128
My deepest sympathies! BlueMTexpat Jul 2020 #129
Oh no... BumRushDaShow Jul 2020 #130
So sorry and sad for you and your family lillypaddle Jul 2020 #131
... N_E_1 for Tennis Jul 2020 #132
(((((((Hekate)))))))) so very sorry for your loss. May Joe be at rest, niyad Jul 2020 #133
So very sorry, Hekate! BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2020 #134
So sorry Hekate. May he rest in peace and may you and your family find comfort in loving memories. Fla Dem Jul 2020 #135
I know the pain of losing a brother. May peace and comfort be with you. Silver Gaia Jul 2020 #136
Hekate, I'm so sorry for your loss MissMillie Jul 2020 #137
I'm so sorry for your loss DesertRat Jul 2020 #138
Oh, I am so sorry. Many hugs to you and your family. crickets Jul 2020 #139
You are all so very dear Hekate Jul 2020 #140
May his memory be eternal. Mme. Defarge Jul 2020 #141
So sorry for your loss. cayugafalls Jul 2020 #142
He will forever be in your heart, Hekate...... Heartstrings Jul 2020 #143
I am so sorry pandr32 Jul 2020 #144
Here are the lyrics to that lovely song: scipan Jul 2020 #145
Very sorry for your sad loss. Judi Lynn Jul 2020 #146
Peace be with you. mobeau69 Jul 2020 #147
Thank you all so much for your heartfelt words. You have really helped, by letting me ... Hekate Jul 2020 #148
Sorry to hear of your loss. roamer65 Jul 2020 #151
I'm so sorry, Hekate. Prayers for you and your family. highplainsdem Jul 2020 #153
❤️ ✿❧✿❧✿ ❤️ Lucinda Jul 2020 #157

Karadeniz

(22,283 posts)
9. Oh, no! It sounds like he had a peaceful transition...that may be the only good thing to cling
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:34 PM
Jul 2020

To when we lose a loved one. Our sincerest sympathies for you and your family.

Hekate

(90,202 posts)
12. I added the song to the OP. I have an unopened bottle of Black Bush I've been saving...
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:39 PM
Jul 2020

This seems like the time to open it and put a glass on my altar, by the Triple Brigid. Time enough after sundown for me to take my share.

Can’t seem to stop crying. Thank you all.

Chili

(1,725 posts)
14. wishing your family comfort and peace
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:41 PM
Jul 2020

... and the song. I recognize it. It was beautifully sung in a series I love, won't mention it now. But how sweet of all of you to give such a tribute to him. Love to you all.

sheshe2

(83,355 posts)
16. I am so sorry for your loss, Hekate.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:42 PM
Jul 2020

I offer a loving embrace to you and your family and a safe passage to your brother Joe.



dhill926

(16,234 posts)
20. so sorry...
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:45 PM
Jul 2020

it's never easy....hope he had a good run, and that you're able to grieve with your siblings, even if it's at a distance...

JohnnyLib2

(11,206 posts)
21. Oh, I'm so sorry Hekate.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:45 PM
Jul 2020

What a hole that leaves in your world. May memories of better times help while you grieve.

hlthe2b

(101,730 posts)
26. So very sorry, Hekate. I know that emptiness that takes over and I hope it will be replaced soon
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:48 PM
Jul 2020

with the very good memories I suspect you have to sustain you.

livetohike

(22,084 posts)
29. I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother Joe. My sympathy
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:52 PM
Jul 2020

to you and family and all of Joe’s friends. May all the stories you tell of times with Joe bring you comfort .

MuseRider

(34,060 posts)
35. I am so very sorry.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:58 PM
Jul 2020

Losing a brother is hard. Please take it real easy and be kind to yourself for a while.

This is a beautiful song. My Great Grandmother was a Clancy, a cousin of these guys. I sadly never knew her well enough to learn more. A beautiful tribute.

Be well. May he rest in peace and may you find peace in time.

