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Mon Oct 1, 2018, 10:30 AM

Growing up at Georgetown Prep...from an alumnus' point of view. (warning: trigger language)

https://theestablishment.co/i-went-to-kavanaughs-alma-mater-georgetown-prep-and-it-was-a-case-study-in-misogyny/

The allegations against Brett Kavanaugh have been careful to include not only his age at the time of his alleged assault, but the fact that he was a student at Georgetown Prep. Assaults are a pandemic in our culture today, but his alleged actions speak beyond toxic masculinity and the general rape culture that holds all women hostage today. Brett Kavanaugh is a symptom of something worse. He is the fullest expression of elitism blended with misogyny that is cultivated and groomed at private, all-male institutions like Georgetown Prep.


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I remember a young woman who substituted for my English class weeping as she erased “I want to fuck Ms. ________ in the ass” from the blackboard. If the boy who wrote it was disciplined, I never heard about it; his actions were never condemned. I also remember our class president getting elected on the slogan “Bleachers,” because he had “fingered” a girl beneath them. Before big games against rival schools, the “Boosters” (an elected group of cheerleaders who would get the fans going before and during games) would paper the hallways with posters with such slogans as “Beat the Pagans” when we played schools that were not religious, and “Hoya Saxa,” etc. One popular poster was a cartoon of a rabbit’s head that on closer inspection revealed a woman parting her legs. It would appear alongside other posters praising certain players or generally hyping the team. It served no other purpose and had no other meaning.

When you believe you are superior and untouchable, the least moral commit heinous crimes. The same lack of accountability that led to the rampant abuse finally being called out by the #MeToo movement, the rape of children in the Catholic Church by priests, rapes in the military and abuses by the police force—these all stem from the same corrupting sense of superiority.

I don’t think a day went by that I didn’t see a penis scrawled on a chalkboard or a desk. Everyday in the hall I would regularly see guys punch each other in the groin. I would often find myself doubled over in pain having just been punched out of nowhere. On two separate occasions I was choked until I almost blacked out. This was normal, everyday behavior. That is the culture enabled by the dangerous and passive permissiveness of “boys will be boys.” I have never been a fighter and in truth, I’m not particularly quick with words. I had very little defense. The idea of telling a teacher never crossed my mind. I’m not even certain who I would have told.


Worth the whole read, IMHO.

And we wonder why misogyny runs deep with these guys...it's engrained in their soul.

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Reply Growing up at Georgetown Prep...from an alumnus' point of view. (warning: trigger language) (Original post)
CincyDem Oct 2018 OP
flor-de-jasmim Oct 2018 #1
CincyDem Oct 2018 #2
bobbieinok Oct 2018 #4
2naSalit Oct 2018 #3
grumpyduck Oct 2018 #5
B Stieg Oct 2018 #6
Raster Oct 2018 #7
karin_sj Oct 2018 #8
gopiscrap Oct 2018 #9
handmade34 Oct 2018 #10
HuskyOffset Oct 2018 #11
Duppers Oct 2018 #12
Scurrilous Oct 2018 #13

Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 10:38 AM

1. Powerful

Another excerpt:

At all-boys’ schools, when students stand shoulder to shoulder with their classmates and hear that they are called to greatness, they also internalize the absence of women from their position of privilege and power. Women are not part of the club. They are separate. They are for conquest; they are for dating; they are for marriage. Women are not peers. Some boys graduate and go on to unpack and unlearn these lessons. Others find new clubs with guarded access. They join fraternities. They go on to business schools and law firms and seek out institutions with disproportionately more men than women. Look at the gender breakdown of boardrooms everywhere. Look at the Supreme Court.

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Response to flor-de-jasmim (Reply #1)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 10:42 AM

2. Thanks for the add. Darn 4 paragraph rule.

There’s a lot in here. The training of systemic exclusion is so strong and I dint think it just “goes away” when these guys are out in the real world.

Thanks.

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Response to flor-de-jasmim (Reply #1)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 10:50 AM

4. Thanks for posting. Important

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 10:46 AM

3. K&R

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 11:15 AM

5. That added paragraph resonates with me

I went to an all-boys prep school too, and, thinking back on it, that is exactly how we thought. The girls' schools were rated as "best to worst" as far as picking dates. It was all about us.

Yikes.

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 12:01 PM

6. I've taught at many private schools (coed and single sex) over the past 35 years...

and GP sounds like one of the worst.

Masculinity in the West is badly, badly cracked.

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Response to B Stieg (Reply #6)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 12:11 PM

7. One commentator this weekend that had also worked at many of the private prep schools...

...singled out GP for the students sense of privilege and entitlement and the comment that GP specifically raised Republicans.

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 12:21 PM

8. Excellent and disturbing article

It sheds more light on why these men behave the way they do and why they think they should (and usually do) get away with it. Very sad and depressing to think that so many women (and men) have suffered greatly as a result of this conditioning of male superiority over all.

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 12:34 PM

9. wow

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 12:35 PM

10. a must read (all of it)

I cried... it is very, very sad

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 01:12 PM

11. That last line . . .

The final line says it all:

He is not a man for others; he’s a man for other men, and the women of our nation deserve better.


Goddamn right they do.

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 03:19 PM

12. Is this not the whole fucking Republican party?

Their attitude about anyone not as rich, white, and "elite" as they are?

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Response to CincyDem (Original post)

Mon Oct 1, 2018, 05:16 PM

13. K&R

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