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Thu May 9, 2019, 10:39 AM

Desperately Seeking a Black Sperm Donor

New York Times

Nikki and I did something often considered too good to be true. We stumbled across each other in a humid, dark, loud nightclub in West Hollywood during the 2014 Los Angeles Pride weekend; it was love at first sight.

Fast forward to 2018, when we got married and bought a house within the same week. But our dream wouldnít be complete without one more miracle: motherhood. The medical recommendation is that women have children before the age of 35, so we decided that Nikki should carry first since sheís 33 and Iím 28. But like many folks who seek out fertility help, we had no idea how difficult it would be to find the perfect sperm donor, let alone a black donor.

Nikki is an extrovert who works as a global partnership senior manager for a top technology company. If her perfect smile and big hair donít blow you away, her optimism and ambition will take you around the universe and back. Nikki would describe me as a super creative, solutions-oriented introvert. Iím the person everyone comes to for advice, but I was at a loss when it came to finding a suitable sperm donor for our needs.

Even before we started looking, I was under the impression that there was a limited supply of black donors. Maybe thatís because I donít know any black donors. Maybe itís because buying sperm or conceiving a baby in this fashion isnít considered a ďblack thing.Ē As it turns out, I was correct. Though private sperm banks are not required to share the ethnic origins of their donors publicly, as we started our search we found the number of black donors to be vanishingly small.

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Response to brooklynite (Original post)

Thu May 9, 2019, 01:17 PM

1. Sperm only comes in one color

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Response to Fullduplexxx (Reply #1)

Thu May 9, 2019, 01:47 PM

2. But the genetics don't. I understand what is driving

this couple to seek a black donor. Their choice, really. I can't fault them for that in any way.

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Response to MineralMan (Reply #2)

Thu May 9, 2019, 02:27 PM

6. My apologies to both of you ... the headline makes it sound like they are looking for a donor of

Black sperm

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Response to Fullduplexxx (Reply #6)

Thu May 9, 2019, 02:31 PM

8. Really? It was quite clear in the article that.

the women were African-American, and were looking for a donor to match that category. I can't see how the confusion occurred, really.

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Response to MineralMan (Reply #8)

Thu May 9, 2019, 03:11 PM

9. There was no confusion it was a joke on the way the headline was worded

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Response to Fullduplexxx (Reply #9)

Thu May 9, 2019, 03:22 PM

12. Some days it just doesn't pay to get out of bed

Sigh....

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Response to Fullduplexxx (Reply #1)

Thu May 9, 2019, 01:53 PM

5. This was their choice - and they had thought about it

From the link in the OP:
B.A.: That was huge for me, too. His willingness to donate to help families like ours truly warmed my heart. We went through all this to make sure we acquired a black donor. What do you say to the folks who ask, ďWhy not choose another ethnicity?Ē

Nikki: I wouldnít be able to provide enough support for our childís other culture, and thatís not fair.

B.A.: Itís important, too, that we have black children that understand that being just black is beautiful. I know too many people who believe that black by itself isnít beautiful or enough. Thatís simply not true.

Nikki: I agree. We want our future children to love who they are. Weíre both black and we want our children to reflect our genetic makeup.

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Response to csziggy (Reply #5)

Thu May 9, 2019, 02:28 PM

7. My apologies to both of you ... the headline makes it sound like they are looking for a donor of

Black sperm . It was supposed to be a joke

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Response to brooklynite (Original post)

Thu May 9, 2019, 01:48 PM

3. I donated in my college days, have at it...

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Response to brooklynite (Original post)

Thu May 9, 2019, 01:52 PM

4. I did a quick search, and many sperm banks let you specify

African-american as a criterion. I did a couple of searches, and found donors that fit that category. Not as many, by any means, but some in each of the sperm banks I searched.

So, there's hope for that couple.

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Response to brooklynite (Original post)

Thu May 9, 2019, 03:14 PM

10. Best wishes for your search...

and your impending motherhood. I hope to help you build a better world for your children to grow up in.

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Response to brooklynite (Original post)

Thu May 9, 2019, 03:17 PM

11. Hmmm

Yeah, it's OT. I was searching for a particular scene from a Wayan bro's film at a sperm bank. This is what popped up.

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