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Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:43 PM

I'm in a nursing home, been here since right after Thanksgiving last year and my wife just called me

We own a mobile home that we bought in 1999 and it is sitting in a mobile home park, trailer park, or as the owners like to call it, a" Sherwood Forest Mobile Home Community, Greenville, Ohio", call it what you will.

Its about 10 miles from the nursing home and she worries about me getting sick. So far feel good. Temp hovering in the 97 degree range with occasional poke into low 98's.

I have a roommate my age (65) and he has stage 4 lung cancer and dementia. We've been together about 3 1/2 weeks now. He hasn't shown any Corona signs of fever yet but to be expected he is coughing alot. (He's also in Hospice care for past 2 weeks).

The nursing home is on shutdown as of 3 days ago. No visitors. Family or friends can drop things off but they have to leave them outside and an aide brings it in. I can visit with her through a closed window.

She just called me while I was watching "The Flintstones" instead of watching TrumpleThinSkin, and told me that park management had left a notice on the door that lot rent was going up by $10 a month. We currently pay $280/mo. Now for the really good news. We can pay that much by signing a lease for the $290/mo. or go month to month for an extra $50.($330 mo.)

These are the same bastards that started charging us for water last year.(another$40/mo.) And a 3/4 months after they installed the water meters, with me in the nursing home, the pipe before the meter busted and since I couldn't fix it, it cost about $300 to fix it. Then a month or so later it started leaking in another place but my wife found a guy that fixed it all with pex tubing for $65. So far no more leaks.

I've since found out that the water company this place contracted the water service too is the same one in Michigan that poisoned Flint, Michigan's water, is one and the same.

And since my wife and I are disabled and on fixed incomes, it could be difficult to move out.

I guess the next thing will be my wife and/or I will get sick.

We can always hope.

Take care all. I'll just wave from over here.

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Reply I'm in a nursing home, been here since right after Thanksgiving last year and my wife just called me (Original post)
bearssoapbox Mar 25 OP
samplegirl Mar 25 #1
question everything Mar 25 #2
TEB Mar 25 #3
totodeinhere Mar 25 #4
projectiboga Mar 25 #5
PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 25 #6
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #14
lunatica Mar 25 #28
Mersky Mar 25 #7
MLAA Mar 25 #8
captain queeg Mar 25 #9
erronis Mar 26 #42
KT2000 Mar 25 #10
Mr.Bill Mar 25 #11
applegrove Mar 25 #12
GOPricklepants Mar 25 #13
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #17
DENVERPOPS Mar 25 #19
calimary Mar 26 #38
Rebl2 Mar 25 #15
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #18
Joinfortmill Mar 25 #16
Maru Kitteh Mar 25 #20
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #23
ButSeeYa Mar 25 #21
Warpy Mar 25 #22
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #26
Warpy Mar 25 #31
bearssoapbox Mar 26 #33
SleeplessinSoCal Mar 25 #24
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #27
Heartstrings Mar 25 #25
bearssoapbox Mar 25 #29
Karadeniz Mar 25 #30
pdxflyboy Mar 25 #32
spanone Mar 26 #34
marble falls Mar 26 #35
lillypaddle Mar 26 #36
NurseJackie Mar 26 #37
w100jmi Mar 26 #39
left-of-center2012 Mar 26 #40
lefthandedskyhook Mar 26 #41
warmfeet Mar 26 #43

Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:48 PM

1. Get well

your wife needs you.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:52 PM

2. Can you, or a trusted friend contact the AG office to see what can be done?

Are there senior assistants in the state?

Try to resist these measures. I am sure you are not alone.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:53 PM

3. Get well soon

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:54 PM

4. I wish you the very best my friend. I suspect that there are thousands if not millions of

other stories like yours right now. I'm lucky I guess that I'm still at home but I have underlying conditions and I'm 73 so if I get it I will probably be in a world of hurt. Regarding your nursing home, I think it's a travesty that they only locked the place down three days ago. They should have done that long ago. We have known since January that this is coming.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 08:56 PM

5. stay well

Stay well.

Your water is likely a well, and hopefully newer than the 1970s, if so your whole system before the meter should have no lead.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:02 PM

6. I worked for a while at a mobile home park in my city,

some ten or eleven years ago. Even then, I was shocked at what the rental rates for the spaces were. And the out of state owners raised the rent every single year.

That was a temp job for me, and about a year later, two other people I knew were working in that mobile home park. They'd been assured by the owners that there would be no rent increase that year. But then they raised the rents anyway. My friends both quit the job.

Unless you honestly think you can get your unit moved in the next few months, sign the lease. And then see if there is anywhere else you can move to.

back at ya

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Response to PoindexterOglethorpe (Reply #6)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:39 PM

14. Thank You.

I'm going to sign and hopefully my wife and I won't get sick. Meanwhile I can get stronger while I'm here and research my alternatives. Due to some physical problems I gained a bunch of weight because I was bedridden and I have to retrain and strengthen some muscles, lose weight,(so far since getting here last year right after Thanksgiving I've lost 90+lbs.) I'm also relearning to walk. Before the shutdown, when I was up to 120' with a walker I was getting stamina and endurance back. Now I'm walking back and forth in 18ft. room plus exercises.

