Cognitive Dissonance 😆- when you love some Trump supporters.

[Funtatlaguy]

Cog Diss is defined as having diff beliefs or thoughts that are at odds.
I think that has now been turned up to new and dangerous levels in our country.

We progressives and Dems really detest people like Trump, McConnell and Kavanaugh.
But, many of us really love or deeply care about people who voted for and still support them.

In the past, like under W, I think many of us (at least I did) just avoided any political talk with our Bush supporting loved ones.
But now, with Trump being so all invasive and so Trump and the gloating and the insults, etc. etc.

Well, you see where I’m going.
I am very worried that I’m going to lose some very important relationships in my life.
It is becoming harder and harder to just avoid politics with certain people.
Instead I am just avoiding these people on days that I just don’t have the energy to fake it that all is good when I don’t respect these people. Can you still love someone you no longer respect?

Cognitive Dissonance sucks. Thanks Trump. Thanks GOP.

[Xipe Totec]

1. Thanksgiving dinner will be very interesting this year. nt

[Funtatlaguy]

2. "Pass the carving up republicans knife...oops, I meant the butter knife....you fascist fuc😱".

[Xipe Totec]

4. Instead of baked turkey serve schadenfreude turkey this year.

[FM123]

3. It is hard indeed.

While all my immediate family members are Democrats, there are some in-laws & extended family members who are trumplicans - unfortunately with the holidays coming up, it will be hard to avoid them.

[Trust Buster]

5. Right wingers are habitually insecure people. Right wingers live for attention.

Right wingers live to provoke. Ignoring them is the best way to defeat them IMO. I would suggest that you extend the traditional pleasantries and nothing more. My right wing family members have definitely received my cold shoulder.

[Girard442]

6. At some point you have to ascertain what people truly, deeply believe...

...and exactly what beliefs cross the line into those so repugnant that you shun those people. It's not an easy task, since right-wingers are disingenuous when you discuss issues and principles with them.

Well, I don't think anybody should be lynched, but you know, those folks that were weren't good people and the law wasn't taking care of things the way it should have.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

7. I divorced myself from all RW friends and family during the Bush years. Life is better now!

[Funtatlaguy]

11. Some of us have family (especially children) and financial relationships that preclude us

from dropping them.
These are the types of situations that I’m talking about.

[lindysalsagal]

8. Wealthy frumpers are a lost cause. Money is all. Unless you increase their wealth, they don't have n

need of you. You are one of those money-grubbing takers: Taking their money away from them.

They believe in their marrow that they are more deserving, smart, well-born, whatever, and even in the face of total devestation, will cling to their perceived superiority to the end. With them, remember that they are masters of self-delusion, and that their hard-earned outer trappings always mask inner insecurity and turmoil, else they wouldn't be so lacking in compassion in the first place. Money corrupts, and so despite the pretty image they display, you don't want to be in their world.

If a frumper needs Obamacare, or values the environment, then there is always a chance they'll at least admit some of his policies are hurtful, and you can share that little piece of ground.

For those who are ambivilent, accept that they are still being honest, and that your interactions with them are real and lasting.

You can always score points whenever a topic arises where Obama improved things.

[agincourt]

9. I'm having more problem with teabilly leftist revolutionaries

In nebraska the hate for the democratic party is so strong it seeps into leftist activism. They target "elitist" liberals constantly while pretending the GOP does not exist and it makes me furious. The MAGA clowns I stay away from.

[elocs]

10. I have a friend who had been like a father to me for 40 years.

In fact, he and his wife considered me to be their 4th son. We live in the same city but he would call me nearly everyday. But he and his wife bleed Republican and I haven't seen nor spoken with him for over 4 years. The irony is that his youngest son is a Liberal.

Holidays are no problem for me since I don't celebrate them. Since I am a schizoid and prefer to avoid gatherings of people and people in general other than casual contact, that's not a problem for me either. But the divide in this country is hard, fast, deep, and unforgiving and it awaits a spark that will truly set in aflame.

[Autumn]

12. I've always managed to keep it separate before. This time I can't do that.

I have two sisters who live in different states but we were always close, talking on the phone, FB and visits. Through every Republican administration politics never intruded. Now, the hatred rolls off them in waves. I have no respect for them and I avoid them and ignore their calls, if they leave a message I'll send them back a short text in reply. I stay off FB because of the shit they post. My oldest from OK comes twice a year to see her kids and grand kids and will spend 2 days or three days with us. This year when she calls to let us know when she's coming, I've decided I will not be in town during that time.

[Funtatlaguy]

13. Sorry for your loss. And it is a loss.

I got off of social media.
I am missing so many great family moments and pictures of kids that I love because of it.

[Autumn]

14. We are all up in years and to reach a point where you no longer can

enjoy the company of the few remaining siblings you have because of their nastiness over everything and everybody it really sucks. I'm at a point where I don't want that negative hate about other people in my life.

[Girard442]

15. The irony is that when people in my circle of like-minded friends meet...

...we often avoid discussing politics because it's too upsetting, even in a group that's all on the same page. We could probably get through a mixed holiday gathering just fine if the right-wingers would just STFU.

[Autumn]

16. Same here. But they have begun to spew their hate on anything, even non political related

discussions. This year there will be no holiday gatherings, I'm going to have other plans.

[rownesheck]

17. I can tell you

my trump loving dad had a pretty serious heart situation which required a trip to the emergency room, several tests, and an upcoming heart procedure. My step mom texted me about it. Usually I'd call and check on him. I'm struggling over making the call because i don't want the conversation to veer in a political direction. It's been 5 days.