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Sun Apr 19, 2020, 12:54 PM

'We hear you, Dad': A daughter stays on the phone for hours & hours as her dad dies alone from COVID

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'We hear you, Dad': A daughter stays on the phone for hours and hours as her father dies alone from coronavirus

Abby Adair Reinhard pressed her iPhone tighter to her ear, straining to hear the soft rhythm of her father's breath.

In. Out. In. Out.

Five miles away, in a hospital bed in Rochester, New York, her father lay dying.

At first, his breaths were steady white noise that any other day would fade into the background. As the hours passed, his breathing became harder. Tortured. Heavy with mucus.

Reinhard – a mom, a wife and a daughter – spent the next day and a half listening to her father die, praying he could hear her voice. Moment by moment, she detailed those agonizing hours in a wrenching Facebook post.

The terror I’ve felt today is unlike anything I've ever experienced, and I can only imagine how hard it has been for you, Dad. I’m so sorry you are going through this nightmare.

Don Adair, 76, was a father of four and a grandfather of five. A retired attorney who doted on his family, he'd traveled with them to Europe, sat on the floor to open Christmas presents, grinned wide at their graduations and bounced them on his knee.

Now, he lay alone in a bed, isolated from other patients at Highland Hospital. He'd fallen at home a few days earlier, and hospital staffers were helping him fight a minor infection.

Not a problem, Reinhard thought at first. Her dad, her rock, never got sick.

Then he developed a fever and a cough – coronavirus.

Reinhard, 41, called her brother, Tom, in Texas. It was late on April 4. They wondered whether an asymptomatic patient in the hospital had passed along the infection. They talked about how the prognosis was good, how his symptoms were minor.

It's a conversation so many Americans are having, fretting late at night, consulting doctors and scouring the internet for signs of hope, looking at the statistics that say most people will never get really sick.

"He was very strong, physically. I'm sure he'll be fine, is what I told myself," she said. "We went to bed thinking, chances are he's going to be OK."

Her husband made the kids french toast. They watched online Palm Sunday services, in which the pastor urged them to approach uncertainty with faith, not with fear.

Then came the call. A Highland nurse said things Reinhard tried to understand: "Aspiration ... deterioration ... suffering ... not much time.”

The nurse put the phone to Adair's ear. He couldn't talk, but he could listen.

Pacing in her bathroom, Reinhard struggled to catch her own breath, to hide her sobs from her three kids. To listen. To speak.

"I love you," she said.

"Thank you."

"I'm sorry."

"I forgive you."

You settled down in between coughs, and I searched my heart for what to say.

I talked about our precious times at the lake. I remembered you playing your guitar around the campfire, and I clung to that image as if it were my saving grace.

The lyrics of those old campfire songs seemed so fitting now – “Milk and honey on the other side” and “He’s got the whole world in his hands.”

Laundry overflowed the basket in the corner. She talked, listened, prayed. She felt like part of her was outside her own body. It was too much to take in.

After half an hour, she realized she could conference in her siblings – Tom, Carrie in North Carolina and Emily in Denmark. They stayed on the phone for hours, singing more campfire songs, telling stories, remembering their childhood.

Over the next many hours, our conversation with you is one I will treasure for the rest of my life. Although we were each sitting in Dallas, Raleigh, Copenhagen or Rochester, we were together, unpacking memories we had stored away long ago. The lake, the Cape, and our Europe trip. Games, projects and important conversations. We also sang more campfire songs. I pray that you could hear it all.

