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These are my two youngest granddaughters. (Except the baby!)My daughter said "guess which one dressed herself today?"

Nice try, Maajid Nawaz, but you didn’t go to a lapdancing club because you’re a feminist

Let’s play a round of the world’s worst game: Can You Be a Feminist and…? The rules, laid down by generations of opinion writers, are that you find a thing and then bloviate airily about whether that thing is compatible with being a feminist. There are some reliable old standbys to start with: CYBAF and wear high heels? (Yes.) CYBAF and a stay-at-home mum? (Yes.) This is easy. Let’s do a harder one. CYBAF and a man? Well I’d hope so, but if I’m absolutely honest the number of men I’ve met who are actually feminist is dwarfed by the number of men who call themselves feminist and then use this as cover to act like a perfect horse’s arse towards women. Try this: CYBAF, and a man, and go to a lapdancing club, and get handsy with the dancers? We have a winner. GAME OVER, ruptured irony gland stopped play, no one can ever play CYBAF again.

You can thank Maajid Nawaz, Liberal Democrat candidate for Hampstead and Kilburn, for the demise of the world’s worst game. Last Friday, the Mail released CCTV footage of Nawaz — Muslim moderate and (yes!) self-professed feminist — in a lap-dancing club, receiving a private dance. Repeatedly, and contrary to the club policy, he puts his hands on the woman dancing for him. Club manager Jay Shah told the Mail that Nawaz was “asking her to touch him and he was touching her . . . In general he was quite persistent with her, asking to take her out and for her number.” Let’s note that Shah’s concern for the women working on his premises didn’t seem to extend to actually ejecting the man breaking the rules, before we move on to enjoying Feminist Maajid Nawaz’s public response to these revelations.

Firstly, Feminist Maajid Nawaz tweeted a picture of his wife with the caption “Don’t ya wish your wifey. was. hot. like. mine? …. Don’t ya? … Don’t ya?” But not satisfied with this salvo of patriarchy smashing, Feminist Maajid Nawaz released a statement on Facebook explaining that his lapdance was no contradiction with his feminism — it was, if anything, a perfect expression of his feminism. After all, it’s not as if he killed anyone: “In current times, our moral uproar is best reserved for those who aspire to stone men or women to death, not those who consensually watch women, or men for that matter, dance.” Ah, there’s that word: consensually. Nawaz, you see, is a choice feminist. “My feminism, as intended by me, extends to empowering women to make legal choices, not to judge the legal choices they make. My fight is for rights.”

And if women choose to dance for men in an upholstered broom cupboard, for twenty pounds a go, by God Nawaz will fight for that right. In fact, he’ll even make the choice easier by supplying the twenty pounds himself! That’s how much of a feminist Feminist Maajid Nawaz is. What does the “choice” to work in a nightclub look like for the women who do it? Firstly, they’re usually not actually employed by the club: it’s standard for them to pay the club a fee, which they then need to make back before they can break even on their night’s work. This incentivises women to tolerate rule-breakers as they compete with each other for business, and because the house has made its money either way, there’s limited incentive for the bouncers to protect the women who work there from the grabby patrons.


The most banned and challenged books of 2014 (Excellent reading list)

The ALA's Office for Intellectual Freedom today released its annual "Top Ten List of Frequently Challenged Books," based on over 300 reports of community members attempting to have literature removed from libraries and school curricula. The organization notes that "attempts to remove books by authors of color and books with themes about issues concerning communities of color are disproportionately challenged and banned."

Four of the books on the list are by writers of color: "The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian" by Sherman Alexie, "Persepolis" by Marjane Satrapi, "The Bluest Eye" by Toni Morrison and "The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini.

Seven of the 10 books were challenged because they were "sexually explicit." Among those books are two that deal with child sexual assault: Morrison's novel "The Bluest Eye" and "A Stolen Life," a memoir by Jaycee Dugard, who was kidnapped, raped and held prisoner for 18 years by a Mendocino couple.

"Homosexuality" is listed as the reason two of the books were banned or challenged: Stephen Chbosky's perenially controversial "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" as well as "And Tango Makes Three," Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell's children's book about two male penguins who form a relationship and raise a chick together. The book is based on a true story.


The funniest thing I've seen so far today, 6:08 am PST

The day is yet young

Thousands of women recount the first time they were perved on by a grown man

This is the reality. Thank you again, David Futrelle

In creepy Reddit megathread, thousands of women recount the first time they were perved on by a grown man

So there’s a giant, growing, and extremely creepy megathread up on Reddit at the moment, and for once, the creepiness isn’t coming from inside the Reddit. Well, less of the creepiness is coming from Reddit than you might expect.

Yesterday, you see, a Redditor known as BA_Baracus posted a couple of simple questions to AskReddit: Women of Reddit, when did you first notice that men were looking at you in a sexual way? How old were you and how did it make you feel?

This wasn’t the first time he’d posted a question to his fellow Redditors; he’s posted a bunch, including “People of reddit with eyes that point in different directions, which one of them is usually looking at me?” and, er, “Recent rape victims of Reddit, how did it happen, and what the hell were you doing in India?” None of these questions got much of a response.

But this time, well, thousands of “women of Reddit” stepped forward to tell the horrifying yet in most cases completely unsurprising stories of the first time men started perving on them, in many cases before they were even teenagers.

Here’s a sampling of some of their stories. TRIGGER WARNING for extreme fucking creepiness.