I'll make it.

AG is good idea or maybe Ombudsman, Area Agency On Aging. Found those after quick check. If nothing else maybe can get light shone on the cockroaches.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Reply #14)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:38 PM

28. Call the Mayor's office

The pandemic brings out the worst in greedy people. If the Mayor doesn’t work then contact the governor’s office, your Senator and Congressman.

Don’t give in. If they evict people for not paying more they’re going to find themselves with empty mobile homes.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:06 PM

7. Whoa. That's all kinds of wrong that shouldn't be happening.

Y’all shouldn’t have to deal with lease increases* on top of their negligence right now. Contact your Congress persons (state and federal) in the meantime.

Otherwise, I’m wondering if any DU legal minds from Ohio could go into tenants’ rights and such in the state?

I like your voice and manner - you sound like a good sport that shouldn’t have to put up with seemingly unethical property owners.



Eta: *I’m considering the water billing change as a rate increase (Never mind the repair costs, ugh!). So, combined with this year’s increase, it comes out to be quite a jump in total costs to stay there. Smells predatory, and I don’t like it.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:23 PM

8. Glad you checked in! Crossing my fingers for your plumbing ...I mean your home's plumbing! 😬

Seriously sending you guys a little love from Southern AZ💕

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:26 PM

9. I read an article last year that a few corporations were swallowing up mobile home parks

Historically they tended to be small mom and pop operations but some of these financial parasites realized that most people were stuck there and couldn’t afford to move.

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Response to captain queeg (Reply #9)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 08:00 PM

42. Yup - there have been a few articles like that. Kushner-style rent gouging. I know many people

living in trailer parks. Sometimes multiple people and multiple families in one unit.

In my area these are the only accommodations available given the payments allowed by Medicare and Medicaid. And they leave scant money for any other necessities.

Meanwhile the rich get richer and the rest of us get screwed.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:29 PM

10. wishing you the best

and I'm sorry about the rental conundrum. His/her timing sure stinks.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:33 PM

11. I also live in a Senior Mobile Home Park.

We are in Northern California and there is no rent control in our city or county. We moved in four years ago and at that time we were given the option to sign a ten year lease that limits rent hikes to 3% a year. The lease can be broken by us at any time by selling the mobile home. We signed it, and it is a comfort to know that while there will be a small increase every year, we at least know how much it is and when it will happen.

I used to worry about what will happen when the ten year lease expires, but our Governor recently signed a law to limit rent increases to 5% per year in Senior parks like ours. Many localities have rent control laws for Senior parks but this is the first statewide law of it's kind.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:36 PM

12. Keep in touch. You are on the front lines so don't forget your role as a primary information

reporter.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:39 PM

13. Can you email WHIO/channel 7?

I'm in your area, so I know of the nursing home issues in Troy and surrounding area (Koester Pavillion and Springmeade). The local news might be able to shame them into a reversal if you shared your story with them.

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Response to GOPricklepants (Reply #13)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:11 PM

17. I'm kicking that idea around.

That's terrible about those two nursing homes. I'm surprised that The Heartland in Piqua hasn't made the news. I was there for little over a year until they sold it and it went to hell.

I'm researching. I don't go into something unless I can win or change what I'm going after.

Have gotten a few ideas from replies to this post.

We have a bunch of smart, caring people in the DU family.

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Response to GOPricklepants (Reply #13)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:58 PM

19. Agreed

Sometimes they are more afraid of bad press that publicly humiliates them more than any other thing. The mere threat of revealing the Corporations name in the media broadcasts, which shows them as picking on the disadvantaged often frightens them into backing off........

(Doesn't work with politicians anymore, because they all gloat and are gleeful with the publicity........)

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Response to GOPricklepants (Reply #13)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 06:32 PM

38. That's a good idea. They're ALL looking for local angles right now.

Especially something that raises the hackles up on viewers. Local predators targeting a nice elderly couple.

Contact the local media.

AND your Congressmember and Senator. Yours can't be the only complaint like this, that they're getting. Maybe yours will be the straw that breaks the camel's back and makes it clear SOMETHING'S gotta be done about it.

Virtual hugs to both of you!

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:58 PM

15. Sorry for your situation

Kind of surprised your nursing home just closed to outside visitors 3 days ago. My parents nursing home in Missouri shut down two weeks ago to outside visitors. Same with my aunt and uncle that live in Findlay, Ohio in assisted living-shut down two weeks ago.

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Response to Rebl2 (Reply #15)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:26 PM

18. I'd been waiting for this place to shut down since 3/9-10/20

My roommate had about a dozen family members to visit on 3/8/20.

I stayed out until they left. My brother and his wife came up and we went outside and sat in garden area 6=ft. apart. They aren't showing any symptoms yet.

