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omg videos (video heavy)

i never saw these before and i'm ... floored/shocked/surprised

i looked for other videos by that band that does that crazy fox video and found these:

massachusetts


& don't forget to watch this incredible video/song:
someone like me


omg! and this one:
stonehenge:


i'm starting to love this band:
the cabin:


their music is great
jan egeland


and apparently they play elevator pranks


i'd better stop listing videos but this one had me laughing too
work it


here's a few suggestions

The Best Things to Say to Someone in Grief
1. I am so sorry for your loss.
2. I wish I had the right words, just know I care.
3. I donít know how you feel, but I am here to help in anyway I can.
4. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.
5. My favorite memory of your loved one isÖ
6. I am always just a phone call away
7. Give a hug instead of saying something
8. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you
9. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything
10. Saying nothing, just be with the person

The Worst Things to Say to Someone in Grief
1. At least she lived a long life, many people die young
2. He is in a better place
3. She brought this on herself
4. There is a reason for everything
5. Arenít you over him yet, he has been dead for awhile now
6. You can have another child still
7. She was such a good person God wanted her to be with him
8. I know how you feel
9. She did what she came here to do and it was her time to go
10. Be strong
http://grief.com/10-best-worst-things-to-say-to-someone-in-grief/

also--because we all seem to have different time tables when it comes to grief, your friend may need to talk about this person and cry for them long after you feel she should have "moved on" or gotten beyond the loss. if you're a close friend, just be patient and show a lot of empathy and understanding. and listen. and let her talk. and let her cry.

"Grief is the internal part of loss, how we feel. The internal work of grief is a process, a journey. It does not end on a certain day or date. It is as individual as each of us. Grief is real because loss is real. Each grief has its own imprint, as distinctive and as unique as the person we lost. The pain of loss is so intense, so heartbreaking, because in loving we deeply connect with another human being, and grief is the reflection of the connection that has been lost."
http://grief.com/

i put together quotes on grief in the bereavement forum (check it out):
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1234870

do you like harmonia by the shortwave set

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i was just watching a ghost whisperer and this song is in it--i had to hunt it down because they aren't credited in the show


here's another one by them
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i am truly sorry for your loss

parting is filled with sorrow

she is beautiful. looking at that photo from last year i can tell she has very soulful eyes.

sounds like you had a nice morning together.

i'm sure you'll be with her again.

here's to Lady Puppeh Girl

absolutely great song & vocal & arrangement. i love this song. so did my mom. n/t

moms are good at stuff like that

when i had a c-section my mom sat beside me and kept blotting the tears from my eyes. (i was crying because i was so emotional--not in pain--and my arms were strapped down so i couldn't move, and i was so numb with the drugs that i either couldn't blink or the tears wouldn't fall from my eyes. thanks mom!)

hope your toe feels better soon.

one of the cutest videos i've ever seen. thanks for posting this! n/t

ask a mortician videos

are wonderful! they are funny & fascinating and, well, see for yourself...


http://www.youtube.com/user/OrderoftheGoodDeath/videos

episode one:


episode five


i just ran into these today. just wanted to share



sending you warm thoughts, tea and sympathy

i'm very sorry for your loss.
it doesn't matter how old they are
or how old we are
what matters is how much love we have for them
we never lose it.
love is the thread that holds us together

i found this yesterday, posted it in the bereavement forum, and am hoping this can give you a bit of comfort:

"Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together
is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort,
without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near, just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting
when we meet again!"

--Henry Scott Holland (1910)

"Death is nothing at all"

"Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together
is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort,
without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near, just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting
when we meet again!"

--Henry Scott Holland (1910)

Holland was an English clergyman who, in 1910, wrote a sermon following the death of King Edward VII entitled "Death the King of Terrors" which he delivered at St. Paul's Cathedral while the body of King Edward was lying in state at Westminster. The above excerpt has become known as "Death is nothing at all."

i heard this last night while watching an episode of the tv show Ghost Whisperer and decided to look it up. the last sentence really hits me. i guess the whole piece hits me and i wanted to share it with everyone who comes here.

forty years ago yesterday, on the fourth of july, my nana died. it was a life-altering event for me; she was my "other" mom and it was my first major loss. i used to think of her death on the 4th as her own independence day--which it probably was.

three days ago there were five incidents that occurred that reminded me of each of my five canine companions i have loved and lost. the final occurrence was a post here about someone who had lost their border collie. i told my daughter about it and said that the picture that was posted of the border collie looked like the twin of our dog. my daughter was skeptical (she thinks i exaggerate and sometimes i do) and wanted to see the photo. i showed her and she was shocked--even got a bit teary-eyed.

i asked her why--why was i given reminders of all of them, all within a day? it's never happened before. and she said "maybe they all just wanted to say hi and let you know they were thinking of you."

maybe so.
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