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https://news.yahoo.com/hear-dad-daughter-stays-phone-120345094.html

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Reply 'We hear you, Dad': A daughter stays on the phone for hours & hours as her dad dies alone from COVID (Original post)
writes3000 Apr 19 OP
catbyte Apr 19 #1
Botany Apr 19 #2
keithbvadu2 Apr 19 #3
lpbk2713 Apr 19 #4
AnotherMother4Peace Apr 19 #5
A HERETIC I AM Apr 19 #6
cayugafalls Apr 19 #7
FakeNoose Apr 19 #8
tblue37 Apr 19 #15
ooky Apr 19 #9
dewsgirl Apr 19 #10
gademocrat7 Apr 19 #11
blueinredohio Apr 19 #12
sinkingfeeling Apr 19 #13
Traildogbob Apr 19 #14
JudyM Apr 20 #19
Joinfortmill Apr 19 #16
smirkymonkey Apr 19 #17
Blue Owl Apr 19 #18
JudyM Apr 20 #20
Tom Rinaldo Apr 20 #21

Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 12:59 PM

1. Well, that was gut-wrenching.

I hate Donald J. Trump with the heat of a thousand suns. That thing insisted on having his fucking name on every stimulus chek; that thing should have his name on every CV-19 death certificate, too.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:00 PM

2. Heartbreaking


Trump should lose every state by double digits

No reason in the world that we should be going through this right now except
for Trump and the Federal Governments response to their Nov. 2019 knowledge
about "the beast."

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:05 PM

3. Damned onions make eyes blurry.

Damned onions make eyes blurry.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:08 PM

4. That must have been agonizing.



But I'm sure they feel better about doing it.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:09 PM

5. Heartbreaking......

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:12 PM

6. This is what those assholes will not hear.

There is a significant number of Americans that will not hear that at all.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:18 PM

7. That was a difficult read, so sad.

It's on you Dump...this is on you...

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:20 PM

8. This heartbreaking story confirms my worst fear

I will not go to a hospital or medical center for any reason. I'm relatively healthy (age 69) and I'll take my chances at home, caring for myself if I should get the virus. For now I have no symptoms and had no exposure that I'm aware of, so I feel relatively safe in saying this. Knock wood.

I do not believe a hospital is where I want to be. That is all.



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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #8)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:25 PM

15. My daughter, an ER physician in Florida, says they ONLY see Covid-19 patients now in the ER,

because everyone is afraid to come to the ER for anything else.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:21 PM

9. Our new reality.

It's a heartbreaking reality.

I can't help but wonder how this man and so many others like him got infected. The new Biden ad says Trump let 40,000 travelers from China in after he blocked travel from China.

Trump was out playing golf and holding magat rallies when he should have been taking precautions to protect people like this man.

If this were my family member I would want to include in his obituary that he was murdered by Donald Trump.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:27 PM

10. 😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:34 PM

11. The onus is on trump

and his sycophants. Our country is suffering illness and death because the malignant narcissist disbanded our pandemic team and refused to take any decisive actions to combat the virus. This is one of many gut wrenching stories. It is so very sad.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 01:34 PM

12. I hope if I catch this virus the hospital does it or they let someone

video the whole thing so it can be posted everywhere. Let people see what really happens with this horrible sickness.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:11 PM

13. That turned on my water works.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:13 PM

14. Breaks my heart

And this poor family, like 10's of thousands of others, have to watch MSNBC broadcast those heavily armend trump hemorrhoids ranting and screaming, unprotected, willing to spread to everyone, gleefully OK with "some deaths" for trump's money. Shame on them. Rachel, we know you have some pull. Stop torturing America for trumps ego and power. Trump and the GOP IS the weapon of mass destruction, Bush and Cheney made up. Where are they now, there IS cash to be Made here as well.

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Response to Traildogbob (Reply #14)

Mon Apr 20, 2020, 12:44 PM

19. It's both-sides-ism... legitimizes them at some level. Coverage is what they want; it should end.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:28 PM

16. Heartbreaking

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:38 PM

17. How heartbreaking. That is one of my biggest fears. That my father or another family

member will end up in this situation and we will lose them without ever being able to see them or be with them in person again. Or that it will be me and that I will never be with my family again.

Just so much sadness all around. And Trump is responsible for most of it. And he doesn't give a damn.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Sun Apr 19, 2020, 03:40 PM

18. Too sad...



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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2020, 12:45 PM

20. We are all one. Such poignant humanity and inhumanity.

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Response to writes3000 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2020, 01:04 PM

21. Overwhelmingly sad. With one kernel of light for the love they shared to the end n/t

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