Hekate

(90,202 posts)
149. We grew up on their music, and learned just about everything they sang...
Tue Jul 28, 2020, 12:44 AM
Jul 2020

We were way the hell and gone living on O’ahu in the ‘50s and ‘60s, a beautiful place to be sure, but in all seriousness, the only thing to tell us we were Irish besides Mom was the music of the Clancy Brothers. We didn’t even know we looked Irish, which it turns out we surely do.

I had the great good fortune about 10 years ago to take a musical tour of Ireland with Robbie O’Connell’s Celtica Tours. As you probably know, he’s a younger cousin of the Clancy Bros. I hope he and his tour business survive the bad times we are living through, as I’d love to go again someday.

Now there’s a thought to smile on.




 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
38. I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, Hekate.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 07:59 PM
Jul 2020

My sincere condolences to you and your family. My Joe rest in peace.

Hekate

(90,202 posts)
47. So my sister, Brigid, contributes "Isn't it Grand Boys" where you laugh thru your tears...
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 08:11 PM
Jul 2020

Hey, maybe we can get through this night after all

mahina

(17,506 posts)
49. Oh sister. I am so very sorry. Dear heart.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 08:13 PM
Jul 2020

It’s a beautiful song. Singing it for Joe and sending him a chant too. Aloha no.

So hard ✨ sending him a prayer. And you.

peacebuzzard

(5,124 posts)
52. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 08:20 PM
Jul 2020

I am very sorry. This is sad, so sad.no words will ever express this kind of loss

ancianita

(35,816 posts)
70. So sorry for yours and your family's loss, Hekate.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 08:54 PM
Jul 2020

"The Parting Glass" always opens the heart and tears.

May good memories abide and peace find you.

Cha

(295,929 posts)
75. I'm so sorry for your Heartbreaking
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:03 PM
Jul 2020

Loss, Hekate!

We lost our dear sister, Mary, the day after Christmas last year unexpectedly & shockingly. She would have been 73 on February 10, 2020.

We were able to all go to Los Angeles from all over the Mainland and Hawaii to be with her daughter & her son who came in from Florida. I'm really sorry you all can't be together now.. Hopefully someday soon you can all get together in person to hug and celebrate Joe's life!

In the meantime you have Liam Clancy's beautiful, poignant song to bring together.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,321 posts)
76. My sincerest condolences.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:05 PM
Jul 2020

Stay strong. Grieve now, but be good and safe and well always, and happy soon.

Hekate

(90,202 posts)
79. If we were together we'd sing Finnegan's Wake too. Thank you for listening...
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:12 PM
Jul 2020

Last edited Mon Jul 27, 2020, 01:07 AM - Edit history (1)

Oh, he had such sweethearts in his wild and woolly youth. He never married, but two of those ladies stayed in his life until he was an old man.

And he could tell such tales, when he had a glass in his hand.




redwitch

(14,933 posts)
84. I am so very sorry.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:34 PM
Jul 2020

I know some day I will lose a beloved sibling. Or they will lose me. The Parting Glass is a perfect song of farewell.

Nevilledog

(50,687 posts)
86. I'm sorry for your pain.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:36 PM
Jul 2020

May you and your family, and all who are missing Joe, take comfort in remembering his life.

Alliepoo

(2,196 posts)
88. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:44 PM
Jul 2020

It’s a hard thing to lose your brother. My condolences to you and your entire family. I wish you all peace and comfort. Rest easy brother Joe.

Marthe48

(16,695 posts)
96. My sympathy to you
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 09:59 PM
Jul 2020

My brothers have passed, but I have fond memories. I hope that time eases your sadness

Ilsa

(61,675 posts)
105. I'm so sorry.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 10:48 PM
Jul 2020

You two probably knew each other longer than you knew anyone else in the world.

I hope he was able to leave peacefully. May he rest as he wishes.

NoRoadUntravelled

(2,626 posts)
109. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 11:07 PM
Jul 2020

Thinking of you and your family and how difficult it must be that you can't all be physically together in your grief.
Peace.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
116. My heart grieves for you.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 11:47 PM
Jul 2020

Peaceful and loving thoughts being sent to him, and and all of you who loved him.

