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Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:13 PM

The Aging Narcissist: Adding Dementia to the Mix

Despite what a narcissist will pontificate, even they are subject to the effects of getting older. Becoming elderly is a normal part of the developmental stage of life for most people, but not for the narcissistic. They view aging as an ultimate evil. Some will engage in ridiculous plastic surgery in an effort to look as young as they feel. Others will begin a new career while their peers are retiring. And still, others will take on far younger partners.

But what the narcissist canít do is dodge the effects of dementia. As a progressive indiscriminate disorder which sometimes transforms into Alzheimerís or other disorders, dementia affects every area of the brain in random order. What seemed natural and habitual now becomes foreign and difficult. Memory becomes scattered and unreliable. Familiar people become strangers or even enemies that are out to get them.

For the narcissist, this is completely unacceptable. Most narcissists rely heavily on their cognitive abilities as a way of constantly demonstrating superiority over others in performance, influence, power, beauty, or money. Any sign that is is deteriorating or diminishing is out of the question, something that cannot and will not be tolerated. This is when the narcissist is most at risk for suicidal behavior.

Make no mistake; narcissists donít threaten suicide just to get attention, they actually follow-through on the action especially when they begin to view their superior identity as slightly inferior. They would rather die than be revealed as fallible, vulnerable, or depending on someone else to do the basics of life. When a person has spent their entire life belittling and mocking those believed to be beneath them, they cannot, in the end, be revealed like them.


More at the link:

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/01/the-aging-narcissist-adding-dementia-to-the-mix/


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Response to Andy823 (Original post)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:17 PM

1. This phrase gives me a little hope:

"narcissists donít threaten suicide just to get attention, they actually follow-through on the action"

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Response to fleur-de-lisa (Reply #1)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:19 PM

2. I hate to laugh and kinda agree but ... yeah ... lol ... nt

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Response to fleur-de-lisa (Reply #1)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:27 PM

3. I, too,...

had a fleeting sensation of hope!

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Response to Andy823 (Original post)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:35 PM

4. Thanks for the post.

My Spouse's Brother In Law fits this description to a tee. And that was confirmed yesterday after his Daughter had him Committed to a Mental Facility last Friday due to a Suicide Threat. He is to released to his Daughter today,should be one hell of a scene .

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Response to Andy823 (Original post)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:41 PM

5. This sounds familiar

Early Stage:

Moderate Cognitive Decline. Despite the best efforts of the narcissist, their decreased cognitive abilities become apparent to others. They typically struggle to remember even recent events, accidentally send too much money to the electrical company, or getting lost easily when in new locations. Complex work tasks become too difficult but the narcissist wonít admit to it. Instead, they will blame others and distract with elaborate stories of past successes. To avoid embarrassment (the Achilles heel of the narcissist), they withdraw from family and friends. When needed, the narcissist can function at a select event for a short period of time but as soon as it is done, so are they. The disengagement is extreme and may even appear catatonic.


This sounds a lot like what I have been seeing with trump. I also think they are bringing Hope Hicks back because he is getting worse and they need her to be there.

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Response to Andy823 (Original post)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 12:45 PM

6. I'm not so sure about the suicide part.

I've read quite a bit about narcissistic personality disorder and have never read a link between the aging narcissist and suicide. I am not a professional by any means, but I have known a few who suffered from this disorder quite closely and I've always felt like they are the sort who will threaten suicide for the attentin but never follow through because they believe the world just could not go on without them. They think they're that special.

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Response to llmart (Reply #6)

Thu Feb 13, 2020, 01:01 PM

7. I don't know about that part either

My brother in laws wife was a narcissist, and I have seen first hand how terrible they are, and the hate they have for anyone who doesn't let them be in control. I couldn't see here committing suicide, but then I stopped associating with her over 20 years ago.

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