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Mike Huckabee has some important ideas about how to run against female candidates, which is very different from running against ordinary human people candidates, and he thought he'd share them in an interview with Nora Caplan-Bricker of the New Republic. Male opponents are "common," he explained in an interview published this week. Women, on the other hand, require a "sense of a pedestal." "You treat some things as a special treasure; you treat other things as common," he added, describing women and then men, though neither gender is significantly rarer than the other in nature. Huckabee elaborated, in case Caplan-Bricker couldn't hear him from way up there on her pedestal:
“I’ll put it this way,” Huckabee says. “I treat my wife very differently than I treat my chums and my pals. I wouldn’t worry about calling them on Valentine’s Day, opening the door for them, or making sure they were OK.”
Valentine's Day must be pretty confusing for Mr. Huckabee: When he stops by the store to buy flowers, how does he remember if they're for his wife or the woman campaigning against him for public office? They're all women, you know, so there's just one blanket way to treat them.
Lest there's any doubt that Huckabee just made a mistake or was misquoted, he reiterated his points in an email to Salon:
“I believe in equality, and I have a record of transforming that belief into action,” the ex-governor told Salon in an e-mailed statement. “However, equality doesn’t mean sameness.”
He went on at length, but notably avoided sharing any details about what these all-important differences actually are when it comes to political campaigning. He just continued to insist, without explanation, that fussing over women in a manner designed to make their gender seem unusual and out of place is a form of respect:
“I was raised to treat women with respect,” Huckabee told Salon in his afternoon statement. “I still will invite a lady to go first, will open a door for her, and will place her in the center of the photograph. And yes, I would seek to treat a female opponent with the same respect I give to all women, even though we may disagree on the issues.”
Huh. Another door-opening fan. Who knew?
Posted by ismnotwasm | Tue Mar 11, 2014, 11:51 PM (11 replies)
Who will be having a girl in June-- 4th kid, first girl.
Her: so weird ladies from a Ricks work are giving me stuff for the baby...wwww!
Me: good stuff? Phil's picking up the computer today BTW (we got them a laptop)
Her: Huge gender divide in the response a girl vs a boy gets. I find it annoying (I heroically don't say "I told you so"--that would be bad)
Me: Like what. And it is annoying
Her: the barrage of princess items like it's mandatory
Me: and pink-- even things that don't need to be pink
Her: Yup. I'm feminist enough to be offended. It's ridiculous. (Heh! I already knew that-- but I let my kids label themselves)
Me: thing is-- there's nothing wrong with with pink-- just pink overload
And they start that male pleasing merchandizing far too young-- don't be surprised to see it sooner than you expect (I'm thinking the word "hottie" on a onesie)
Her: I refuse to force my daughter into a damn princess if that's her choice fine but I will not shove it down her throat
I can hardly WAIT to go see her and have this conversation; she and many other young women underestimate how early "expected" gender behavior is indoctrinated into little girls. My daughter is very smart, and has been raised by a feminist.
My husband just said "we need to buy that kid some Tonka trucks"
Posted by ismnotwasm | Tue Mar 11, 2014, 02:02 PM (17 replies)
I haven't talked much about this, but three women I work with were diagnosed with breast cancer. Two had mastectomies- with attendant treatments. And are doing ok, for the most part.
One is dying. Right now. As I type. I'll say goodbye to her tomorrow, but it's so hard to lose a friend.
I thought I had more time you know? The cancer invaded her lymph nodes in her lungs and can no longer breathe on her own.
She was working just 2 weeks ago, part time.
This is a bad storm for me, she is a hell of a woman.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Mon Mar 10, 2014, 01:09 AM (16 replies)
This is a long, well written essay; what I found interesting is that she is a 'recreational pole dancer', although she doesn't exactly identify as stripper and it doesn't matter anyway. I love the opening paragraph especially, but the whole thing is worth reading.
I love women. And as I get older, my life is becoming increasingly about them. I dance with women, I speak with women, I am coached, sponsored by, and counseled by women. I meet them for coffee. I talk to them about sex. I ask them for advice. I hold them while they cry. I love the deep feelings. And the competition. The struggle to be seen and held. The intimacy. The complication. The ability to heal.
My experience at S-Factor has deepened this for me, surely, but on some level, it's always been this way for me. I remember reading Anita Diamant's The Red Tent in middle school and being just obsessed with the vivacious, earthy, female community of the novel. It was this raucous irreverent crew separated from everyone else just because they were female. They were special, ancient, and secret. Aunts, cousins, daughters, grandmas, sitting on moss and bleeding in a tent in the desert, while rubbing each other's feet with oil and cackling about their husbands. Oh my god. I wanted to eat it. I wanted to be there.
It echoed for me. Because even as a middle-schooler, I knew that being a woman does feel like that. Quarantined and venerated. Ever since I went through puberty, I've felt like I was a part of a club that everyone was obsessed with and also couldn't wait to abuse. On the public bus, in a piazza in Italy, I remember those first pre-teen moments, when people started watching me. The power you're gifted just by being a woman. It comes without your permission, and it's heady, potent.