Age 8, followed to a department store changing room


Where the White People Live

I found this an interesting read. I live in Seattle, and I've often noticed and wondered at this phenomena--which can also be traced back to corrupt and racist lending laws in the '60s and '70's (I think up to the eighties, and no one can tell me a form of this doesn't exist today, although not as blatant) Black families in substandard housing or unable to buy, helped the path to a lack of inheritable wealth and generational poverty. I've also noticed when the process of "gentrification" starts as in the case in a couple of Seattle neighborhoods, price and taxes sky rocket. Where I live is on the border of Seattle, with a well mixed group of people--in other words, when I go to the grocery store, the majority of people isn't white. The housing is quite often smallish post war '50's track housing. The housing projects down the street have been torn down and replaced by affordable housing "townhouses" the homes sit atop places to start businesses. They were built right before the market crash, so few businesses ever started or succeeded.

My neighborhood (just this side of a rough unincorporated area called White Center aka Rat city) still has large yards (becoming rarer in Seattle) and is still nominally affordable, although buying is still out of reach for many here. The highest concentration of black Families is in an area we call the Central district, another is Southest Seattle. The Cenral district started the process of gentrification, which basically means contractors buy the old houses and renovate them and sell them for much higher prices, but the market crash stalled the process.

I'm interested in any thoughts

Last summer, the Michigan town of Grosse Pointe Park erected a farmer's market in the middle of one of the few remaining streets that allowed cars to pass between the tony suburb and the urban Detroit neighborhoods at its border. It was the latest of many attempts by Grosse Pointe Park residents to close off roads and block traffic between what has become a predominantly white, affluent suburb, and its poorer, urban neighbor.

There were protests about the border, and Grosse Pointe Park later said it would tear down the farmer's market and re-open the road, but the incident speaks volumes to the segregation that exists in Detroit, and the tensions that can grow as a result.

The fact that these two areas are so close is unique—the border between Grosse Pointe Park and the city of Detroit is the only place in any of America's biggest cities where a very wealthy, predominantly-white area abuts a very poor, black one, according to research from a new working paper from the University of Minnesota. But the existence of self-segregated wealthy white areas close by low-income minority ones isn't unique, according to the Minnesota researchers. They have sorted census tracts in 15 of America's 20 biggest cities into "racially concentrated areas of affluence" and "racially concentrated areas of poverty," and find that many cities have more areas of segregated affluence than they do poverty.

Racially concentrated areas of affluence, by the researchers' definition, are census tracts where 90 percent or more of the population is white and the median income is at least four times the federal poverty level, adjusted for the cost of living in each city. Racially concentrated areas of poverty, by contrast, are census tracts where more than 50 percent of the population is non-white, and more than 40 percent live in poverty.


Women Are Poorer Than Men in Every State

Added bold is mine. I feel that when we discuss woman and poverty, as well as white women with privledge, I believe it's important to acknowledge the struggles of women of color. As my HOF friends understand, poverty is not a contest, and facts are facts, not an exersize in interpretive inguinuity, or an free opportunity to scream "what about me?" Addressing the problems and causes of impoverished women, and finding solutions needs an open mind and an open heart, prepared to take wounds. Truth hurts.

But this is a stunning statistic, not shocking of course, or even unknown, I know there are many men who do not understand their privledge. A poverty index is a good indicator as far as I'm concerned

The saying goes, “girls go to college to get more knowledge.” But what does it mean when the number of women living in poverty increases, even as their rate of education goes up?

Not only will women not make equal pay within our lifetimes, but according to a new study from the Institute for Women’s Policy Research, they’ll be living in higher poverty rates, too. The newest installment of IWPR’s series, Status of Women in the States: 2015, the report found a decrease in the percentage of women living above the poverty line to 85.4 in 2013 from 87.9 in 2002.

As with the gender wage gaps, the issues are more pronounced in the Southern states—particularly Louisiana, Mississippi, and Tennessee. But nowhere are women completely insulated from the issue. The findings, using data from as far back as 1996, suggest that despite significant gains in education over the past two decades, women remain severely behind men in both economic stability and business ownership.

Nationwide, 15.5 percent of women live in poverty, compared with 11.9 percent of men. But the discrepancy in poverty rates worsens when considering race. The poverty rate for Native American, black, and Hispanic women is nearly twice the rate for white women. The number is highest in the Native American community, where 28.1 percent of women live below the poverty line (compared to 11.7 percent of white women). Single mothers fare even worse, listed as twice as likely to be living in poverty than single fathers, 43.1 percent vs. 23.6 percent.


Sad news, white ladies: Some dude on the internet won’t date you any more

But let’s let that slide, because, aside from these six white gals, and “Bille” Holiday, we still don’t know what sorts of ladies he would date.

The answer? Foreign ladies who are all “receptive” and shit.

Compared to white women, women from other parts of the world offer genuine substance. I was lucky enough to date someone from another culture for several years. She was from India, and had in abundance what most women in the West have lost: what the philosopher Dietrich von Hildebrand called “receptivity to values.”

And it helps if they’ve never seen an ocean before.

Dating someone from India brought me into contact with a culture that is still receptive to values as von Hildebrand understood them. My girlfriend clutched my hand in delight at dance concerts and wept when she saw the Atlantic Ocean for the first time.

Also, fans of 2 Broke Girls are definitely OUT. Total dealbreaker!

India — like Africa and Japan and other non-Western cultures — still sees with open eyes. They have dance that flatters rather than degrades the female body, colorful and embodied religious ritual (hands folded, my girlfriend would greet the sun morning at the beach), and food as soulful restitution and not just bodily nourishment. We have cupcakes and 2 Broke Girls.


I'll bet a thousand dollars this guy doesn't realize what a racist fuck he really is. And not toward white women.

Found this--kinda like it

Just a reminder

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