After they left I got out my Clorox wipes and had aides help me wipe room down since I have mobility problems. had no trouble getting help but they wondered what I was doing it for. They told me that they hadn't been told about wiping surfaces.

Funny thing though. On 3/12/20 they, the nursing home, started wiping surfaces. Probably just a coincidence.

Wonder how the place will react when my wife brings the UV air purifier I ordered. I've ordered 2 more. That way she'll have 2 for the house and I am going to try and put 2 in room.

Looking for UV wand purifiers also.

Told wife it might be to late but it's best I can do.

Watch, do all this stuff then Ill be sure and get sick.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:07 PM

16. God bless

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:07 PM

20. Watch the infection control practices of your CNA's, Nurses and Docs LIKE A HAWK.

Do NOT be afraid of telling them very nicely "I'm sorry but would you mind washing your hands first?" when they come in the room to see you. Contact your ombudsman if you see anything that makes you uncomfortable.

As an RN myself, all I can say is may we all get through this, together.

Stay in touch, we'll be thinking of you and your wife.



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Response to Maru Kitteh (Reply #20)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:21 PM

23. Thank you

If I don't see them wash or sanitize I pick up my bottle ready to squirt. They've been pretty good so far.

A few of them will help wipe down areas with my clorox wipes since I can't get around very well. They would rather help than pick me up. I'm about 450lbs. down from 525 last November.

My sense of humor might help also and I'm not afraid to help when I can.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:15 PM

21. Hugs to you

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:19 PM

22. That sounds like the nursing home is taking things seriously

I'd advise your wife to sign the lease, moving one of those "mobile" homes is hella expensive and likely other park owners are jacking up their rates while they can get away with it.

I lived in a decent park over 20 years ago, moved to a centrally located house in what used to be slumburbia when interest rates went down, so I know what she's up against. Next year it'll be $300, maybe more the following year if the economy hasn't gone completely down the pan.

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Response to Warpy (Reply #22)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:27 PM

26. Yeah

I think the mobile went out before we bought it. It's an '88' and been here a while.

I'll continue to try and be a burr under the saddle as much as I can.

As in stay a bug in the appropriate ears.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Reply #26)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:53 PM

31. There was a push in my park to try to move out all the old tin cans

with the metal siding, metal roofs, and 70s design in favor of the newer styles with peaked roofs and cheap Masonite siding. Yours is new enough not to be subject to that. The guy who bought mine moved it out to a lot in a small town. There are few tornadoes here so manufactured housing makes a lot of sense for a lot of people. As of last year, the tin can next door was still stubbornly in place.

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Response to Warpy (Reply #31)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 12:04 AM

33. People here seem to keep them up.

We do the best we can. I just have to keep a low profile while reporting wrongs to the right places.

I haven't been around much so I don't have a real feel for the new management or owners.

Not crazy about the owners, so far.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:25 PM

24. Sending good vibrations from SoCal.

What a fine mess TrumpleThinSkin got us in.

Be well.

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Response to SleeplessinSoCal (Reply #24)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:35 PM

27. Thank you

Wellness vibes to you and yours.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:26 PM

25. Good vibes sent to you and your wife....

We’re all in this together and here for you....

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Response to Heartstrings (Reply #25)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:42 PM

29. Thank you

Lots of goodness here at DU.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:46 PM

30. I liked one response about notifying a govt agency that significant price increases are going on

At this time. I wish the two of you the best in dealing with your problems...good luck!❤

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Wed Mar 25, 2020, 11:55 PM

32. Bearssoapbox

Please stay healthy!!

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 01:02 AM

34. ❤️

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 05:47 PM

36. My heart goes out to you and your wife

it must be a terribly helpless feeling being at everyone's "mercy." My very best wishes to both of you for good health, and fingers crossed that your plumbing and landlord cooperate to make life a little easier.

Stay in touch and keep us posted.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 05:58 PM

37. ...

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 06:53 PM

39. hey! I grew up in Greenville!

My grandmother lives at the brethren home. She's stir crazy because they won't let residents walk beyond their hallway. I moved to sc 8 years ago and try to make it up during spring break and Thanksgiving to see family but we probably won't make it up for spring ☹️😔 eat a Jim's hot dog and maid rite for me! I really hope situation gets better for you and your wife soon

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 07:33 PM

40. "go month to month for an extra $50"

That's true in the apartment complex where I live here in N.M.

12 month lease for me is cheapest (but not cheap).
6 month lease is a bit more money monthly.
Month to month is most expensive.

Sorry for your situation.

This seems to be a time when people show their true colors,
and some ain't pretty.

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 07:49 PM

41. Take care

Best wishes to you and yours

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Response to bearssoapbox (Original post)

Thu Mar 26, 2020, 08:25 PM

43. I would like to live in a world where we all do our best to take care of one another.

I am not giving up my dream, not anytime soon.

Please take care. I hope you get better.

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