But the lack of control over that power; it comes too. The first time you feel it, it's both. It's neither. You don't have tools to deal with it yet. You didn't ask for it. It just arrived. On that same trip to Europe, just as I started to glow under male attention, someone in Turkey tried to buy me from my family. My parents joked. The man was serious. I was 12.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sun Mar 9, 2014, 01:15 PM (9 replies)
I think this is progress friends-- given the age demographic. Yeah, the article isn't the greatest, but I like the fact it exists at all.
Didn't someone mention that feminism is dead?
Oops. Their bad.
You so don’t have a prob taking charge. Want to start your own Etsy biz? Done. Wish school had a debate club? You create one with your girls. But you also get melty when your crush pays for your fro-yo at Red Mango or opens the car door for you. So does that mean you’re a feminist . . . or not?
Miley Cyrus and Beyoncé wear the f-word like a badass badge of honor. But super-confident Katy Perry says she’s not a feminist, and Kelly Clarkson doesn't want to be lableed one either. And it’s not just celebs who are divided. “I don’t associate with that word because it feels negative—like you’re angry and you don’t need men,” says Valerie, 15, founder of The Validation Project, a blog that aims to build the confidence of all teens. On the flip side, there are girls like LaTonya, 20, who made “being a feminist” her New Year’s resolution. “Feminism is about thinking you can do whatever you want—of course, I believe in that,” she says. Even President Obama took a stand by saying it’s about time women received the same pay as men for equal work—and his comments blew up all over Twitter, with hundreds of thousands of people supporting the sentiment.
So why are some girls afraid of calling themselves feminists? It comes down to retro stereotypes and murky old-school definitions. “Some people think being a feminist means you don’t shave your armpits and that you want to bring down guys,” says Julie, 21, creator of a new-wave feminist blog, thefbomb.org. “But that’s not it at all. It’s about girls knowing their potential and not letting anything hold them back.” And that means being confident, embracing your femininity however you choose to, and just being you. It’s not just some giant movement—it’s personal.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sat Mar 8, 2014, 12:25 PM (13 replies)
Kind of a kick ass post from a blogger from Nigeria
“Man is defined as a human being and a woman as a female – whenever she behaves as a human being she is said to imitate the male.” Simone de Beauvoir. As we celebrate International Women’s Day, the words of Simone de Beauvoir ring loud in my ears.
As someone who became fiercely politically active as a young woman in a very patriarchal society, I was often ‘showered’ with the words “You are a man!” It was considered the highest praise you could give a woman for her bravery and courage while referring to a man as a woman is considered a below the belt insult. If only I had a penny for every time I heard these words from my fellow comrades, colleagues and mentors who actually should know better.
Please understand that calling a woman “a man’ because of her achievements or courage is NOT A COMPLIMENT. Those words are nothing but an insult to the woman, her achievements and gender identity. You do not honour me by calling me “A Woman like a Man“, in fact with such words you deny my gender identity and degrade my biological sex. I am a Woman and Proudly so.
We are all HUMANS irrespective of what the various creation myths say. Women demands recognition and respect as human beings. Brave and courageous women achievers do not need to be called A MAN as a compliment. Being called “A MAN” does not elevate us to the level of human beings; we are already human beings irrespective of our sex or gender identity
Kindly recognise and respect my gender identity, this I believe is not too much to ask!
As we celebrate more than a decade of International Women’s Day, feminisation of poverty continues; Reproductive, Productive and Domestic roles still hold down the working woman from reaching her full potentials. The triple oppression of Racism, Classism and Sexism persistently affect our unity. Let us continue to fight all the Isms and Schisms that jeopardise our strength.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sat Mar 8, 2014, 12:16 PM (1 replies)
“A society that will not honor its women is a society that will be lost in the woods for a long time.” ~ Obiageli Ezekwesili.
“Men and boys, we show our manhood through the way we treat our women. Our wives, our sisters, our mothers.” ~ Archbishop Desmond Tutu
“I have a daughter that I would give my life to protect, a wife that means the world to me, a mother that made me the man that I am. Anything that is done for any woman is less than what she deserves for the role they play in our lives.” ~ Bright Okpocha (Basketmouth)
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sat Mar 8, 2014, 04:57 AM (7 replies)
Excellent article-- truly worth the read
Should we tolerate debate within feminism's ranks? Undebatable! But it's not so simple: women are socialised to avoid conflict; when we do differ, especially on politics and in public, it's still tediously labelled a "catfight". Disagreement seems reserved for the guys, who trot along the spectrum from "frank and candid dissent" up through nuclear war with entitled ease. Nevertheless, women (even feminists) fortunately don't march in lock-step, so trying to smother debate is foolish – and impossible.
