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Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:03 PM

This makes me so 🤬 angry!

A 19-year-old member of the choir at Swansboro United Methodist Church in North Carolina was fat-shamed by a church leader who told her she shouldn’t be wearing jean shorts with her body.

Over the weekend, the singer, Jenna, went into the church’s bathroom to check her phone because a family member was in the hospital. She was confronted by Bonnie Sue Bihary, who immediately began to shame her by talking about how another “chubby” girl in the church wears an appropriate dress that comes to her knees, and why aren’t you doing that?

“So you’re sitting here calling me fat?” Jenna asked her off camera, her voice thick with tears.

The woman put her hands on her hips and asked her: “Oh. You don’t think you are?”

https://friendlyatheist.patheos.com/2019/07/03/church-leader-body-shames-19-year-old-girl-fat-girls-dont-wear-shorts/

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Reply This makes me so 🤬 angry! (Original post)
Floyd R. Turbo Friday OP
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trev Friday #2
Floyd R. Turbo Friday #20
trev Friday #25
smirkymonkey Friday #4
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trev Friday #26
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Bettie Friday #8
cwydro Friday #9
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essme Friday #11
cwydro Friday #12
essme Friday #15
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Celerity Friday #33
Floyd R. Turbo Saturday #35
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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:06 PM

1. no excuse for that kinda shit

unless you're aiming them at some one who has made those remarks to another such as trump

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Response to gopiscrap (Reply #1)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:08 PM

3. If anyone had spoken to my daughter like that, there would've been hell to pay!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:07 PM

2. Seems pretty typical to me.

Methodism is a rather conservative denomination, so it's bound to be authoritarian and brazen.

If I were her, I'd look for a better church to go to.

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Response to trev (Reply #2)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:25 PM

20. Or, no church!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #20)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:03 PM

25. Well, that would be my choice, yes.

I think most Christians tend to stay with the church. I grew up Methodist myself, but left it when I was 18 to attend another church--much to the rage of my Republican parents. I left that one 8 years later and left my religion behind with it.

But I think I'm an exception.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:16 PM

4. That's so cruel!

I make fun of how fat Trump is all the time, but that is because he is a mean bully who fat-shames and look-shames others when he is in no position to criticize anyone for what they look like. Also, I hate him and it gives me pleasure to tear him down. Not very mature, but there it is.

However, I would never do such a thing in real life to anybody, especially someone I didn't know. Besides, this is a church! Aren't they supposed to love and accept people for who they are and not what they look like? What makes people think that their unsolicited opinions are welcomed when they are only intended to hurt and shame?

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Response to smirkymonkey (Reply #4)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:27 PM

7. He has only his fake doctor to blame for that.

If you are gonna claim to be something you aren't, expect to get called on it. And since Trump is such a disgusting bully, people do not need to hold back.

6'3" 230lbs my ass, lol

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Response to smirkymonkey (Reply #4)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:05 PM

26. But ... but ... he's *great looking*.

He says so, so it must be true.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:17 PM

5. Ah, I know the type.

I've had plenty of people who have verbally abused me in my younger years, and then chastise me for "swearing" while giving their shit right back to them. I know the type well.

That young woman did very well for herself by standing up to that shitty older woman.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:21 PM

6. I would have responded, "And you are ugly. The difference between us,

I can lose weight tomorrow."

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:28 PM

8. Unfortunately, that is the way this country is

people think that commenting on the size of bodies is OK, especially if they don't meet the arbitrary beauty standards set for women.

Men get fat shamed too, but women are also treated as though their only value is in their looks, with the assumption being that fat is equal to ugly.

It is, however, pervasive.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:52 PM

9. That woman wasn't exactly skinny.

Wtf?

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 01:53 PM

10. Should she really be going sleeveless?

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:00 PM

11. OK, It's me, right? Does anyone else

think this kid just needs to think, "geezz, shut up you old twit," or something similar, and laugh it off?

I think the over reaction on the girl's part is a bit odd.

55 year old Episcopalian woman here who dealt with plenty of mean old snot wits back in days of the dinosaurs with no phones-

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Response to essme (Reply #11)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:07 PM

12. If she was 16, I could see the drama a bit more, but hey, who knows what's going on in her life.

I know what you mean. I dealt with a lot of that from older women (and men) growing up.

I’ve never been fat, but I’ve always had short hair - you wouldn’t believe the comments I used to get as a young woman.

People are weird.

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Response to cwydro (Reply #12)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:17 PM

15. especially folks in church

I mean, Jesus Christ- the woman in the bathroom was CLEARLY to anyone breathing, a jerk-- but, to start screaming and crying over it? Recording it? Putting it on social media?

WTF?

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Response to essme (Reply #15)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:24 PM

19. I think that's just normal to that age group now. They put everything on social media.

I don’t get it, but I’m not in that age group.

That being said, kind of funny to see that hateful “church lady” get her comeuppance.

Remember Dana Carvey? He nailed that type!

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Response to cwydro (Reply #19)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:36 PM

22. Yep! I loved the "church lady!"

That said, I don't think screaming and crying like that is normal for a 19 year old.

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Response to essme (Reply #11)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:09 PM

13. Who knows how much that girl has been bullied and/or abused! I think she showed restraint by not

putting that women flat on her ass!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #13)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:15 PM

14. Really? Being told to wear a dress

results in getting beat up, or put on social media these days?

The old lady is an asshole. No doubt. Clearly, she's a jerk. You don't think screaming and crying, and "putting the woman flat on her ass" is a LITTLE FUCKING over reactive?

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Response to essme (Reply #14)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:18 PM

16. The woman is a bully! The best way to handle them is a kind word followed by a smack in the chops!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #16)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:19 PM

17. Dude, whatever

Enjoy your prison time if you think that's OK

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Response to essme (Reply #17)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:21 PM

18. I am! Especially bean night!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #18)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:39 PM

23. :

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Response to onecaliberal (Reply #23)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:57 PM

24. It's a gas! 😏

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Reply #18)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 04:49 PM

31. !

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 02:27 PM

21. Notice the fat shamer is not exactly slim herself. nt

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Response to tblue37 (Reply #21)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:42 PM

30. Actually, I just saw the video and I was shocked!

I think the fat shamer was even heavier than Jenna! Jenna didn't look bad and the self-righteous church lady was quite hefty and unattractive. Typical Trumper.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:12 PM

27. Sanctimonious bitch!

How does being a bully further the Word of Jesus?

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:15 PM

28. I had no problem with the way she looked. Maybe this is more about envy.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 03:25 PM

29. It says the woman was forbidden from taking on any leadership roles at the church

Honestly, I think she should have been kicked out and told she was no where close to being a Christian. That would have, maybe, had some impact.

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 05:16 PM

32. She should have never been fat-shamed, especially by a fellow church member

Jenna's response on twitter.












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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 05:30 PM

33. follow-up

https://www.facebook.com/SwansboroUMC/photos/a.564510250246151/2697001446997010/?type=3



In a separate video posted to Twitter, Munger as also called for those harassing Bihary to stop, saying, "The only way we can kill that hate is by love."



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Response to Celerity (Reply #33)

Sat Jul 13, 2019, 08:21 AM

35. Thanks for posting!

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Response to Floyd R. Turbo (Original post)

Fri Jul 12, 2019, 05:31 PM

34. How christian.

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