I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

EllieBC

(2,961 posts)
118. I'm so sorry. May his memory be a blessing.
Sun Jul 26, 2020, 11:55 PM
Jul 2020

And May you and your family find comfort in this time. I’m so very sorry.

MontanaMama

(23,242 posts)
119. Safe home to your dear brother Joe.
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 12:32 AM
Jul 2020

I’m so very sorry for your loss Hekate. I’m holding you and yours in my heart.

TygrBright

(20,733 posts)
121. Holding you, and your sibs, in my heart for consolation. "Good night, and joy be with you all." n/t
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 01:37 AM
Jul 2020

orleans

(33,987 posts)
123. that's very sad
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 02:12 AM
Jul 2020

i'm so sorry, hekate.

we take them with us, you know. we carry a part of them with us for the rest of our journey here. and they carry a part of us when they go. love never dies -- it goes on, and on, and on. and with that we are forever connected. and together.

that's a beautiful, sorrowful song--i never heard it before. thank you for sharing it, along with your grief. i'm crying for you as well as for me as i remember and miss those i have lost from this world.



calimary

(80,700 posts)
124. So sorry to hear this, Hekate.
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 02:40 AM
Jul 2020

Thinking of you and your surviving loved ones. Sending lots of virtual hugs.

We seem to be uniting again. All together in a united state of heartbreak.

BlueMTexpat

(15,349 posts)
129. My deepest sympathies!
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 03:54 AM
Jul 2020

It is always difficult to lose a sibling, but these current circumstances are among the worst.

But what a beautiful elegy! Thank you for sharing it!

niyad

(112,440 posts)
133. (((((((Hekate)))))))) so very sorry for your loss. May Joe be at rest,
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 08:42 AM
Jul 2020

And may you and your loved ones find peace and comfort.

Fla Dem

(23,353 posts)
135. So sorry Hekate. May he rest in peace and may you and your family find comfort in loving memories.
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 09:47 AM
Jul 2020

scipan

(2,296 posts)
145. Here are the lyrics to that lovely song:
Mon Jul 27, 2020, 02:59 PM
Jul 2020

Of all the money that e'er I had
I spent it in good company
And all the harm I've ever done
Alas, it was to none but me

And all I've done for want of wit
To memory now I can't recall
So fill to me the parting glass
Good night and joy be to you all
So fill to me the parting glass
And drink a health whate'er befalls
Then gently rise and softly call
Good night and joy be to you all

Of all the comrades that e'er I had
They're sorry for my going away
And all the sweethearts that e'er I had
They'd wish me one more day to stay
But since it fell into my lot
That I should rise and you should not
I'll gently rise and softly call
Good night and joy be to you all
Fill to me the parting glass
And drink a health whate'er befalls
Then gently rise and softly call
Good night and joy be to you all
La ra la ra la la
La lala lala la la
La ra lala la la
La la la lala la la

But since it fell into my lot
That I should rise and you should not
I'll gently rise and softly call
Good night and joy be to you all
So fill to me the parting glass
And drink a health whate'er befalls
Then gently rise and softly call
Good night and joy be to you all
Good night and joy be to you all

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Alice Parker
The Parting Glass lyrics © Wb Music Corp., Arvee Music, Liffey Music, Embassy Music Publishing Pty Ltd

Hekate

(90,202 posts)
148. Thank you all so much for your heartfelt words. You have really helped, by letting me ...
Tue Jul 28, 2020, 12:06 AM
Jul 2020

...say some of the things I would have said if I were not so alone just now.

I’m doing okay, thanks. I needed yesterday to sit with it, and all of you helped, maybe more than you know.

I got to talk to our sis today (New York state, I’m in SoCal) and we agreed the hardest part is not being able to be together until God knows when. When the day comes, I think just the three of us remaining sibs and our spouses will fly to Oregon to lift a glass and scatter his ashes, along with his lifelong friends.

The death wasn’t unexpected, as he got within a hair of dying last November, but it is still sad and will remain sad — it’s a break in the link to our shared past. At 71 he was a year younger than me, and I’m the eldest of we four.




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