Healthy argument is why I'm a feminist. I was a New Left "revolutionary", patronisingly ready to indoctrinate my initial women's group with Marxism. Happily, they got to me first, in close-to-the-bone passionate arguments about men, sex, intimate violence, unpaid labour, and how – ahem – "the personal is political".
But I have standards, seasoned over 40 years of activism. I don't waste time debating patriarchy's defenders. I don't practise or tolerate personal trashing. I don't engage with faux feminists who, whether under the aegis of religious fiat or sexual libertarianism, refuse to understand that all women deserve full reproductive rights, all women deserve to love whomever they choose, all women deserve freedom from violence, poverty and illiteracy, that the buying and selling of any human being is slavery. Feminism is for all women and girls, not a privileged few or one ethnicity, religion, age, sexual preference, ability, region or hemisphere. Women born and raised on this fragile planet have more uniting us than dividing us – and it's the job of feminists to help us realise that. Those are my standards. Otherwise, bring on dissent!
Robin Morgan is founding editor of Ms Magazine
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sat Mar 8, 2014, 04:27 AM (1 replies)
AGAINST FORGETTING: Why Women's History Month?
By Ruth Rosen
Friday March 07, 2014 - 09:51:00 AM
Everything that explains the world has in fact explained a world that does not exist, a world in which men are at the center of the human enterprise and women are at the margin "helping" them. Such a world does not exist -- never has” (Gerda Lerner )
Aside from the Republican’s relentless War on Women, let me offer you another reason why even one token month is still necessary to America’s political culture.
I’ve just finished reading a book titled The Season of the Witch, written by David Talbot, who founded Salon.com in 1995, the first web magazine in the United States, known for breaking investigative journalistic stories. The book is an evocative political, social and cultural history of San Francisco from the late 1950s through the early 1970s. Since he dealt with every trend and movement, often in overheated prose, I kept waiting—and waiting--for him to describe the sudden explosion of the women’s liberation movement.
Astonishingly, Talbot didn’t even write one paragraph about the women’s movement, which certainly transformed American political and social culture more profoundly than did the two chapters he devotes to the San Francisco 49ers football team.
Did his publisher tell him that half the population was dispensable? Did his agent convince him that including feminism would diminish the appeal and profits? Is he just ignorant?
This is just one example why we need Women’s History Month in the United States. It’s to prevent students, teachers, intellectuals and writers from forgetting about half its population.
The origins of this month reflect an era in which the grassroots efforts of a few prescient individuals created a national month dedicated to informing the public about women’s lives. It was during the late 1970s when a growing number of women, grasping the subordination of women in the present, began to wonder about what women did in the past. The idea of “women history” was still very new, and yet a group of women on the Sonoma County (California) Commission on the Status of Women initiated a "Women's History Week" celebration for 1978.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Sat Mar 8, 2014, 03:46 AM (0 replies)
We told you so you creepy fucks.
Crossed signals from alcohol-impaired perception do not cause unwanted come-ons, new research suggests. Instead, aggressors simply target women who appear inebriated
Mar 7, 2014 |By Roni Jacobson
When alcohol is involved, people are more inclined to view sexual aggression as morally ambiguous. New research, however, suggests that men who harass women in bars and clubs aren’t misinterpreting women’s signals because they are drunk. Rather, they may be singling out women who appear intoxicated as easy targets.
In a study of sexual aggression in bars researchers have found that the invasiveness and persistence of unwanted come-ons is not correlated with how much the perpetrator has had to drink, but is instead related to how drunk the person on the receiving end seems to be. The paper, aptly titled “Blurred Lines? Sexual Aggression and Barroom Culture,” after the summer hit by Robin Thicke, was published earlier this week in the journal Alcoholism: Clinical & Experimental Research. “Its not a blurred line, its a pretty easy line,” says Kathryn Graham, senior scientist at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto and co-author of the paper. “The whole culture that thinks blurred lines is some kind of truth or inevitability, from our data, is a little bit astray.”
The researchers hired and trained pairs of observers to go into bars and record every incident of sexual aggression that they witnessed. In about 90 percent of the 258 cases they documented the person on the receiving end of the sexual aggression was a woman and the aggressor was a man. The other 10 percent of incidents split about evenly between female on male, male on male and female on female aggressions. Because these situations occurred infrequently, the researchers decided to analyze only the interactions between heterosexual couples in which the male was the perpetrator.
Sexually aggressive behaviors ranged in terms of invasiveness from suggestive and harassing remarks to groping and grinding up against strangers. “Invasiveness in particular was related to how intoxicated the woman was, not how intoxicated the man was. That provided further evidence that it probably wasn’t misperception,” Graham says. “There isn’t much question if someone comes by and anonymously grabs a woman’s breast and then disappears into the crowd that he really thought she wanted it. I mean that’s just for his own gratification,” she adds.
Posted by ismnotwasm | Fri Mar 7, 2014, 11:36 AM (7 replies)